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WHAT CAN ENVY TEACH ME? HOW CAN I LEARN FROM IT?
I believe I am learning from it right now. Earlier this year I felt envy and a bit of jealously from one of my collaborators, ever since I have been slowly removing their transferred energies from my aura. I can learn from it by accepting that others will attempt to do so however I have also worked on protecting my energy/ restoring it with Reiki and have a self health plan for myself when I get back to my business :). I truly believe a lot of learning and growing comes from acceptance, accepting is not tolerating nor is it excusing it however it is acknowledging it respectfully.
Envy teaches me both good & bad, the good being to work hard to get to a goal because it is possible but at the same time it makes u think that being envious of someones beauty only takes away from yours, you see i could be envious of one girl while she’s envious of me and instead of embracing our beauty we have hatred/envy toward another. I just feel you can allow your light to shine through rather than comparing and wanting what someone has and reflect of what you have.Lastly if you feel envious of someone instead of holding it in let that person know . for example if you love someones outfit and really want it complement them so not only are you cheering up them you are also making urself feel better!!
When I’m in the throes of it, it can’t teach me anything. I’m unreachable. When I’m not in it, other forces, such as those that teach gratefulness, can equip me to identify and avoid the soul-swallowing force it is.
I feel envy often occurs for me when people seemingly have things that I feel are not possible for me but that I want … and it’s a powerful tool to determine why I want those things, what I really want and how to develop towards gaining more of those things.
Like a huge motivator for me is I want a peaceful life, sometimes I’ll see people and feel envy as they seemingly have peace … so it’s a bell saying, this is what you want, go after that thing, figure out how to build the mental resources, emotional resources, the material resources, whatever it is to get to having that thing you see in others you envy. I try to break it down into its component parts, to create a kind of anatomy of what it is that I envy then work to build those things in my life.
That might mean reading some self help books, that might be adjusting my diet, might mean taking relaxing baths, that might mean a whole lot of things but I think envy feeds upon a sense of disempowerment, that you see something and feel it isn’t within your power to have that thing ever and so that’s when envy occurs. But it may be a completely faulty understanding of the situation. So I think the proper response is to understand the situation and aim for as much possible for oneself.
When I’m envious which is almost the same as being jealous I noticed the feeling with awareness. And when I’m aware that I am jealous or envious I am able to let go and be happy for the person who has some thing that I perhaps perceive as not having.
In other words by being aware of feelings that are perhaps negative I am able to notice the feeling recognize it, transform it, and let go.
There’s always a bigger fish, as Obi-Wan would say. Comparisons lead to envy, envy leads to…. The envy reveals the falsity that bigger is better. I sometimes realise this, sometimes not. Envy’s an old friend I’ve learnt to live with.
Envy can teach me about what to let go of, i.e. comparing or the feeling of sadness because of not having …. which I feel was much more prominent than envy and to be happy and grateful about the individual gifts given to and by others while giving mine also for the sake and well being of all. I feel that gratitude dissolves envy and opens the door to express joy and possible talents as well as just to be who we are, which in itself is a huge gift to others. Envy can teach me to transform the experience of scarcity into fullness.
Well put Ose. Gratitude dissolves envy
Envy can teach me how to be a person who is committed to love and justice. I envy people like Martin Luther King Jr., Mahatma Ghandi, Jesus of Nazareth, Oscar Romero, and others, who were able to simultaneously fight for justice and love while also loving and forgiving their enemies at the same time. I can learn from my envy by imitating these amazing figures that made a difference in the world.
My envy or theirs? I suppose there are lessons in both cases.
Envy can teach me what I am longing for, missing, needing. I can learn to befriend envy, name what I long for, Miss, need in the other, and be open to how that may manifest on my own path.
As others have mentioned, it can open me to gratefulness for the many gifts in my life, and an invitation to realize that everyone I meet suffers. No one ‘gets out alive’… so it leads to gratefulness and making the very best of the moments and gifts of each day.
I try to remember to those who have been given much , much will be required. Helps me to focus on doing the best I can with whatever talents, gifts, resources I have been given. Even though that may seem like a little it keeps me plenty busy.
I try to trust that I have what I can handle and be happy for those who have what they have. Makes the world more interesting.
It can teach me where my own vulnerabilities are.
It teaches me that I am collapsed in my ego or comparing mind and I need to train more to develop sympathetic joy for others and recognize expressions of “basic goodness” or “buddha nature” in others.
Envy, with awareness, can turn into hope.
I love this Laura…thank you.
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