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  1. Kristi

    Only when I’m about to be in trouble for a mistake I’ve made. I’ve been trying to realize we are all human therefore not perfect and it is ok to make mistakes!

    2 years ago
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    Mike

    Lying to be perceived either as factually correct or as morally superior – two interpretations of the word “right” – has dominated my life since I was a kid. I’m trying to change that lately in a few ways. A) Consider the historical evidence. Hindsight has shown me that my entire record in both endeavors is against me. B) Remember, “Who the —- are you anyway, Mike? Can’t you afford to put yourself away a while on behalf of others?” C) Enjoy the release that comes when I allow myself to say, “I don’t know;” “I was wrong;” “I have sinned;” “Please forgive me;” “Can you help?”

    2 years ago
  3. Malag

    Someone wise said: do you want to be right or do you want to be happy? Sometimes it’s right to keep your mouth shut and not speak your truth. And there are times when it is a kindness to avoid being truthful. In general though I find being truthful and being right are pretty well aligned for me. But thankfully I’m only right some of the time: life would be dull otherwise.

    2 years ago
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      Mike

      I like this point. I learned from my family that “the truth” can be used as a bludgeon. At the height of throwing aspersions and accusations at each other, they would often top their gambits with the statement, “I’m just telling the truth,” practically spitting the last word out of their mouths as if they were firing a gun, lying about their intentions while marshaling their facts. Reflecting on this, I’ve decided that the Biblical standard is not “the truth,” but rather “the truth in love.” – I also like the use of the phrase “your truth.” It emphasizes that the best we can do is to be as faithful and loving as we can with the little-T truths we perceive today, the few chips off the old block of the timeless, capital-T Truth that governs the universe.

      2 years ago
      1. Malag

        Yes weaponised truth is sadly out there.

        2 years ago
  4. Hot Sauce

    I don’t think so. I’m pretty good about changing my mind or at least questioning my point of view when other people present sound, valid evidence or reasons that contradict my own point of view.

    2 years ago
  5. Tori

    No, because trying to prove I’m right isn’t important to me. As long as I know the truth then I shouldn’t have to prove that to anyone it isn’t worth my peace and energy. I’m a pretty honest person, sometimes event too blunt so I don’t mind admitting when I’m wrong.

    2 years ago
  6. Dusty Su

    Wanting to be right and what is right are very different things and there lies the work. Knowing the difference and considering the other-centered bigger picture… running it through the filters of “Is it kind? Is it helpful? Is it good?” and then finally filtering through my personal integrity filter of, “Is it a compromise or a conviction that I can make and my soul will rest well with it because it has served the greater good and individuals involved? Can I sleep in my head knowing this was my contribution?”

    2 years ago
  7. Don Jones

    I feel wanting to be right is about control. These days, I prefer to focus on what is (for me) and just let others be.

    2 years ago
  8. Leslee

    Wanting to be right doesn’t usually keep me from being truthful but it does invoke the desire to be perhaps overly persuasive. I need to pause and determine if this is because I just want to be right or is it because I sense a sense of justice that has been violated. The perspective of others is as valuable as my own, sometimes it colours my perspective to a slightly different shade with more understanding.

    2 years ago
  9. sparrow

    No,
    probably because I’m afraid I’d be found out. 🙂

    2 years ago
  10. Lorena

    It does, because when I want to be right I lower my capacity to listen, and that’s when I’m most truthful.

    2 years ago
  11. Melissa

    I need to listen more and not jump in with my opinions so fast! Listen with patience and an open heart.

    2 years ago
  12. Elaine

    Wanting to be right
    gets in the way
    of my truest and best self,
    from being in balance and
    right relationship.

    shift that —
    Pause
    Ponder,
    BEFoRE pronouncing.

    2 years ago
  13. Cathie

    Oh gads, its amazing what pops out of my mouth in a discussion, without even thinking!!!
    So to change that I need to slow down, breath and think – if I can do that then I am hoping this weird habit won’t occur.

    2 years ago
  14. Toni

    I used to tell my mother who insisted she was always right, “if you are always right something is wrong”. I heard that somewhere and used it on her when she was inflexible. Wanting to be right prevents open mindedness. I can be guilty of that for sure. Truthfulness is something deeper. It has to do with motives, feelings, assumptions. It is a more vulnerable attitude. It exposes what could be rejected and can even be false. Like holding one to something that was once true but has changed. So keeping an open mind could help especially when some new learning is available or relearning or correction. We can learn if we are willing to change. I see that as true but that does not make me right. Thinking I’m right can be a cover up for insecure beliefs that could be examined if out in the open. So again being vulnerable, taking a change of being wrong leaves room for growth.

    2 years ago
  15. Holly in Ohio

    When I was about four I learned how to write my name, and I wrote it large in red crayon on the walls of our home in several rooms. LARGE. My dad came to me and asked me gently if I was the one who’d written my name shakily everywhere in red crayon, and I said, “nooooo?” He said, “I think you did.” I couldn’t for the life of me figure out how he knew it was me who did that. I pondered it for hours, days… my first big “think.” And it rather spoiled my ability to lie. I thought everyone could read my mind anyway, so what’s the use?

    But even though truthful, and though I can comfortably admit when I don’t know something or when I am wrong, I still have “the sin” of taking pride in being right, and that pride sometimes overshadowing being kind, gentle, or wise. I would like to work on this.

    To change this, I need to understand why I am not so comfortable in what I know, that I need pride as a crutch. This will require another “big think.”

    2 years ago
    1. Holly in Ohio

      Cause: I still seem to crave external validation.

      2 years ago
      1. Trish

        I’m with you on this one, Holly. Sometimes I feel like I’ve “come so far” & yet I still respond to the external validations (positive & negative.) So much work to do…..

        2 years ago
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