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One value very important to me is “Being Unethical” . On numerous occasions in work environments
I have come across this and it gets under my skin. I have a tendency not to ignore it too so it isn’t always
easily dealt with but I have to say the last time I addressed it…it turned out in my departments favor : )
Honesty is a big one for me. I try very very hard to always tell the truth & usually do. Being honest & truthful with myself is probably the hardest tho.
It is heartbreaking when I realize I have been lied to. Lying seems to be the norm in many circles especially “those in power”. For some lying is an art form & are very good at the art of deception. I refuse to play that game. I am in this world but not of it.
Blessings to All here.✨❤️✨
Slowing and bring them consciously into each day. I have also decided to not only embody my values consciously, but to also exercise Mastery in them. It is a conscious move from passive to mindful active – at the speed of Love.
I was actually just giving this a lot of thought. For many years, I balanced several priorities: career, marriage, managing a household, writing and performing, community service, and political engagement. Those priorities have realigned many times over the past six years for a variety of reasons. I also had a child, which added a major priority.
Having a child and being a parent has been fantastic, and I make decisions as a parent each day that I believe align with my values. Other areas, however, have been less fulfilling. For quite a while, I have devoted much of my available time and energy to electoral politics. That has reaped some major benefits for my community, and I have taken some value from it as well. However, I have found it can also be quite depleting.
For–again–a number of reasons, I have done little to nothing in terms of creative expression for the past several years. I believe, however, that that work brought me more fulfillment, and I also believe that it has value to my community as well. I vaguely recall a story about soldiers in World War II charged with protecting art. When asked why he was diverting resources away from the military campaign, Churchill said something like, “Without art, what are we even fighting for?”
I believe that my engagement with my community has been so focused on winning and losing, prosaic legislation, and–generally–all that is a problem that I have let the gift of joy (and, possibly, my ability to bring joy to others) dwindle. Often, I am not even certain what promised future I am working for. I don’t know if we will be able to eradicate all suffering everywhere, but perhaps we can alleviate some while we work toward that goal.
I recently went to hear the band Sammy Rae & the Friends in concert. Their music–and their spirit–is uplifting. One particular song, “If It All Goes South”, speaks to the need for joy. Here it is for those who would like to listen: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NKwv4LZ_BIY
Sammy Rae & the Friends…quite the voice. Thanks Erich.
The shift I would like to make more fully is the way Brother D. put it, ‘may you grow to be blessed and more able to bless”. For me, that shift occurs in the heart and doing my best to approach all “that is” from a “heart centered” presence. Dalai Lama said this occurs very gradually and slowly like a “wide turn” and that seems very true for me.
One of my values is caring for our earth. I recognize my individual actions aren’t as much of a problem as the larger systemic and institutional structures. At the same time I need to feel that I really am faithful to my values at a personal level–otherwise what are they? I’ve been shifting food purchasing more and more toward local sources, examining how far something had to travel to get to my plate, waiting to buy until I can go to the weekend farmers’ market rather than making a midweek purchase of something that came from Chile. I’m not eating a strict “100-mile diet” but getting closer. I talked to my husband about this and he’s now examining where foods come from and shifting purchases. When we do this we support our neighbors in a more locally based economy. (And next year I’ll have more garden beds in and be growing more of our food too–still working on the yard in the house we bought 2 years ago.)
Greater alignment !
It is a thin line a razor’s edge that I walk in order to try to live in greater alignment but still engage and serve those with whose care I am entrusted. Discernment between being so aligned in my view (is it my ego??) but in doing so turn all off from what could be….or meet those where they are and just love them, meet their needs, and not my own of being in better alignment. This is my daily struggle.
My values are simple and they are intact. Kindness, connection, compassion, and forward progress, are all things that I work on everyday with my practices. Through meditation, contemplation, gratitude, and staying connected, I am able to engage with myself and others.
I do have the desire to work with others on these practices. This is something that I will try and visualize a path forward.
As Avril said…”Values are the qualities that you want to bring to the world”…sometimes I really fall short on that. I have good values it is just that sometimes I let myself down and therefore do not bring what I want to the world. I have to keep trying..trying to be a better me. Stop fooling myself. Sobriety has to be front and center for me….I keep putting it on the back burner…thinking I can be like everyone else who can have a glass of wine. I am not that person…I know it- but I have to come to terms and live my life that way. I am so Blessed to have this space to come to…with so many good people. Thank you.
Sobriety front and center for me too Nannette. For me it is the first drink not the last.
Thank You, Joseph. Thank you for understanding…and yes for me as well…it is the first drink. I am working on it- as you know it is not easy…but my life is worth it. God Bless
Many years ago, I was introduced to ACT, a form of therapy that helps you to declare your values. Values are the qualities you want to bring into the world. They are not the goals that you want to achieve, they are the person you want to be while you’re trying to achieve those goals. Some of my values are discipline, self care, and kindness. Currently I’ve been very consistent with discipline. I have been meditating religiously and doing my regular sadhana, Self-care and kindness haven’t been as prioritized. Now, I’m nursing an injury. It’s forcing me too slow down and show myself kindness. Kindness is also a challenge with two teenage girls at home. I’ve mentioned my 15-year-old stepdaughter is my greatest teacher. When I have to elicit kindness I’m am gloriously stretched. But, all growth requires taking on a new forms.
I love this description of values. Thank you for sharing it. May your day start, continue, and end with kindness to yourself.
Thank you, Barb
The daily word today “It is a serious thing just to be alive on this fresh morning in this broken world.” lends itself to my values towards the planet. I have always been a good steward to the land, water and animals hoping that future generations will be able to withhold all of life’s beauty and wonderment. I am some what self sufficient but not completely. I am not in the mindset of the M&M (me & more) theory that the all consuming lifestyle, just one more possession or one more bite will bring happiness, that the population receives from the corporations. We are once again in the seasons of Thanksgiving and Christmas and the messaging is mostly about an orgy of consuming and no messaging of sustainability. I will iterate what Christine wrote ” I’m only human.” and I always have room for more inner work of greater alignment. Grateful to be given today and to practice being aware in the present.
Joseph, “…The mindset of M&M (me & More)…” absolutely priceless. Thank You.
Meditation, toast and black coffee, maybe write a poem later, also read a few on Medium. Then to find one of my own poems for tomorrow’s poetry review. I might have gone for a walk, but it is cold and damp, so it is better to stay indoors, which I mostly do anyway. Procrastination and doing nothing are my twin achievements. Maybe it is my values which I need to change before I work on realignment.
Your values and my values can balance to find a happy medium.
It’s odd, when I read the first sentence, the word ‘faithful’ to my values throws me a little being used that way. Usually faithful is paired with a relationship. Honesty and loyalty are some of my values and yes I am faithful to them. I struggle with staying focused on the present and not the past – it’s a work in progress but I do try. I’m grateful for this website and everyone on here.
Oh gosh, how much time do I have? 😊 I could always “do better” in any number of categories. But I am also (playfully?) fond of the saying that God loves a good sinner!
Kevin, thank you. Yes, God loves a good sinner, one who misses the mark but gets back in the game. I sat in a lecture many years ago and the presenter said, “God wants to play.” I grabbed on to that statement. I had been taught about a very vengeful and demanding God who would only love me if I was perfect and of course I never was. Franciscan Richard Rohr in his November 16th daily meditation speaks of Divine Love. He quotes Isaiah: “The shame of your youth you shall forget . . . My love shall never fall away from you” (Isaiah 54:4, 10). He concludes that it seems that inside the Divine logic the answer to failure is, in fact, more love! Yes, God loves a good sinner. Or as my 12 step sponsor use to say, “When we know better we do better.” My playful concept of God has brought less fear and more transformative love into my life. Life is process not product. My God wants to play and my only job is the willingness to grow.
My parents deserve to be thanked for raising me with morals and values. I think there is a process that goes from learning values along with inner knowing to subconsciously living with values. Perhaps I may speak of a trained conscience or a conscience that is kept awake.
Greater alignment? Well, there is always a shift to make. I’m only human.
Christine, I too thank my parents for raising me with morals, values & integrity. I am reminded of this great fortune I have been given almost daily as I read, watch the lack of morals, values in action thru out the US. Breaks my heart.
Have a blessed day.
A fortune indeed, PKR. Also my opinion. And a blessed🙏 day for you too. 🤗💞
Christine, I’m sending a big virtual hug your way. Love your words: “Well, there is always a shift to make. I’m only human.” I remember when I experienced a major shift to willingness. I was truly at the bottom of the barrel. Willingness was the only way up!
Thank you so much, Carol. Yes…. willingness. A big hug for you too 🤗💞.
Javier, “They are still speaking through us.” Yes, our ancestors still speak through us. I also sense that any evolutionary progress we make impacts both those who went before us and those who follow us. Creation is One. I try to align myself with that truth. I claim the strength of my ancestors often.
Thank you for sharing this. I give you credit for pursuing this quest. May you be blessed in your search.
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