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  1. A
    HappyDog

    Currently finding my place and community in the world as an invisibly disabled person isolated during covid. lost a friendship that I thought was genuine, but the person was insincere and didnt respect my boundaries. It’s still hard to let go of the pain caused, but I’m feeling better day by day, and I feel support from recent friends who are also dealing with disabilities. Grateful to have met these people. Letting go is a slow process but I feel a weight lifting off me that I didnt realize was there. Its helping me realize there were signs of toxicity, but they were very subtle – words didnt match with actions. Letting go is helping me analyze myself and how I’ll move forward with friendships in the future.

    1 year ago
  2. Erica

    Upset and anger at other people’s actions that I cannot control. I sometimes have trouble letting it go – even if it looks like I’m ok from the outside.

    1 year ago
  3. Emily

    Yes. I have been holding on to trauma that happened in my life. A guy in my life was verbally and emotionally abusive. I opened up a little bit to family in 2015. but I am still holding on to the trauma and haven’t been able to let go of it. I suffered from migraines because of the trauma and now I have depression and anxiety because of the trauma. But I am planning to go talk to a counselor to get rid of the trauma.

    1 year ago
  4. Malag

    I had committed to phoning someone. I’ve been putting it off and off. I would feel relief to meet what I committed to do. It’s interesting how a steady drip of discomfort (putting it off or holding on to the problem) is more tolerable than a short sharp discomfort (doing the action) even though the steady drip can add up to a lake in time. 

    1 year ago
    1. Holly in Ohio

      You will feel relief! Sometimes when I have something hanging over me, i just try to think of it like removing a Band-Aid. Best to rip it off fast and then be done with it.

      1 year ago
    2. sparrow

      I can relate to this,
      dear Malag,
      and I am always amazed
      at how much easier it is
      to take care of the discomfort
      instead of procrastinating.

      1 year ago
  5. Hot Sauce

    I’ve been holding on to my need to have answers to the deep questions of life. To let go of the need to know the answers to everything immediately would relieve me of my constant obsessing and give me some space to shut my mind off for awhile.

    1 year ago
  6. d
    dcdeb

    I’m not sure whether i’m holding onto somethings or whether they are holding on to me; and how can you tell if you have actually let go and it won’t come back.

    1 year ago
  7. Antoinette

    Anything and everything- let go .

    1 year ago
  8. N
    Shawn Lupoli

    I’ve been holding onto the worry of how to make the best possible future for me long term. I think about whether I should live in a cheap Latin American country to enjoy life and save money, which Latin American country I should live in, should I live in New Zealand to enjoy the holidays and nature there, should I look for communities with a lot of friends, and a ton of what if’s of where I should live and what career I should do.

    The reality is there is no way to truly know what the future is like. It’s unlikely that anyone could have accurately predicted the major or even minor events that would happen to them in the past.

    Letting go of the worry about creating the perfect future would allow me to better spend my time enjoying the present moment and making it better sooner if it isn’t well. It would allow me to confidently say “I’m doing my best, so everything will work out fine.” because I know that by doing my best, I can transition from lows in life to highs faster (even if they aren’t the highs I initially wanted/expected).

    Thus, letting go of creating the perfect future would allow me to enjoy the present in a more confident and content manner.

    1 year ago
  9. Don Jones

    There is no U-haul or container service at the end. It is time to move from accumulation to true enhancement of life.

    1 year ago
  10. Palm

    Only when moving houses recently did I realise how much stuff I had. Yesterday, we did our first trip to the thrift shop (thanks, Mica, for the word). I wasn’t sure if they would want all of those things but they were so grateful. I asked: “so, can I bring more?” and was thrilled to hear: “please don’t stop”. It felt wonderful to let go.

    1 year ago
  11. Toni

    40 lbs for starters. I’m sure i’d feel a lot lighter physically and spiritually. Not feeling vibrant is not healthy and not doing anything about it is self sabotaging. So letting go of the feelings associated with weight gain is a place to start.

    1 year ago
  12. Pilgrim

    I am taking the question/s in another direction. I have been holding on to my memories with great care, especially after having a parent who ended up with Alzheimer’s. I write down what I do, what I eat, what I read, who I spend time with, on a day to day basis. Also meaningful quotes. I have been doing this for about 5 years in my planner/journal. It is nice to go back and review/remember. I have in the past had some rough experiences, but I choose not to dwell there.

    1 year ago
  13. Mica

    Hee hee – lots of stuff. I find that, if I keep something long enough, I find a use for it! However I’m also gathering quite a bit to take to the local thrift stores 🙂

    1 year ago
    1. Holly in Ohio

      haha… you are my fellow squirrel! 😀

      Okay, squirrel. I need to get rid of at least one thing today, too! Drop off door only at the thrift store, Mica! lol.

      1 year ago
      1. Mica

        I’ll give my granddaughter her birthday gifts today, Holly in Ohio – does that count for getting ‘rid’ of something today? Maybe I’ll empty the wastebaskets, too. My daughter-in-law is a major throw-outer.

        1 year ago
        1. Holly in Ohio

          I think that counts.
          I’ve been busy painting and cooking all day, I still need to find something, hm… I know! I have some old socks that can go!
          There, done. It’s O.O.M.H.! (out-of-my-house!)

          1 year ago
  14. Nelson

    There are 2 people in particular who’ve wronged me in the past. Conversations to make amends weren’t conducive. The mere thought of these 2 can sometimes trigger me. I’ve set up structures in place to manage them – practicing compassion, empathy, forgiveness, refraining from gossiping, channeling my energies and focus elsewhere, etc. I have felt peace in my heart, and the ability to move on. Moreover, I’ve also learned letting go is an ongoing process that, like many skills, takes awareness and practice. I fumble occasionally, but everyday, I continue to practice. Over time, I not only felt catharsis, but also strength and joy.

    1 year ago
    1. Palm

      This is useful, Nelson. Thank you

      1 year ago
      1. Nelson

        You’re welcome, Palm. 🙂

        1 year ago
  15. Carla

    I have some antiquated ideas on family relationships with siblings. Pledges made by past generations negatively impacted them. I don’t want to continue the cycle today. Realizing there are no “you HAVE to’s” will lead me to more emotional freedom. And in turn will free me from old expectations regarding sibling relationships.

    1 year ago
    1. Holly in Ohio

      Ah, very good, Carla. It took me a moment to follow what you are saying, but when I got it, I think you are very wise!

      1 year ago
  16. DeVonna

    I was assaulted by a fellow servicemember while I was in the Marines. It’s been over 30 years and it still angers me. I’d like to let it go, but I don’t know how…

    Any suggestions?

    1 year ago
    1. Antoinette

      Meditation Center – they are all over the world and are extremely useful in hands on help with all kinds of trauma.

      1 year ago
    2. Linda

      I am so sorry this happened to you, DeVonna. I suggest you talk to a good therapist who specializes in trauma recovery. You have every right to be angry. You just don’t want your anger to continue to hurt you.

      1 year ago
    3. Holly in Ohio

      Having experienced trauma, though of a different sort, I have come to believe strongly we can’t stop the energy that comes from strong experiences, however, we can channel that energy into a good outlet. Transforming it has the power to heal and will eventually diffuse the pain and anger. You kind of need to accept the energy will be there, the memories will be there… well, you already know this if it is still with you after 30 years. But if we don’t deliberately place it into a new context, that negative energy will fester and hurt us in ways like substance abuse, self-harm, depression, temper and rash decisions, isolation, self-sabotage in life. It is almost as if when we don’t look at it, it is able to cause harm in secret. The alternative is expression of the energy and use of those emotions. In Aikido this would be a defense called, “irimi,” or “entering in.” In the book, The Wizard of Earthsea, this would be embracing your faceless shadow, who is the part of you that you shun. To do it in the practical sense, some people are drawn to art to express their feelings and that helps and gives them a new pursuit. Sometimes the art is quite explicit. Other people divert and focus the energy on a goal, like the lady who lost her son in a drunk-driving accident, who started the organization M.A.D.D. (Mothers Against Drunk Driving), which has saved countless other sons and daughters. There are many different ways you could do this. Whatever the right way to express is for you, it would begin with your knowledge of where you are choosing to put the energy, and that you are going to be changing the nature of that energy so it does no more harm. You become the driver, the master of that energy. You make the choices, no longer a victim. It empowers you. And through your actions and purpose, you reframe your past experiences and the meaning of the original experience shifts as it blends with where you steer it. The memories don’t go away, they aren’t suppressed, but you give it new meaning in your life.

      Anyway, this is just my perspective. It worked for me. And dear DeVonna, you are not your trauma. You are beautiful.

      1 year ago
    4. sparrow

      I don’t like to to suggest or give advice,
      dear DeVonna,
      but I might say
      that the blot is on the person who assaulted you,
      and not you.
      None of this was your fault.
      Keeping you in my heart as you heal
      with love…
      sparrow

      1 year ago
    5. Carla

      I’m not versed to give advice in this matter dealing w/the military. Know that there are other survivors who carry you in thought & prayer🙏🏼

      1 year ago
  17. Holly in Ohio

    I’m in the process of letting go of things, and, letting go of the things they represent.
    Sometimes it is difficult to let go of things because with each item we are deciding who we are, and who we are not.
    I find I am often letting go of things that remind me of what didn’t happen, or will never happen, but I wanted to happen.
    And so I am editing. It’s as if I am packing for a trip for the next section of my life, and looking forward constructively.

    1 year ago
  18. Maeve

    Resentment and anger in two relationships especially, where I feel I was wronged. Would be good to be able to have it dissolve. And first, I need to be heard.

    1 year ago
  19. Ed Schulte

    NOISE ! Noise of all kinds.

    “A Blessing for Silence”

    The great Sufi poet Rumi [ All Peace and Blessings be upon him ] o
    reminds …… “Silence is the language of God. All else is poor translation.”

    I believe the highest form of prayer is listening to God who, being Omniscient, Omnipotent, Omnipresent,, already knows of any meaningful request we could make and which He/She has already granted us in advance, before the request was even made.

    May I enter the deep silence of Your Presence and just sit in quiet adoration, listening to You.

    May I so quiet my mind that the roar of passing thoughts be
    stilled….

    Excerpt from 365 Blessings to heal myself and the world [ with traditional Blessings added ]

    1 year ago
  20. Michele

    Pain, hurt, and jealousy from past relationships. It’s a work in progress of letting go. Being grateful and kind to myself as knowing emotions come and go.
    Happy Father’s Day to all the dads today:) Have an awesome day!
    Also Happy Summer Solstice too:) “Let the energy of the Summer Solstice help you to Balance, Release, Recharge”

    1 year ago
  21. Mike S

    I’ve had for sometime or rather pessimistic view of humanity‘s future given what I know about climate change.Sometimes I envision the positive in that, which is a much smaller remnant of humans living sustainably on planet earth with a much smaller footprint and a change in consciousness.

    1 year ago
  22. devy

    Ive been holding on to anxiety and feelings of abandonment for a very long time. Something that was instilled in me as a young child . It is an ongoing battle that still has its grips dug into me, but I am on the pathway of improvement. I’ve been working on my inner child work, living in the present practice and gratitude skills. One of my meditations includes the idea of imagining what my life would feel like it if I accept and let go these feelings.. It would feel wonderful !!

    1 year ago
  23. EJP

    Fear of a career change….what freedom I would feel if I could just let go and let it be.

    1 year ago
  24. Kevin

    If only it was as easy as “flipping-a-switch,” “just say the word and it’s done,” and with a snap of the finger it’s gone! Right!

    Though we oftentimes do need to give ourselves permission to be released from something that has been weighing us down for what feels like forever, it is frequently not so easy. For myself, I once found a way to let go of a long-standing hurt with ‘simple’ forgiveness, a process that was both freeing and new life-giving at the same time. Other weighty burdens just seem to need time on the backburner of my mind to simmer, usually for too long, before I toss it all out, wash up the pan and put it away.

    1 year ago
  25. Howie Geib

    I do sense that I am on the edge of something. A shift. An internal pivoting seems to be taking place. Little by little every day, almost like the sun that is now, today, going to start being around a little less each day until December. I can’t be sure, but I think it has something to do with leaving a posture wherein my personality defines me. Actions seem to be coming to the foreground. What I ‘think’ matters less and less. My opinions, too, wane. But what I see, what I do are somehow more important. So the holding on is the series of masks I can put down. It is liberating, and harkens to preparing for that next place. Don’t be alarmed, it is not that I have a sense of imminent death as much as I know that it is time to get serious about harvesting and less about sowing. Or something.

    1 year ago
    1. sparrow

      How happy am I
      to read what you have written,
      dear Howie,
      which reflects what I have been feeling myself…
      I think it has to do with being willing to let the ego take a back seat;
      it is immensely freeing,
      and not nearly as frightening as I thought it would be.
      I am becoming much more content
      without the baggage . . .
      peace,
      dear brother…
      it is time,
      and it feels so right.

      1 year ago
  26. sunnypatti48317

    I’ve recently recognized that I’m still hanging on to some fears that I’d love to let go of, and will work on doing so.

    As for how it will feel to let go of the fears… I know it will be liberating with a side of lightness and peace of mind!

    1 year ago
  27. O.Christina

    If it is to let go of a lie, it is freeing to let go. If it is to let go of Love, never.

    1 year ago

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