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Currently finding my place and community in the world as an invisibly disabled person isolated during covid. lost a friendship that I thought was genuine, but the person was insincere and didnt respect my boundaries. It’s still hard to let go of the pain caused, but I’m feeling better day by day, and I feel support from recent friends who are also dealing with disabilities. Grateful to have met these people. Letting go is a slow process but I feel a weight lifting off me that I didnt realize was there. Its helping me realize there were signs of toxicity, but they were very subtle – words didnt match with actions. Letting go is helping me analyze myself and how I’ll move forward with friendships in the future.
Upset and anger at other people’s actions that I cannot control. I sometimes have trouble letting it go – even if it looks like I’m ok from the outside.
Yes. I have been holding on to trauma that happened in my life. A guy in my life was verbally and emotionally abusive. I opened up a little bit to family in 2015. but I am still holding on to the trauma and haven’t been able to let go of it. I suffered from migraines because of the trauma and now I have depression and anxiety because of the trauma. But I am planning to go talk to a counselor to get rid of the trauma.
I had committed to phoning someone. I’ve been putting it off and off. I would feel relief to meet what I committed to do. It’s interesting how a steady drip of discomfort (putting it off or holding on to the problem) is more tolerable than a short sharp discomfort (doing the action) even though the steady drip can add up to a lake in time.
You will feel relief! Sometimes when I have something hanging over me, i just try to think of it like removing a Band-Aid. Best to rip it off fast and then be done with it.
I can relate to this,
and I am always amazed
at how much easier it is
to take care of the discomfort
instead of procrastinating.
I’ve been holding on to my need to have answers to the deep questions of life. To let go of the need to know the answers to everything immediately would relieve me of my constant obsessing and give me some space to shut my mind off for awhile.
I’m not sure whether i’m holding onto somethings or whether they are holding on to me; and how can you tell if you have actually let go and it won’t come back.
Anything and everything- let go .
I’ve been holding onto the worry of how to make the best possible future for me long term. I think about whether I should live in a cheap Latin American country to enjoy life and save money, which Latin American country I should live in, should I live in New Zealand to enjoy the holidays and nature there, should I look for communities with a lot of friends, and a ton of what if’s of where I should live and what career I should do.
The reality is there is no way to truly know what the future is like. It’s unlikely that anyone could have accurately predicted the major or even minor events that would happen to them in the past.
Letting go of the worry about creating the perfect future would allow me to better spend my time enjoying the present moment and making it better sooner if it isn’t well. It would allow me to confidently say “I’m doing my best, so everything will work out fine.” because I know that by doing my best, I can transition from lows in life to highs faster (even if they aren’t the highs I initially wanted/expected).
Thus, letting go of creating the perfect future would allow me to enjoy the present in a more confident and content manner.
There is no U-haul or container service at the end. It is time to move from accumulation to true enhancement of life.
Only when moving houses recently did I realise how much stuff I had. Yesterday, we did our first trip to the thrift shop (thanks, Mica, for the word). I wasn’t sure if they would want all of those things but they were so grateful. I asked: “so, can I bring more?” and was thrilled to hear: “please don’t stop”. It felt wonderful to let go.
40 lbs for starters. I’m sure i’d feel a lot lighter physically and spiritually. Not feeling vibrant is not healthy and not doing anything about it is self sabotaging. So letting go of the feelings associated with weight gain is a place to start.
I am taking the question/s in another direction. I have been holding on to my memories with great care, especially after having a parent who ended up with Alzheimer’s. I write down what I do, what I eat, what I read, who I spend time with, on a day to day basis. Also meaningful quotes. I have been doing this for about 5 years in my planner/journal. It is nice to go back and review/remember. I have in the past had some rough experiences, but I choose not to dwell there.
Hee hee – lots of stuff. I find that, if I keep something long enough, I find a use for it! However I’m also gathering quite a bit to take to the local thrift stores 🙂
haha… you are my fellow squirrel! 😀
Okay, squirrel. I need to get rid of at least one thing today, too! Drop off door only at the thrift store, Mica! lol.
I’ll give my granddaughter her birthday gifts today, Holly in Ohio – does that count for getting ‘rid’ of something today? Maybe I’ll empty the wastebaskets, too. My daughter-in-law is a major throw-outer.
I think that counts.
I’ve been busy painting and cooking all day, I still need to find something, hm… I know! I have some old socks that can go!
There, done. It’s O.O.M.H.! (out-of-my-house!)
There are 2 people in particular who’ve wronged me in the past. Conversations to make amends weren’t conducive. The mere thought of these 2 can sometimes trigger me. I’ve set up structures in place to manage them – practicing compassion, empathy, forgiveness, refraining from gossiping, channeling my energies and focus elsewhere, etc. I have felt peace in my heart, and the ability to move on. Moreover, I’ve also learned letting go is an ongoing process that, like many skills, takes awareness and practice. I fumble occasionally, but everyday, I continue to practice. Over time, I not only felt catharsis, but also strength and joy.
This is useful, Nelson. Thank you
You’re welcome, Palm. 🙂
I have some antiquated ideas on family relationships with siblings. Pledges made by past generations negatively impacted them. I don’t want to continue the cycle today. Realizing there are no “you HAVE to’s” will lead me to more emotional freedom. And in turn will free me from old expectations regarding sibling relationships.
Ah, very good, Carla. It took me a moment to follow what you are saying, but when I got it, I think you are very wise!
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