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By seeing that I am no different than the person to whom I am speaking and that my words come from a place of love.
When I remember to speak with humility
my words are kind, gentle and sincere.
My whole heart includes all, so to speak from there, my perspective taken includes everyone and everything in a natural way. Stillness, even a kind of one minute-meditation might be centering there before speaking.
Hi dear Ose, a kind of one minute meditation…it is interesting, I will try, thank you!
As distinct from being half-hearted… You see, when I identify with the guy in the mirror, he turns his back on the world. He says, “I’ve got enough troubles of my own. Keep out.” The One you really are never can turn her back on the world. She embraces the world. She is the world. This is not because I am special; I always was this way. Words from this place are True.
Don’t speak in haste. Before saying something, sink down from the head and thinking space into heart space. Be intentional. While this tends to silence me…I’m an introvert and an empath so I naturally listen deeply to others; I know hesitating too long in a world of extroverts who easily throw out casual conversation often makes me ‘late to the topic.’ More and more I’m okay with that as when I do speak then, people tend to pay attention.
By telling the truth or don’t talk !
Such an important question with thoughtful reflections. Thank you all!
If/ as I am grounded and rooted in my whole body, and in touch with heart and mind, I am more able to discern what to say and how, if anything. Listening and silence are key.
Alice Walker offers:
Never offer your heart
to someone who eats hearts…
On the other hand, from the song The Rose,
‘It’s the heart afraid of breaking that never learns to dance
It’s the dream afraid of waking that never takes the chance …
One breath at a time I guess.
Warm September greetings all – from my heart to yours….
This question is striking. And the answer is to communicate with authenticity and kindness. Together I can speak with my whole heart. I’ll definitely reminisce about this question through out the day!
Toltec Wisdom taught me to do my best to be impeccable with my words. It’s an agreement I’ve made with myself. It’s the setting of my intention and once my intention is set, I find that it guides my attention. It supports my practice of mindfulness. When you are impeccable with your word, you find yourself silent in many situations. You find yourself able to respond instead of react to a troubling circumstance. Or as my Mom would say, “If you can’t say something helpful, don’t say anything!” It helps me have my whole heart behind the words I speak.
“Impeccable” is a beautiful word choice here. Day by day you are an exemplar of your agreement, Carol.
Elaine Thanks for your gracious words.
Speak with great care and not too much. Listen closely. Summon empathy. Oftentimes I am impatient and hurried. Every day I begin again, including a visit here, to remind me what matters.
Elaine, your post reminds me of the words of Monk, Musician and author John Michael Talbot. He says that if you feel you have to speak, pause…it might be best that you just listen and keep quiet!
Know what idea I am trying to convey with my words, know why I want to convey those ideas, and know to whom I want to convey those ideas – absent a clear idea on all of the above, consider going back to the drawing board or just sit and listen.
I journeled about this very thing recently. I had good intentions in trying to comfort a dear friend but I realized afterwards that I talked too much. It occured to me afterwards that perhaps all she needed was for me to sit with her in silence, or to listen attentively to the words of her heart. Give Spirit room and time to give me any words that would benefit her. Thus, these “spirit-prompted” words I believe would be from my heart and not from my ego. Going forward my intention is to practice this “sacred pause” before I speak.
~Grateful to be here with you all. Om Shanti friends. ☮ And a special Prayer Tuesday good morning to my dear friend Pilgrim.
When I was doing some training to support older people at my church, they stressed the phrase, “Be present with” as sometimes the only thing needed.
You speak the deep wisdom here, my friend. Thank you. Blessings to you on this Prayer Tuesday, as well!
Thank you, dear Diane – such a great answer! 🙂 Indeed it’s so tempting to talk instead of listen, isn’t it?! 😐
I’m guilty of speaking before the other party has finished speaking. I am also guilty of formulating what I’m going to say while the other person is still speaking. Mindful listening, active listening is what I need to practice. Taking a pause before speaking will help. Thinking before speaking is another expression that comes to mind.
Thanks, AP, for your great answer to a question that didn’t ‘speak’ to me 🙂
be mindful of intention
Kindness and sincerity bring my words into harmony with who I wish to be and a certain measure of wholeness.
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