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By offering it without qualification or question to whomever will accept it, and by sidestepping the trap of believing you are owed anything (whether their gratitude or your name on a statue) for your efforts.
Share knowledge and discuss the latest helpful information when I meet with people
I have read all the replies, and find them full of ideas, especially the birdsong….although I will use if for me, I am putting the idea on FB so others can use it in the months ahead, as well as the Youtube link. Youtube is such a great resource for things like this!
I try to listen to others when they are speaking to me. I do my best to give the person my full attention, and that is a gift. And that is another way of giving my time to others.
I just found out that my county has a Buy A Bag for Seniors. It is a way to purchase a Bag of fresh produce for our marginal brothers and sisters who fall between the cracks. They make just enough-which is really NOT enough-to not qualify for food stamps or other financial helps…the county seeks donations, and asks for volunteers to help pack the produce and deliver the bags to the elderly. Many do not have transportation. The produce- fresh fruits and vegetables- comes from local grocery stores and Saturday Markets.
So I have set up a donation(can’t afford much, but at least something), and am going to volunteer to help pack bags and maybe deliver in the summer and fall months. Others need it, and even a small donation made monthly can help others. I like the idea of several of us making a difference for someone else.
When my children were in grade school, every year before Christmas we would get a large box, and fill it with food, mittens, hats, whatever felt like was needed, I let the kids pick out most of the things that went into the box. We knew who needed it because I volunteered at the schools. We would head out, make sure at least one light was on in the house, or apartment windows….. The kids would put the box on the front porch or apartment door, ring the bell and run! They loved it. It was great fun. And they learnt early that you can make a difference in someone’s life, maybe just for a little bit of time, but it mattered….
The abilities I have to take them to max possible, push hard and work long hours haha. Utilize my life the best possible to help humanity and be effective with my time. In a lot of ways I am basically an extrovert to the extreme, I love being out and about with the masses, but I also find I have capacity in terms of more introverted things which means that is what I should do as it helps people. My natural tendencies though are towards extreme extroversion and people orientation though my job mostly is solitary and why sometimes I just have to go out to get my happy chemicals from being around people haha. I feel my current job helps the most people so even if it isn’t maybe my natural tendency in terms of socializing, it’s what I do long hours then every so often venture out for my human fix.
Positivity. Even if their glass is half empty, if you remind them why their glass is half full, when things go well, they remember your words. When things go badly, hopefully something will still resonate, so they don’t feel as bad.
In my working place, there is a little box, sending beautiful birdsong when passing by. Everybody loves it, these birds greeting everyone in the morning, especially these days. But yesterday, the wheel where you can regulate the level of volume suddenly was turned too much so that it started to terribly hurt in my ears. Fortunately it was possible to adapt it again, and everyone who entered afterwards was welcomed again by this surprise of beautiful song in winter.
After reading this, I thought about it, and I went to google and looked up birdsongs. There are several Youtube videos with birdsongs that I am going to listen to and bookmark. It is because I miss that sound first thing in the morning in the fall and winter months. Thank you for jogging my brain!
Dear Mary Pat. this beautiful thing is called “Zwitscherbox”, I add a link for you to have a look at, it works as a motion sensor. A bit below the site, you find an example of the birdsong which starts any time you pass by. And really, in winter it is a gift of sorts. 🙂
Share a smile 🙂
Lend an ear 👂
Offer a hug 🤗
My patience and flexibility at school and at home.
My company, a listening ear.
I have many fond memories doing this; food drives, clothing, money, even under garments and purses stuffed with toiletries. for a woman’s shelter, (prompted a lot of giggles from our group). I think the most appreciated was walking a friends dog and keeping her yard free of pooh for 3 months when she broke a bone.
Today it is a smile, a phone call and I love the gift of laugher. Pay it forward, give freely with no attachments of whatever “it” is.
OH, Blossom! I have been the recipient of friends walking our dog for us while we were in the throes of Covid and it was the absolute best gift anyone could give us! I didn’t have to worry about it at all, which I think helped my recovery.
Thank you for doing this….it, for me, was the best gift I received, and I bet your friend feels much the same…..
Volunteering my time and donating extra clothes.
Like several have said here, I have the gift of extra time since retiring. Taking the time to acknowledge and thank the salespeople who check out my groceries and other items when I shop is a fine way to use it.
I’ve got lots of love to give and I strive to be more open to sharing it with others. Also, one of my passions is teaching children about environmental stewardship and agriculture, which I do sometimes at my current job and I am also working towards building my own non-profit program so that I can make a bigger difference.
I got present to this yesterday. Part of my job is cold outreach. It’s a sales function via text. The prospect said that she receives a lot of these solicitations but figured sure, she’ll give me her time. I was gracious and did a needs assessment. After every reply, I said thank you, reiterated what she said to make sure my understanding is correct. Even went as far saying ma’am, and making a joke. (This is through text so I have idea how she reacted.) I ended the conversation with saying how pleasant it was to speak with her, and again, I know her time is valuable. I appreciate how she generous she was with me. Her response dumbfounded to be honest: She said I was the only person who made her feel heard and appreciated. She regained faith that there are genuine people out there. She wished me a blessed evening and she has to go back to work so she can buy Christmas presents…. Morale of the story: I didn’t know what she really needs, but just giving gratitude for her time and company made a difference. I have the screenshot, and I’m still looking at it this morning. It’s a good reminder.
Being retired, have lots of free time. I would like to volunteer again, but covid has dampened any plans to do so. Perhaps I can phone people who I know who are going through difficulties and provide a listening ear to those whom want to talk and for those who prefer to selfs problem solve, give them their space to allow them to so. I’m trying not to rescue others.. provide an ear and hand if needed be.
Free time – thanks, devy – I’m retired, too, so that’s a good answer for me, too. I used to answer Quora questions – maybe it’s time for me to start doing that again. Time has started hanging heavy lately. I appreciate your answer, because my mind was giving me no answer 😊🙃
So many wonderful, thoughtful and gracious ideas posted here. And most are true for me. I especially like the idea of time and full attention. I can and do give that.
Would you mind expanding on this? I’ve never heard this phrase before
It’s not a phrase or a saying, per se. Two years of a global pandemic have critically decreased the availability of blood for emergency transfusions. We don’t think about it until we, or someone we love, needs a blood transfusion. More than a century of conventional farming practices have depleted the soil. Many never consider the source of our food as prices skyrocket and nutritional value of food plummets.
By simply sharing my time for all that need it.
I remember my former spiritual director, retired from her other full-time work, talked about how she now had “the gift of time” – more flexibility to respond to others. I’ve been using my “gift of time” for others in several ways – and hope to continue to be mindful about how I can respond to others in their need.
The answer to this is supposed to be straight-cut, yet, very difficult to keep by us humans.
I can make a difference with anything I have that others don’t have by simply sharing what I have with those who haven’t.
I think by giving my full attention and time when a person is speaking with me, I never know what type of issues or challenges a person is going through maybe a smile or just the act of actually listing might make a difference
The people in the elderly homes love it when I play the piano for them.
I’ve considered this until I realized there’s a motif of infidelity, alcoholism, and spousal abuse throughout much of the music I know
Oops! Maybe you will be inspired to find new music – or not, Javier. Warm wishes to you. You still seem awfully dark these days as I look at you. 😜
Eh, that generation wrote a lot of this stuff. Thank you for your consideration, Mica; that for my complexion, too!
Thanks, Javier – I didn’t want to call you ‘black’ so as not to disrespect people of color. A friend made shopping bags with big red and green tables of ‘bad’ and ‘good’ words – “Black sheep” should be “Rebel”; “Blackball” should be “Ostracize”; “Black Box” should be “Box of unknown content” – I prefer “Mystery Box”. “Black and Blue” should be “Bruised”. “Black Friday” should be “Friday after Thanksgiving”. “Dark” should be “Mysterious,” “macabre,” “sad” – Oh!! ‘sad’ would have communicated my concerns about your complexion, wouldn’t it?? “Indian summer” should be “Warm autumn” and 5 more.. Warm wishes –
I try to remember that nothing belongs to me anyway.
Laughter, non-judgemental positive regard, safe spaces, vulnerability which leads to comfort to be yourself.
There’s little doubt that I have many things that other people may need. I pay attention to area human service organizations that are constantly assessing the needs of the people whom they serve. When their wish list or “needs lists” goes out to the wider community I try to respond in any way that I can.
Thanks, Kevin – I think you have inspired me to donate to a couple of organizations that promise to double my gift now. I’ve been sluggish about responding.. 🙃
Done – thanks so much Kevin – one org was going to give me note cards if I donated more than a certain amount, so I reduced my donation to a dollar less than that, but then I noticed that I could say ‘No’ to the gift cards, so I upped my donation. Thanks for giving me the gift of your answer as I start my day.
Your storage tubs come to mind, ha, ha. But seriously, I have no doubt you do respond wonderfully.
By registering to become an organ and tissue donor one can help others in need.Tissue
Also by donating blood,platelets,plasma too!
Great, yes, I have done my organ donation plan. Big love
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