Please log in or Create a Profile to post a comment.
By being present, listening, offering support, being there in loving kindness.
Mostly through donating. I’m horrid at interpersonal things. Well not horrid so much as I’m very focused on a few things which are not interpersonal. My family knows I’ll always be there for them and that I’m consistent in practical care. They also all say I’m selfless, caring and empathetic. I’ve had close friends and family say that I’m selfless and extremely kind. So I must be doing something right haha. But my personality is more focused and driven, it isn’t that emotionally or interpersonally driven which means I’m not great at making anyone feel they are so special and cared for in conventional ways. It’s taken me time to be more comfortable with my tendencies and not feel so much guilt that I’m not as emotional and affectionate as others, that I actually find it draining and exhausting being what others consider “normal emotional” and even more I’m miserable trying to fit that role. I’m happiest showing care through donating.
I think I best show family, friends, and work colleagues that I care through steadfast commitment to the relationship. I think I best show acquaintances, neighbors, and people I don’t know that I care by my words and actions.
Of course listen and asking questions and talking less about my own experiences is important and something I need to work on. I’m pretty good at offering to help and then following through with friends and neighbors.
I care for others by taking care of my mind and I’m better able to take care of others.
Simply by acknowledging their existence and worth as a fellow human being and child of a Higher Power. A nod, a smile, a kind word, a touch or hug or handshake as appropriate. By making an effort to be inclusive of them in whatever busyness you are presently involved in. Some have very limited abilities to help in spite of their desire to do so. But one can always find some small way that such a person can aid in the overall effort, and they will be grateful to you for providing them the opportunity to participate…
I show others I care by being willing to grow in self awareness. Our planet is a evolutionary miracle. Our species needs to evolve to show how much we care about it and others. I see my job as willingness.
Looking at the person with attentive eyes.
I have found that if a person asks a question like ” how was your day? ” they also want me to return that question to them. It is amazing how responsive folks are.
be mindful of being present
I show others I care by listening, remembering their concerns, hopefully by speaking kindly, sometimes by complimenting or doing little things of service, and by remembering to say, “I love you.”
Lately, the struggle has been with convincing myself
Oh, dear, Javier – that is a challenge. Warm wishes to you 🙂
With a simple smile……
Listening and tuning into them … hug if they need one, listen if they need, help if they need , give support if they need.
I love that, “tuning into them.” Well said! 😊
I think all the answers have been great, and things I regularly try and do for others. In our world today, I think the most appreciated way to show others you really care is being present with that person. and is most important. Truly listening to them and not offering advice, but simply paying attention is so valuable.. As Parker Palmer says, don’t try to fix it. “The human soul doesn’t want to be advised or fixed or saved. It simply wants to be witnessed — to be seen, heard and companioned exactly as it is. When we make that kind of deep bow to the soul of a suffering person, our respect reinforces the soul’s healing resources, the only resources that can help the sufferer make it through.”
Thanks, Mary Pat, for reminding me of Parker Palmer. ‘Deep bow’ – that’s good to remember. Not fixing and advising – just being with them; that’s a good reminder. I belonged to a ‘circle’ group based on a Parker Palmer book for over a year, long ago and on the other side of the country. I’m grateful to be reminded of that 🙂
Mica, I have loved his books for years….and maybe I will revisit a few this fall….when things slow down a little….take good care of yourself….
Warm wishes to you, Mary Pat – I copied your post with the Parker Palmer quote to my gratefulness doc – thanks 🙂
I show others that I care by speaking life into them, by taking the time to listen and to encourage.
Thanks, Julian. How do yo speak life into others? That’s a powerful statement.
I keep in touch, ask how friends are, always say happy bday/anniv/send cards/give get well gifts/pkgs. I love to give -my mom was such an inspiration, she was a giver. Showing others that I care starts with paying attention:)
By being present, and listening, first and foremost.
By being true. True to who I really am.
Kindness. Compassion. Helping them in whatever way they need and that I can. I also like feeding people. Preparing food for family and friends is one of my favorite things to do.
I think preparing food for someone is one of the highest levels of taking care for others and for ourselves! That’s beautiful!
I try to make them feel accepted in their entirety – values and flaws.
Normally others feel when we care. If they do not feel it I try to tell them that they are worthy to be cared, or that it is not dangerous to accept care.
I listen to them and I a offer kindness. I am letting a friends family stay at my place this week to make their transition smoother
Give yourself the gift of free bi-monthly inspiration including uplifting articles, diverse stories, supportive practices, videos, and more, delivered with heart to your inbox.