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I most recently discovered the phrase ….”I get to….” so even in “bad times” I get to find the thing that I am going to learn and grow. It may be painful and hard, but adversity always helps me to be a more compassionate, empathetic person
By remembering that much of what is good in my life has come to me by grace, utterly undeserved; and that I will be given the grace to get through what is bad, even when I’ve brought that bad on myself. and my getting through it is equally undeserved.
Sometimes the bad is just bad. Sometimes I see that some growth will happen, something different, something that acts on me and moulds me a bit different. And then there’s the contrast of experiencing something beautiful in the midst of heartache. Like the story of seeing the juicy strawberry within hands reach when your hands are otherwise occupied holding onto the edge of a cliff.
Even in “bad times” I can recognize and savor my everyday blessings beginning with the realization that I am alive. I can remember that I have faith, a faith community, a family, friends and associates. I can remember that I have food, water, housing, heat or cooling when needed, healthcare, dental care, transportation, books, music, TV, films and the internet to expand and enrich my world. I have interesting and satisfying activities to do. I have treasured memories of people, pets, places and experiences I’ve enjoyed. I also have ways to give my time, talent and treasure to causes I support. There are so many gifts I’ve been privileged to receive. Deo Gratias.
This is a struggle for me at times, especially since both my husband and myself have mental disorders. When I have a shred of mindset I do a grounding activity (which does have to do with gratitude). 5 things you can see, 4 things you can hear, 3 that you can touch, 2 things you can smell/taste.
There are always good things going on. It is very difficult for me to find the good things and can take some time, but since i know ahead of time that the good things are there i keep trying.
I like this, Deb. You know they are there, it is just a question of seeing it. Good thought.
Personally, I feel gratitude is a state of being rather than an action. So, if I am grateful, it doesn’t matter what is going on around me.
It was often the difficulties, which by overcoming them helped to develop an increasing inner knowing of being held in His Love no matter what troubled my heart. This was and is something of the most beautiful which could happen to me, but the process was not easy at all, in fact quite painful, and for the deep seated struggles it took a while. I guess it was not easy as well for the ones who had the will and the heart to confront me with what I could not see, for which I will be forever grateful towards the ones concerned. Finding strength to face inner despair, to observe it with compassion and to let go of these old phantoms which brought me to were I had landed became a door to gratefulness. Meditation was a huge help, and you all who share here, too. Beneath all I read here in your beautiful and warmhearted posts and and was taught or said by friends, I could sense what connects us all. And this comforted even in the most painful moments. May His beams soothe and radiate to the ones who struggle, may you sense it beneath all pain, may healing be on its way to all who suffer. For this I pray.
My experience with “bad times”, & trust me I have had many, like many here, is that there is a lesson to be learned & there is growth. I am thankful for the opportunity to grow & to learn. I know easier said than done. I guess so much of it, life, is how we look at it. Our attitude is half the battle. Happy October to All. 🍁🍂🍁
Happy October to you too! Love this month:)
Be grateful for the strength to persevere and take the next step.
I can be grateful in bad times when I remind myself that the biggest battles are always within. Mindset has a lot to do with choosing to respond instead of react to my life situation. When I’m feeling challenged and losing hope, I pray for wisdom–the willingness to learn from what is happening. Go with the flow. I don’t know if that is equivalent to being grateful for the bad times but by not labeling what is happening, I avoid seeing it as a problem.
A moto for daily living, here, Carol. Thank you!
That is lovely, Carol. I get several take-aways from that, and will be thinking about it today.
Honestly, if I look at myself in the midst of any “bad” time, I can’t say I was practicing gratitude during them. But! Upon reflection, I always look for the lesson, for something to be grateful for. There have been times when the lesson takes days, even months, to reveal itself to me, but the good thing is that I’ve learned to practice gratitude daily, so I can always find something good in my life, even if it’s not stemming particularly from something happening to me in the now.
When in the midst of a challenging event; I pause. Through prayer & meditation I’ve come to know & believe “this” too shall pass. This experience that I’m in may stretch me in ways I’d rather not grow. However, the God of my understanding does provide me with the tools & skills I need to walk through the rough time.
The God of my understanding is an evolutionary god that wants me to evolve. Sounds like yours is, too.
First I had to learn that having a tragic life is not the kind of competition that I want to win. I’m embarrassed to say that, but it’s true that when I was a teen I fed the sadness, focused on the bad, and milked it for all the sympathy and love I could get. Only when I got sick of it did I start to learn.
Then I went through a phase of, “Well at least it’s not worse.” There are people starving in __________, as our mother’s used to tell us when we didn’t want to eat what was for dinner. But comparisons are not comforting! Suffering dutifully through bad times is not comforting.
At last I learned to look for the good around me and in life. I started to look at my power to comfort, to bring cheer, to give, to appreciate music or nature, to share a laugh, to love. It is here that I found reasons to be grateful, even when my friend was dying young, even when my daughter made poor choices, even when my health was bad, even when I was anxious. The march of life’s events continue, but gratitude and love are constants.
Gratitude is a practice. It doesn’t fall in our laps because we are lucky. Rather, we are lucky, because we practice gratitude.
love to all of you this morning. ❤
There’s a recovery phrase that goes: “I was sick and tired of being sick and tired,” that people who have made it through to a better place have used as a stepping stone and way out to a better life, that your story reminds me of, Holly. Thank you..
Yes, it does. 🙂 And as I look back, I could say that feeling sorry for myself was like an addiction. Thank you, Kevin. That’s very useful.
Holly, Do you hear my “Amen!”
Thank you, Carol! 🌺
I pray for “One day at a time”.
God! Just give me the strength to do everyday what I have to do… during bad or good times.
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