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I spent a lifetime trying to change, pushing energy into being different. I’ve mostly got pretty comfortable with not changing now. And oddly that allows any change that wants to happen as what’s around me changes. But growth, Yeh. You stop growing, you die. I usually look inside for support and lean on my daily practices. When things get difficult I have the people close to me to lean on and they me. Am grateful for that.
I appreciate your answers, Malag, this one is very much like what I couldn’t put into words, thank you.
I would love to grow in my understanding of others. I have my experiences and knowledge but wish I would understand more about why people do things, where their beliefs come from, and understand how to best relate to other people.
I would like to develop the needed skills to increase my income and get away from where I currently live. Not sure where to find support for that but I recently enrolled in an online course that might put me in touch with people who can somehow help. Time will tell.
I would like to be more humble, more patient, and to spread around me the warm caress of a good welcome.
Like saint Francis of Assisi, and so many other people.
I would like for my faith in god to grow and I would love to learn more about him and live in his presence. Ive had so much happen in the last 3 months; it was a turning point for me to rely more on god and ask him why this is happening to me. Point me towards a direction and signs as what to do because nothing makes sense to me right now. I haven’t given the lord enough of my time throughout my life and i start now. I’m 27 and finally going to church again so i look to that for my support. Also, my bible app on my phone reminds me each day at the same time to open my devotional. I think doing that is a good start and reading at least one chapter in the Bible a day will help me to learn and grow faith in him and find his answers. I hope to eventually finish the Bible. Another thing that i would like to change in my life right now is my family’s faith in god. If i can convince them to rely more on him then their daily lives would be better off as well. I hope the lord brings my family back together because i miss them. Thanks for reading fellow friends <3
I would like to find more balance between reflection and action.
Mother nature is a beautiful inspiration and support. As Spring quietly emerges, change and growth is a breath, step or glance away …
That is a really beautiful idea. In sustainable agriculture, we are always talking about “biomimicry,” – of imitating nature to find simpler, earth-healing systems, for example, not tilling, or using compost, or letting chickens eat the bugs in your yard. It never occurred to me I could put myself into the picture, and look to the whole for the support I need and find my place. Thank you.
Moving from untruth to truth, i.e. moving from what I have collected over this lifetime to who I really am. Realistically, I think I have to take 100% responsibility for this one.
Every time and every week when I attend mass I pray the Lord that He makes me a better person. (Whether He is listening is another thing altogether). I tend to turn towards my family, especially my wife for support, since my two grown up and married kids, although good and generous, are way different to our way of thinking..
I would like to be more self aware and also pay more attention to the needs of those around me. I think making a daily habit of journaling would provide support.
I am grateful for the support of my writers’ group, as I near completion of my memoir (anyone want to be a beta-reader?).
I am grateful for Laura, my mentor in unconditional love and acceptance.
It would be great if I moved ahead into the scary arena of finding an agent and promoting my memoir. And I’d like to learn to accept everything.
It seems as the stumbling blocks I have today linger. I would like to acknowledge them and walk on to my life.
I would like to continue to grow in my daily yoga practice. Eventually I would like to get my yoga teacher training certificate.
I would like to grow into the divine self – the true self – the transformed self, whatever words used, it points to the same growth and transformation.
Doing the work, though, that is the question. I am not sure how to do it while in this reality that is my life. Yet, the support networks are there.
In my journey I have found that there are all sorts of support out there from this website, to contemplative Christian groups, to jewish wisdom teachers, to Sufi sages, to networks like Shift, to local communities.
At times, for me though, it is a matter of will.
I would like to have more consistent effort and habits in many things. I was a “wild child” and am an artist “type” and I find consistency very challenging, and unfortunately, I sometimes disappoint people who matter to me, and disappoint myself, when I drop out or retreat. Around October last year I started to feel overwhelmed, and rather than do some judicial cutting in time, and let people know, I just retreated and was a bit of a slug for the next months. I quit reaching out to friends, too (luckily I found gratefulness.org). I don’t know how to find support for this particular change, the times I need encouragement most I’m least likely to speak of it. Things are better now, but I know it will come again like a wave, and perhaps I will be swept up by it before I see it.
Consistency of effort is connected to successes big and small, and how others see us, but it is also wrapped up in acceptance of circumstances and self-acceptance in ways I don’t understand. Consistency happens when there is some thread of connection between the beginning, middle, and end, rather than hot flashes of inspiration, I guess. ??
Holly…I identified powerfully to this reflection. Chaos is to me now what darkness in the basement was to me as a child. I wonder if it is part of aging. Anyways that is my thing, not at all inferring it is what you are articulating. I am one who deals with this by finding and naming or reinforcing the patterns around me when I begin to sense overwhelm. Anything to stave off the panic. And I am fortunate that I have a very snug shell to crawl into when it starts. Consistency also has another meaning: texture. Apparent with the play of light and shadow. The artist’s way is one of uncommon texture I believe and those hot flashes are interlacing the beginnings middles and ends perhaps. Anyways lovely to read this in the predawn. Thanks.
“a very snug shell to crawl into,” …i call it “turtle-ing.” Our shell is a home, and we can pull in our legs, head, and tail.
“finding and naming or reinforcing the patterns around me” …this sounds very helpful! I will give it a try.
Yes, I liked the part about how others see us. For me, this means being seen but without judgements. Not very common, unfortunately.
I live constantly in the past or future. I would like to be more mindful and more present, also there are some aspects of my life that I don’t like and I focus a lot on that so I want to be more grateful about what I have and create a more mindful life.
I’ve been nurturing & disciplining the Martha/Mary sides of myself by consciously adding in more quiet time in the mornings & a monthly class of SoulCollage. Yesterday I organized a small handful of folders for picture categories. It’s a start.
“When we are connected — to our own purpose, to the community around us, and to our spiritual wisdom — we are able to live and act with authentic effectiveness.” Malidoma Patrice Somé
I can’t get past my reaction to today’s quote. I found the words “our own purpose” questionable. To put it simply, I think our purpose is not personal. It is universal. It is to be instruments of evolution in every situation that presents itself. Every situation that comes into our lives brings with it the chance to change and grow. Any progress we make is a win for all creation. As for support, I found that many times my greatest growth has come when I have no visible support. I have found that it comes in times of surrender, in times of prayer. The hymn, “Make Me a Channel of Your Peace” comes to mind. Medical intuitive Carolyn Myss when asked to offer a prayer one can say when one feels absolutely hopeless offered this prayer: “I surrender, reach me any way you can.” It’s kind of a modern version of “Thy will not my will.” In 12-step circles they often recite this prayer: “My Creator, I offer myself to Thee. Please remove any defect of character that stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows. Grant that I may go out from here to do your bidding.” I often just pray, “Grant me wisdom in this situation.” As Richard Rohr says, “Your life is not about you.” Your purpose, my purpose, is so much greater than that.
Reducing the gap between intention and action – no need to look for support as I have available all that I need.
I’d like to change some of my OCD, Type A personality to a more relaxed, easy going one. I cant even go for a walk without counting the kilometers.
I’d like to change my relationship with food, eating to nourish and fuel my body instead of clogging it with unhealthy stuff.
I’d like to feel at home and at peace in my body and mind, instead of constantly thinking of the next thing I have to do. Again, Type A behavior.
I’d like to work on patience, tolerance and being less judgemental.
If I could CTRL-ALT-DEL and reboot my personality and get a whole new one, I would. I realize this thinking is also not healthy and that I need to accept myself and love myself as I am while also growing and evolving. As our Pastor says, instead of human beings, we should be calling ‘humans becoming’ as we are constantly changing and evolving. .
Sometimes when I have struggled with something for a long while, I discover that the solution is not getting away from it, but is “entering in.” I thought of this when you mentioned CTRL-ALT-DEL, because I used to visualize a gi-normous eraser to rub out awful memories and parts of myself I didn’t like. But it the end, it was acceptance that gave me peace, and ironically, the ability to change. The “patience, tolerance, and being less judgmental,” might need to begin with having that for yourself. Sometimes it is a matter of committing to loving yourself, “no matter what.”
I think you are beautiful, just as you are.
Thank you Holly for your lovely, lovely and wise response. That was just the support I needed.
CTRL-ALT-DEL grabbed my attention as I scrolled thru your answers, Journey and Holly in Ohio! And your “gi-normous eraser”, Holly in Ohio! Thank you and hugs –
My “change and grow” intentions are directed towards strengthening ‘and determining the ‘What and Who’ personality I will become in my current and next “”Earthy” incarnation”.
Similar to Trish this morning….. the “support” is there from the two aspects of the Holy Trinity ..the Logos ( Christos) and the Holy Spirit ,……. and of course, Mary and the many, many, attained Beings who can hear me when I am sincere in my intentions.
adding from my morning meditation reading ………then Joshua said ….“Be still. Be calm and listen to me. I have given you in your material body a human heart. I am the pulse in your heart. Hear me in the pulse of your heart. In the pulse of your heart is my love for you. Clean your heart. Make it a crystal clear mirror to reflect my love—your love–to every human being, my offspring. Find me and listen to me. I am life in your heart. I have given you two eyes while protected in the sockets. You can see the material light and in this light you can see everything material in the material word. Feel me in my Omnipresents. I have given you in your chest two lungs to breathe my air and my Life-giving Vitality. Breathe deeply and feel the air you are breathing in your lungs. You can feel me there and you can hear me in your breath. I am in your breath.”
page 72 …Joshua Immanuel….His life on” Earth….Author, Daskalos
I have not always had a great relationship with money which explains my financial state right now. I recently decided to think of money as having an actual relationship with. I have not been giving out my money. I have noticed 2 companies have bit responded regarding a refund and I am doing it to build my relationship with money. As far as support I would love it if I was able to be not only compensated & higher amount my the inconvience . I also would like to grow in the “organic Market system” meaning marketing made easy and to find my targeted audience. I am a healer and an available to add individuals for late September 20, 2101 unitll Dec 31 201, know annoy who is stuck, having any health concern? Your body is asking for help in the form of food. Is life a movie on repeat? Feeling demotivated & tired? Have you notcied your life is going in circles…lets talk
I would like to continue to grow in my practice of regular spiritual disciplines so that living in the Spirit is something of which I am more often consciously aware. I want to live more mindfully: the Spirit is both a taproot in my life and a North Star; I’m rooted and fed, but also led forward.
Conscious awareness—- that sums it up so nicely!
Thank you for sharing your reflection. I copied it and will read it over many times to serve as source of inspiration and transformation. Sam
My feeling of abandonment at times. I’ve been aware of this for years, the reasons why and logically know that my mind is living in the past with my parents. At times and now recent when I feel stressed, it’s little head rears itself, or I’ll be angry about something that’s happening in my life and I will set myself up for isolation only to then feel abandoned. This is an ongoing problem. I am trying to meditate and be thankful when this happens but the little me comes to the surface. I have a zoom appointment with my counsellor today to discuss this. I haven’t talked to her since June and it’s time for a tuneup.
There is a lot of extraneous nonsense that I allow into my life. It truly doesn’t deserve any time or recognition from me & I’d like to thank it for teaching me & say goodbye. I have things to do & places to go. I really don’t need voices of naysayers in my head or the lure of quick distractions like social media. Support comes from the Holy Spirit. She’s an amazing friend!
I am seeking growth at work. I love learning, and the more I know, the better for my now as well as my future. I have already asked for support from another leader at our sister store across the bridge. He is a respected individual in the company, is successful, smart, to the point, and a great leader. So he has become my mentor. I have also been put on the roster in our region to take the CCP (Certified Cheese Professional) course, and I really hope they choose me. It would not only be fun learning the ins and outs of artisan cheeses, but getting that certification would certainly expand my mind and offer me opportunities that will help my future endeavors of event planning and catering. And getting it paid for by the company would be a great blessing, too!
I LOVE cheese and my best friend makes an awesome charcuterie board. Good luck! I hope in a year to take an exam and then I’ll have CTBS (Certified Tissue Banking Specialist) in addition to my MLT (Medical Lab Technician) by my name:)
Cheese is awesome! I’m so grateful to have fallen into the career I’m in, and if I can become certified in one of the main things we sell in my department, then all the better! Good luck with your certification, too, Michele!
It’s fun to follow your growth, sunnypatti! Certified Cheese Professional~Awesome🙂
Thank you, Trish!
This is a wonderful question. Thank you!
I am not inclined to seek change for the sole purpose of making a change. I am reasonably (stressing “reasonably”) content with my life and where I am in the world. But I do seek to grow, in knowledge, experience, and most especially, spiritually. To some extent, I am doing that now in small ways. Though the pandemic has been challenging in many ways, it has also, for me, opened some doors more easily because of the many workshops and learning opportunities now popping up in all sorts of venues on digital platforms. I may be the exception to the norm here, because while I treasure personal engagement one to another in physical settings, I also enjoy “zooming,” too. And as a person living with chronic back pain, avoiding long car rides, or torturous lecture hall seating, means I can more comfortably “sit” or “stand” for learning and enrichment opportunities online. In a loosely applied way, one could say that Zoom and similar video apps provide me with “support!”
My, too, Kevin – I love zooming and also not having to drive, tho that’s just because I’m a wussy driver.
I am growing and learning at work. I work with awesome people and my trainer is a wonderful mentor. So far so good:)
Great to hear your desired vocational field continues to unfold Michele! Your star is becoming brighter and brighter 🙂 …. as the ancient ones ( or was it Tolle? no matter ) say “When you are on the right path the right things will happen”.
I thought of you last friday when I was in for my scheduled Canadian Blood Donner visit. Glad to say that the organization has handled the challenges with COVID-19 and its “variants” are throwing at them very well.
Thank you Ed! I’m so happy you donate:)
I envy you your mentor! The some few I have had the privilege of working alongside of have enriched my life tremendously.
Thank you Howie:)
Changing is inevitable at this age and I will take what comes. But growth! Ahh! That is something I can be willful about. I am a decent storyteller, with room for much growth. I would love to take some writers workshops (any recommendations welcome). I have a month scheduled on the Connecticut shore again this summer and have set my eyes on having that be a rowing/writing event. So I will try to line up some project to work on whilst there. I have a friend who has been writing for decades…I will reach out to her thanks to this prompting! I owe her a letter anyway.
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