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Be there when they’re there; not somewhen else.
I can get to a place where I can give more than I take and try to leave people better not worse off for having had to deal with them
I can ease the distress of others by being compassionately present when people are suffering or struggling. Sometimes, I don’t even need to say anything; it’s just important to be with them through their pain.
Listening listening listening listening.
Deep breath then have the courage to act, listen, offer anything like a note of tenderness and love, flowers, treat, a hug, garden for them, bring apples, a smile. Or just the words “I care deeply about you”.
I think just being a caring loving presence and deep listening is often for me the best I can do. I also think that it gives the other person a safe place where eventually they will find some solace or answers for themselves. Tender, loving, caring attention.
Ask questions, and be a good listener.
I’m going to do something a bit unconventional but sometimes people think that you ease distress by reaching out but sometimes the kindest thing you can do for someone is to leave them alone. The willingness to read and respect other’s boundaries and how much distance they want is actually kindness.
In my experience people who tend to have difficulty giving other’s space have unresolved emotional issues, so that sometimes the best way we can learn to give others the comfort of space is by working out our own issues.
Be kind, sincere presence, available to listen. Listen of my heart in order to don’t judge.
I will ponder “listen of my heart in order to don’t judge”.
I need that, in a time when I find hard to stay with old friends.
So thank you for your presence here, I am happy to see you again!
Dear Anna! Hello sweet grateful friend!
Thank you! I so happy to see you too.
Oh! Old friends sometimes show us the good opportunities to practice it.
With fraternal love
Walk lightly. Avoid kicking up dust on your own path. Be kind.
Lighting candles on gratefulness helps me – this allows me to let go of my angst about the situation. Then I can act, perhaps with an email, without clouding my actions with angst of my own. After lighting my last 2 candles, I sent emails to both people and then received nice emails in reply.
I agree Mica. I enjoy lighting candles on the site too. Their E-cards are really nice as well:)
Thanks, Miichele – I haaven’t tried the e-cards but will do so 🙂
One nice thing about technology is being able to send a simple text message to someone I haven’t seen in a while. It provides a gentle reminder that I am thinking of them and miss seeing them. Hopefully provides a way to open the door to connection. At the least it might make someone smile to know they are missed.
Not feeling alone helps no matter what my day has in store.
Compassionate, sincere presence in all its shapes and forms – the best medicine for so much of what drives individual distress.
I’ve read through many of your responses to this question and there are so many good ones. What little I have to add to it already been said will include sharing with someone what strengths and qualities you see in them.What kind of encouragement, presents, seeing and Cheryn is open to air.
My action affect those around me, so having a positive attitude, listening to others and showing that I am someone they can come to in times of need!
By being there. Listening. In believing they are capable and seeing the strength and goodness in them, when they are unsure of themselves.
By being a safe harbor. If I am grounded and calm, it helps.
Regardless of my place in this journey, I can relate to and empathize with others on their own journey. Because I can empathize, I can be gentler in my interactions, showing patience, acceptance, and validation of their experience.
Be kind, Be helpful and Be present. Being a good listener is always helpful. “I hear you” can be more important in some situations than “I love you.”
By making them feel valued.
Sometimes a simple “Hello, how are you?” text can remind someone they are not alone and not forgotten.
How are you, Maurice? 🙂
I am well Mica. How are you? Thanks for asking.
I’m fine, too, Maurice – thanks 😊
Hello, Maurice. 🙂
Thank you, Maurice!
By asking someone how they are and really meaning it, then really listening to their answer without judgement.
I can ease the distress of others by being kind while still holding them accountable for their choices.
I will ease others distress by walking beside them and lending my hand..
Being there for another, offering time, food, money, sometimes listening carefully and with an open heart, offering advice if appropriate, sometimes just to be still and be with the other doing nothing but be there inside with the other or present in silence, calling someone by phone, or through meditation, sending light and to pray for the ones in distress.
A simple smile can do wonders! Being present with someone in distress with an open ear and a closed mouth, offering words only if they need/want them. Praying for those in distress. Offering a meal, a few bucks, a helping hand.
Smiles to you, sunnypatti – 🤗🥰🙃😊😘😄
Wherever I may be in the course of my day, if I see a person who appears to be in distress, I do what I can to alleviate it. In addition to ongoing contributions to relief organizations like Doctors Without Borders or the Southern Poverty Law Center, it may be as simple as buying a coffee and sandwich for someone who appears to be hungry and homeless as I make my way across town. Then again, some of the most crippling distress that afflicts people everywhere goes unseen and unknown to the casual observer. But, it’s the littlest hurts, that build over time to crushing defeat and hardships, that are oftentimes the most difficult to spot and the hardest to ease for those who are suffering.
Being a grounded, calm, non-judgmental, attentive, and compassionate presence. On their terms, using their emotional currency.
By being a good listener, smiling, eye contact are ways that show you care for someone and can hopefully ease any distress they might be having. Acknowledgement.
Really listening to another person can help. And knowing they are not alone, and I will be keeping them in my thoughts, and praying for them -and these are not just words, but actions- gives people comfort. Checking in with them occasionally is a way of showing care as well.
When I was having a really hard time, I received a lot from dear friends. Love, care, a listening ear, soup, apple pie, flowers, understanding. They showed emotions and empathized with me. I would like to pass on all this, because I know that it works.
You already are, Christine. You already are!
Yes, learning others needs and helping eet hem.
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