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  1. k'Care-Reena

    WHAT IS ON MY “NOR TO DO” LIST? (first for myself secondly for others)

    Multitasking
    Judging/ Criticizing
    Projecting
    Neglecting
    Yelling
    Verbally attacking
    Rushing / rush to react
    Provide contracted energies
    belittling
    disempower
    obsess over the past / “failures”
    label myself as Broken or needing fixing

    1 year ago
  2. Malag

    Anything that involves a high probability of breaking bones.

    1 year ago
  3. Sush

    I’ve always believed the base to any kind of relationship is respect. So defo the first thing on my not-to-do list is never disrespect the other person. The other ones, belive it or not, I’ve learned from my dad. Not it a good way though loll. I’ve seen my dad do and speak things that I pray when I grow older, I don’t do the same. I pray that I’m not like him in some ways. Some of those include: talking rudely to strangers, ignoring someone when they need you, not being grateful when someone does something for you, dismissing other’s feelings, being impatient, exploiting someone’s insecurities or weaknesses, judging someone based on how they look, thinking that someone else is inferior to you. Phewwww that was long!

    1 year ago
  4. Hot Sauce

    Things NOT to do:
    1. Slack in my academics.
    2. Spend unnecessary time on my phone.
    3. Hold grudges.
    4. Gamble, even if a street magician comes up to me wanting to do so (yes, that was a hard lesson learned. LOL)

    1 year ago
  5. F
    Fat Toad95202

    Heroin. Meth. Crack.

    For starters.

    1 year ago
  6. KC

    Never, never never give up … no matter how small the steps, how awkward, uncomfortable, backwards they seem, or how lost, alone, despairing, uncertain or afraid I feel …

    Never give up on or let go of that sometimes illusive thread of connection with life, and the people and things that matter most.

    The Way it is

    There’s a thread you follow. It goes
    among things that change. But it doesn’t
    change.
    People wonder about what you are
    pursuing.
    You have to explain about
    the thread.
    But it is hard for others to see.
    While you hold it you can’t get lost.
    Tragedies happen; people get hurt
    or die; and you suffer and get old.
    Nothing you do can stop time’s
    unfolding.
    You don’t ever let go of the thread.

    – William Stafford

    1 year ago
  7. s
    sb

    Not fill every second of the day with things to do
    Not to feel guilty when I can’t do everything or solve other people’s problems – as long as I have done my best
    Not to let details overwhelm the bigger picture

    1 year ago
  8. Don Jones

    I am more of a “do” guy than a “not do” guy.

    1 year ago
  9. L
    Lauryn

    -not to drink excessively
    -not to over react when it comes to dealing with little things
    -not to get jealous
    -not to be negative

    1 year ago
  10. pkr

    Do not engage in negativity. To do, remain positive, be in the light, be light & love. ✨❤️🙏

    1 year ago
  11. TofuLove

    Give money to people with sob stories unless I’ve thoroughly vetted their stories. I learned that the hard way. You claim you need rent money, then you need medication money, then you need increasingly bizarre things and the stories don’t even make sense anymore to prior stories. I care what happens to people but I really dislike when someone is trying to scam me so my default with sob stories if you want large cash sums is like, give me some proof this a legit need. Not feel I have to save anyone from their own choices or be close friends with people who are engaged in what I deem unhealthy lifestyles. Feel guilt for the good things in my life.

    1 year ago
  12. d
    db82258

    Not forget who I am. 😌

    1 year ago
  13. Elaine

    Don’t sweat the small stuff.

    1 year ago
  14. dust36

    Not to do – Overreact to my kids. Sometimes my perfection gets in the way of good parenting and I just need to let them be their own person (including making mistakes along the way).

    1 year ago
  15. Mica

    a ‘not to do’ list tends to be an unwise list. I read in Science magazine that the mind tends to ignore the ‘not.’ “Don’t spill the red wine on the white tablecloth” – the mind tends to hear “spill the red wine on the white tablecloth’ – best to have ToDo lists! 🍷 🍷

    1 year ago
    1. Palm

      My first thought, Mica

      1 year ago
      1. Mica

        You’re a wise woman, Palm 🙂

        1 year ago
  16. Marnie Jackson

    To beat myself up for past transgressions
    To ruminate on all the ways that I have not been perfect in the past
    To forget that others are also struggling to return to school and life

    1 year ago
  17. Nelson

    Telling myself I’m a failure (and all the various ways that statement can manifest itself.) Letting negative thoughts take up space in my head. Working myself until exhaustion, and still thinking it’s not good enough. Thinking I’m not good enough. Falling into the scarcity mindset. Forgetting that other people are facing their own private struggles. Forgetting to practice empathy and compassion and kindness.

    1 year ago
    1. s
      sb

      That could be me talking! Especially the first 4 sentences! I have become more and more aware of my tendency to do these things and am learning to “not do” them but I can’t manage it all the time. Now I will think of you and remember we are both feeling the same and that just as I will then send positive thoughts to you, I am sure you would do the same for me. Both in it together! Keep trying!

      1 year ago
      1. Nelson

        #bothinittogether! I love it!

        1 year ago
  18. DeVonna

    Judging. It is very hard because it is in my nature as a human to form opinions of people I meet. I want to give people the benefit of a doubt and not jump to pigeonhole them.

    1 year ago
  19. Mary Pat

    Not to wake up during the very early morning hours and remember things…like…things my children/grandchildren are going through in life, or how my husband is having a few problems…trying to come up with solutions for things I can think about during daylight hours! I am in CBT(Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), and finding it helpful. And not being impatient is on my list as well…..

    1 year ago
    1. Mica

      Ah, yes, Mary Pat – that’s a hard one. I heard a talk recently about our brain and how to distract it from such thoughts by bringing it to the present sensations. The speaker was a neuro-biologist and she had names for the different brain patterns in unhappy thinking vs mindfulness of the present. Warm wishes!!💕🤗

      1 year ago
      1. Mary Pat

        Yes. And to replace those worries at 2AM with positive thoughts. It is starting to work, but it does take awhile, because I am really rewiring my brain after several months of worries taking hold. I am learning alot, and that is so good at my age!

        1 year ago
        1. Mica

          Yes, Mary Pat, I’m shocked at the basic things I’m still trying to learn after so many decades. About a year ago, I shushed the 2AM worries by telling myself that, if I didn’t stop worrying, I’d have to watch the whole 9+ minutes of George Floyd’s murder, none of which I’ve seen in any video. My worries got less, but they tend to recur periodically in lesser forms. So be it. More warm wishes to you – 🥰🙃

          1 year ago
  20. Michele

    Negativity.

    1 year ago
  21. Pilgrim

    Not to think so much! Going through the process of seriously downsizing before moving to a more compact space in a couple of months. Moving from 3 floors to one (yay!). I moved here with short notice, was extremely sick, and brought “everything.” Now I am for real going through everything with a “fine tooth comb” and making a lot of decisions, raising my anxiety to a high level. I need to be spending some time outside, enjoying the dawn of fall. So there we have both my “not to do” and my “to do” laid out for me by writing this.

    1 year ago
    1. Y
      Yram

      I am with you, Pilgrim. We are moving in 3 days from a 4 bedroom to 2 all one floor. We are celebrating that this house has been in my husband’s family over 100 years but now time to let another occupant enjoy and make memories. I am so excited, scared and stressed but am confident this is a good move with much less stuff. My word has been trust. Thank you all for your presence. I love the questions (most times) and the opportunity to connect all times) with other seekers. Rejoice in our ability to do and be.

      1 year ago
  22. devy

    treating others better than myself, not to pretend to be who I really am, a compassionate loving person, to care about what others think about me, to worry about the future and what may or may not happen

    1 year ago
  23. sunnypatti48317

    Not to do:
    Let fear and worry overtake my mind.
    Let others dictate my destiny.

    1 year ago
  24. G
    Gregoire

    Allow my emotions to rule my life. Going to sleep without a few minutes of reflection on all the things I have to be grateful for.

    1 year ago
  25. L
    Lee Anne

    To not forget humility.

    1 year ago
    1. F
      Fat Toad95202

      nice one i wanna emulate! i should now i mean!

      1 year ago
  26. Howie Geib

    I am not immune to the current affliction that seems rampant here in North America of not acting in my own best interests. In fact I am often awestruck by my capacity for evil. Actually accepting that capacity allows for compassion and forgiveness. It seems that there is a progression from seemingly mundace transgressions against my ethical and moral standards to those that offer much more serious consequences for myself and others. So I keep a watchful eye out for any slippage.

    1 year ago
  27. O.Christina

    Not to do what is needed and in the same time listen to my heart. Have a lovely day you all out there.

    1 year ago
  28. Dusty Su

    To use my to do list not let it abuse me. So, I’m trying to make more ta-dah lists!

    1 year ago
    1. KC

      Nice. Love it!

      1 year ago
    2. Mary Pat

      Thank you! I really like the idea of a ta-dah list!

      1 year ago
      1. Michele

        me too:)

        1 year ago
  29. Kevin

    Not to become so busy with this and that worthy project that it gobbles up all my time so that it induces stress and feels like I have returned to the workforce after six years in retirement! Some days that’s easier said than done!

    1 year ago
    1. Dusty Su

      Yes, I hear you!

      1 year ago
  30. Christine

    I can write a list from here to the moon and back.
    I mention one thing: Do’nt worry.

    1 year ago
    1. Dusty Su

      Amen/Ahwomen to that one!

      1 year ago

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