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HOW DO I SHOW MY RESPECT FOR OTHERS? HOW IS IT A MUTUALLY FULFILLING GIFT?
I show my respect for others by listening and not judging, doing so is a mutually fulfilling gift because what we give others we get in return. I also accept others which allows me to accept myself.
Increasingly, by trying to listen to everything others have to say instead of interrupting with the first responses that occur to me. This practice seems to be inviting an empathy I have long lacked.
Through listening carefully and deeply, trying to understand my fellow people; through being present for others and taking care of the ones in need; through meeting others with loving kindness and gratitude. Usually people feel the good intention and reply in kind.
These days, it is guided by quiet, gentleness and mindfulness. The ripples are virtually non-existent now – just like a cloud drifting by.
As I practice self-respect, rooting in, clarifying and returning to my own values (daily!), I am able to show respect for others and the Earth. I am inspired by a favourite quote from Georgia O’keefe ‘It takes a kind of a nerve, and a lot of hard, hard work!’
Showing up and being fully present without judgement helps too. 🌞🐌🌱
I show my respect for others by thinking about their needs and wants before I act. So, for instance, in a conflict, before I lose my temper or say something I’ll regret, I try to reflect, “If I was the other person, how would I want me to react?” This is a mutually fulfilling gift because, when I show respect for others, they are more likely to respect me as well.
Love this..! Reminds me to “bite my tongue” and walk away if necessary..
Respect is freely given, yet trust is earned: that is how it was explained to me.
To show respect is to acknowledge a person’s existence by greeting them, listening without always jumping in, giving up seats to elderly or folks who need them more than you, offering to help when you see the need.
You respect their humanity – not your perception of them.
Respect for a persons humanness is mutually fulfilling because when someone demonstrates their respect for me, it makes me feel alive.
‘Respect is freely given, yet trust is earned’. Thank you Cathie. That is such a helpful and healthy distinction!
Today I am deeply thankful to my mother, who taught me how to respect all people with little things she said to me…
When we were living in Oaxaca, where the indigenous peoples were often disrespected, she taught me to never think of them as unclean. She said, “Even though their floors are of dirt, you see they sweep them twice a day.”
She taught me to see people of any illness with respect and compassion, “Never be ashamed of any natural thing about the body,” was one of the things she said.
She would talk to everybody, no matter how old and infirmed, no matter how uneducated and poor, and not with condescension but with true interest and equality.
Thank you, mom.
You have given me the gift of many friends and a wholeness to humanity.
Wow, Holly – how wonderful!
How do I show respect to others, by treating them as I want to be treated. Respect for myself in turn means respect for others. 🙏❤️
We are in a pandemic.. Respect for others involves listening to our scientists and public health officials and following the protocols they mandate or recommend.
We are in a climate emergency. Respect for “others” – the whole of creation – means reducing consumption, stopping extraction, turning our priorities instead toward regeneration. There’s a chance we can save Mother Earth – what a gift that would be.
Thank you, Elaine, for reminding me that our actions also speak our respect for others and for our earth.
Well said, Elaine.
Thank you Linda 😊
By being present….
I can only hope that the way in which I honor and value the mutual existence of other people around me will be afforded to me as well by folks unknown to me throughout my day.
That said, however, I don’t treat or interact with other people in a particular way because I am expecting a kind of payback, or quid pro quo, if you will, that in some way benefits me in the end. How I see, hear, and experience my sisters and brothers, whether around the corner or around the globe simply is what it is. It somehow completes my own humanity in a way that is both unique and mysterious that is not easily expressed with words.
By paying attention. Nowadays, it’s can be difficult to have a conversation – in person, on the phone, or through Zoom – with someone who isn’t distracted by their phones. Or multitasking. Or thinking of something and not being present. I include myself in this as I get distracted too. So I make an active effort to be present. Make eye contact. Genuinely listen. Not have my camera off during a video conference call so they could see they’re actually talking to a person, not to a blank screen. It’s how I would like to be treated if I’m sharing my thoughts. The energy is totally different when both people are present and engaged. We both feel heard, valued, seen, and understood.
The following quote came to mind:”The single biggest thing I learned was from an indigenous elder of Cherokee descent, Stan Rushworth, who reminded me of the difference between a Western settlers mindset of “I have rights” and an indigenous mindset of “I have obligations.” Instead of thinking that I am born with rights, I choose to think that I am born with obligations to serve past, present and future generations, and the planet herself.” It contains a perspective that respects all of creation. If we could embrace such a mindset, it would heal the world.
That is beautiful. 🌺
from Stan Rushworth . . .
it is a mindshift that I both welcome & embrace
Wonderful, Carol – I’ve put that quote in my gratefulness doc
I show respect for others by treating them the way I want to be treated myself. That means showing up, being present, lending an ear, offering a hug, holding the door, letting someone into traffic or a grocery line, smiling at others. We get what we give, so that’s how this is a mutually fulfilling gift.
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