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To anyone who needs to be listened, I am there.
My hubby! Being retired together after years of parenting, traveling for work and daily life we find ourselves with much new together time.
So this question made me realize a shift in perspective and heart can open new experiences for us.
The person in front of me.
I have a very good friend whom I have known for 67 years. We share our happiness, our worries and encourage each other in tough times.
Towards that person who is looking with his heart and willing to look in to mine
I can think of many people I can open my hear to, but I must admit I’m not sure it will make much of a difference to them…I’m thinking of my sister-in-law who is just plain hard for me to be in relationship with. She doesn’t respond to emails, calls, texts and has gotten offended when I’ve sent birthday cards. She’ll be visiting in August so I’m hoping my heart will open to her but I wonder if the only person it will make a difference to will be me! We’ll see…
Hi Jenn, I too had an experience where I wasn’t connecting with a family member and everything I did seemed wrong. A spiritual guide shared with me a type of listening called “reflective listening.” It has made a world of difference in our relationship, so far. We still have a ways to go, but the journey is now hopeful.
What a great idea. The problem is that this person is not even willing to speak with me so I am unsure how to “listen reflectively.” But I very much appreciate your suggestion.
You’re the most important person, Jenn, in terms of opening your heart – you’re the only person who has to live with your heart 24/7! 🙂 Warm wishes to you
Blessings, Mica. Thanks so much for this timely reminder!
You’re so welcome, dear Jenn
I want to open my heart to my dad again, but I feel like trust has been breached between us. I’m able to survive around him, but part of me can’t stand his guts. I would like to open my heart to him again, but I don’t know if I’m there yet.
hmm– May I open my heart-mind to all those that I have judged without compassion or understanding in all those spaces and places within me that had not yet healed.
The one I live with daily, my husband. It’s the little things that bother me, just like they do all of us. When you live with someone, at first all is wonderful. After 31 years, not as wonderful. This morning he made a big mistake with the coffee machine and I called him on it.
I need to talk to him gently, explain what happened, and then give him a huge, long, hug. And open my heart, once again.
WOW! Do I wish I had read this before I started to make the coffee! Maybe I need to read Practice Space before coffee….
There. I’ve gotten my coffee now, Mary Pat, so I can reply to you. Your husband is a lucky man, to have a wife who will talk to him gently, explain, and give him a huge long hug! Warm wishes to you –
No specific person comes to mind — not that I live my life so skillfully that all those needs are already filled.
My first thought was of all the casual, transactional encounters I have each day. Store clerks, librarians, postal workers, bank tellers, restaurant employees, etc. Pausing, greeting, inquiring and thanking don’t alter someone’s life course but they can provide a lift in the day for both of us.
I hope I make a difference in a person’s life constantly. It is always not needed for me to open up but even a smile can make a difference to some one. When I follow the golden rule am I not making a difference and also opening up? A question to ponder!
From a particular charity, a request for support for help in feeding those in need. They do not often send this, and it is something I believe in strongly, so I am happy to respond. When I was young and our family needed assistance, we received it from many fronts. We didn’t always know from where these gifts came … food, clothing, school supplies … early teachings still held with gratitude.
My young son and I are on a trajectory toward a lonely future far removed from each other if we don’t have a breakthrough between us here, soon.
I might have missed your reply. So be it 🙂
Oh, dear, Dear Javier. I read a book review of “Raising Raffi: The First Five Years” by Keith Gessen. Here’s a summary of chapter 1: In his new book, Keith Gessen wonders whether his little kid is more ill-behaved than other children. Diaper reversed, Marshall McLuhan noted, spells “repaid.” When the authors Keith Gessen and Emily Gould welcomed their first kid, a boy called Raffi, seven years ago, they envisioned a placid being. Instead, they got a destroyer, and a tiny warlock continually trying his abilities. The list of Raffi’s activities may, among young readers, trigger a rush to the condom aisle. He scrapes Gessen, head-butts him, kicks him hard between the legs, and strikes him in the nose. Raffi won’t sleep, yells continuously, and is booted out of daycare.
B. Espinal, Joseph . Summary of Raising Raffi: : The First Five Years by Keith Gessen (p. 4). UNKNOWN. Kindle Edition.
May the universe collude in your favor.
This was/is a hard question for me for some reason. In part I think its challenging to think of someone that i can actually “open my heart to”. The other challenging part I believe would be in my belief that there is a difference I can make for both of us.
The closest I can come to is that I can open my heart to my tribe and by improving on my self I am make a difference for both of us….because when I become my best me i am more of an asset to them.
I will need to give this question some thought. Sometimes we don’t know who that person is until circumstances, or chance, brings us together.
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