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I have ADHD, but I have had a lot of successes that I’ve reformulated the traditional path to, by just being myself. I have needed to embrace my differences, and be my own support. I have had to point out my strengths to myself because nobody else did. I surround myself to only those I want to be like, and I know that this sets me up better for success. I am a night-owl, I love school and studying, I love my alone time to meditate and think, and I love working in gigantic spurts where I cannot be stopped until I have a masterpiece right in front of me. It is so fun!
I have been thinking about this topic for a while though. How do I fit in and contribute to a society that is mostly a diurnal system, and will there be a place for someone like me, a 28-year-old college kid working toward their Masters in neuropsychology? Well, If there isn’t, I’ll make one. I will make my own slot. I feel that in the next few years there will be an uptick in the amount of businesses that will have nighttime hours, and I might like to be one of them. If you need a neuro psychologist at 2am, I’m your guy.
Besides that, I have a talent for aerial arts. I need to find out how to incorporate those into a big part of my life. Maybe I can perform in the circus on the weekends lol. I’m just a performer and researcher. I don’t know where else I can apply myself to the rest of the world but I will definitely keep coming up with ideas.
~This was an excellent brain barf topic )
Knowing that my spirit animals are dolphin and squirrel- allows me to live into that spirit of companionship. That uniqueness lets me serve as compassionate listener, empathizer, shoulder, helper, organizer, belonging. My unique personality allows me to serve with enthusiasm, sincerity, perseverance. My name allows me to serve as “helper/defender of mankind.” it’s a package deal.
I don´t know how it shapes the way. Being kind and compassionate, actively contributing to whatever is there to be of service to usually is my way of being with others in the various ways I am able to. To support development of consciousness, awareness and compassion wherever possible, using the tools available to support this, trying to be a good example for others and being together peacefully, joyfully and healthy would be a good way, I suppose. Giving with all my heart whatever I can, so to say.
In the past, I “showed up” by bringing a self that thought that it wasn’t often needed or wanted because its individuality somehow fell short. Over time I realise that what makes me quirky and different is a bonus I bring to a situation. That involves allowing the (non covid) masks to fall away and let the quirky out. I have my ups and downs on this one. Nothing is a straight line. But being free to express me, I think, not only makes for a better outcome for me, it sends a message to others that they can be free also.
Treading lightly on our beautiful plant, conserving and preserving with my hands and thereby raising broader awareness of the beauty of simple, grounded, creative living.
Showing up in service of the world…. I love all the different ways this can be broken down. I’m not sure what my unique contribution is, but I’d like to focus on the idea of giving and helping others (people, animals, nature…) so often I find myself focused inward…and I’d like to change that.
I don’t know for sure but I think when I notice something and am able to get some courage and act on what I notice without judgement it is of service to what I am noticing. So for me its just a matter of noticing and not being afraid to ask. I don’t want to take on the role of “the mayor” but I also see that our wiring is old and the board is not taking it seriously. I got together with one of my neighbors and brought it to his attention. Out of 80 members only 5 or so show up for our annual meetings. So many are out of the loop. But when I sense a need for something that no one else sees I do my best to respond and bring it to the attention of those who care. My neighbor an I are preparing to approach the board and the property manager for the sake of all of the coop members. I don’t like dealing with this kind of thing but had to step up and like it or not go the extra mile for the sake of safety. The last property manager was fired after years of corruption. We slacked off with the new one until they said we needed an upgrade to out wiring and that it was an emergency and no one would insure us until we complied and then they went from alarm to compliance with in a year with no upgrade. So I asked one of the board members how that happened and he said we were inspected and now we are insured. I pressed further and learned that they looked at an apartment that was just renovated to get the approval. So they decided to do the outside “point” work instead. So if the board lets this go and they live here and its kept quiet that tells me a lot. Thankfully the man I had just shared my concerns with witnessed this conversation and is actively joining me in a presentation to the board in writing. I don’t like to be forceful but for the sake of all 80 members my neighbor and I are going forward. Forgive me for going on and I might have shared this before but it is a way to show up for service even though it is a challenge. It pushes me beyond my comfort zone. If I look at it as a service to the world I can get through this hopefully others will get on board and investigate thoroughly so we are all safe. Forgive me if I shared this before. It’s fresh on my mind. Growing up poor my landlord used to tie rags on the pipes when they leaked. One “Thanksgiving” a damaged pipe broke in our wall and we had dinner with tarp and an exposed wall. I’ll never forget that. I was a teenager and remembered how difficult this was for my mother who was hosting dinner. It was due to lack of concern and I don’t want to see a fire as a result of negligence and poor management ever again. The results could be devastating. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Please pray that the presentation goes well and the board sees what this a reasonable concern. We don’t want to have to get a lawyer or start a petition. We will if we have to but it could get ugly and we really don’t want that.
Good luck on your presentation with the board! It’s great that you are speaking up:)
Bravo, Toni! There may be several others who would speak up, but they are too afraid… so you are being their champion! Good luck with it, Toni. 🙂
Toni, That’s wonderful – many congrats. The condo manager when I moved in is now in jail. She had a gambling problem… I was delighted to move into a community with 992 units, so others could take care of the problems that arose. More congrats to you for working on the problems in your community, and thanks for the vivid stories you share! Rags around leaking pipes – what an image. And, of course the Thanksgiving dinner – 🥰😷
Well done, Toni, for being so courageous and standing up to lazy beaurocrats. I hope you are successful for the safety of yourself and all your neighbours.
Thank you so much Butterfly! My neighbor and I need to see this all the way through. We need to get on top of this situation. Thank your support and encouragement!
Thanks to all who commented. I have support hear and I am grateful for that!
I had to go away and ponder this question. It’s hard for me to see how I am of service to anyone as I am in need of daily care, but I do find people confide in me and I can make people laugh. I once complained to someone “Everyone tells me their problems” and she said “It’s because you’re the sort of person that it feels safe to tell things to. You listen and you don’t judge.” That showed me what my service is and I now listen to people and feel privileged.
Oh, Butterfly – now you know so clearly how you are indeed of great service! That’s a wonderful service –
That is wonderful!
Thank you, Holly, it seems we all have parts to play however small 😊
I never considered how my service might have “a flavor” to it, but now that I think on it, I see a definite preference for empowering people. I like giving in a way that the person takes something with them that they will have always. Like teaching gardening, or any skill, or giving suggestions about thrift or sustainability. I still serve in other ways, like I gave away a lot of food last year to help people get by, but I especially love it when we connect in a way that I know will create ripples and something will live on in them.
I looked up the word unique: “Being the only one of its kind; unlike anything else.” I looked it up because I find the term “unique individuality” disturbing. To be of service in the world does not require uniqueness. It requires the desire to be of service. That desire fosters the cultivation of compassion. Today’s quote from Thich Nhat Hanh says it well, “Compassion springs from the heart, as pure, refreshing water, healing the wounds of life.”
I find the term “unique individuality” disturbing, but because it is redundant. Lol. Why can’t people use the word “unique” properly? (tee hee).
Thanks for your insight, Holly. I appreciate it and your presence on this site.
I dunno as I was insightful… word meanings and word humor are two of my pass times, but I think my attempt here at humor flopped. It was not a comment on your answer, but on the grammar of the question, and I took neither the grammar of it, or myself, very seriously… it was just play. Sometimes I dearly wish we could see each other’s faces which so often puts our words into context. I at least have your photo.
I happen to agree with you that service does not require individuality. I do, however, enjoy how our individuality often brings meaning to service and a human connection. A friend of mine was the main cook at a soup kitchen. She became “mom” to many people. She once entered her pies into the county fair, and won nearly every category. Yes, someone else might have cooked for this neighborhood, but I can think of no one else who would have had the patience to peel and de-seed donated grapes to make four handmade grape pies for the people in this soup kitchen.
I enjoyed your insight, and your quote. Thich Nhat Hanh is one of my favorites. Best wishes, Carol.
I think my openness about myself allows people to let their guard down so that we can have real connection. My years of working the soup kitchen and homeless shelter has given me the opportunity to break down the barriers of the us and them when I share my truths.
I will show up in service of the world today by promoting the start of National Medical Laboratory Professionals Week (April 18-24,2021). I signed up to do a virtual 5K for http://www.labweekrun.com that I plan on doing later today. Lab professionals are a very important part of the healthcare team. I’m proud to be a Medical Lab Technician:) Thanks to all the lab staff out there doing their thing! Enjoy celebrating our special week.
And may they all get their vaccines, if they don’t already have them! Congrats on being a Medical Lab Technician, Michele – enjoy your week –
Thank you Mica:)
They are, and I am so grateful for them!
As I’ve said before here, I am a volunteer. For some reason I always want to get involved. I am currently organizing a prayer group at my new church. (Somehow I always seen to be promoted to organizer…) I am passionate about HELPING others so I guess I’ll continue to find ways to help, no matter where I find myself.
This is a ponderable for me. Very interesting question! I look forward to others responses. Take care and have a grateful day!
Sometimes my quirky humor helps people to get over themselves a little and enjoy a different perspective.
I TOTALLY agree!
I never realized how important humor is until one day, years ago, I was walking two dogs with a friend, and one of those dogs, Fasa, had what must have been ptsd and VERY severe separation anxiety (I became his caretaker when my friend was away). She said to me, “I’m trying to teach Fasa a sense of humor.” That’s all she said. But it made me realize that when we experience trauma or intense fear, our sense of humor is the first to go, and we become sort of fragile, and that an important part of healing is getting back our sense of humor, to not take everything so seriously (or take ourselves so seriously). That one, off-hand statement of hers had a profound effect on my life thereafter. You are absolutely right, Patricia! I’m glad to be reminded of it.
Thank you, Holly and Patricia 🥰😷🧻
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