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I believe that only what we feed has power. We can choose where our energy goes (mental health issues not withstanding). Taking a minute to breathe in two breaths and breathe out in 4 beats, feeds the peace in my soul. Reminds me that I was designed to live in abundance, not fear. And reminding others of the same is a good practice.
Remind myself that the experience is within me and not outside of me. Although it may affect me physically, it’s a response to my nervous system. My body is communicating that something is wrong. It’s an indicator that changes are occurring. To tend to myself I can read scripture to guide my response.
I can be kind and let go
This is very relevant for me. I need to tend to my own fears and anxieties and worry less about tending to other peoples fears and anxieties. The things that I’m doing for myself, with varying degrees of success are: meditation, medication, therapy, yoga/stretching, and turning off the TV news. The things I should be doing more of are: listening/playing music, exercising, positive affirmations, and practicing gratitude. It’s an evolving project.
If you look up Kenneth Soares on YouTube he has wonderful positive affirmations. I find him very relaxing.
Thank you Michele. I will check him out this morning. 🙏
Be present in the moment and aware of any emotions. Also be aware emotions are passing by like clouds in the sky and not permanent.
Listen carefully. What is this anxiety really about? I breathe, slowly in , hold it and breathe slowly out again. If I a feel totally overwhelmed I cry. Crying is therapeutic and resets the nervous system.
For others, I listen to their fears and I hug them if they need it.
Perhaps get a little curious about it. The other morning early when I left the house to walk Bella, I looked up at Venus in the eastern sky to see the other planets around it. I was shocked to see (what turned out to be) a long line of about 60 satellites transversing the sky from south to the north. I noticed all sorts of feelings (including a tinge of fear to my surprise) arise at the strange happening. I chose curiosity and as it turned out, it was Starlink. Bella didn’t care. She just wanted to walk.
Get quiet, focus on the breath, go for a walk; Walk long, walk hard, take in all the wonders of Mother Nature. Focus on gratitude. These things as well as others help to calm me, allay my fears, ground me. And of course prayer, always. 🙏
Recognize the fear grew from something in the past and while potentially impossible to ignore, does not have to control the present. The work now is to experience the fear but move through this fear courageously in the present, while trimming back the fear and recognizing fear and anxiety always point to a path of new growth. It is also important to give permission for some fear and anxiety to persist – after all, without fear, there would be no courage.
Some feelings I have are very good because they are like a warning system. But there are feelings like fears , anxieties, which lead to negation of life or hatred also against myself. They can be overwhelming. then I am one with them . they would make me stop thinking not being able to react anymore. Fear itself is reacting. Best cure would be feeling one with everything. Knowing that these fears may come from my heritage of many generations. they have nothing to do with me or the given situation. The most practical way in my few is compassion, love, gratefulness learning to accept life but knowing who I am. I have to stop here because I have to practice it right now..
Sending love, dear Hermann-Josef ❤️
Breathe…Focusing on the breath brings me into the present moment and reminds me that “Life IS”…God is not a Being. God is Be-ing.” I used to tell those I sponsored in 12-step, If you are in the past or the future, you go there alone because God IS. The strength you need only flows in the present moment. I love the breath exercise where I breath in to a count of four, hold my breath to the count of seven, and breath out to the count of nine. It helps me let go and let myself BE.
I read a quote from Pema Chodron this morning that addresses today’s question: “The source of our unease is the unfulfillable longing for a lasting certainty and security, for something solid to hold on to. Unconsciously we expect that if we could just get the right job, the right partner, the right something, our lives would run smoothly. When anything unexpected or not to our liking happens, we think something has gone wrong. I believe this is not an exaggeration of where we find ourselves. Even at the most mundane level, we get so easily triggered—someone cuts in front of us, we get seasonal allergies, our favorite restaurant is closed when we arrive for dinner. We are never encouraged to experience the ebb and flow of our moods, of our health, of the weather, of outer events—pleasant and unpleasant—in their fullness. Instead we stay caught in a fearful, narrow holding pattern of avoiding any pain and continually seeking comfort. This is the universal dilemma.”
Thank you Carol. Your post was very helpful to me today. Blessings to you 🙂 – Kristen
Kristen, It brings me joy to know the post was helpful to you. There is a lot of wisdom in the saying:”One day at a time.” Sincerely, Carol
Quoting Ose ( three days ago )
“Listening better and respond from my heart, let aside fear and go with the flow”.
and also a recent
“Word for the Day”Gratitude bestows reverence, allowing us to encounter everyday epiphanies, those transcendent moments of awe that change forever how we experience life…and the world.
SARAH BAN BREATHNACH
Listening with love and Gratitude / reverence / are both effective ways of de-energizing the “elementals” ( entities which cause anxiety and false fear ) that can convince their host that they deserve ( falsely ) more attention rather then letting in the beauty which is always available,,,,,, everywhere….. if one observes and keeps and open and clean hear centre.
Anxiety has alot to do with my insomnia. I have a set of meditations I have gathered that help me to relax, as well as some affirmations that I now keep in a binder next to my chair. If I have a bad night, I open that binder to a page that seems to speak to me at that time. I read it, meditate on it, and most times I can go back to sleep. I have other tools I use as well, but that right now seems to help me the most. I do listen to others who mention anxiety, and offer a quiet, peaceful voice in their time of need.
Depending on the anxiety or fear, sometimes I act like a coach to myself. “C’mon, you can do this. Just take one small step.”
In more serious matters, I aim for being gentle with myself. Deep fear or anxiety tells me a wound or deep regret has been reopened. I take as long as I need and do whatever helps — journaling, tea, a walk, a good cry — before moving forward.
With others I try to listen, to be present for their pain, and to respect that their worries and fears are as real to them as mine are to me.
The best thing for me is to focus on the breath. If I can find my breath, I can find my way around the anxiety. And then I can do some yoga, go for a walk, a swim, listen to music… something like that 🙂
For others, I can lend an ear, be present, and offer words of wisdom IF they want it.
I can acknowledge it and encourage myself or others to continue forward knowing the anxiety is there.
Regarding my own fear and anxiety … breathe … and don’t forget to exhale. Consider what is creating fear/anxiety, and give myself some time to ponder quietly without judgment and with kindness. Yoga. Spend time in nature. Listen to music.
With regard to others, spend time with them and listen, even when they are quiet.
Be kind and have patience.
Walk, in a forest or along a body of water, any water, a lake, pond, river or seaside. Sit, meditate, breathe, listen to music, play music, sing, write, then locate someone trusted and talk. Repeat. Give time─time.
Anxiety I can focus on my breath. As far as fear in others, trust your instincts, that fear is there for a reason.
I was always afraid of losing Karel my husband. Without him life would be cold and gray. Without the love of my life I would lose all joy. And then …… disaster struck. he had a short illness and died. What I feared most has happened. But……with the death of Karel, the fear also died. how can you still be afraid of something that has already happened. Living with the lost fear is a gift in mourning. There is much sorrow; that feels different. And, sadness can transform into gratitude. Now I see that there is no point in being anxious. So, I only got rid of it because my worst nightmare came true.
Your life wisdom, Christine, and your honesty, is a gift to all of us in this space. Whenever you speak of Karel, it makes me wish I had met him.
He was a teammate like you, Kevin.
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