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  1. Beth

    The fear of not being enough, doing enough, having enough often gets in the way of enjoying the moments I helped create. At work, it is a constant battle to accept a compliment about a job well done. At parties I’m hosting, I want everyone to have everything they want. I never enjoy myself in these moments because I’m afraid of letting someone down. Ugh. Breathe.

    1 year ago
  2. O.Christina

    Fear of losing control I guess is one for sure, Such a beautiful question. To be vulnerable again is another fear. To look at these and be trusting towards close friends at least changed it already to the better, thanks to you all who share here, too. Have a lovely day of aliveness you all out there!

    1 year ago
  3. B
    Brown Rose

    The fear of failure/ being counterproductive/ wasting precious time to something time sensitive

    1 year ago
  4. d
    dcdeb

    The crazy government and there sick mandates. Totalitarian control.

    1 year ago
  5. Don Jones

    The fear – as subtle as it is, doesn’t relate to today. In some obscure corner, there is a little niggle around if the daily spiritual practice will be sufficient. It only arises occasionally, but every now and again it comes in like a mosquito on a hot and humid summers night. Maybe when the mosquito has fed, it will leave me alone.

    1 year ago
  6. d
    db82258

    Although my heart or intuition has never mislead me, I have realized my mind wasn’t ready for where my heart was taking me.

    I was born with an abundance of energy, not sure if this is a blessing or at times, an obstacle. Many a friend and/or family member has been the recipient of the abundance side. And me, at times I have said out loud, would somebody please just knock me out. Always joking, or so I thought….

    Regardless, I had to stop and quiet this mind, but learning I am. Sites like this and everyone’s shares have helped me tremendously. I do have an internal drive that keeps me moving forward, for this I am deeply grateful.

    Borrowing from author Agatha Christie: “I like living. I have been sometimes wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow; but through it all I still know quite certainly that just being alive is a grand thing.”

    Who hasn’t’ felt that despair and risen above it. I was about to be paddled (phrased nicely) by my father and he said diversity builds strong character. I looked at him dead in the eye and said well ain’t I something. Not a smart thing to do at the time, but even as a kid I knew his action was absurd. I was young and probably heard that phrase somewhere in a different context. I guess sometimes I still have that fear of being whomped on. Today I hear that inner little voice say aint I something and maybe under my breath, I say oh yes I am.

    Howie, thank you for my poem for the day., I always reflect on everyone’s reflections throughout the day,

    Emmaleah, please accept a warm welcome, or Aloha.

    1 year ago
  7. L
    Lauryn

    Fear that I might be left out.
    Fear that my partner doesn’t love me.
    Fear of being trapped.

    They look more dire and negative when I write them out like that. Maybe the key to fully appreciating the fact that I’m alive today is to think of the opposite-

    I’m never left out.
    My partner loves me.
    I’m not trapped.

    And then think of all the examples of why these positive statements are true and how lucky I am to be alive to appreciate them.

    1 year ago
  8. Linda

    Honestly, I fear for the future of our country.

    1 year ago
  9. Hot Sauce

    My fear of making mistakes sometimes gets in the way of fully appreciating the fact that I am alive.

    1 year ago
  10. Mica

    Dizziness. Sigh. Can I drive to the important medical appointment I have today or do I need to take a Lyft? I think the dizziness is passing now, but it’s definitely heavy on my mind.

    1 year ago
  11. Emmaleah

    Aloha. I’ve been visiting this site for over a year now, but this is my first time posting. I suppose my hesitancy to comment stems from a longstanding fear I have surrounding vulnerability and sharing my true self with others; a fear that somehow I am not good enough. Deep down, I know this is not true, but the fear often isolates me, prohibits me from connecting with others, and can get in the way of truly being grateful for this precious life.
    I so appreciate all of the wisdom and experience you folks share daily; visiting this site always helps to start my day off on the right foot. 😊

    1 year ago
    1. Holly in Ohio

      Aloha! How exciting you have joined us. I am even more grateful for the question, that gave you what you needed to join us. I feel privileged to witness this moment in your growth. 🙂 Welcome!

      1 year ago
    2. Michele

      Aloha Emmaleah!

      1 year ago
    3. Mica

      Welcome, dear Emmaleah, and thank you for sharing. Warm wishes to you –

      1 year ago
      1. Emmaleah

        Thank you!

        1 year ago
        1. Mica

          You’re welcome, Emmaleah

          1 year ago
  12. devy

    Here in Canada today is Remembrance Day. As with many others, my father and his brothers signed up during the second world war . Dad re-enlisted in 195o for the Korean War. Today I am focusing on the fears all had during that time. My fears and apprehensions are minimal compared to them. Many knew of the ultimate sacrifice and never returned.. war left emotional and physical scars on those whose who did. Because of them, we live in freedom. I appreciate what they Went through and their service.

    1 year ago
  13. Nelson

    I work in a very corporate environment. Sometimes, when I find something that I disagree with, I think if I voice my concern, the backlash would be devastating. That my reputation would be tarnished. That repercussions from upper management would be even more challenging than the matter at hand …Nah, I spoke up anyway. Straight to the CEO himself. Tactfully, professionally, and with justification. I learned fear was all in my head. Just stories I made up. I also learned there’s a difference between just speaking up and speaking up with good intention: the betterment of the entire team. Choose the latter and upper management is more akin to listening. In fact, you’d be more respected if you do.

    1 year ago
    1. Mica

      Wow, Nelson! Warm congrats –

      1 year ago
  14. Katrina

    What are the standards of measurements by which I am supposed to measuring my full appreciation of the fact that I am alive today? Moods ebb and flow; responsibilities, life circumstances require more or less of us each and every day; one day I am working, another I am on vacation in the beautiful hills and forests of Oklahoma with cool temperatures and nature all around me. Some days are easy, some days are HARD! Some days I’m productive, some days I’m lazing with a book and naps. But every single day, I get out of bed as I am able, walk outside my back door and give thanks for another day of breathing in and out – the gift of life.

    1 year ago
  15. Howie Geib

    Not fear. That is not it. It is a lack of enthusiasm. What does that mean? I guess that I am so content, satisfied, with my beautiful life that I am not eagerly seeking some ambitious goal to improve it. Ambition has a side effect for me which is stress. That, stress, is a variety of fear that eats away at appreciation. I get restless and doubtful. At the moment I am reveling in the normal pace, the lack of excitement preferable to the storm and strum of a challenging target I have and am enough this morning. And yet, it is only a pause in play. I am really only deeply alive when I am climbing some mountain (metaphorically). It’s probably why people swim the English Channel.

    1 year ago
    1. L
      Lauryn

      …reveling in the normal pace… I like that 🙂

      1 year ago
  16. Marnie Jackson

    I am scared of the change that I know is coming. I am looking at every little nuance and happenstance as a sign that the change will be bad. This fear is preventing me from growing and seeing the opportunity for what it is……an opportunity to grow in a different way

    1 year ago
  17. Holly in Ohio

    Fear of not being good enough interferes with my full appreciation of being alive. Even that presents a conundrum. I would like to allow myself to be who I am without judgment, and that includes being imperfect in how I think of myself. Acceptance is acceptance. Love is love.

    1 year ago
    1. Howie Geib

      mmm…thanks for this. It resonates SO much for me this morning. I feel like my age and general conditions suggest a complacency I cannot help but rebel against. I am a conduit Holly. Perhaps like me, we cannot help ourselves but be out there quickening aliveness, all the while clearing away any internal detritus that foments resignation. With a determined unwillingness to leave any responsibility on anyone else’s doorstep. And yet THAT, that quality in us, our unrelenting spurring on of ourselves is being fully alive. You are Holly the gardener. Judging is not positive, it’s true, but I ask myself often if the inner judgment is actually more of an inner examination, the first step to calibration and course correction? David Whyte’s poem “Everything is Waiting for you” comes to mind.

      Your great mistake is to act the drama
      as if you were alone. As if life
      were a progressive and cunning crime
      with no witness to the tiny hidden
      transgressions. To feel abandoned is to deny
      the intimacy of your surroundings. Surely,
      even you, at times, have felt the grand array;
      the swelling presence, and the chorus, crowding
      out your solo voice You must note
      the way the soap dish enables you,
      or the window latch grants you freedom.
      Alertness is the hidden discipline of familiarity.
      The stairs are your mentor of things
      to come, the doors have always been there
      to frighten you and invite you,
      and the tiny speaker in the phone
      is your dream-ladder to divinity.

      Put down the weight of your aloneness and ease into
      the conversation. The kettle is singing
      even as it pours you a drink, the cooking pots
      have left their arrogant aloofness and
      seen the good in you at last. All the birds
      and creatures of the world are unutterably
      themselves. Everything is waiting for you.

      1 year ago
      1. Holly in Ohio

        YES, YES, YES!!!!!!! 🌷🙏

        The poem is lovely, but your comments, too!!!

        1 year ago
      2. Katrina

        That is a beautiful poem, Howie! Thanks for sharing.

        1 year ago
  18. Michele

    Working for a tissue bank I see death everyday so I totally appreciate the fact that I am alive today and see firsthand how quickly that can change at any given moment.
    Happy Veteran’s Day to all the vets out there. Thank you for serving our Country.

    1 year ago
    1. Holly in Ohio

      Thank you for the reminder, Michele! I have some veteran friends I wish to personally thank today. My husband, too, come to think of it… though a different army, he also served against terrorism. Thank you, Michele!

      1 year ago
      1. Michele

        you’re welcome:)

        1 year ago
  19. sunnypatti48317

    Nothing can keep me from appreciating the fact that I’m alive today. I’m grateful every day that I wake up. I know it’s a blessing, and I appreciate my life very much. I deal with fears… who doesn’t? But I’ve learned not to allow them to fog my vision. Life is good! I’m happy to be here!

    1 year ago
  20. Kevin

    Why would I have fears about being fully alive? That’s silly. I frequent this site and value it’s core beliefs precisely because I love life, love people, and find great sustaining pleasure in sharing with people life’s wild, wonderful, and ever changing journey.

    1 year ago
    1. Carol

      I hear you, Kevin. When it comes to life, I’m more afraid of being asleep at the wheel! As I walked in my neighborhood yesterday, beholding the trees swaying in a steady breeze. Leaves of red, orange, and bright yellow swirling around me. I was awe struck. I felt like I was being bathed in Nature’s wisdom. The art of presence, the willingness to let go. The beauty of the trees cooperating with Mother Earth. I felt fully alive. It’s a feeling, an experience, I can call on when fear comes calling.

      1 year ago

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