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  1. Lydia

    This question has made me pause and realise that I currently DON’T look for the good in most people, I judge and shut down. When I am aware of this, I try to remember that all of us are carrying burdens that sometimes make us behave negatively. Will try to see beyond this today.

    2 months ago
  2. Erich617

    Remembering that we were all children once.

    2 months ago
  3. Lisalisasmile

    I remind myself that we are human and we all come from love and we are all trying our best with what we know and have been given at this moment in our lives♥️

    2 months ago
  4. Don Jones

    By putting self aside.

    2 months ago
  5. pkr

    Making a conscious choice to look for the good in another. If I cannot find the good, then I choose to silently bless them & move along, so to speak. I try not to dwell on it/them.

    2 months ago
    1. Antoinette

      Pkr – bless them and move on. Thank you 🙏

      2 months ago
  6. Antoinette

    By making sure I know my personal boundaries . I have always worried about being left behind and it has made me do things and ignore things that have hurt me.
    Now lots of anger is coming up and out of me. Looking for love in all the wrong places. I’m mad at myself for not knowing any better. This anger is good because now I know how to listen to the inner voice that says no not this time. I chose a healthy life, because I love myself. I don’t me this self that’s nonexistent- I mean I choose True love over anything. I will no longer look to others, sex, shopping, religions or anything else that advertising tries to sell. The truth is god is within us all. The good is within us all. I am slowing down and meditating everyday and more and more wisdom is shinning light. I’m blessed with gods love I don’t have to look anywhere anymore.

    2 months ago
  7. Barb C

    I’m an optimist by nature and believe that helps me have a default setting of assuming good. The challenge of this wording for me is that a default is essentially an assumption. An assumption is often something we want to challenge or question, not something to take as a given because there is risk in that.

    I also find myself thinking about the difference between a default assumption and actively looking for the good in others. That takes more work because it requires paying real attention to the other person.

    2 months ago
  8. Robin Ann

    My faith and my upbringing. My Mother was a nurse and she definitely rubbed off on me. She told me I was a compassionate person.

    2 months ago
  9. Carol

    The willingness to be vulnerable. Take a chance. Sometimes it leaves me shaking in my boots but as a dear friend reminds me, “It’s better than missing the show.” As Helen Keller wrote, “Life is a daring adventure or nothing at all.”

    2 months ago
    1. Antoinette

      Carol- I love that quote. Thank you!

      2 months ago
  10. Eeevvv

    This question it’s really hard for me. Sadly, years ago, I had a friend in whom I discovered that the good was only in my eyes. I’ve tried so hard to find the good I started believing it was there and it was only me that didn’t see/find it.
    Since then I started looking for the “real self” of the people I meet, accepting their light and their darkness when I can and walking away when I can’t. It’s not a judgment for someone who’s good and someone who’s bad, it’s a kind of method I use to discern who’s good for me and my mental health from who’s not, which doesn’t mean there’s a bad person in front of me, there’s only a person not compatible with me.

    2 months ago
    1. Barb C

      Well said. Thank you for sharing this. To accept both the light and the dark is to accept that humans are human.

      2 months ago
  11. A

    Every human being has a story to tell. The trick is to know the person through that story. It means going beyond what you see without any judgements.

    2 months ago
  12. Y

    The word “default” in this question seems to indicate hindering. I try to remember we are all more alike than different.

    2 months ago
  13. Chester

    One powerful reminder is when observing young children where I am generally reminded that much of how we engage the world is based on what we are taught and the examples that we are provided.

    2 months ago
  14. C

    The intention I use when seeing the good in others, especially those who I am struggling with, is the statement I heard during an empathy workshop. “They may not be expressing their pain in a way that resonates with me.” In Non-violent Communication, Marshall Rosenberg stresses looking to find what is alive in others when connecting with them. I find this is a goo place to start.

    2 months ago
    1. Carol

      Thank you

      2 months ago
  15. Rabbit

    Wisdom like this:
    People are more than we see at a glance.
    You never know what someone has experienced in their life.
    Our whole life is not the worst thing we ever did.
    I also agree with others that we have to be aware and stay safe. Everyone’s intentions are not always good.

    2 months ago
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