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Try not to take things personally, especially if you’re feeling a bit down. Assume the best about people and their intentions, if you possibly can.
Yesterday now is today. So today, feeling unusual happy just for no special reason is a gift, which lightens this day and shines onward. Grateful!
Co-facilitating our Friendly Conversation Group for newcomers as I did yesterday is always heartening and broadening. Their varied experiences and openness and curiosity about their new home always educate and inspire me!
When you’re making adjustments try one thing at a time. Going with two at once can be very tricky. That’s what I learnt from yesterday. In general I gain perspective or not: it’s not something I can plan. But I also know that trying out new things (best one at a time!) often leads to a perspective shift for me.
That I have to value my health and myself – even if it upsets other people.
What does grief have to teach me?
That the sad, heartache, shock, angry feelings come and go but also that love and gratitude follow. Perspective. Peace and love and hug to you.
“I sat with my anger long enough, until she told me her real name was grief”
No one is ever truly lost who we carry within our hearts. I’ve heard grief called “love that survives beyond death” and I think it might have to do with an expansive relationship to the past and those who occupy that space beyond the temporal horizon, those who are gone from our sight still influence who we are and how we experience the here and now. I cannot continue with that surviving love bound up in regret. I’m not sure, but it’s a place within my own heart where I’m ill at peace. I always appreciate your insights, Michele.
I’m sorry for your loss, Javier, and the sadness and anger… a natural part of grief, but not pleasant to endure. I have been sitting some minutes trying to think of something to say to you that would be comforting, but I know there is not much I can offer except to say you can share here, whatever you feel, and I and your other friends here will listen, and keep you company, and care.
Thank you, Holly. I’m not sure it’s loss or just a general spiritual malnourishment. I’ve been feeling kind of at odds with just about every community for which I am involved, currently (which means it’s me and not them) and there’s a growing urge to withdraw and reassess. Thank you for the encouragement.
I spent a long time writing an email about something I wanted to share with a group of people, and I want to spend more time doing this with others.
Early this morning I received a call that a very dear and very old friend had just died. Almost immediately, my mind went to guilt that I hadn’t been in touch with her for a few months. Yes, I’d thought to call her and then didn’t. What good would it do for anyone — her, me, her devoted caregivers who were calling to tell me — if I continued to indulge in “it’s all about me” guilt. How grateful I am that, almost on the spot, I saw there was another choice:: to feel in my heart the goodness and pleasure and gratitude for the opportunities we’d been given to be of service to others during our long and loving relationship. When I snapped out of the dark of self-incrimination into the light of Love, I was able to acknowledge, from my heart, the two caregivers who’d been devoted to her — to Shirley — for many years. They loved her. I loved her. I trust, wherever Shirley is, she’s smiling, thanking Life for having returned us to Love.
That is a beautifully loving share, Sara. Thank you.
Perhaps today, I can live with a new perspective that says that I can live my day-to-day life without having all the answers.
It is always OK to say, “I don’t know”.
There are so many…
I used to think that I walked my dog. She walks me.
I used to think that meal time was to feed my hunger. It really is a deep time of gratitude for the food (and its sacrifice) to become part of this being.
I used to think I tended the garden. It tends me.
I used to think my prayers were to God. It is really the time I am cradled by God.
And so many more…
Wondeerful, Don Jones – uplifting observations
I have a weekly beer with a group of friends whom I love dearly. Because I had had a migraine earlier in the day yesterday, I didn’t drink any alcohol, and was pleasantly surprised how clear headed I felt when we got up to leave! Even though I don’t ever drink more than 1, it does affect me. Something to ponder…
I can’t really say it’s a perspective that I’ve gained today as it’s a realisation that’s developed over time, and that is that love is not something that is mine to give or withhold but is something that I can allow to flow through me. It then feels effortless and I can accept people as they are, warts and all.
Love flows through you, Butterfly – thank you for this observation –
Be here NOW
2 books have that title, Carol – 2 books that I know of : )
I have a broader view of how human kind voyeurs into egregious tragedy more than I knew before. Low flying planes & helicopters have hovered overhead for the past few days. I live in the heart of Minneapolis. Many walk with us in our pain while others just gawk. .
My new perspective I gained today was after getting angry last night over a comment from a relative via text is to deal with it in the moment by asking questions instead of having a delayed reaction that lead to anger and judgement. I will not let the comment seep into my being especially when my relative has no filter and does not share my concerns, convictions and awareness and basically does not care about anything that does not affect her directly. Ignorance is not bliss its ignorance. I have to remember that and not take comments personally. I thought I learned that lesson. I changed the subject to avoid a disagreement or potential argument. I shrunk back. I too am entitled to my opinion and did not speak up. I judged instead. Speaking the truth in love is something I must take to heart and clear up the misunderstanding before bitterness sets in.
How true, but at least you didn’t say anything you regret, so maybe you can take comfort in that 🙂
That’s very insightful, Toni. It gives me some insight into a difficult relationship I have right now, too. I’ve also been silent, because when I speak, I can feel myself getting pulled off-balance into annoyance and anger. I will try again to find my own peace on the matter, so that I can speak on it with them without getting drawn in.
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