I have been reflecting on this for some time and recently discovered the songs of Rumi’s poems.
Which have given me a new perspective on life and who I am.
I have discovered it is myself, when I can accept Who I Am – Where I Am.
Finding the simplicity in being myself and focusing on being Heart Centred and Heart Happy.
it’s those in my life around whom I fee free to be myself. It helps me to name them specifically: My friend, Diane, whom I am visiting, my work colleague Jayne, and my upstairs neighbor.
Luckily, I have a few people in my life, that seem to appreciate me as I am. And I am so grateful for this.
But I think more importantly, do I think I’m enough.
I have definitely spent my life feeling like I wasn’t enough. I am getting better at accepting myself as I am, but it’s a daily struggle. Where is the line from wanting and making improvements, to being okay with where I’m at? I guess, standing back and seeing it as evolution is helpful. Maybe I am on a continuum of changing awareness and acceptance.
My son. The unconditional love of my child has been so profoundly healing to me. I am blessed to have such a wonderful source of joy and love in my life.
As so many of us have already said, I do, or at least I can. I might have an occasional “I could be/do/say more” moment but generally I’m good with who I am.
My sweetheart also says things every so often that give me that affirmation that I’m enough and more than enough, as do my daughters and my best friends.
Carol Ann, when I saw your response, it reminds me that not too long ago, I used to depend on another person for my happiness. It’s rooted in the struggles of being a 2nd generation Vietnamese American with even a mild case of autism and bipolar mania. Seeing the world a wholistic way leads to expectations and attachments. Understanding others isn’t as hard as it appears. For the average person, interests are enough. It’s what we mainly talk about. People have different positions. It’s the SWOT ackrynum that stands for strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats. As the old addage goes “You can’t put your eggs in 1 basket.”
Whether sick or healthy, cloudy or sunny, desperate or sated, I am enough. You are enough. We are all enough. The whole idea that any of us could be not enough is a lie. We are always and forever enough.
Other people’s words don’t usually affect me too much, but their actions really do. The people who follow up on their word make me feel that I am enough. Right now, that would only be a few people in my life, such as my mom, my boyfriend and a couple classmates who I don’t see anymore. I get most of my confidence from inside myself anyway. When I feel like I’m not good enough (such as the entire time I have been in nursing school), I remind myself that I have been and will always be a square peg trying to shove myself into a round hole. It’s an objective fact that nothing in my life has prepared me for such a profession, and not many people who are doing this work are prepared for it either. It’s all fine.
It’s not about who makes me feel that I am enough, but about how not to expect there must be someone who makes me feel this way. It’s not about believing that I am enough, but noticing that even though I am NOT enough, I am still okay with it. A lot of people in this world are living their lives fine without feeling enough. Such as my parents-in-law; they are not enough with their cancer. But they adapt their lives to it. They look toward something that makes their day.
Dear Ngoc, I can see what you’re saying if we infer enough to mean physically unfettered. But I do think ‘enough’ has a more nefarious side, at least how I see it from the US cultural perspective. It is asymptotic, we reach for ‘enough’ until somebody conditionally or contextually anoints us with a reward or designation. Then comes temporary satisfaction, and back to ‘not enough’. Hopefully this makes sense. ‘Enough’ is used as a pot of gold we can never reach, and I do strive to reform the whole idea of it for that reason.
My Ngoc, your part about adapting to circumstances reminds me of my answer from yesterday about becoming more social during the extended time you were out of town.
I do. One thing life has taught me is that if I am feeling I am not enough, it really isn’t someone else making me feel that way. It is me making me feel that way. It’s an inside job as they say. I am not immune to self-observation and knowing I could be more in life. My desire
is that it is self-directed, experiencing my power to notice and act on my behalf.
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I have been reflecting on this for some time and recently discovered the songs of Rumi’s poems.
Which have given me a new perspective on life and who I am.
I have discovered it is myself, when I can accept Who I Am – Where I Am.
Finding the simplicity in being myself and focusing on being Heart Centred and Heart Happy.
it’s those in my life around whom I fee free to be myself. It helps me to name them specifically: My friend, Diane, whom I am visiting, my work colleague Jayne, and my upstairs neighbor.
Good evening, dear Sparrow. Thank you for the Chuck Pyle song Endless Sky.
♥
Luckily, I have a few people in my life, that seem to appreciate me as I am. And I am so grateful for this.
But I think more importantly, do I think I’m enough.
I have definitely spent my life feeling like I wasn’t enough. I am getting better at accepting myself as I am, but it’s a daily struggle. Where is the line from wanting and making improvements, to being okay with where I’m at? I guess, standing back and seeing it as evolution is helpful. Maybe I am on a continuum of changing awareness and acceptance.
Evolution indeed, Charlie.🌸
Charlie, I have no doubt your on the evolutionary train because you are open and willing. 🙂
I am enough with the Lord by my side. I also hope for support from friends and family close to me..
My son. The unconditional love of my child has been so profoundly healing to me. I am blessed to have such a wonderful source of joy and love in my life.
You are indeed blessed,
dear Emmaleah . . . ♥
My cat and dog.
They are pure in heart
and love us unconditionally,
dear Brian.
They also hold all of our burdens and secrets
as well
without judgment. ♥
As so many of us have already said, I do, or at least I can. I might have an occasional “I could be/do/say more” moment but generally I’m good with who I am.
My sweetheart also says things every so often that give me that affirmation that I’m enough and more than enough, as do my daughters and my best friends.
I do.
I continue to grow & learn everyday.
I am enough.
We all are enough. ✨🩷
🕊️🩷
♥
I do that for myself these days. I’m not real fond of the word “worthy” and favor “of worth.” “Worthy” is a judgement “of worth” is a fact.
Read Richard Rohr’s daily meditation after I posted the response above. Found it very helpful so want to share the link,
https://cac.org/daily-meditations/feeling-deeply-knowing-deeply/
Carol Ann, when I saw your response, it reminds me that not too long ago, I used to depend on another person for my happiness. It’s rooted in the struggles of being a 2nd generation Vietnamese American with even a mild case of autism and bipolar mania. Seeing the world a wholistic way leads to expectations and attachments. Understanding others isn’t as hard as it appears. For the average person, interests are enough. It’s what we mainly talk about. People have different positions. It’s the SWOT ackrynum that stands for strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats. As the old addage goes “You can’t put your eggs in 1 basket.”
Whether sick or healthy, cloudy or sunny, desperate or sated, I am enough. You are enough. We are all enough. The whole idea that any of us could be not enough is a lie. We are always and forever enough.
💗
♥
I love this and I think I needed it this morning. Thank you, Drea. 😊
Amen!
God makes me feel like I’m enough. Insecurity stems from happiness being dependent on man.
Other people’s words don’t usually affect me too much, but their actions really do. The people who follow up on their word make me feel that I am enough. Right now, that would only be a few people in my life, such as my mom, my boyfriend and a couple classmates who I don’t see anymore. I get most of my confidence from inside myself anyway. When I feel like I’m not good enough (such as the entire time I have been in nursing school), I remind myself that I have been and will always be a square peg trying to shove myself into a round hole. It’s an objective fact that nothing in my life has prepared me for such a profession, and not many people who are doing this work are prepared for it either. It’s all fine.
It’s not about who makes me feel that I am enough, but about how not to expect there must be someone who makes me feel this way. It’s not about believing that I am enough, but noticing that even though I am NOT enough, I am still okay with it. A lot of people in this world are living their lives fine without feeling enough. Such as my parents-in-law; they are not enough with their cancer. But they adapt their lives to it. They look toward something that makes their day.
Dear Ngoc, I can see what you’re saying if we infer enough to mean physically unfettered. But I do think ‘enough’ has a more nefarious side, at least how I see it from the US cultural perspective. It is asymptotic, we reach for ‘enough’ until somebody conditionally or contextually anoints us with a reward or designation. Then comes temporary satisfaction, and back to ‘not enough’. Hopefully this makes sense. ‘Enough’ is used as a pot of gold we can never reach, and I do strive to reform the whole idea of it for that reason.
Drea, my competitive fire aligns with whatever you’re saying. It’s why I love Michael Jordan so much.
My Ngoc, your part about adapting to circumstances reminds me of my answer from yesterday about becoming more social during the extended time you were out of town.
I do. One thing life has taught me is that if I am feeling I am not enough, it really isn’t someone else making me feel that way. It is me making me feel that way. It’s an inside job as they say. I am not immune to self-observation and knowing I could be more in life. My desire
is that it is self-directed, experiencing my power to notice and act on my behalf.
Well said, Mary Mantei. Our happiness shouldn’t depend on someone else.