In this video, Gert and Bettie speak to the fact that struggles, loss, and pain are part of life, and that we can approach the tough times with a perspective that helps us move forward. They remind us that when we begin to turn toward the things that we cherish, the world opens to reveal that there is always some small thing for which we can be grateful.
Reflections of Life produces gorgeous short films that uplift the personal stories of ordinary people, with the goal of sharing ideas and inspiring change. We feel hugely blessed to feature video-stories that filmmakers Michael and Justine capture with exquisite expertise, and which so beautifully illustrate grateful living principles and practices. In this short film we hear from Gert and Bettie.
What moved you most about Gert and Bettie’s story?
What are some steps, even small ones, you might take to make peace with your past?
We invite you to share your reflections below the video transcript that follows.
Gert: For seven years we had no rain. You could say that the earth was burnt bare. At one stage, I thought we’d have no livestock left. Those were hard times.
We no longer read the signs in nature, like our ancestors did. My father noticed that when the moon was lying on its back, we would get rain..the rains would come.
Bettie: My mother taught me about the ants. I asked her why the ants were so busy. She told me they were gathering and storing food before the rains came. When the ants are busy then we know that rain is only two days away.
Gert: Last year the rain finally arrived. Then there is life, then there is life.
This is a beautiful place when the rain falls. Our world is covered in a blanket of colorful flowers. Your eyes can’t take it all in.
Bettie: In the morning I love to look outside at the beauty of nature. It is so beautiful. The birds are singing because they are happy for the fresh morning air. You’ve come through the snow and the cold of the winter months and here is the warmth once again. There is life, there is hope.
Everything has its own time and its own seasons. Things don’t always go well. My son passed away in 2010. And my husband died in 2012. It was a very difficult time, and I was distraught. My heart was heavy. I felt empty inside… as if I was cut off from the world. Life didn’t make any sense.
Gert: These are my better days…not my younger days….definitely not my younger days. Ask me about drinking…ask me about drinking. I drank and I drank and I drank. Those were not easy times. But I never gave up hope.
Bettie: I still had a lot of love to give and I got a second chance. When Gert and I met, I had an emptiness inside me and he filled that space because he cared deeply for me. That’s the biggest secret because if you don’t care for someone then you don’t have love. To experience love is something Gert had never had. Nobody cared for him. Nobody was there for him. That is why I reached out to him. So that he no longer continued to live in the past, that he could rise up from his past. And love is a foundation which makes you stronger.
Gert: This woman is worth her weight in gold to me. She saved my life…without her I would have drowned. I’m a man since she came into my life…now I’m a man.
Bettie: To achieve something in life, you need to work for it. I’m always amazed by the little birds..how do they build their nests? He fetches feathers and sticks to build his home.
Gert: You can’t want for too much in life. I am grateful for the smallest of things. I don’t understand why people need so many clothes, what they do with so many plates, knives, and forks. Even if someone gave me a lot of money, what would I do with it? You may be rich, but without your health you have nothing. I am grateful just for my health.
Justine and Michael are a creative couple living in South Africa. Their project, Reflections of Life (formerly Green Renaissance), works to spread positive stories that reflect the wonder of the world. With the goal of sharing ideas and inspiring change, they produce gorgeous short films that are posted online and available for anyone, anywhere, to watch and share freely.
Through their films, they explore what it means to be human. They touch on topics that can often be difficult for people to discuss – from loss of a loved one to aging and retirement to friendship to love and courage – universal themes that we all deal with at some stage in our lives.
By sharing these stories, Justine and Michael hope to remind us of one simple truth – that we are all human – that inside our hearts and minds, we are all facing similar challenges. We have so much to learn from each other, and our connections run so much deeper and stronger than we think. Learn more and support their work at reflectionsof.life.