A day late, and answering yesterdays question without much thought,
I would say to my younger self, you don’t have to work so hard.
Live life more lightly and have fun.
I can still advise myself to live this way today.
Thank you for the question!
If I had the opportunity
to bestow some wisdom on my younger self,
I’d sit me down and say,
“now you listen here,
my dear young lady,
I love you with all my heart
and I know I haven’t shown you that love very often.
I am sorry for that,
but it’s because I’ve seen
how your beautiful innocence has gotten stripped away
and how your heart has been broken . . .
I was afraid that I couldn’t help you
but since coming out the other end,
I’ve gained a little wisdom and prudence.
Dear girl,
you are not to blame
for what has befallen you.
You entered early adulthood
with a naiveté that was too crippling
to hold all the grief that was to visit you.
I see now that,
given that,
you are as brave as you can be,
but not brave enough.
I offer you tools that can help you heal.
First of all,
know that you are good and worth loving.
Second,
bad things that have happened
and will happen again,
are not your fault;
neither are they things that you asked for.
Third,
nothing is permanent . . .
everything changes.
All life is fluid.
And fourth,
no matter what happens
always remember that if you look deep enough
you will see that all is well and as it should be,
and that all will be well.
You will learn most of what you need to know
through experiences you see as painful now,
but they will stand you in good stead,
and make you stronger in the end.
Life is hard
and full of challenges,
but if you keep these things in mind,
you will be protected from a worse outcome.
Life is good as well,
and that can be hard to.
And lastly,
always remember that you are Loved.”
I don’t know. It’s so easy to look back in life and play the “coulda, woulda, shoulda,” game but the truth is, “all that I have and call my own, You have given it all to me.” That means “all.” The good and the bad. The dumb decisions and the sensible ones. The impulsive and the considered. So to tell my younger self anything wise at all would not mean “don’t do that,” or “go the other way.” It would mean, maybe what Julian of Norwich said: “All is well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well. Believe that, no matter what.”
I would encourage my younger self not to be to harsh on my ancestors. They did many things right and a few things not so right. You can not only help them but also yourself and those that will follow you with willingness to grow.
I would remind her that the past is history. I can’t change it but I can choose to grow because of or in spite of it. The future is mystery so don’t go there to dwell. It will become the NOW soon enough. NOW is where you need to live because the strength you need is always available in the NOW.
Don’t let your monkey mind turn a situation into a problem.
You’ve got to integrate your insides and your outsides before you can help others to do the same. And as today’s quote reminds me. I have never had to be worthy bu I have always been of worth.
Be kind. Be the peace you seek.
I would say, breathe. I would also say, stop holding all of that stuff in. Let it out. Don’t worry about what people will think, when you are honest about your fears and anxieties and all of that shame. Shame for things that I had no control over. Inherited shame. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had an amazing life. So many experiences. It’s just a shame that I couldn’t enjoy it more.
It took me a long long time to learn this.
Your instincts are good. Don’t listen to people who try to talk you out of things. As incomprehensible as they sometimes seem, your senses are leading you somewhere good.
You are a survivor! It’s really ok to listen to the intuitive voice within yourself. She will guide you towards Light and the Path. You are beautiful just the way you are!
The thing about this question is that I know my younger self wouldn’t have listened, or done anything differently. My life has been my journey to take and I’m good with that, with all the ups and downs and lessons I needed to learn along the way. I suppose I’d say “don’t take yourself so seriously, relax in knowing that you are loved unconditionally”.
I don’t think my younger self would have listened either,
dear Tomg,
as I was quite stubborn as a child.
I’ll have to think of what I might say
in a way that would reach her. ♥
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A day late, and answering yesterdays question without much thought,
I would say to my younger self, you don’t have to work so hard.
Live life more lightly and have fun.
I can still advise myself to live this way today.
Thank you for the question!
To rely in the Light and Love perceived, to allow to be vulnerable and to dare to trust.
Shoot for the stars and believe in yourself!
If I had the opportunity
to bestow some wisdom on my younger self,
I’d sit me down and say,
“now you listen here,
my dear young lady,
I love you with all my heart
and I know I haven’t shown you that love very often.
I am sorry for that,
but it’s because I’ve seen
how your beautiful innocence has gotten stripped away
and how your heart has been broken . . .
I was afraid that I couldn’t help you
but since coming out the other end,
I’ve gained a little wisdom and prudence.
Dear girl,
you are not to blame
for what has befallen you.
You entered early adulthood
with a naiveté that was too crippling
to hold all the grief that was to visit you.
I see now that,
given that,
you are as brave as you can be,
but not brave enough.
I offer you tools that can help you heal.
First of all,
know that you are good and worth loving.
Second,
bad things that have happened
and will happen again,
are not your fault;
neither are they things that you asked for.
Third,
nothing is permanent . . .
everything changes.
All life is fluid.
And fourth,
no matter what happens
always remember that if you look deep enough
you will see that all is well and as it should be,
and that all will be well.
You will learn most of what you need to know
through experiences you see as painful now,
but they will stand you in good stead,
and make you stronger in the end.
Life is hard
and full of challenges,
but if you keep these things in mind,
you will be protected from a worse outcome.
Life is good as well,
and that can be hard to.
And lastly,
always remember that you are Loved.”
Beautiful, Sparrow! You are a poet.
I bow to your kind words,
dear Barb . . .
Namaste ♥
❤️
I don’t know. It’s so easy to look back in life and play the “coulda, woulda, shoulda,” game but the truth is, “all that I have and call my own, You have given it all to me.” That means “all.” The good and the bad. The dumb decisions and the sensible ones. The impulsive and the considered. So to tell my younger self anything wise at all would not mean “don’t do that,” or “go the other way.” It would mean, maybe what Julian of Norwich said: “All is well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well. Believe that, no matter what.”
Agreed. Hemming and hawing doesn’t help.
This resonates – thank you.
I would encourage my younger self not to be to harsh on my ancestors. They did many things right and a few things not so right. You can not only help them but also yourself and those that will follow you with willingness to grow.
I would remind her that the past is history. I can’t change it but I can choose to grow because of or in spite of it. The future is mystery so don’t go there to dwell. It will become the NOW soon enough. NOW is where you need to live because the strength you need is always available in the NOW.
Don’t let your monkey mind turn a situation into a problem.
You’ve got to integrate your insides and your outsides before you can help others to do the same. And as today’s quote reminds me. I have never had to be worthy bu I have always been of worth.
Be kind. Be the peace you seek.
Let Life embrace you and don’t forget to hug it back.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5AnNkJ_VK9E
Thank you, Carol, for the link. Those boys were on to something.
Thank you for your joy Carol.
“Let Life embrace you and don’t forget to hug it back.” Love this, Carol.
Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.
Well said,
dear Antonia . . .
thank you. ♥
I would say, breathe. I would also say, stop holding all of that stuff in. Let it out. Don’t worry about what people will think, when you are honest about your fears and anxieties and all of that shame. Shame for things that I had no control over. Inherited shame. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had an amazing life. So many experiences. It’s just a shame that I couldn’t enjoy it more.
It took me a long long time to learn this.
Shame
is such a destroyer,
dear Charlie . . .
thank you for bringing it up. ♥
Your instincts are good. Don’t listen to people who try to talk you out of things. As incomprehensible as they sometimes seem, your senses are leading you somewhere good.
Don’t be afraid.
Trust yourself.
Listen to your intuition.
Be true to You. 🩷
🕊️& 🩵
You are a survivor! It’s really ok to listen to the intuitive voice within yourself. She will guide you towards Light and the Path. You are beautiful just the way you are!
Stand tall and be proud of who you are.
The thing about this question is that I know my younger self wouldn’t have listened, or done anything differently. My life has been my journey to take and I’m good with that, with all the ups and downs and lessons I needed to learn along the way. I suppose I’d say “don’t take yourself so seriously, relax in knowing that you are loved unconditionally”.
I don’t think my younger self would have listened either,
dear Tomg,
as I was quite stubborn as a child.
I’ll have to think of what I might say
in a way that would reach her. ♥
Such a good point. I like who I am now and it took the entire path to bring me here, not only the good parts.
You are worthy of love. You are good enough to do everything you want to do.
And also – travel and go see the world!
I would simply say, “Know you are enough just as you are at this place in time.”