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My past. My paralyzed older brother passed in April and I went for the memorial service. So there are no more opportunities for building a relationship with him after many years of separation. I last saw him in August/September 2018 when I went to see him because I knew I would likely never see him again. He had been paralyzed for 8 years already at that time. Paralyzed people generally don’t live very long. He outlived the prediction of 7 years by 3 years. I am so grateful I made that 2018 trip. I would have gone last summer but Covid prevented it. But I reunited with family I had not seen for 30 years (my eldest brother and a niece of the passed brother). It was an intense time. I have many picture to remember this last trip by. I did not know until the trip to the service how important each and every person in the world is. Time is precious and we are precious. But we don’t live that way. So I must hold his memory in my heart, added to all other pain, until I am priviledged to join the rest of my family who have passed. I must remember to have compassion on myself and everyone else.
Amen zenith. It’s about what you said and even more.
My faith in government has definately ended. Goodbye deep state good riddance.
I hold compassion for myself for being a part of the sheeple for so long, but of course like everyone else i was deliberately dumbed down.
I stopped trusting all government when I was homeless back in 2005-2008. I learned that our society is operated by systems that have no compassion for us as a people though those in leadership would have us believe otherwise. We are all human but those who consider themselves “elite” because of their elevated level in leadership or the amount of money they happen to have, definitely hide their humanity from those with less. And they live in fear that we will discover just how weak they really are behind closed doors. I am reading a book called The Soul of Money by Lynne Twist. She talks about a whole different kind of worldview that all people everywhere must adopt if we are to survive as a species. The calls it the ‘you and me together’ concept. There is no them and us. Only all of us together working to promote everyone together. If we are to save the earth, our precious, precious life giver, we must change our concept of how things work. By operating from the heart rather than from the concept of how much money we DON’T have. If we share from the store of wealth that we DO have, we can all have more. Anyway, the book is helping me.
My mother has Alzheimer’s disease and is slipping over the abyss. Then friends are aging and dying. Life has changed because of COVID restrictions. I am living in a rent share, which is hard as I am used to my independence. Yet there is hope for a new life beyond this one. Having the second Astra Z shot in 6 weeks, then over the next half year, I will head off to new beginnings. I hold fast the vision for what that life will look like. In the meantime, I seize the opportunity to enjoy beautiful beach surroundings, great friends, and give of myself in creative ways within this space. My goal for my time in “detention” is to leave without regrets and not only having survived it but also having grown, loved, and found fresh paths because of it. Love and compassion are daily motivators whereby I care for myself and others. They are key to navigating this space well and their power makes me grateful.
The fundamental issue for me is acceptance of what is, how it is. Until I get to that complete acceptance, I can find myself walking a fire pit of fear, drinking the poison of regret, or swimming in the pool of vinegar and piss of self pity. Acceptance is what sets me free and is the work of love and compassion in action.
I have pending endings.
I hope to end an overindulgence in putting others first, now that I am an empty-nester I’d like to swap it for better self-care of my health and emotional needs.
I am changing my relationship with material things; once long ago a substitute for parental care of me. Now much of the stuff is just baggage that I don’t wish to pack for the next part of my life. I’ve been letting go somewhat steadily for a while, and made good progress, but at the moment it is going slowly, and I feel weighed by it. Of course, part of that may be that our house is presently in disarray, as we are in the middle of a DIY kitchen reno and waiting on a kitchen sink to arrive. Meanwhile, I’ve been doing dishes in the bathtub for about ten days. I suppose I should cut myself some slack, lol.
I’m trying also to end the overwhelm and lethargy that crept in last year.
In all cases, I think it is myself I need to hold with love and compassion, not with that which I’m trying to let go. I can end some expectations I have for myself, too, or change them into visualizing lightness and health, forgiveness when I don’t do things perfectly, quickly, or even well.
Two of my kids are off to college ! One in another country and one about four hours to drive from here . I have one son left at home but I’m sure that will change soon.
I guess having an empty nest is a thing!
Another thing to let go of! I can hold it with love and compassion by seeing the minds that come up from this. It’s about letting go with love .
You and me both, Antoinette. First the daughter moved out, then our son surprised us last summer by moving out when we went grocery shopping and then telling us, lol (unnecessary)… but in the middle of Covid? really? lol. My youngest is home at the moment but he just finished his second year of college about seven hours away, so he will be gone again in about six weeks and will probably do an internship next summer.
Time to reinvent ourselves, or rekindle the things we used to love to do when we had the freedom (and money, lol) to do it. 😀
Empty nest is indeed a thing, Antoinette. Love and hugs.
A career I worked hard at developing. I’m discovering now in my retirement how much it defined who I was. I’m letting go of that chapter of my life and cherishing the experience and accomplishments.
Anything that does not serve my higher nature and happiness and although I may have seen them as faults or imperfections at one time when looking at them retrospectively and objectively they were blessed lessons on this journey of life. Remembering that we were all created in a perfect image of…
I’m switching careers. After 20 years in the same industry, I’m changing to one that offers more opportunities for wealth, and flexibility with my time. I’m excited about this new chapter and I give thanks to the past decades. I’ve accomplished a lot, met some life long friends, and been to some pretty cool places. I’m so thankful for my time spent, and eager to see how my career continued to evolve.
I am ending being a people pleaser. I am saying good bye to living my life for others. Today I will please me, which I hope in turn will please the important people in my life. I will hold my empathy and practice of giving back with love and compassion but will say good bye to the toxic people who don’t deserve my ‘love.
It was my carer’s last day with me today. She has been coming to help me for the last 3 years and is a wonderful cook. I will really miss her but I know it is time for her to move on and I wish her well. We intend to keep in touch. I hope whoever takes her place will be as kind, competent and caring as she is. And I hope I will be able to build the same kind of relationship with the new person.
This is a time of grief and hope. Do your best to honor both.
Some drawn-out financial struggles are wrapping up one by one. As frustrating and fearful as it has been at times, I just keep going. A door or window always opens, and I want to keep that mindset uppermost.
What is sending is my old way of thinking and some habits that don’t serve me well. I have had a life review of my “non-negotiables” – those things, people, activities in my life that bring me joy and a review of the “negotiables” – those things that do not bring me joy, are things I do “just because” or on “auto-pilot”. I have cleared space in my life for more joy, abundance, creativity and happiness. I am filled with such gratitude for being able to make this decision. I am grateful that this was brought into my heart and head and with no regrets. Bye Bye stuff.
An old way of thinking, of being. At my age, this is a challenge, but one I am willing to take on. I must remind myself daily with phrases of new ways of thinking. No matter how much time I have left, I want that change in my life. Tomorrow I have my last post op after three surgeries. Before that I have a physical. Pain is still there, but I need to find out why, and move on. Ram Dass has a meditation where he talks about your life as the sky, and things that are happening in your life as clouds, traveling through your life….I like that. Jack Kornfield has the same, as does Sharon Salzberg and Tara Brach. I like the different voices with that analogy. It is helpful for me. Holding what has happened, and what is happening to me and others- no matter where we are in life’s difficulties-in love and compassion would not be easy for me without these voices. May it be so. And I start again, and again, and again. Life is filled with endings, and for me, it is best if I hold them gently, release them, and look at the new beginnings.
I find listening to Ram Dass a great support to me too, Mary Pat xx
A close friend died recently. The relationship had already changed significantly, but I had hoped for a final conversation to “wrap it up”. I didn’t get that. So now I’m left with the great memories of a friendship that thrived, the ponderings over a friendship that had changed, and an unresolved conclusion to life with this person in it. Being a person who has had a certain number of birthdays, I know that time/life does indeed allow one to move on and not dwell on such matters on a daily basis. I guess I would best describe what I’m trying to do as “catch and release” as a way to live with love and compassion regarding this relationship. It seems to be working for now.
I have nothing ending at this present moment but I have experienced various endings throughout my lifetime. Some endings were difficult and took time for me to accept. I’ve learned that life is full time of endings and to accept that. Experiences and people have come and left and that is normal and part of living . We all change and what or who we accept now but not be acceptable because of those changes..
Holding an ending or pain with love and compassion doesn’t “heal” it…it doesn’t magically “go away”…. but I know that it somehow softens my soul. It actually softens the tension within me, too… My capacity to breathe is somehow enlarged. This question and some of our responses today helped me to focus not on the ending(s) themselves in my life right now, but in the response with which I can meet those endings.
The only thing permanent is change. I try to remember that.
My relationship with my daughter is changing. We used to talk (text) all day long. Now she doesn’t even answer my phone calls. She insists nothing is wrong. I guess she doesn’t need me as much any more. That’s a good thing, I suppose, but I miss her and sometimes I fear she’ll forget me altogether. I hold her with love in my heart and let her go. It’s painful, but it’s her choice and I must accept it.
My head is spinning at this question. May I change today’s question a little bit for myself and share it with you?
What is ending in your life now? How might you comfort yourself with love and compassion?
The “us” ended. Karel died, there is just “me”. I realize that every morning. That is very painful and I don’t want to embrace that feeling. I console myself with the knowledge that our souls are connected. That is a feeling of love and compassion for myself.
I cannot imagine the hole this leaves in your life. It is different for everyone. I have admired your openness and honesty with your feelings, and the journey you are on with us here. You are not alone.
Christine, I’m so very sorry for your loss and the pain it brings. Love is eternal, it is stronger than life. I wish peace and healing for you.
To be honest, I don’t see anything ending in my life at this moment. My life has been on an even keel. In fact I am more interested in what’s emerging, which are some new and somewhat uncomfortable insights about myself.
No class or homework for 6 weeks. My cup runneth over. I shall get myself to a coffee shop (starting today) to meet with some of my favorite people that I haven’t seen in forever….⭐️
I haven’t felt this light in many decades, Howie & I know it won’t last. So, I’m gonna try to bask in it. Meet ya at a coffee shop anytime….
Like how early I have come to a time in my life where I am working a job that is far beneath the executive skill set that I utilize the last 20 years of my career. However, it is humbling and it pays well. So, I Look to make the best of it and count my blessings which include the fun people that I work with
My work life. My industry (tourism) has taken such a body blow that the little work that is available is going to younger folks, and, while I am qualified to do a lot, I am afraid I am a bit long in the tooth as a candidate for a new hire. It isn’t that I don’t want to retire as much as I can’t retire in any sense of financial security. So I am being sunsetted as a ‘professional’ and, while I can, will make do as a ‘gig worker.’ It’s awesome as a humility building exercise, and the compassion I have for the vast majority of my peers who are in the same place is palpable. So being benched feels a bit like a blessing in that I can rest. The financial stress is real, threatening, but not something I haven’t had many times before. It’s a drought time. I can deal with that.
As a retired social worker and as a minister who has worked closely with people for fifty years in their time of need, I find today’s Daily Question potentially tone deaf and insensitive. As much as we would like to believe, not every life-challenge, hurt, or loss can be glossed over and declared “healed” with declarations of love and compassion. For many people, life is hard, and it hurts with seemingly no way out and whenever I come across what feels like ‘fluffy, pie in the sky’ rhetoric, it pains me for how I know it will land on the ears of people who suffer day in and day out.
Your response makes me think of all the people living in tent cities because they had to flee their war torn countries. HOw hard it must be for them to find hope.
Thanks for your perspective Kevin. The question misses the nuances in what pains us since it’s hard to pinpoint an end to suffering. It’s more like we learn to endure and walk with a limp.
So well put, Mike. Thanks.
Very well said Kevin. Pain and suffering are not trivial or always temporary. I will pray for the success of your ministry.
Gregoir, Thank you! Your words, as they say, have “feet” and will travel far!
No answer for today’s question.
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