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  1. Robin Ann
    Robin Ann
    1 week ago

    Tonight after going to a Celtic Xmas show in Boston. I am grateful for following this beautiful music and dance after I met my friend Mike. Brings me joy ☺️🍀

  2. Ose
    Ose
    1 week ago

    right now. Deeply grateful for all experiences of which some were very painful, it allowed for both developing abilities, compassion, trust, leading to believing that the light is always there no matter the pain or darkness to endure for some time. It made me becoming aware of my values for which i may go for in my life, it made me chose for being kind, honest, warmhearted, compassionate and caring for which i am deeply grateful to. being together in this spirit with kindred hearts and with every encounter; grateful for and towards the many dear ones on my earthly path who were so kind to help me onward when i needed help; deeply grateful for being allowed to go on the inner path as a choice of my heart, meaning doing what i am able to support others when in need; deeply grateful for learning to let go of hindering habits of mind and the incredible support, although sometimes painful. Deeply grateful to be able to give. Deeply grateful and happy to be allowed to live this lifel togehter with so many dear friends, you here, those I am currently with, those I meet regulary and I bow to all of you; and I would like to express from my heart my deep Thank you and deep gratefulness for being guided by Love, which we all are.. A mystery. Thank you dearly.

    1. sparrow51014
      sparrow
      1 week ago

      I too,
      am deeply grateful for you,
      dear Ose,
      and for your sharing heart. ♥

    2. Michele
      Michele
      1 week ago

      I thank you Ose for your wise words.

    3. Patti
      sunnypatti
      1 week ago

      Thank you as well, Ose 🙏🏼

    4. Mary
      Mary
      1 week ago

      Thank you for sharing your whole hearted love and gratefulness, dear Ose. I am grateful for you.

    5. Joseph
      Joseph McCann
      1 week ago

      I thank you dear Ose for that reflection.

  3. sparrow51014
    sparrow
    1 week ago

    I remember lines from children’s story long ago,
    where a very poor mother
    is gathering ingredients for a Christmas meal with her little daughter.
    As she peels the vegetables for a meager stew,
    she tells the child that
    “the onions will be gold,
    the carrots will be gold,
    and the potatoes will be ivory.”
    A great lesson I’ve tucked in my heart.
    I’ve been thinking about gratitude and happiness a lot lately . . .
    actively practicing gratitude
    has changed my life completely,
    and I am generally a happier person
    for it.
    What sustains me though,
    is a deep contentment,
    which I trust more than I trust happiness.
    Contentment fits me better . . .
    it lets me sit
    and soak it in,
    like a warm bath,
    lets it settle to my very depths
    and fill my whole being.

    I am thankful
    for my many gifts,
    when I can help someone feel better,
    for my house,
    which I never dreamed I would have
    in a million years,
    for the many cats who have slept with me
    and given me their love over many years now,
    for my husband,
    who I am more grateful for
    every single day.
    for water, food, warmth in winter,
    relatively good health,
    and of course the list is never-ending.
    All gratitude satisfies me,
    and I never need want for anything,
    ever again. ♥

    1. Mary
      Mary
      1 week ago

      Contentment feels deep and begins to satisfy my deep longing from within.
      It calms my nervousness and helps me to feel whole.
      Thank you Sparrow for bringing contentment into this conversation.
      I think it is really what we are all longing for. ♥️

      1. sparrow51014
        sparrow
        1 week ago

        Thank you for this response,
        dear Mary . . .
        I think so too. ♥

  4. Mary
    Mary
    1 week ago

    Many times. Sometimes I will be sitting on the sofa feeling sad. Then I will look to the right and see the staircase and then think about my home and the fact that I have a home. I’ll look around and see my furniture and think how well it has served me as well as family and friends who have gathered in my home. I will usually see a few of my four cats and immediately feel love and gratefulness for their sweetness as well as their persnicketiness. Yes, their persnicketiness, too. Lol
    I have much to feel grateful for and that does make me happy.
    Peace to all on this Saturday.

    1. Michele
      Michele
      1 week ago

      Persnicketiness is definitely a GREAT word to describe most cats, lol

    2. Joseph
      Joseph McCann
      1 week ago

      “persnicketiness” Love that word.

      “Persnicketiness” Great word Mary.

      1. Mary
        Mary
        1 week ago

        😊
        I have four cats, Joseph. One is very, very sweet.
        The other three while also very sweet, are quite persnickety.
        I agree that it’s a good word. My Mom used to use it a lot. ♥️

    3. sparrow51014
      sparrow
      1 week ago

      Me too,
      dear Mary.
      My father used it often. ♥

  5. Cathie
    Cathie
    1 week ago

    This reminds me of a post or word for the day I read here a while ago…joy is the emotion that doesn’t depend on happiness.
    Yet I do find when I am grateful, there is a deep sense of joy – and sometimes that produces a feeling of happiness too.

  6. pkr29022
    pkr
    1 week ago

    Many many years ago I read somewhere that happiness is a choice. This bit of wisdom resonated with me on a very deep level & stayed with me. I chose happiness in the midst of much turmoil in my marriage, in my life, in the world.
    I found having an “attitude of gratitude” contributed to my happiness.
    Being in a state of gratitude makes me happy.
    I have made a choice to be happy.
    And along with my happiness comes my gratitude for All.
    Being grateful & happy are my intentions.
    Thank you Br. David for your wisdom, kindness, compassion, generosity. 🙏🏻
    🕊️♥️

    1. Mary
      Mary
      1 week ago

      Thank you for bringing up choice, PKR.
      I have to be conscious that I have a choice.

    2. H
      Heatherhoney
      1 week ago

      I love what you’ve written here. A long time ago I also had to redefine my definition of happiness. Was it the same for you?

      1. pkr29022
        pkr
        1 week ago

        Yes, Heatherhoney I too had to redefine what happiness meant to me. It was not what my parents, my elders, what society had told me it was. I am responsible for my own happiness.
        All the best to you. I wish you Joy, Love & Happiness. ♥️
        Peace….

  7. Yram
    Yram
    1 week ago

    I get so much more out of the dwarf “happy” instead of “grumpy.”. Is there a grateful dwarf? Maybe the 8th one?

    1. Michele
      Michele
      1 week ago

      if there were, they would have to be wearing a Grateful Dead shirt 🤣

      1. Joseph
        Joseph McCann
        7 days ago

        Sounds about right!

      2. sparrow51014
        sparrow
        1 week ago

        🙂

    2. Joseph
      Joseph McCann
      1 week ago

      Gave me a good chuckle dear Yram. Thank you.

    3. Mary
      Mary
      1 week ago

      😂 Love this, Yram! 🥰 Lol

    4. Cathie
      Cathie
      1 week ago

      😂 made me giggle – thank you!

      1. Mary
        Mary
        1 week ago

        Me too, Cathie. 😄

    5. sparrow51014
      sparrow
      1 week ago

      🙂

    6. H
      Heatherhoney
      1 week ago

      Lol…love this idea!!!

  8. Barb C
    Barb C
    1 week ago

    Something about this question makes me feel as if there’s an expectation that gratitude leads to happiness. Gratefulness is what it is, for its own sake. It doesn’t have to produce anything..

    Sometimes my gratefulness is on the quiet side. This morning I’m grateful for fresh, hot coffee that my sweetheart made for me in our usual routine. I didn’t move to, “Oh, I’m happy!”; I sat with the appreciation.

    If I’m outdoors and feeling grateful for the beauty around me I often feel an uplift of energy. That’s as much from being outside and paying attention as it is from gratefulness directly. Things that I note as moments of delight are delightful for me with or without a specific pause for gratitude.

    The other day I saw an eagle soar overhead. I’m so grateful to live where bald eagles fly and yes, seeing one makes me happy. And today being Saturday makes me feel both grateful and happy for sure. I have the gift of time.

    1. sparrow51014
      sparrow
      1 week ago

      I feel in a similar way,
      dear Barb,
      and don’t count ‘happy’ as a goal anymore.
      Maybe I’m getting old,
      but I’m quite settled in being content. ♥

      1. Mary
        Mary
        1 week ago

        I think feeling content is more important, more lasting. Although given the choice, I choose both. 😊

        1. sparrow51014
          sparrow
          1 week ago

          I think that those of us who have pondered happiness vs. joy vs contentment
          have different ideas of what happiness is,
          dear Mary..
          For me,
          happiness is a little giddy,
          and I do not like feeling giddy. 😉

  9. Carol Ann Conner
    Carol Ann Conner
    1 week ago

    When I read today’s question, I thought I don’t know that gratefulness has ever made me happy. I say that because for me, happy has never been an easy word to define. I lean more toward the word, joy. Gratefulness has helped me to find myself filled with joy from time to time but mostly gratefulness has helped me stop fighting and fleeing from what is. I read this meditation from Miribai Starr this morning on Richard Rohr’s site and I found myself smiling, feeling real, being grateful for the “Yes” gratefulness has brought into my life. 🙂

    Saying Yes to Our Lives
    Mirabai Starr recounts how she came to say yes to God in her life as it is instead of how she imagined it should be:

    All my life, I have been enamored of the God-intoxicated ones. Those rarified souls who slip into ecstatic states and spontaneously utter poetry. The ones who exude deep stillness, embody equanimity, listen more than they speak. The initiated and the ordained, the monastics…. I wanted to be one of them. Until I didn’t.

    I want you not to want that as well…. I want you to want to be exactly who you are: a true human person doing their best to show up for this fleeting life with a measure of grace, with kindness and a sense of humor, with curiosity and a willingness to not have all the answers, with reverence for life.

    You do not need to chant all night in a temple in the Himalayas. You don’t have to be the newest incarnation of Mary Magdalene. It is not necessary to read or write spiritual books. You are not required to know the difference between Mahayana and Theravada Buddhism or memorize the Beatitudes. All you have to do to walk the path of the ordinary mystic is to cultivate a gaze of wonder and step onto the road. Keep walking. Rest up, and walk again. Fall down, get up, walk on. Pay attention to the landscape. To the ways it changes and the ways it stays the same. Be alert to surprises and turn with the turning of the seasons. Honor your body, train your mind, and keep your heart open against all odds. Say yes to what is, even when it is uncomfortable or embarrassing or heartbreaking. Hurl your handful of yes into the treetops and then lift your face as the rain of yes drops its grace all over you, all around you, and settles deep inside you.
    Reference: Mirabai Starr, Ordinary Mysticism: Your Life as Sacred Ground (HarperOne, 2024), 214–215.

    1. Michele
      Michele
      1 week ago

      Thank you – I needed this. I have not been walking for a very long time now. I need to do this for my health and well-being.

    2. Joseph
      Joseph McCann
      1 week ago

      Thank you for this “Saying Yes to Our Lives”, Carol Ann.

    3. Kelli Smith
      Kelli Lynn
      1 week ago

      I am truly just pondering out load here… but I have noticed that several responses today are struggling with the “happy”… I know I almost discarded it for the day when I first read happy.
      Are we not allowing ourselves to be happy? Why are we uncomfortable with happy on deep level? Is being happy being too much? I am sure we wish for others to be happy. But are not able or allowing to be happy within ourselves?

      1. sparrow51014
        sparrow
        1 week ago

        I think,
        dear Kelli Lynn,
        that we all make have different takes
        on what ‘happy’ means to us . . .
        some like ‘joy’ . . .
        I like ‘contentment’.
        Contentment is happy for me,
        but without the noise.
        My contentment is pretty quiet. 😉

      2. Carol Ann Conner
        Carol Ann Conner
        1 week ago

        Kelli Lynn, I found Joseph’s answer that defined happiness and I paraphrase..’.happiness is when we stop striving for happiness…’Maybe, many of us just don’t want to be disappointed and find chasing happiness not very productive.

        1. sparrow51014
          sparrow
          1 week ago

          I think I was trying to say something along these lines,
          dear Carol Ann,
          when I responded to Barb’s post.
          Thank you for posting this here. ♥

    4. H
      Heatherhoney
      1 week ago

      Wow! Thank you. I am going to read this a few times. Your words are packed with wisdom

    5. Yram
      Yram
      1 week ago

      I saw her in person a few years back. She definitely lives this. Thank you for posting it..

    6. Barb C
      Barb C
      1 week ago

      What a wonderful piece. Thank you for sharing it, Carol Ann.

      1. Carol Ann Conner
        Carol Ann Conner
        1 week ago

        Barb, You are most welcome…It is one of the most helpful and life-giving things I’ve read recently.

    7. Charlie T
      Charlie T
      1 week ago

      Carol Ann, this is so good. It definitely reminds me of when I started to say yes. When I stopped resisting. When things started to open up for me. Catching myself automatically saying no or that’s not for me, and questioning my motives behind the resistance.
      I appreciate, and have benefited from, the inspiration that you offer here. 🙏

      1. L
        Loc Tran
        1 week ago

        Charlie, it’s just like me with looking past my agendas to protect my basic desire for autonomy and learning to trust my root people more.

  10. Charlie T
    Charlie T
    1 week ago

    I remember meditating on water and being grateful for the easy access of clean water. Then as I kept at it, I was reminded of swimming in a lake. Being surrounded by water. Floating. And then I remember swimming in a beautiful river. The temperature was perfect. It felt so good. And then I remembered playing in the sprinkler on a super hot day. This made me smile.
    What started as simple gratitude practice, became a feeling of playfulness and happiness.
    This was early, in my gratitude practice. This may have been when I really felt the immediate impact of this practice. Until then, I was just kinda taking the steps and not really noticing much difference. This experience has stuck with me and kept me on this path.

    1. Michele
      Michele
      1 week ago

      Charlie your memories brought a smile – I would love to swim in a beautiful river and then I remembered I had canoed down Rainbow River in Dunnellon, FL. Absolutely gorgeous clear water – def need to go again. I also did a float spa which was cool, would do that again.

    2. sparrow51014
      sparrow
      1 week ago

      Ah Charlie . . .
      you never fail to please . . . 🙂

    3. Cathie
      Cathie
      1 week ago

      I enjoyed your memories and how your dominoes fell to link the 2 feelings☺️thank you for a visible connection.

    4. L
      Loc Tran
      1 week ago

      Charlie, this reminds me that I go swimming at LA fitness everyday. It makes me grateful to have a place for exercising to burn down calories helping me with my type 2 diabetes.

    5. Carol Ann Conner
      Carol Ann Conner
      1 week ago

      “…a feeling of playfulness and happiness.” Your post brings me joy, dear Charlie.

  11. H
    Heatherhoney
    1 week ago

    Once again- some inspiring reflections here for my learning benefit. Thank you for taking the time to put your knowledge and experience into words. A Grateful attitude is MAGIC. Absolutely magic. It amazes me everytime I choose it and I’ll be 100 💯 honest- its not always. But I do catch myself faster and faster. For me, It turns an unhappy marriage into a blissful one, a stressful career into a lucky choice, a worrisome adult child into a capable man finding his way among just a few. My gratitude is also contagious as I watch it effecting those around me. Yesterday, we got an expensive ticket – we were actually conned by the police officer. The entire row of cars were speeding but the officer chose our car . He gave us a choice- 1) he takes my husband’s license and we pay the 2600 peso fine in court on Monday to get the license back. We would have to abandon our vehicle or have towed. Or 2)we could give the officer 1500 peso and go on our way. My husband was terribly upset, feeling like life had the odds against him (over the last week, a few things went wrong) I don’t know if this is being Grateful but I just couldn’t stay bitter longer than a couple of seconds against this policeman. I kept thinking – What if he spends that money on his family at Christmas? How wonderful! I also thought – that it is wonderful that this will slow my husband down even if only for today and I won’t have to “nag”. Have a wonderful day today my Grateful gurus and I am going to stay in the slow lane – thats where all the beauty can be seen.

    1. Joseph
      Joseph McCann
      1 week ago

      Talk about a speed trap. Handled wisely.

    2. Carol Ann Conner
      Carol Ann Conner
      1 week ago

      Heather, Your response to today’s question is very helpful to me. It says so much about forsaking judgment, accepting what is, placing our egoic mind in our heart. Thank you.

  12. D
    Drea
    1 week ago

    When I can stop-look-go, I forget about what was making me unhappy and shift gears to feeling happy.

  13. Michele
    Michele
    1 week ago

    Gratefulness always makes me happy and also thankful too.

    Enjoy the weekend everyone.

    1. Carol Ann Conner
      Carol Ann Conner
      1 week ago

      Michele, Your powerful, caring, compassionate energy travels over the miles to my door daily. I give thanks for you.

      1. Michele
        Michele
        1 week ago

        awww Thank you Carol! 🤗virtual hugs to you! I wish we could all meet up someday.

      2. Joseph
        Joseph McCann
        1 week ago

        I wholeheartedly agree.

        1. Michele
          Michele
          1 week ago

          🤗hugs to you too Joseph! Like I said to Carol, I wish we could all meet up one day. Maybe Grateful.org could host something yearly to offer that…

          1. Mary
            Mary
            1 week ago

            That would be nice. It would have to be organized in some way.
            Jenifer tried to set it up last year, but I don’t think there was much of a response.

  14. Carla
    Carla
    1 week ago

    When I see a crisp blue sky on a wintery day I’m grateful and a happy grin covers my face. It’s a paradox as I know those blue skies mean the temps are minus X iand there’s probably a wind chill! LOL. After 30+ years in MN I’ve learned to just add more clothes. Have a cozy warm restful weekend all. 🌬️☮️

    1. Yram
      Yram
      1 week ago

      Very cold here in WI also. You are so right about layering clothing. I even find a scarf and a hat keep me warm in the house.

    2. L
      Loc Tran
      1 week ago

      Carla, it’s a real winter here in Minnesota this year. A white Christmas is set and stone.

      1. Carla
        Carla
        1 week ago

        😄yes we’ll be having a very white snowy Christmas here in MN. I pray for those with no shelter from this cold.

    3. Carol Ann Conner
      Carol Ann Conner
      1 week ago

      Carla, It’s suppose to get to 40 degrees today in Kansas and I’m so excited! Can you tell that I lived in the deep south most of my adult life???

      1. Carla
        Carla
        1 week ago

        I’m laughing, for I won’t see temps in the 40’s for quite a while this Dec and Jan. My t-shirts are still making their way to a back closet shelf. Enjoy your warmer temps 😉

  15. D
    Deann
    1 week ago

    Gratefulness is making me happy right now. Life has its problems but I look upon my Christmas tree filled with ornaments of love, memories and faith and even through some sad nostalgia of lost ones my heart is so full of gratefulness and happiness I feel it smiling.

    1. Michele
      Michele
      1 week ago

      I set up my Christmas tree yesterday – love looking at the lights and thinking about each ornament and its meaning. 🎄

    2. Carol Ann Conner
      Carol Ann Conner
      1 week ago

      DeAnn, You’ve tapped a bunch of childhood memories of Christmas trees for me. Mama always had to buy the tree when they had been marked half price and were a bit droopy! But, we decorated it together as a family with such love.

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