We took a “bird personality” test recently (Dove, Eagel, Owl and peacock) and we had a 3 hour meeting today about it. I have taken this in the past maybe 5 years ago before practicing gratefulness. I feel like I am more aware now of different personality types and appreciate their differences more then the last time I did this type of training. I love how this site really makes you think and explore allowing me to deepen my relationships : )
I haven’t been doing enough of that recently. Dealing with my husband’s illness and recent move to assisted living, I am focusing too much on the fear and “what-ifs” of the situation. I am going to practice today making a shift to being grateful for his care and the kind people who work there,. Thank you all for being here.
Linda, Thank you for your answer…it has also helped me. I had a heart attack in June and have often found myself full of anxiety and “what if’s” Feelings and emotions coming from fear and anxiety. Now, I realize that when I am grateful for all the care I received….my fear changes to thankfulness. Blessings to you and strength on your new journey.
Your answer helped me Linda. My Mom is having a hard time adjusting to the ALF my husband and I just moved her into. I will try to be more loving and grateful for her. I too have been coming from fear and worry.
Practicing gratefulness helps me build in pauses when I might instead have responded hastily and I verbalize my appreciation more often. This is especially valuable in my relationship with my husband. Since I work from home we’re around each other much more than we used to be and that can lead to small irritations piling up (for both of us!). If I’ve said thank you for things he does that I’m grateful for–that first cup of coffee in the morning, all the things he does to run our home and improve it, a walk together in the sunshine, a hug when I need one–then a small irritant isn’t as irritating.
It has also shaped my approach to the people on the team I lead. Periodically I tell people on my team just how much I appreciate working with them. They always respond with warmth; they may know they’re recognized and appreciated but hearing it out loud matters. Quite a while ago I added a “kudos” section to our staff meeting agenda. I invite people to add their thanks for others whether they’re on our team or not. It can be for anything large or small. If they’re in some other part of my agency I send a thank-you note to the person and cc their supervisor. I feel their gratitude in the replies that come back, both from the person we’re recognizing and from supervisors who like hearing that their people are appreciated for their good work.
Practicing gratefulness also contributes to my mindfulness practice and deepens my relationship to the world around me, whether it’s the built or natural environment.
Thank you all for being here and creating community. I’m grateful for all of you and the people who make this site possible.
When I have taken the time to write someone a note about something that I appreciate about them or that I am grateful for that they have done or given me; I almost always have gotten a warm response in return and a feeling of a deepening of the relationship. When I am feeling resentful towards someone, bringing to mind the things they have done in the past that I am grateful for helps to soften the resentment and put it into perspective. If I am preparing to interact with someone in a conflict situation, bringing to mind the things I appreciate about that person before going into the interaction helps me to bring a different energy to the interaction. I think that in some ways, thinking of what I appreciate about someone also gives me courage to go through conflict with that person rather than smoothing things over and pretending that nothing is wrong. That in turn helps to deepen my relationship with that person.
I think it has deepened my relationship with myself the most because it has led me to greater self awareness. It also makes me more tolerant and accepting of others. For example, I can see the goodness in those whose religious or political beliefs are very different from mine. This has led to friendships outside of my comfort zone. Gratefulness has made me more vulnerable in a good way because at the same time, I am stronger, more willing to go with the flow, more compassionate with others and myself–more present.
Carol, THANK YOU!!!! Your comment “makes me more tolerant and accepting of others, I can see the goodness in those whose religious or political beliefs are very different than mine”…WOW!! My husband and I share vastly different political views and very often our thoughts on faith….I love my husband with all my heart and I knew when we married that we were not politically aligned…we both had second thoughts about marriage!! But he is my best friend and how foolish to let politics or religion come between us….we have each other and our thoughts on each can be independent. God Bless You, Carol! Thank you for your well thought out responses and feelings. You are very much appreciated.
Having a gratitude practice has helped me love myself more, appreciating this great gift of life I have been given. Being able to love myself more than I ever did in the past has helped me love others more, from family to friends and also customers and just people in passing. When my relationship with me was strengthened, that is when I met my soulmate and now husband. This site has helped with all of that, and sharing and reading thoughts here with all of you has been an integral part of the journey as well. Thank you all!
Practicing gratefulness has helped me in my relationship with myself….knowing that my life is sacred and each minute is a gift. I remember to say Thank You for my day and all that happened in it. I do not take my relationships with my husband or family members for granted….and for each of you that come here. I stop and say Thank You to God and to the Universe.
For me, I am appreciative of the moments I have with others. I am able to soften and feel a sense of ease, knowing what matters is right in front of me. I have felt alone since I was a little girl and have isolated myself throughout the years. As I’ve gotten older, I have made a conscious effort to deepen my relationships by allowing love in. It’s been a beautiful experience to say the least for that I am grateful. 🧡
Gratefulness has allowed me to appreciate the true gifts people are in my life. It has allowed me to find grace during turbulent moments and helped me pause and be thankful that there are lessons and growth in both the loving/ precious relationships and the stressful/trying ones as well.
Not going alone is the main advice I take from Paw Mu concerning people. The people she advised me to stay closest to from my: family, elders, and culture have become my default audience. Tayloring my style to better suit them allows me to be apart of something bigger while still expanding upon my Project 9X advocacy project. Long range intuitive models shift Project 9X to the right based upon the strengthening of my default audiences evidenced by the unanimous positive reactions to my posts on Facebook.
I have indicated before that one doesn’t need a specific system to succeed if they’re comfortable in their own skin. Not everything is or should be considered discrimination. Using standardized methods on me without consideration is discrimination. Informing me of other ways to do things is care. Discomfort and discrimination look similar in modern times.
Traditional values help me control ambition preventing me from taking on responsibilities beyond my capacity. Diversity, inclusion, simplicity, and honesty are the core values of Project 9X creating the DISH ackrynum highlighting the importance of the assist.
I took Business English in my 2nd semester of my senior year of high school. We had a classwork assignment on 10 tips for going to college every Thursday. My classmate/high school best bro, Kyle Wheeler, came up with a trademark line of “I will pass before I shoot” which ends up becoming the Project 9X slogan.
The slogan played a pivital role in the Warriors dynasty evidenced by the way they move the ball and generated 3s at a blistering rate. LeBron is certainly a pass-first small forward. With my 2 role models and Project 9X inspiration coming from LeBron and Steph Curry, I have LeBrocurry. It’s LeBron+Loc+Curry.
No problem, Deann. Hypersensitivity is a common problem out there. Been there, done that. We have a lot of 1st world problems. I love how EJP preaches simplicity, and it’s reflective in those responses. We make things more complicated than they need to be.
While practicing gratefulness I try to stay focused on the Present. I am more grounded and mindful. I love everything about this site – the people who participate, the candles, the E-cards, the daily question. My relationships are the better because of it.
Thank you- I am profoundly grateful for this site.
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We took a “bird personality” test recently (Dove, Eagel, Owl and peacock) and we had a 3 hour meeting today about it. I have taken this in the past maybe 5 years ago before practicing gratefulness. I feel like I am more aware now of different personality types and appreciate their differences more then the last time I did this type of training. I love how this site really makes you think and explore allowing me to deepen my relationships : )
I haven’t been doing enough of that recently. Dealing with my husband’s illness and recent move to assisted living, I am focusing too much on the fear and “what-ifs” of the situation. I am going to practice today making a shift to being grateful for his care and the kind people who work there,. Thank you all for being here.
You helped me also. I awoke during the night really fearful.
I wish you peace, Yram.
Linda, Thank you for your answer…it has also helped me. I had a heart attack in June and have often found myself full of anxiety and “what if’s” Feelings and emotions coming from fear and anxiety. Now, I realize that when I am grateful for all the care I received….my fear changes to thankfulness. Blessings to you and strength on your new journey.
I wish you peace and the joy on this healing path, Nannette.
Your answer helped me Linda. My Mom is having a hard time adjusting to the ALF my husband and I just moved her into. I will try to be more loving and grateful for her. I too have been coming from fear and worry.
Thank you, Mary. I understand. Every emotion comes into play during this time.
Practicing gratefulness helps me build in pauses when I might instead have responded hastily and I verbalize my appreciation more often. This is especially valuable in my relationship with my husband. Since I work from home we’re around each other much more than we used to be and that can lead to small irritations piling up (for both of us!). If I’ve said thank you for things he does that I’m grateful for–that first cup of coffee in the morning, all the things he does to run our home and improve it, a walk together in the sunshine, a hug when I need one–then a small irritant isn’t as irritating.
It has also shaped my approach to the people on the team I lead. Periodically I tell people on my team just how much I appreciate working with them. They always respond with warmth; they may know they’re recognized and appreciated but hearing it out loud matters. Quite a while ago I added a “kudos” section to our staff meeting agenda. I invite people to add their thanks for others whether they’re on our team or not. It can be for anything large or small. If they’re in some other part of my agency I send a thank-you note to the person and cc their supervisor. I feel their gratitude in the replies that come back, both from the person we’re recognizing and from supervisors who like hearing that their people are appreciated for their good work.
Practicing gratefulness also contributes to my mindfulness practice and deepens my relationship to the world around me, whether it’s the built or natural environment.
Thank you all for being here and creating community. I’m grateful for all of you and the people who make this site possible.
Practicing gratefulness has helped me be more balanced, and I think this is helpful in all situations, including relationships.
When I have taken the time to write someone a note about something that I appreciate about them or that I am grateful for that they have done or given me; I almost always have gotten a warm response in return and a feeling of a deepening of the relationship. When I am feeling resentful towards someone, bringing to mind the things they have done in the past that I am grateful for helps to soften the resentment and put it into perspective. If I am preparing to interact with someone in a conflict situation, bringing to mind the things I appreciate about that person before going into the interaction helps me to bring a different energy to the interaction. I think that in some ways, thinking of what I appreciate about someone also gives me courage to go through conflict with that person rather than smoothing things over and pretending that nothing is wrong. That in turn helps to deepen my relationship with that person.
This is all so loving, wise, and insightful Elizabeth.
“Blessed are the peacemakers for they shall see, God,” comes to mind.
As Nanette, Sunnipatti, and Carol articulated so well – gratefulness continues to help me deepen my relationship with myself. 💜
Well said, Lauryn. It starts and ends with a relationship with ourselves. If we can’t love ourselves, we won’t be able to love someone else.
Like many of you, the relationship with self has deepen.
I, also feel I have a better relationship with the process of life and its flow.
I think it has deepened my relationship with myself the most because it has led me to greater self awareness. It also makes me more tolerant and accepting of others. For example, I can see the goodness in those whose religious or political beliefs are very different from mine. This has led to friendships outside of my comfort zone. Gratefulness has made me more vulnerable in a good way because at the same time, I am stronger, more willing to go with the flow, more compassionate with others and myself–more present.
Carol, THANK YOU!!!! Your comment “makes me more tolerant and accepting of others, I can see the goodness in those whose religious or political beliefs are very different than mine”…WOW!! My husband and I share vastly different political views and very often our thoughts on faith….I love my husband with all my heart and I knew when we married that we were not politically aligned…we both had second thoughts about marriage!! But he is my best friend and how foolish to let politics or religion come between us….we have each other and our thoughts on each can be independent. God Bless You, Carol! Thank you for your well thought out responses and feelings. You are very much appreciated.
Thank you for sharing, Nannette. I deeply appreciate your presence on this site.
Having a gratitude practice has helped me love myself more, appreciating this great gift of life I have been given. Being able to love myself more than I ever did in the past has helped me love others more, from family to friends and also customers and just people in passing. When my relationship with me was strengthened, that is when I met my soulmate and now husband. This site has helped with all of that, and sharing and reading thoughts here with all of you has been an integral part of the journey as well. Thank you all!
Practicing gratefulness has helped me in my relationship with myself….knowing that my life is sacred and each minute is a gift. I remember to say Thank You for my day and all that happened in it. I do not take my relationships with my husband or family members for granted….and for each of you that come here. I stop and say Thank You to God and to the Universe.
For me, I am appreciative of the moments I have with others. I am able to soften and feel a sense of ease, knowing what matters is right in front of me. I have felt alone since I was a little girl and have isolated myself throughout the years. As I’ve gotten older, I have made a conscious effort to deepen my relationships by allowing love in. It’s been a beautiful experience to say the least for that I am grateful. 🧡
Me too. I feel the same way 💜
Gratefulness has allowed me to appreciate the true gifts people are in my life. It has allowed me to find grace during turbulent moments and helped me pause and be thankful that there are lessons and growth in both the loving/ precious relationships and the stressful/trying ones as well.
Practicing gratefulness opens my heart and soul in all my relationships, creating new perspectives and deeper respect.
Not going alone is the main advice I take from Paw Mu concerning people. The people she advised me to stay closest to from my: family, elders, and culture have become my default audience. Tayloring my style to better suit them allows me to be apart of something bigger while still expanding upon my Project 9X advocacy project. Long range intuitive models shift Project 9X to the right based upon the strengthening of my default audiences evidenced by the unanimous positive reactions to my posts on Facebook.
I have indicated before that one doesn’t need a specific system to succeed if they’re comfortable in their own skin. Not everything is or should be considered discrimination. Using standardized methods on me without consideration is discrimination. Informing me of other ways to do things is care. Discomfort and discrimination look similar in modern times.
Traditional values help me control ambition preventing me from taking on responsibilities beyond my capacity. Diversity, inclusion, simplicity, and honesty are the core values of Project 9X creating the DISH ackrynum highlighting the importance of the assist.
I took Business English in my 2nd semester of my senior year of high school. We had a classwork assignment on 10 tips for going to college every Thursday. My classmate/high school best bro, Kyle Wheeler, came up with a trademark line of “I will pass before I shoot” which ends up becoming the Project 9X slogan.
The slogan played a pivital role in the Warriors dynasty evidenced by the way they move the ball and generated 3s at a blistering rate. LeBron is certainly a pass-first small forward. With my 2 role models and Project 9X inspiration coming from LeBron and Steph Curry, I have LeBrocurry. It’s LeBron+Loc+Curry.
There are many pearls of wisdom in your sharing, Loc Tran. Thank you.
No problem, Mary.
“That one does not need a specific system to succeed if they are comfortable in their own skin.” Thank you for these words!
No problem, Deann. Hypersensitivity is a common problem out there. Been there, done that. We have a lot of 1st world problems. I love how EJP preaches simplicity, and it’s reflective in those responses. We make things more complicated than they need to be.
While practicing gratefulness I try to stay focused on the Present. I am more grounded and mindful. I love everything about this site – the people who participate, the candles, the E-cards, the daily question. My relationships are the better because of it.
Thank you- I am profoundly grateful for this site.