I could start by accepting that I don’t want to accept. For example, my mind goes into worry about certain things. So ok I worry- I accept that and let it go.
The more I let go the more I accept.
There is a kind of identification with and a sense of entitlement of deserving something different than what is which almost needs to call for acceptance of the opposite. And probably underlying anger is accompanying this false inner perspective. Thank you dearly for all your contributions to understand at least part of the current situation. To let go of this false perspective is a must, which leads to acceptance of what is. and what is not. I am very sad and very sorry to have caused such a mess and pain to those concerned. Wishing you a blessed day.
Very interesting timing for this question in my world. I’m not willing to invite any acceptance into the current national situation in the US. I may endure and deal with reality but that’s not acceptance of the situation.
I work in state government and we’re facing deep budget cuts. I need to provide stability and calm for my team and help us all stay committed to our values and delivering what we can with what we have. That’s a form of acceptance, I guess. I also need to go to bat for what can come out better for us in the context of the agency’s values and priorities that I need to accept. I feel very fortunate to be in a state with a governor who’s standing up for the rights of all. If I lived in a state that was going along with harmful decisions at the national level I’d definitely not be accepting of any of it.
The strange thing about govt. budget cuts, hiring freezes, and layoffs is that generally they are the result of less tax revenue. That is then blamed on no to very slow economic growth. And the 24-dollar (inflation😊) answer to that…….promote more growth and more tax dollars will roll in. Ouroboros syndrome.
Well, the first thing I do is pause (or as Br. David says, stop). I go to prayer too. Deeper prayer. More often. Then I dedicate attention to the discernment process followed by St. Ignatius of Loyola. It’s such a helpful tool for me, especially if the question is a tough one, which usually boils down to where I can be of the best use to God and my fellows. That answer is always hard to sort out. It is often hard to see that I’m doing God’s will when I don’t see any results. I know that often I don’t get to see results. So I just stick with the practice of discerning until I either see another door open or find acceptance with where I am now. But I try not to bolt. Jump the tracks before I know which way I’m meant to go.
At Mass today Father mentioned that a Parishioner gave him a gratitude journal. I thought that was interesting. He is feeling his own burdens now taking on administration of another church and the Pope being ill and the state of affairs in the world. He mentioned to the parish he would like to bring this to light the next 40 day of lent for everyone that would like to participate. At work employees are worried about the future of our company. Two people were recently let go and it was mentioned in an email about our Respectful policy not being followed. I also think of retiring in 2 to 3 years but will social security still be the same as now. and Medicare. It is a lot but as Father said we always have something to be grateful for. At work on Friday our VP of our division gave us $250 gift cards out of the blue. I guess she just wants to make a statement that she is grateful for her team in these uncertain times.
Anger seems to be mentioned a lot today.
A few days ago
I mentioned a book . . .
‘The Dance of Anger’,
by Harriet Lerner.
It was helpful to me
and maybe it can be helpful for you. ♥
Surrender, give it up to the Divine.
Pray that I be guided in the right direction.
Stay in the present moment & as someone already wrote don’t make it a bigger situation/problem than it is.
Trust…All is well & All will be well. ❤️✨🙏🏻
well – my response to this question is still a bit fuzzy…. but I think I am getting on to something to wonder about the concept of
“self-righteous indignation”. Do I employ it out of old habit that was taught to me or modeled for me and does not serve me now? What is it? How do I fall in to it? What does it serve? If it does not reflect being the person I most want to be, -how I want to feel or how i want to experience myself being- then what is underneath it? How do I want to be responding, and can I put a check onto “self righteous indignation” by recognizing it and pausing long enough to find a deeper layer of responding to a situation in front of me? I will ponder this today. Ponder, hope, and pause!🤞🙏
Hoping for a precious day for all today, Community.
thank you, Drea – I like your wording. “insidious emotion”. that identification is appreciated. And I like the concept of coming to “discovery” as I spend time with this. thank you very much for your input.
First I turn to faith to help accept a situation. Faith that “this too shall pass”, faith that there is a lesson to help me grow, faith that closing doors lead me in the correct direction. Faith that God is with me.
I think it was Carol who reminded me earlier this week to ask what I can learn instead of why. This also helps with acceptance.
I like how Carol said to remember that it’s a situation rather than a problem. Asking how we might invite greater acceptance makes it seem like the situation is probably not the most positive… but it’s life, and we all deal with stuff. I identify with Joseph’s post today, as my husband has similar thought patterns. I invite greater acceptance by remembering my studies and knowing that I cannot change anyone but myself. Konrad does want to be more trusting (of the universe, the process, etc) and more in the now, but it takes time to change a pattern that is inherent. I accept and love that he has recognized these things and is taking steps to change them. And I can invite even more acceptance by being patient and not forcing my own thoughts and ideas onto him when there is a situation at hand.
I’m working on it. Although it seems to be a life long process. My goal of seeing things as they are and not how I wish or want them to be, is a daily practice. It’s a tricky balance to accept the current situation, yet still push for change at the same time. Now that I’m thinking about it, acceptance is the first step for change. Without this, I am stuck.
Charlie, I hear you. To me, opening towards acceptance can feel like a vomity, putrid can of worms and I’d rather shut down. But I feel like the only way to grow stronger is to go towards the feelings, so I try to titrate my exposure. It’s a big and ongoing task.
Timely question, indeed.
With so much escalating tumult in our country & world, my daily practice now includes focused recitation of the Serenity prayer….
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things
I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can & the wisdom to know the difference…” The rest of this prayer helps me stay in the moment. Namaste, all.
This weekend I took a long 13+ hour road trip with someone I didn’t know very well. Goal was to attend a spirituality conference. The “rules of the road” kept changing as we drove which became more awkward and challenging to endure. I worked on having a pleasant attitude. I also purchased separate rooms at our destination to give myself “space.” I’ve been led to ask someone else for a ride back to our destination. The individual still maintained a demanding attitude, but didn’t want to talk through anything. I’m grateful for texting! I put info into writing and I found a new ride back. Once I made decisions for “me,” I was fine, though costs for the trip were higher than I anticipated. Reality is I couldn’t “afford” the alternative and my body, mind, spirit, feel freer for action I’ll be taking. Good Sunday wishes to all! ☀️
Way to take care of your precious mind, body, and spirit, Carla. And good for you for trying out a situation and having the courage to change it when you realized there might be a better way.🩷
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I could start by accepting that I don’t want to accept. For example, my mind goes into worry about certain things. So ok I worry- I accept that and let it go.
The more I let go the more I accept.
There is a kind of identification with and a sense of entitlement of deserving something different than what is which almost needs to call for acceptance of the opposite. And probably underlying anger is accompanying this false inner perspective. Thank you dearly for all your contributions to understand at least part of the current situation. To let go of this false perspective is a must, which leads to acceptance of what is. and what is not. I am very sad and very sorry to have caused such a mess and pain to those concerned. Wishing you a blessed day.
Very interesting timing for this question in my world. I’m not willing to invite any acceptance into the current national situation in the US. I may endure and deal with reality but that’s not acceptance of the situation.
I work in state government and we’re facing deep budget cuts. I need to provide stability and calm for my team and help us all stay committed to our values and delivering what we can with what we have. That’s a form of acceptance, I guess. I also need to go to bat for what can come out better for us in the context of the agency’s values and priorities that I need to accept. I feel very fortunate to be in a state with a governor who’s standing up for the rights of all. If I lived in a state that was going along with harmful decisions at the national level I’d definitely not be accepting of any of it.
The strange thing about govt. budget cuts, hiring freezes, and layoffs is that generally they are the result of less tax revenue. That is then blamed on no to very slow economic growth. And the 24-dollar (inflation😊) answer to that…….promote more growth and more tax dollars will roll in. Ouroboros syndrome.
Well, the first thing I do is pause (or as Br. David says, stop). I go to prayer too. Deeper prayer. More often. Then I dedicate attention to the discernment process followed by St. Ignatius of Loyola. It’s such a helpful tool for me, especially if the question is a tough one, which usually boils down to where I can be of the best use to God and my fellows. That answer is always hard to sort out. It is often hard to see that I’m doing God’s will when I don’t see any results. I know that often I don’t get to see results. So I just stick with the practice of discerning until I either see another door open or find acceptance with where I am now. But I try not to bolt. Jump the tracks before I know which way I’m meant to go.
At Mass today Father mentioned that a Parishioner gave him a gratitude journal. I thought that was interesting. He is feeling his own burdens now taking on administration of another church and the Pope being ill and the state of affairs in the world. He mentioned to the parish he would like to bring this to light the next 40 day of lent for everyone that would like to participate. At work employees are worried about the future of our company. Two people were recently let go and it was mentioned in an email about our Respectful policy not being followed. I also think of retiring in 2 to 3 years but will social security still be the same as now. and Medicare. It is a lot but as Father said we always have something to be grateful for. At work on Friday our VP of our division gave us $250 gift cards out of the blue. I guess she just wants to make a statement that she is grateful for her team in these uncertain times.
By accepting what is, rather than how I want it to be. There are hidden gifts in acceptance.
Holding you and your husband in a sacred place. We are soul partners in our similar situations.
Anger seems to be mentioned a lot today.
A few days ago
I mentioned a book . . .
‘The Dance of Anger’,
by Harriet Lerner.
It was helpful to me
and maybe it can be helpful for you. ♥
Surrender, give it up to the Divine.
Pray that I be guided in the right direction.
Stay in the present moment & as someone already wrote don’t make it a bigger situation/problem than it is.
Trust…All is well & All will be well. ❤️✨🙏🏻
“Trust…All is well & All will be well.”
I have this seed,
dear PKR,
planted deep in bottom of my heart. ♥
well – my response to this question is still a bit fuzzy…. but I think I am getting on to something to wonder about the concept of
“self-righteous indignation”. Do I employ it out of old habit that was taught to me or modeled for me and does not serve me now? What is it? How do I fall in to it? What does it serve? If it does not reflect being the person I most want to be, -how I want to feel or how i want to experience myself being- then what is underneath it? How do I want to be responding, and can I put a check onto “self righteous indignation” by recognizing it and pausing long enough to find a deeper layer of responding to a situation in front of me? I will ponder this today. Ponder, hope, and pause!🤞🙏
Hoping for a precious day for all today, Community.
Carol Ann, these sound like very helpful questions to deal with a tough and insidious emotion. Wishing you a day full of insights and discovery.
thank you, Drea – I like your wording. “insidious emotion”. that identification is appreciated. And I like the concept of coming to “discovery” as I spend time with this. thank you very much for your input.
First I turn to faith to help accept a situation. Faith that “this too shall pass”, faith that there is a lesson to help me grow, faith that closing doors lead me in the correct direction. Faith that God is with me.
I think it was Carol who reminded me earlier this week to ask what I can learn instead of why. This also helps with acceptance.
I like how Carol said to remember that it’s a situation rather than a problem. Asking how we might invite greater acceptance makes it seem like the situation is probably not the most positive… but it’s life, and we all deal with stuff. I identify with Joseph’s post today, as my husband has similar thought patterns. I invite greater acceptance by remembering my studies and knowing that I cannot change anyone but myself. Konrad does want to be more trusting (of the universe, the process, etc) and more in the now, but it takes time to change a pattern that is inherent. I accept and love that he has recognized these things and is taking steps to change them. And I can invite even more acceptance by being patient and not forcing my own thoughts and ideas onto him when there is a situation at hand.
I’m working on it. Although it seems to be a life long process. My goal of seeing things as they are and not how I wish or want them to be, is a daily practice. It’s a tricky balance to accept the current situation, yet still push for change at the same time. Now that I’m thinking about it, acceptance is the first step for change. Without this, I am stuck.
I agree, Charlie, working with situations that require acceptance, creativity, re-thinking/feeling, etc will be with us always.
Charlie, I hear you. To me, opening towards acceptance can feel like a vomity, putrid can of worms and I’d rather shut down. But I feel like the only way to grow stronger is to go towards the feelings, so I try to titrate my exposure. It’s a big and ongoing task.
The key is to look at all situation as just that…a situation not a problem.
Carol, that goes a long ways. Problems carry a negative vibe. Situations feel more temporary.
Exactly! 🙏
Timely question, indeed.
With so much escalating tumult in our country & world, my daily practice now includes focused recitation of the Serenity prayer….
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things
I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can & the wisdom to know the difference…” The rest of this prayer helps me stay in the moment. Namaste, all.
This weekend I took a long 13+ hour road trip with someone I didn’t know very well. Goal was to attend a spirituality conference. The “rules of the road” kept changing as we drove which became more awkward and challenging to endure. I worked on having a pleasant attitude. I also purchased separate rooms at our destination to give myself “space.” I’ve been led to ask someone else for a ride back to our destination. The individual still maintained a demanding attitude, but didn’t want to talk through anything. I’m grateful for texting! I put info into writing and I found a new ride back. Once I made decisions for “me,” I was fine, though costs for the trip were higher than I anticipated. Reality is I couldn’t “afford” the alternative and my body, mind, spirit, feel freer for action I’ll be taking. Good Sunday wishes to all! ☀️
Way to take care of your precious mind, body, and spirit, Carla. And good for you for trying out a situation and having the courage to change it when you realized there might be a better way.🩷
Sounds like a lot of time learning to be comfortable while uncomfortable dear Carla. Glad you procured different transportation for the way home.
Special blessings for you,
dear Carla,
on your return trip home. ♥
Carla, good for you for knowing what you need, and taking steps to take care of yourself.