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  1. T
    Trevor Alvut
    4 weeks ago

    Unfortunately I fear it is too late I’ve perhaps wished for something I may regret however I understood the outcome might be that I was willing to accept that

    Haha yeah I guess I’d like to stop wishing

  2. Semi M
    Semi M
    1 month ago

    Overthinking. It has been such a big hold-back for the past decade, if not even longer.

  3. Presley Gleason
    PMoney$
    1 month ago

    I need to let go of negative self-talk. I just don’t know how.

    1. sparrow51014
      sparrow
      1 month ago

      Every time you are aware of negative self talk,
      dear pmoneys,
      make the effort
      to let it go,
      like clouds across the sky
      with love . . . ♥

  4. Robin Ann
    Robin Ann
    1 month ago

    At work Is sometimes I find errors and I know I need to express in a kinder manner how to correct or remind someone of the right way to do it. Just be more kinder in general.

  5. Charlie T
    Charlie T
    1 month ago

    Great question. As I ponder this question, I am realizing that I have made some changes in my thought habits, for the better, over the last five years of intentional change. But of course, I am a work in progress and there are still habits that I would like to change. I still have a habit of resisting new things. Definitely my habit of assuming that I’m right. And maybe my habit of pre judging people. Or judging people at all.

    1. Mary
      Mary Mantei
      1 month ago

      Charlie, I empathize with you as it a a habit of mind I am working on changing also. I wonder why it is such a natural habit of mind for so many? Not all. Let’s look for ways to make others right; maybe that will nudge us in the direction we say we want to go. Be well.

  6. Mary
    Mary
    1 month ago

    I’d like to free myself from second guessing myself.
    I have second guessed myself in this format
    for being too emotional and intense.
    I could accept myself for being who I am.
    I yam who I yam, right?
    😀☺️
    Or I could tone it down a bit.
    I already decided and wrote on this site
    That I would stop being so hard on myself.
    Make my choices here
    and in my life
    consciously
    and then let it go.

    Enough with the second guessing.
    My choice is to start letting go

    So
    Be in the moment,
    Savor the moment,
    Make choices consciously
    And now
    Just let go.

    Inhale.
    Exhale
    Savor the moment.
    Be conscious of my choices
    And just let go.

    And repeat.
    ♥️

  7. Antoinette88615
    Antoinette
    1 month ago

    All of them ! Thank you !

  8. Emmaleah46781
    Emmaleah
    1 month ago

    Like many others here, I would like to be free of the habit of not feeling good enough and negative self talk. Deep down, I know I am a good person but there is so much talk and doubt in my mind that blocks that feeling from shining through. It helps me to know that other folks struggle with this too; thank you for sharing.

  9. L
    Lauryn
    1 month ago

    Yes, negative self talk.

    1. Mary
      Mary
      1 month ago

      Lauren, you and I should talk. 🙂
      That harsh inner critic is really something to contend with.
      After todays post I decided basically to choose my choice
      and then
      just let go.
      So I will post about
      or just let you know
      how that is going for me.
      ♥️♥️♥️

  10. Carol Ann Conner
    Carol
    1 month ago

    Yes, the fear of failure. I was raised during the time that the Roman Catholic church taught that Grace had to be earned. I had to be worthy of it and God would not love me if I did not perform. The fear of being rejected by the church’s God gave me tremendous anxiety. I could not afford to risk failure. That habit of thought kept me from doing a lot of things I was very capable of doing. It still rears its head from time to time even though I know I am of worth and perfection is not required for me to be loved.

    Saw a quote from Alan Watts that addresses the “habits of thought.”
    “The future is a concept. It doesn’t exist. There is no such thing as tomorrow. There never will be because time is always NOW.That’s one of the things we discover when we stop talking to ourselves and stop thinking. We find there is only the present–only an eternal now.” Alan Watts

    1. Joseph
      Joseph McCann
      1 month ago

      That quote from Alan Watts and philosophy has helped my mental health a whole bunch. Stop future tripping, wallowing in the past. The present, the eternal now is the present. I just need to let it unfold and reveal itself. Thank you, Carol,.

  11. Marnie Jackson34408
    Marnie Jackson
    1 month ago

    These questions always seem to come at the exact moment when I am wrestling with the same ideas. I would like to free myself from the habit of making up stories about how other people feel about me. (They usually are not positive and affect how I feel about the person). I am really not sure how to do this…..but perhaps acknowledging it is happening is the first step.

    1. P
      Paula
      1 month ago

      I TRY to subscribe to the “it’s none of my business what others think of me” theory but I think we all get caught in this ugly cycle from time to time. And, I also believe that most people are very occupied in worrying about themselves that they don’t spend nearly as much time as we may think, thinking about us!

    2. Joseph
      Joseph McCann
      1 month ago

      My theory about others thoughts, is to be like a duck when they throw water on their back….it just rolls right off.

      1. sparrow51014
        sparrow
        1 month ago

        🙂

    3. Mary
      Mary
      1 month ago

      I feel you Marnie, I feel you. 😐♥️

    4. Carol Ann Conner
      Carol
      1 month ago

      Yes, Marnie. Naming it is most likely the first step. Awareness. As my sponsor use to say, “When we know better, we do better!”

      1. Mary
        Mary
        1 month ago

        For me, there’s another Aa/Alanon saying that is even more to the point.
        Because sometimes the story I tell myself may not be completely wrong.
        (Right?😇)
        (She doesn’t want to give up on the story🤔)

        “What someone else thinks about me is none of my business.”

        1. Mary
          Mary Mantei
          1 month ago

          For a long time now, I have appreciated this quote, Mary. Thank you for sharing it.

  12. Patti
    sunnypatti
    1 month ago

    I’ve been working on freeing myself from the thoughts of not being good enough. Every day is different, but today, I think I’m doing pretty good.

  13. c
    Carol Ann
    1 month ago

    “Is there a habit of thought I’d like to free myself from?”…..
    Only one??!!! I have so many to choose from!! But facetiousness aside, I am seriously appreciating the question; and the term, “Rapid Fire Responses” keeps presenting itself as I do. Actually, even just “sitting with” this question is being profitable for me, and I think is pointing me toward the more refined habit I want to cultivate – that of waiting…. —finding myself able to sit in a little blank pause before my next thought. I want to do this specifically while in conversation with someone else, but I do believe the practice would be good for me -comforting!- to apply even to my own stream of thinking. Perhaps I am describing truly listening, or training myself that I do not need to immediately jump in with “my” response, but the important part for me is actively putting in that spacer before returning a reply or next conclusion or alternative consideration. It sounds so appealing as I sit here imagining that! I have long remembered the acronym, “WAIT!”… for “Why Am I Talking???”… and until now, I always thought of it as a bit of ironic humor, as in “why am I wasting my time trying to make this point to this person or in this frustrating circumstance?!”… but from this morning’s reflection, I would like instead to think of it as, “What is it that I would actually, truly, profitably, like to communicate in this situation right now?” It is a tall order for me to be clear on that question, and definitely one worth spending my attention on!!!!! “Thank you, Grateful!”
    Now I am looking forward to reading the other reflections here, but that was one I wanted to compose fresh from my own solo consideration first. . Thank you again!!

    1. Mary
      Mary
      1 month ago

      Fascinating, Carol Ann.
      I can see a big benefit in allowing a moment for that pause
      in the thought process
      and in conversation with another person.

      Love the WAIT (Why am I talking?)
      I’d interpret that as you did in the second instance.

    2. Carol Ann Conner
      Carol
      1 month ago

      I believe that self awareness definitely starts with monitoring what we are saying to ourselves. As for our conversations with others, the best definition I have ever heard for the word “responsibility” is “the ability to respond” instead of react.

      1. Mary
        Mary
        1 month ago

        Great insight Carol.

  14. L
    Loc Tran
    1 month ago

    No. Nothing jumps out. I’m comfortable in my own skin.

  15. Yram
    Yram
    1 month ago

    The thoughts of:
    scarcity,
    the what if’s,
    will I be able to,
    not believing in my capabilities.

    1. sparrow51014
      sparrow
      1 month ago

      When you are presented with a challenge,
      dear Yram,
      your strength will instinctively kick in
      with love . . . ♥

      1. Yram
        Yram
        1 month ago

        Thank you!

    2. Mary
      Mary
      1 month ago

      How is your husband doing in regards to Covid, Yram?

      1. Yram
        Yram
        1 month ago

        How thoughtful of you to ask.
        It is hard to separate what is covid and what is his chronic condition.
        All in all things are improving.
        Appointment day!

        1. Mary
          Mary
          1 month ago

          Yes. You and your husband are in my thoughts.
          Sending love.

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