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With deep love and forgiveness for myself and for my dear Mom, let go of regrets, shame, feeling responsible. Be fully in the now. Practice gratefulness.
I don´t know.
I have to remember and ask God to carry me …that I don’t have to solve problems without that help. try to break my problems into bite-sized pieces. I can only live in the day I was given. try to make time to rest and do something fun.
Good question but right now that is impossible. A family member needs me so my load is full. However a light hopefully will be at the end of the tunnel.
By focusing on the important stuff, those things which result from authentic living, being true. It is those things that bring a luminescence to the being.
To lighten my load and life, Tai chi and yoga have taught to let go of that which is not pertinent – not really needed – sometimes said as that which does not serve you. Let go!
In Christianity we are taught to give all back to God. Once you do that – in whichever way makes sense to you – you do feel lighter, freer!!!
And I started carrying an Itty-bitty purse years ago;)
I can ask for help, plan ahead, let go more often practice being present and grateful.
Breaking my wrist 8 weeks ago forced me to stop doing certain things. Some things I really miss and will do again as soon as I’m healed enough (ride my bike! chop a lot of veggies and cook something!). Turns out other things are really unnecessary. A small, funny example: Why did I think it was important to Marie-Kondo-roll my underwear? For what audience am I undertaking this performative act when I’m the only person who opens that drawer? Do I genuinely care or can I put things away neatly enough but without that extra labor? I don’t have to pick up those external ideas or expectations. Similar to what Avril said about not bringing new items home in the first place, I can examine new ideas, new “shoulds”, and ask whether they add value. If it gladdened my heart to look at a super-tidy drawer I could keep doing it, but if I don’t even really notice then this is a self-imposed load. Set it down, walk on.
Mentally right now I have a load I’m working on setting down that has to do with my husband’s prediabetes (Type 2). He’s oriented toward the data, tracks and measures and records, and wants a cure. He’s already super-duper lean and an athlete, very disciplined on food intake (and very tired of not being able to eat everything he wants and dump lots of sugar into his coffee like he used to). He keeps chewing over why they can’t have him do something that results in a cure. His numbers would be the envy of an actual diabetic and I feel as if his desire for a cure keeps him chasing something that simply may not be possible due to genetics. I want him to get some mental peace of mind–but that’s not my load to carry. He shares a lot of his research and frustration over dead ends and it’s probably time for me to establish the boundary that I don’t want to keep revisiting this topic when he just ends up even more frustrated. We’re running a lot of laps around a very short track, to use a different metaphor.
I relate to this post. I know the self-help genre really can help sometimes, but other times it seems like an insidious virus.
Excellent points! Funny thing about the rolled underwear though. I was helping my mother in law one day and opened her drawer of perfectly rolled underwear and I have to admit I was pretty impressed!😉Enough to do it myself ? No, but still impressed.😍 All about what brings you joy right.?
Ha, I’ve already told my daughters I gave up on this so they won’t be surprised.
Thank you for sharing this journey! I agree about getting rid of things that just add one more thing to do but not necessary. I will say that worry is my default! I am working on this issue daily. About the prediabetes issue: It is something I have to deal with every day. It used to be hipoglicemia for me and a doctor told me (When I was 25 years old, I am not 65) that someday it would be diabetes if I did not understand how food affected me. The “crashing” has always been with me if I eat the wrong foods. I so want to lighten this load, It is ever present! I wish your husband much success, he ‘s got this! You got him! Blessings to both of you.
Thank you so much!
By remembering the person, I am today not the person from before, my journey continues on by being kind to myself and others around me.
Thanks to all for your posts today. They are truly a gift and very helpful. I lighten my load by visiting this site each day. The sharing here is so sincere. The vulnerability uplifting. Today your posts have helped me realize that what Eckhart Tolle labels “the pain body” is rearing its head in my head and doing its best to own me. Let it go, let it go. Take each step mindfully.
A wise person *ahem, Carol* posted this awhile back, and I saved it because it gives me a boost every time I recall it:
Be the answer you seek.
Be the prayer you say.
Be the person who is
in Awe of your life.
Laura, I’m chuckling…Bless you…
By living in this moment, and trying not to hold on too tightly. By remembering that control is an illusion and resistance is futile. By forgiving myself and others.
By letting go of all the minds – please Truth let the falseness disappear.
My life is good; no big worries or health problems…or any problems…EXCEPT…sometimes, my choices…since all is good…a glass of wine seems like a fine idea. It is not a fine idea- and now I have come to realize that…So I have made the decision to lighten my load by abstaining, giving up alcohol. I have so very much to be thankful for….and that is now how I am going to live. I know it is one step at a time…but I have done many, many harder things in my life. Today is a good day…as it always is. Thank you all for adding to my life…and making me more thankful each day. Life is good!
Thank you for your kind words yesterday Nannette. Loving kindness to you on your journey.
meditate, contemplate, renounce, trust,make the choice and engage in causes and conditions that give rise to wisdom, concentration, and mindfulness of choices and intentions
Carry one thing at a time.
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