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With the help of SIP – Sit in Peace – a 3-min daily meditation that came to me highly recommended:
Dear Mica, thank you so much for posting this video. I am feeling quite lost these days and this has helped me. I am going to do this every morning. 🙏❤️
You’re welcome, Butterfly 🙂 – I’m liking it too. May you feel less lost (more Found??)
Thank you for this Mica.
There has been a practice of looking at things with an unfettered honesty, but I am not an island. I find having a conversation with a friend is more impactful.
I am looking for a platform to create space daily for myself and joy.
Thank you so much for sharing this message.
By attempting to be an observer of my emotions, patterns, and motivations, I hope I’m checking in on myself. Oh yeah, and therapy. There’s nothing like a second set of eyes. 👀
Amen for therapy!
I find routine and practice yield more skill in many things, so adding the review of my daily pattern to my night review of the day might help.
In a quest for self discovery I’ve been asked many questions. all questioning lead me back to one thing, kindness. If we can add a touch of kindness we become masters of our experience.
For me, it’s keeping a journal and writing a morning meditation each day. I found that my writings usually hold a bit more self-awareness than I currently possess in my daily living. I don’t out and out skillfully question myself but I do find myself reading something I wrote and identifying a challenge to my current behavior.
Approach myself with love, compassion, and an expectation for slow, incremental progress, until my last breath – never too small, never too big, and never too late.
Leave out the negative self-talk and focus on the positive moves in the right direction. When I focus on the “dont’ s” and “why did I do that’s?”, all of the positive moves I’ve made during the day are overshadowed and my self-destructive narrative emerges.
GR8FULL, I’m chuckling. Your post reminds me of a speaker at a 12-step convention. She said, “I’m always drawn to those guys who have a Tatoo on their upper arm that says, “Born to Lose.” Oh, and when all those negative and destructive messages that live in my head start jabbering, I’ve learned to put on a pot of coffee and call a meeting to remind them, I’m chairman of the board!
trusting in myself to be mindful of what needs to be questioned
The advantage of someone else asking the daily question is that it introduces the unexpected question.
However skillfully we might question ourselves, something valuable would be lost.
“Question” is a tricky word. If it goes in the wrong direction it can sound like neuroticism. If it goes in the right way it is being self-reflective. It’s a component of mindfulness, “why am I doing what I’m doing” –as opposed to being governed by habit. It requires intentionality and self-compassion. A mindfulness practice, and there’s many of them, helps us to become aware of ourselves as we’re thinking as we’re feeling as we’re acting. This daily question, plus I do a daily goal and an internal dialogue exercise from my lineage. Journaling helps me to become present with myself as I’m unfolding.
I am really grateful you helped me to answer this question!! Staying in the present moment and asking myself “why am I doing what I am doing?” is going to become a personal mantra. It will immediately give me the ability to change my perception and shift my actions. Being mindful of my intuitive reaction to situations will re”mind” me to be aligned with doing things which serve me and more importantly others. Also, Happy Belated Birthday!
Thank you! It has been a sublime birthday!
Ya know, sometimes I just want to stop with the scrutinizing and live with spontaneity, curiosity and joy. It is a new day, and each new day is a blessing.
Pilgrim, I hear you. I was having a hard time with the use of the word, “skillful” in the question. Life is process not product. Go with the flow!
I guess the first step is to be mindful of my daily patterns. Once I am aware, I can figure out the whys – but often my patterns of reaction are unconscious and I am not aware of the pattern until I stop and reflect
More curiosity, less analysis with a fixed goal in mind.
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