Adding my reflection a day late as there were issues on this site early in the morning yesterday…
Gratefulness opens me to healing seems to go hand in hand. I feel grounded and peaceful when I am grateful. I have appreciated and even bought recommended books by others on this site that help with healing.
To me gratefulness and healing does not go hand in hand. Healing is something that just takes time. I guess in the end you can feel grateful to look back and know it is not so painful or less painful to think about.
When I was growing up my parents were members of a faith tradition that focused on the imminent Second Coming of [the] Christ. It was all sturm and drang, terrors and persecution. The only discussion of what God’s followers were meant to do in the midst of the mess was die bravely or run to the rocks and mountains. Then I heard this wonderful phrase they used to say in mass before they changed the words (again!). “As we wait in joyful anticipation.” It’s a pretty scary world out there right now, but I have tools. Giving thanks for one. That I’m here. Now. That I can share hope. That there are so many bright lights out there, in and out of my little silo of a faith tradition talking about and practicing compassion, being present and awake in this moment, noticing beauty and kindness, and offering to help where needed. When I notice those things, I’m full of joyful anticipation and gratefulness. I don’t need to get sucked down the rabbit hole of fear. And I can share a little light to the people in front of me.
I was brought up in a similar way,
dear Dawn Elaine,
and never felt sure that I was truly ‘saved.’
Many years later now
I am free from that fear
and have separated myself from those teachings,
and it sounds like you are recovering too.
Blessings to you,
a stronger woman than you know. ♥
Dear Dawn Elaine, “I don’t need to get sucked down the rabbit hole of fear.” I have a pretty good notion all in any sort of power structure want you to do exactly that, down the hole of fear. Resist.
Being grateful
helps me to see other avenues of healing.
My eyes are clearer
and my mind sees more possibilities,
and this helps keep me from wallowing in self-pity,
which itself
is a closed door.
There can be no healing
behind a closed door. ♥
Gratefulness opens my heart and my mind toward those in need rather than focusing on my desire. For that, I am healed from the temptation of underserved desires.
My Ngoc, I’m familiar with unfulfilled desires not too long ago during my rebelion stage. Now, rebelion and guilt are behind me. This reminds me of my answer from yesterday of being comfortable in my own skin.
Now–I’m in the right space, lol. If you posted early it looped you to an older question. I’m just looking at your posts! I can’t find my post from earlier now.
Avril, I went on to your answer from this morning for this question. After scrolling down from your answer, there were responses from people 8 months ago. I went out and reentered. There were no answers. I was the 1st 1 here at 7:30amCST. There must have been a weird glitch. Others have mentioned here as well. Glad everything worked out, and you’re in the right place.
This question has me pondering the difference between healing and simply moving on. My family had a really terrible time after my first husband died in late 2020. He hadn’t been a consistent father for a long time. He left a mess of an estate and his brother did such mean, violent, threatening (with a weapon) and truly unforgivable things to my daughters, who were the heirs of the mess (debts and a duplex co-owned with the brother), and to me. He got all his siblings to attack us online.
I don’t know that I’ve healed as others might define that or that they have. I definitely am not grateful for what happened. I can be grateful that I could be there for my daughters, stand up for them, help them financially so they could get legal assistance, give them a listening ear to vent and advice when they wanted it.
I bear more of a scar or scab over the wound, not true healing. I choose not to think about it so I’m not giving him space in my brain rent-free. My final source of gratitude is that I and they never have to have contact with him again. That’s good enough for me.
The ability to move on by choice is my form of healing in this particular instance. I’m glad my mind lets me compartmentalize and that I can let much happier memories dominate. I can be proud of my daughters for their strength and their love and support for each other.
the “ability to move on by choice” certainly sounds like a healthy practice to me!! Respect to you for being able to do that! Interesting topic, your consideration of just what IS healing?….. I am struck by how often we use words loosely, and just pausing with the word brings up multiple layers of consideration and questions. thank you for putting this out here today, Barb – and truly, congratulations to you for surviving that mess and bringing your daughters through it!!!!! and bringing your lovely spirit and perspectives through on these reflections.
My youngest brother committed suicide right before thanksgiving last year and I have not been able to talk about it . I have tired a bit but I get upset .
I wasn’t able to attend the memorial for him last weekend and now I received an email with the auto of the event.
I don’t know if I want to listen to it.
Healing can come in many formas and right now I’m grateful for space and being able to slow down .
I am so sorry,
dear Michele,
to hear this news . . .
Linda has expressed so well
my sentiments.
We heal at our own pace.
“It is different for everyone.”
I hold you in my heart
with love…
sparrow
Antoinette – I am so sorry – I wish I could help hold space for you while you heal. I believe it takes many components, and time is one of them. I really feel for you – wish I could help. Sending caring and sincere wishes for your healing journey. broken hearts do mend.🙏
Being grateful puts me in a healthy, happy mindset. My attitude is positive, uplifting. In this state of mind it is easier to heal from what may be ailing me. Being positive, grateful, is in itself, a healing tool.
Happy Beautiful Friday All ……✨❤️🙏🏻
I try to remind myself to copy my answer before I submit it, SunnyPatti, because I’ve had mine disappear so many times. An unfortunate glitch in the Matrix.
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Adding my reflection a day late as there were issues on this site early in the morning yesterday…
Gratefulness opens me to healing seems to go hand in hand. I feel grounded and peaceful when I am grateful. I have appreciated and even bought recommended books by others on this site that help with healing.
Gratefulness connects me and you in a positive flow through inviting and including His Love, born into the present moment, which is healing.
To me gratefulness and healing does not go hand in hand. Healing is something that just takes time. I guess in the end you can feel grateful to look back and know it is not so painful or less painful to think about.
I had similar thoughts, Robin.
Just reading todays quote, made me exhale and relax. 🙏
When I was growing up my parents were members of a faith tradition that focused on the imminent Second Coming of [the] Christ. It was all sturm and drang, terrors and persecution. The only discussion of what God’s followers were meant to do in the midst of the mess was die bravely or run to the rocks and mountains. Then I heard this wonderful phrase they used to say in mass before they changed the words (again!). “As we wait in joyful anticipation.” It’s a pretty scary world out there right now, but I have tools. Giving thanks for one. That I’m here. Now. That I can share hope. That there are so many bright lights out there, in and out of my little silo of a faith tradition talking about and practicing compassion, being present and awake in this moment, noticing beauty and kindness, and offering to help where needed. When I notice those things, I’m full of joyful anticipation and gratefulness. I don’t need to get sucked down the rabbit hole of fear. And I can share a little light to the people in front of me.
I was brought up in a similar way,
dear Dawn Elaine,
and never felt sure that I was truly ‘saved.’
Many years later now
I am free from that fear
and have separated myself from those teachings,
and it sounds like you are recovering too.
Blessings to you,
a stronger woman than you know. ♥
Dear Dawn Elaine, “I don’t need to get sucked down the rabbit hole of fear.” I have a pretty good notion all in any sort of power structure want you to do exactly that, down the hole of fear. Resist.
I would like to share this quote,
but do not know who the author is.
It has helped me . . .
perhaps it will help you sometime.
“I’m such a firm believer that everything happens for a reason.
Every single thing, the good and bad all leads you to where you’re meant to be.”
Thank you Sparrow – I believe that quote too.
Being grateful
helps me to see other avenues of healing.
My eyes are clearer
and my mind sees more possibilities,
and this helps keep me from wallowing in self-pity,
which itself
is a closed door.
There can be no healing
behind a closed door. ♥
Gratefulness opens my heart and my mind toward those in need rather than focusing on my desire. For that, I am healed from the temptation of underserved desires.
My Ngoc, I’m familiar with unfulfilled desires not too long ago during my rebelion stage. Now, rebelion and guilt are behind me. This reminds me of my answer from yesterday of being comfortable in my own skin.
Now–I’m in the right space, lol. If you posted early it looped you to an older question. I’m just looking at your posts! I can’t find my post from earlier now.
Yes, I emailed early about it and received a reply back that it was fixed.
I was in the same vortex Avril, hope all experienced some peace today.
That’s exactly why I didn’t see your answer, Joseph. You’re 1 of the morning birds like me.
Avril, I went on to your answer from this morning for this question. After scrolling down from your answer, there were responses from people 8 months ago. I went out and reentered. There were no answers. I was the 1st 1 here at 7:30amCST. There must have been a weird glitch. Others have mentioned here as well. Glad everything worked out, and you’re in the right place.
This question has me pondering the difference between healing and simply moving on. My family had a really terrible time after my first husband died in late 2020. He hadn’t been a consistent father for a long time. He left a mess of an estate and his brother did such mean, violent, threatening (with a weapon) and truly unforgivable things to my daughters, who were the heirs of the mess (debts and a duplex co-owned with the brother), and to me. He got all his siblings to attack us online.
I don’t know that I’ve healed as others might define that or that they have. I definitely am not grateful for what happened. I can be grateful that I could be there for my daughters, stand up for them, help them financially so they could get legal assistance, give them a listening ear to vent and advice when they wanted it.
I bear more of a scar or scab over the wound, not true healing. I choose not to think about it so I’m not giving him space in my brain rent-free. My final source of gratitude is that I and they never have to have contact with him again. That’s good enough for me.
The ability to move on by choice is my form of healing in this particular instance. I’m glad my mind lets me compartmentalize and that I can let much happier memories dominate. I can be proud of my daughters for their strength and their love and support for each other.
So sorry Barb that this happened to you and your daughters. It takes time to process and like you said not necessarily healing.
the “ability to move on by choice” certainly sounds like a healthy practice to me!! Respect to you for being able to do that! Interesting topic, your consideration of just what IS healing?….. I am struck by how often we use words loosely, and just pausing with the word brings up multiple layers of consideration and questions. thank you for putting this out here today, Barb – and truly, congratulations to you for surviving that mess and bringing your daughters through it!!!!! and bringing your lovely spirit and perspectives through on these reflections.
I’m terribly sorry,
dear Barb,
that you had to live through this experience.
You may still be in the process of healing . . .
give yourself time. ♥
My youngest brother committed suicide right before thanksgiving last year and I have not been able to talk about it . I have tired a bit but I get upset .
I wasn’t able to attend the memorial for him last weekend and now I received an email with the auto of the event.
I don’t know if I want to listen to it.
Healing can come in many formas and right now I’m grateful for space and being able to slow down .
You will know the “right” time. Be gentle!
Very sorry for your loss – thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time.
Blessings on your journey, Antoinette.
Give yourself plenty of time and space. Grieving is different for everyone.
My youngest brother died 22 years ago by his own hands. I takes time dear Antoinette. I say hello to his picture by the front door every day.❤️
I’m so sorry, Antoinette. Do what you can, as you are able.
So, so sorry, Antoinette. I hope that holding loving memories of him close to your heart brings you the hug you need.
I am so sorry,
dear Michele,
to hear this news . . .
Linda has expressed so well
my sentiments.
We heal at our own pace.
“It is different for everyone.”
I hold you in my heart
with love…
sparrow
I believe you meant Antoinette, not me, but I appreciate seeing my name spelled correctly.
Antoinette – I am so sorry – I wish I could help hold space for you while you heal. I believe it takes many components, and time is one of them. I really feel for you – wish I could help. Sending caring and sincere wishes for your healing journey. broken hearts do mend.🙏
I am so sorry, Antoinette. Give yourself the space and time to heal. It is different for everyone,
Being grateful puts me in a healthy, happy mindset. My attitude is positive, uplifting. In this state of mind it is easier to heal from what may be ailing me. Being positive, grateful, is in itself, a healing tool.
Happy Beautiful Friday All ……✨❤️🙏🏻
You are so right,
dear PKR . . .
“Being positive, grateful, is in itself, a healing tool.”
Thank you. ♥
It switches the negative, fearful mind chatter and opens to positivity. Healing is such a gift!!! Gratitude opens me to receiving the Gift of healing.
It relaxes my fears and opens me to abundance.
Where’d my answer go?
🤔
I try to remind myself to copy my answer before I submit it, SunnyPatti, because I’ve had mine disappear so many times. An unfortunate glitch in the Matrix.
It was posted early this morning, and when I came to the site while waiting for an oil change, it was gone!