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Through simple things and simple pleasures. By staying close to my husband, literally hugging him a lot, and us telling each other, ‘It will be alright.” Talking to God and letting in that feeling that tells me I’m not alone.
I’m experiencing fourth day of migraines today . Right now I don’t know . I’m grateful there are people who care .
I m so sorry about your migraines, Antoinette.
There have been times when I couldn’t see out of the darkness. I couldn’t feel gratitude. Only self pity and fear. Looking back, I am able to see that some spark, some light will come through and give me something to turn on my gratitude. This has been my way out of dark times. Learning to be present is teaching me that I can practice gratitude and develop a better way of copping. Reading all of your responses is so inspiring. Thank you all for the deep sharing.🙏
For me, I struggle to be grateful “amidst” the hardship and loss as my body is hyper vigilant. It is not until I remove myself (physically or emotionally) from the situation and find a safe and peaceful moment in time to describe my feelings and ask myself why I feel how I feel. Typically, hiding 3 layers beneath my initial answers lie the source of my gratefulness. For some reason I am turned off by people that tell me “you should be grateful you were able to have so and so in your life” when my mind and body aren’t in the right state to receive that message. I can only experience gratefulness after the sensory overload passes and I can be present with myself.
It’s awful to hear people say things like that I know how you feel. It’s ok. Thank you for sharing.
I have always found that in times of crisis, I find someone always there supporting me. Often from a place least expected .. and I am always so grateful that I am never alone in a way. That is the mark of a thriving community .
To experience Gratefulness amidst hardship/loss, allow just some moments to look beyond the crisis to see those who have helped or at least tried to provide comfort.
learning, practicing, daily …
When my dad died, it felt like with him, went everything good. All the colours in the world were leeched. And I was alone. I was completely bereft. My heart was desiccated – a thing parched – an old leather bellows, cracked and wheezing. It kept the beat, but only just, and only, begrudgingly, out of habit. There was no purpose to anything. There was only the grey. A sea of emptiness.
Every now and then, I would catch a glimpse of him at the edges of my vision. This was very painful, as he proved elusive. As soon as I moved my head in his direction, he would disappear.
It seemed that the view out could no longer contain him. He’d gone. But where? I knew I could search every vantage. But even if I traversed this Universe to its farthest infinite reaches, I knew I would not find him.
This single eye, which holds everything, appeared to no longer hold him. But was this true? Or was it just a question of form? Him no longer Thing, but rather some sacred essence – woven now into the fabric of the eye itself? If who we really, really are is all the same clear light of emptiness, then when I look Here, don’t I have him in full view after all? Awareness always brings the blessing of Gratefulness.
I was diagnosed with a serious illness, I was deeply grateful that I was so happy before I started the treatments. I remember stopping on the steps of my home and giving thanks for this happiness.
My husband and I have reached the ages of 83 and 73 and are experiencing the passing of friends and family. Also, I have lost many dog friends in the past year. I try to focus on all the love and joy they brought to my life while we journeyed together.
When I was told that my daughter would stay handicapped it was not easy for me to accept that. But i was always very grateful that she choose me as her father. So I am allowed to enjoy her love towards me and my own love towards her. Great inner pain and thankfulness at the same time.
It feels like Grace . . .
the interlocking of grief and gratefulness,
I will simply echo what Jerri has shared. I’m grateful to have learned along the way (it took awhile!) that I am the Beloved. That God and the Universe is for me and not against me and that all things are unfolding in my life for my highest good….despite how it may feel in the moment. This awareness of Divine Presence and unconditional Love has led to a deep and abiding gratefulness at my core. I will admit that there have been times when I had to go deep to find it…but it is always there waiting to be discovered.
~Om Shanti, peace peace friends ♥
I have many times experienced the Divine plan unfolding for me and others. Through all pain and hardship there is a deeper reality, a deeper purpose for us. If we look for the love within it, we will find it and be reassured of Spirit’s constant presence in our lives. That reminder always fills me with gratitude even in the midst of suffering because I know there is a reason, a lesson to learn or an experience to go through; all for the purpose of awakening and spiritual growth.
Many years ago I discovered a lump in my breast. I found it on Friday of a 3-day weekend and couldn’t get a biopsy for several days. I lived suspended in time, looking so closely at everything and seeing it all in sharper detail, from the leaves on trees in the backyard where I sat thinking about what would happen to my young daughters to the blades of grass below. It was all so, so beautiful. Fortunately the lump turned out not to be cancer. I remember thinking then that I would forget to look at things so closely and with such appreciation and that I wanted to hold onto that crystalline awareness of the everyday beauty that surrounds us. I didn’t keep it in my conscious awareness all the time but I return to this memory again and again: pay attention and be grateful.
A couple of days ago I read a poem by Mary O’Connor about her cancer treatment, “Good Days”. It fits this question well and describes those feelings I had when I didn’t know if I had cancer. https://www.ayearofbeinghere.com/2014/07/mary-oconnor-good-days.html
Barb, Yes, “pay attention and be grateful.” Our intention always grabs our attention. That is a very good intention.
I try to focus on the lesson that is being learned during the hardship. This helps me to be grateful for the tough situations that life throws at me and to savour the moment.
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