Building upon my response to Yram, the party went great. The tide has turned. Seeds that were planted starting a few months ago finally materialized.
1. My method for trying new foods is only working.
2. My voice is being taken most seriously by older adults my culture which even I find to come as a surprise. Logically, put 2 and 2 together, I was very close to my parents and adults their generation 20+ years of my life, so I’ve adopted a lot of their mannerisms. A strengthening family and cultural connection only makes socializing easier.
3. I have my mindset for piano clear. I play for fun and family; not fame. People can hype me up or make me the next Beethoven or Mozart if that makes them happy. My way of getting past unrealistic expectations and comparisons is the ABC(5) shortened for channel 5 method; awareness, by-pass, and concentration.
What I’ve learned over the years is for the American Social setting, I’d have to create my own jump shot using the basketball medifore. That’s not my strength even if it brings me great pleasure. I work better when others set me up for a quality shot. That’s exactly what I get in the Traditional Asian culture. Those people will really make sure that we don’t feel alone, so it’s why they’ll come up to us and ask us 20 questions. With all that being said, the Traditional Asian Value System gives me more wide-open 3s, scoring opportunities, and capatilize on my strengths.
Peace, democracy: stand up for these gifts, not just enjoy them, but live them and stand up for them.
my life: accept myself as I am, learn to love myself – always
I realized I never answered today’s question this morning. I forgot to do my morning activities. I had a really nice day visiting family. I leave tomorrow to head back to Florida. I’m not sure how to answer today’s question. I look forward to reading others responses.
oh but it is. I literally landed just before a band – I felt the wings tip left than right and was thinking please dear Lord land this thing. My dad had the flight after me and he landed ok to.
I was without power since middle of the night.
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Robin Ann
5 months ago
For me I think of being courageous during dark times and trying to maneuver my way thru them. Practicing gratefulness helped, helped me to focus and deal with things as best I could.
This question doesn’t land for me. It assumes that I want or need to be more courageous, and I don’t feel that I lack courage. After reading responses from my others I have new insights into how the two might be related. What requires courage for one person doesn’t necessarily require it for another; we’re all coming from different places and perspectives.
I know the site is grateful.org, not mindful.org or HowBarbsMindWorks.org. Questions like this one center gratefulness in hypotheticals where I might instead refer to my values or to mindfulness or awareness as the thing I’m drawing on. Two examples:
My courage for things like speaking up to say something no one else is saying comes from my dedication to trying to make my piece of the world a better and more just place for everyone. I might go back later and be grateful that I have the position, education, generous teachers, and all the rest that prepared me and inspired me to speak up. In the moment it isn’t gratefulness at work. As Jenifer rephrased it, courage may make me more grateful.
I often ride my bike through a part of our town where a lot of unhoused people spend their days passing time, talking, maybe goofing around in the street, all near a mission and the transit center on a street that doesn’t have a lot of traffic. I don’t think of myself as needing courage to ride there and I don’t feel fear, whereas others might. I feel my kindness at work; I smile and wave as I pass just as I do any other neighbor or community member, I wish they had a better life, I’ll speak up if I hear them stereotyped or denigrated, I’ll support efforts to expanding housing access and needed services.
I am looking for the courage to move through this day. As, Joseph, said it took courage to get out of bed this a.m. I did it and now I have gratefulness to hold me up during the day. I am not sure I see the connection but nonetheless I will ponder it.
Yram, I’m with you today. I have a party for one of my mom’s friends at their house where there’s dinner, personal conversations, and live music to midnight coming up.
When I think of courage these days, I think
of the courage it takes to be vulnerable,
to admit to being wrong, to speak up,
to relax into the unknown.
By practicing gratefulness, I feel like there’s
more space for this. More room to
maneuver. Less pressure.
This is the perfect question for me this morning, as is today’s quote on the home page. After my husband and I closed our restaurant last March and went back to catering, we decided to move as well. Our home has been on the market since early June. We came to the area of NC where we plan on moving to see the home I found and commissary kitchen, both conveniently owned by the same woman (talk about manifestation and answered prayers!). We wanted to feel her out since we thought our home might sit a few months with the state of the market, which would also give us time to pack and whatever.
Well, here we are in NC with our family, deposit made on our new place knowing she’s cool with us not coming til Sept or Oct, and we get a call from our realtor yesterday afternoon saying our house was going under contract… and they want to close on Aug 30 😲 It’s wonderful and scary, but thank God for this wonderful gratitude practice I have because it truly does help me be courageous when I really need to be. I have never moved out of the lowcountry of SC before, and moving to another state is a big deal. But it feels right, everything has been falling into place, and it is happening! It’s okay to be scared – which I am – but I don’t have to be afraid of the path that is opening up for us 💜
Sorry so long!! I cannot wait to live in the mountains of NC ⛰️
Thanks for all of your kind messages. Here’s an update. I will be getting a new furnace and air conditioner sometime this week. My son took me out yesterday and we bought a portable room air conditioner. I figured with the price of motels if I could have one room (bedroom and bath) in my home as a cool and comfortable haven at least I would have something for my money and could stay in my home. Family has started arriving and even though I cannot welcome them into my home (They are being very understanding) due to the heat, we will gather for the evening meal. My younger sister and I have contracted a local restaurant for a buffet supper. My daughter and son will see some folks they haven’t seen since childhood. I choose to believe that the spirit of my ancestors will be there, too. I can’t say that all of this makes me more courageous but it makes me mighty grateful!
Gratefulness helps me stay present, building a state of satisfaction in my life. It cultivates happiness of what I already have in my life instead of regrets for what I’d lost and dreams for what I’d never have.
I think being courageous helps me become more grateful. I’ve come to realize I am driven by fear and I hold myself back because of it. I think about a time when I was really anxious about having a phone call with someone with who I was talking to. I kept putting myself down, thinking this person won’t like me, etc but then thought “love is letting go of fear”. That night, We talked for over an hour and we started seeing each other soon after. Although we are no longer together, I think about that moment of courage and how I’m grateful to have pushed myself because I learned so much about myself and what I wanted out of a relationship .
Gratefulness is such a steady, sturdy foundation to begin from in all situations. I guess another way to say it, is that gratefulness is centering, calming. It supports a trust in myself that I have all I need. Courageness can be hard, challenging, even scary to me. Yet, if I can stay in that place of calm, I can move forward, most of the time.
Gratefulness gives me the introspection to see all the Blessings I have. I realize that being grateful…I am being grateful to a Supreme Being; for me that is God, Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit. I know that through God all things are possible. We have the good with the bad…and during times of trouble…I know Jesus is walking with me or carrying me…and I am grateful…which gives me the courage to stay with whatever in my life is happening. Wishing one and all a good and restful weekend.
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Building upon my response to Yram, the party went great. The tide has turned. Seeds that were planted starting a few months ago finally materialized.
1. My method for trying new foods is only working.
2. My voice is being taken most seriously by older adults my culture which even I find to come as a surprise. Logically, put 2 and 2 together, I was very close to my parents and adults their generation 20+ years of my life, so I’ve adopted a lot of their mannerisms. A strengthening family and cultural connection only makes socializing easier.
3. I have my mindset for piano clear. I play for fun and family; not fame. People can hype me up or make me the next Beethoven or Mozart if that makes them happy. My way of getting past unrealistic expectations and comparisons is the ABC(5) shortened for channel 5 method; awareness, by-pass, and concentration.
What I’ve learned over the years is for the American Social setting, I’d have to create my own jump shot using the basketball medifore. That’s not my strength even if it brings me great pleasure. I work better when others set me up for a quality shot. That’s exactly what I get in the Traditional Asian culture. Those people will really make sure that we don’t feel alone, so it’s why they’ll come up to us and ask us 20 questions. With all that being said, the Traditional Asian Value System gives me more wide-open 3s, scoring opportunities, and capatilize on my strengths.
Peace, democracy: stand up for these gifts, not just enjoy them, but live them and stand up for them.
my life: accept myself as I am, learn to love myself – always
I realized I never answered today’s question this morning. I forgot to do my morning activities. I had a really nice day visiting family. I leave tomorrow to head back to Florida. I’m not sure how to answer today’s question. I look forward to reading others responses.
Glad u made it home safe and sound, I have been keeping an eye on the storm as well.
May you have safe return travels Michele.
Thank you Joseph I really appreciate that as I’m flying home with Tropical storm Debby at my doorstep.
Hope the storm isn’t too bad for you. It’ll be headed our way after it circles over Florida. But at least it’s not a hurricane!
oh but it is. I literally landed just before a band – I felt the wings tip left than right and was thinking please dear Lord land this thing. My dad had the flight after me and he landed ok to.
I was without power since middle of the night.
For me I think of being courageous during dark times and trying to maneuver my way thru them. Practicing gratefulness helped, helped me to focus and deal with things as best I could.
This question doesn’t land for me. It assumes that I want or need to be more courageous, and I don’t feel that I lack courage. After reading responses from my others I have new insights into how the two might be related. What requires courage for one person doesn’t necessarily require it for another; we’re all coming from different places and perspectives.
I know the site is grateful.org, not mindful.org or HowBarbsMindWorks.org. Questions like this one center gratefulness in hypotheticals where I might instead refer to my values or to mindfulness or awareness as the thing I’m drawing on. Two examples:
My courage for things like speaking up to say something no one else is saying comes from my dedication to trying to make my piece of the world a better and more just place for everyone. I might go back later and be grateful that I have the position, education, generous teachers, and all the rest that prepared me and inspired me to speak up. In the moment it isn’t gratefulness at work. As Jenifer rephrased it, courage may make me more grateful.
I often ride my bike through a part of our town where a lot of unhoused people spend their days passing time, talking, maybe goofing around in the street, all near a mission and the transit center on a street that doesn’t have a lot of traffic. I don’t think of myself as needing courage to ride there and I don’t feel fear, whereas others might. I feel my kindness at work; I smile and wave as I pass just as I do any other neighbor or community member, I wish they had a better life, I’ll speak up if I hear them stereotyped or denigrated, I’ll support efforts to expanding housing access and needed services.
I feel so honored that you mentioned me because I am also so inspired by your words and I truly appreciate your perspectives Barb 🧡
How Barb’s Mind Works.Org, Love it. LOL. Might as well add “How Loc’s Mind Works.Org.”
I sense some website development in our future. 😆
I am looking for the courage to move through this day. As, Joseph, said it took courage to get out of bed this a.m. I did it and now I have gratefulness to hold me up during the day. I am not sure I see the connection but nonetheless I will ponder it.
Yram, I’m with you today. I have a party for one of my mom’s friends at their house where there’s dinner, personal conversations, and live music to midnight coming up.
When I think of courage these days, I think
of the courage it takes to be vulnerable,
to admit to being wrong, to speak up,
to relax into the unknown.
By practicing gratefulness, I feel like there’s
more space for this. More room to
maneuver. Less pressure.
I never would have connected the two. Thank you for giving me something to ponder.
Gratefulness gives me a calmer state of mind helping me be more courageous by making it easier to step out of my comfort zone.
This is the perfect question for me this morning, as is today’s quote on the home page. After my husband and I closed our restaurant last March and went back to catering, we decided to move as well. Our home has been on the market since early June. We came to the area of NC where we plan on moving to see the home I found and commissary kitchen, both conveniently owned by the same woman (talk about manifestation and answered prayers!). We wanted to feel her out since we thought our home might sit a few months with the state of the market, which would also give us time to pack and whatever.
Well, here we are in NC with our family, deposit made on our new place knowing she’s cool with us not coming til Sept or Oct, and we get a call from our realtor yesterday afternoon saying our house was going under contract… and they want to close on Aug 30 😲 It’s wonderful and scary, but thank God for this wonderful gratitude practice I have because it truly does help me be courageous when I really need to be. I have never moved out of the lowcountry of SC before, and moving to another state is a big deal. But it feels right, everything has been falling into place, and it is happening! It’s okay to be scared – which I am – but I don’t have to be afraid of the path that is opening up for us 💜
Sorry so long!! I cannot wait to live in the mountains of NC ⛰️
Nothing like the mountains SunnyPatti! May the recent round of good fortune keep with you.
The mountains are magical!
Congratulations! Very happy for you:)
Thank you!
Very exciting and sounds like everything is coming together nicely!
It really all has been working out great!
Congratulations on the adventure ahead!
Thank you! Another friend called it a new adventure when we spoke to her recently, and we really liked that. Adventures are fun!!
I am happy for you!
Thank you!
Yes, courage indeed!
Congratulations!
Thank you!
Welcome to North Carolina, SunnyPatti!
A new perspective on my Carolina Girl status 🙂
Thanks for all of your kind messages. Here’s an update. I will be getting a new furnace and air conditioner sometime this week. My son took me out yesterday and we bought a portable room air conditioner. I figured with the price of motels if I could have one room (bedroom and bath) in my home as a cool and comfortable haven at least I would have something for my money and could stay in my home. Family has started arriving and even though I cannot welcome them into my home (They are being very understanding) due to the heat, we will gather for the evening meal. My younger sister and I have contracted a local restaurant for a buffet supper. My daughter and son will see some folks they haven’t seen since childhood. I choose to believe that the spirit of my ancestors will be there, too. I can’t say that all of this makes me more courageous but it makes me mighty grateful!
What a Wonderful alternative. I admire your adjustments to a unwanted situation. The gathering sounds delightful.
Carol, I admire your attitude.
To see things as they are and to
have gratitude when it’s sweltering,
is definitely courageous.
What a treasure to have everyone together to honor your sister. Blessings, Carol.
Gratefulness helps me stay present, building a state of satisfaction in my life. It cultivates happiness of what I already have in my life instead of regrets for what I’d lost and dreams for what I’d never have.
My Ngoc, I’m very familiar with this. It all points back to the saying of tears, fears, and cheers for the past, future, and present respectively.
I think being courageous helps me become more grateful. I’ve come to realize I am driven by fear and I hold myself back because of it. I think about a time when I was really anxious about having a phone call with someone with who I was talking to. I kept putting myself down, thinking this person won’t like me, etc but then thought “love is letting go of fear”. That night, We talked for over an hour and we started seeing each other soon after. Although we are no longer together, I think about that moment of courage and how I’m grateful to have pushed myself because I learned so much about myself and what I wanted out of a relationship .
I like the way you turned this around, Jenifer. I can find more to explore in the question with this wording.
Gratefulness is such a steady, sturdy foundation to begin from in all situations. I guess another way to say it, is that gratefulness is centering, calming. It supports a trust in myself that I have all I need. Courageness can be hard, challenging, even scary to me. Yet, if I can stay in that place of calm, I can move forward, most of the time.
Gratefulness gives me the introspection to see all the Blessings I have. I realize that being grateful…I am being grateful to a Supreme Being; for me that is God, Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit. I know that through God all things are possible. We have the good with the bad…and during times of trouble…I know Jesus is walking with me or carrying me…and I am grateful…which gives me the courage to stay with whatever in my life is happening. Wishing one and all a good and restful weekend.
Amen! I believe that even though I haven’t yet discovered the good in the bad, God is always there and is with us.