Reflections

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  1. Cathie

    To receive more gratefully, I focus on the generosity of the giver, vs. what is given to me. This has helped me accept compliments more graciously:)

    1 month ago
  2. Robin Ann

    I really don’t see this as an issue with me. We all need support and need to be open to it

    1 month ago
  3. KC

    I was raised with the mantra ‘it is far better to give than to receive’. That imbalance continues to play out in my family of origin, and life.

    A few years ago on retreat, I was grateful for the insight and reframe – that giving and receiving go together and are of equal value/ weight. i am able to receive most easily when I accept that sometimes we are asked to receive and / or ask for help, and other times we are asked to give. Lots to discern, explore, discover, practice, learn in this … Chocolate is an easy one 🙂

    1 month ago
  4. N
    NatureGirl

    This is hard for me to do because I constantly hear my dad’s voice in my head. “Work hard and be independent, earn your keep and take pride in a job well done. Help OTHERS, but don’t ask for help yourself. There are many others more needy than you.”

    I’m recently learning that asking for help doesn’t mean I’ve failed. It simply means I’m not alone. I’m learning and practicing how to receive, though I still initially resist and deflect.

    Something that helps me receive is to remember…I love doing God’s work of caring and helping others. When I deny others’ help for me, I’m denying them this same privilege and honor to help nurture humankind.

    I’ll continue practicing to receive.

    1 month ago
    1. KC

      Thank you NatureGirl. I have a similar voice in my head, also from my father. I appreciate your reframe, and seeing it as a practice to learn to receive …

      1 month ago
  5. Don Jones

    Perhaps life is not about comfort (as a priority). Some of my most valuable life lessons were the hardest things I have ever experienced. My direct experience of Grace is that it is ever present. I just need to be open to it to receive.

    1 month ago
    1. N
      NatureGirl

      So true! It’s been the same in my own life, too. Blessings.

      1 month ago
  6. Erich617

    I have been having conflicts with a few people in my life (I will be vague in the interest of privacy). Something I discussed with a therapist was my feeling that I am “too much,” that my needs are too big for others.

    In several of these relationships, I have clear examples of people not meeting my needs and even telling me pretty explicitly that I am asking too much of them. This creates tension and conflict for me. I am continuously replaying a particular battle in my head.

    Recently, though, some of these people have made efforts to be available or meet my needs. Just today, somebody asked me very directly, “Can I do anything for you?”

    I responded no for a variety of reasons even though I am frequently frustrated that this person does not present that type of opportunity. I do not blame myself for that decision. I do take it as a sign that some dialogue with this person might be possible in the future.

    I have seen similar change with other people in my life. It is not consistent, but I can at least believe that people are trying rather than continuing past conflicts.

    1 month ago
  7. pkr

    Just as I give, I receive…A reciprocity of sorts. I don’t give to receive but when I do receive I must remind myself, that this is good, it is part of the process. I, like many have felt unworthy & uneasy receiving but darn it I am worthy. And it is ok to ask for help.

    1 month ago
  8. Susan

    To remember that I am worthy.

    1 month ago
  9. Emmaleah

    By recognizing that I am worthy; deserving of love and goodness and allowing people to help and give when they offer.

    1 month ago
  10. T
    Tracy

    I can allow myself to recieive mroe easily by not just being stuck in the past and instead opening up to the people around me and telling them how i feel

    1 month ago
  11. Lisalisasmile

    I can be more open, open to those who offer me help, open to trusting that I am worthy of receiving, open to believing the universe wants us all to live an beautiful life ♥️🙏🌼

    1 month ago
  12. Barb C

    When it comes to receiving help I know I “don’t want to be a bother”. I don’t know precisely where that came from, although now that I’ve typed those words I realize I can hear them in my mother’s voice. Self-sufficiency feels like a form of strength. I need to recognize that if I enjoy giving to others, the only way they get to have that enjoyment is if I receive.
    In receiving negative feedback I’ve been helped for a long time by remembering that what you say is more about you than it is about me. I’m fairly good at depersonalizing–have to remember to listen for the nuggets that may have some truth even when they sting.

    1 month ago
    1. Mica

      Me, too, Barb! ‘Don’t want to be a bother. I was raised to be Good, which is pretty narrow 😐 Thanks for your post 🙂

      1 month ago
    2. Eeevvv

      “if I enjoy giving to others, the only way they get to have that enjoyment is if I receive”
      Thank you Barb, it seems so common or even banal but foolishly I’ve never look at that from this perspective. I’m going to meditate on it. Again, thank you!

      1 month ago
  13. Val Dombey

    By opening myself up to possibilities and eliminating the probabilities I can be more open to receiving from others because the willingness to receive is there.

    1 month ago
  14. Carol

    It all boils down to willingness and trust and the reminder that I am of worth even when I don’t think I’m worthy.

    1 month ago
  15. Butterfly

    It can be very difficult to accept and receive help even when we know we need it, especially if our independence feels threatened. Becoming bed-bound was a huge challenge as I needed help with the most personal things. Even 20 years on I still sometimes find it difficult to receive some of the help I need, especially when it’s not quite the way I want it! But I am grateful that there are people willing to help me and I always try to accept all help with good grace and compromise on how things are done. As with everything it’s a work in progress😄

    1 month ago
    1. Mica

      Wow, Butterfly – what a challenge to be dependent on the service and the ways that others do it! Warm wishes to you! 🙂

      1 month ago
  16. Charlie T

    By reminding myself that I have surrendered and I am no longer holding back sharing my whole self. I’ve stopped automatically pushing back. I’m attempting to pause, listen, contemplate, and respond. Not fearing being the first to share, allows others to feel safe and share with me. This is a nice reminder for me. Thank you 🙏

    1 month ago
  17. c
    carol

    trusting and remembering no one is unworthy, and forgiving a bit like emptying the residuals, making room

    1 month ago
  18. Y
    Yram

    Relax, be grateful, know that receiving is also a part of giving and enjoy.

    1 month ago
    1. Mica

      Thanks, Yram, for that: ‘receiving is also a part of giving’. I’m lucky to have a friend who is so generous in giving – she gives me so many opportunities to be willing to receive. 🙂

      1 month ago
  19. Avril

    I believe there is reciprocity in giving and receiving. I’m aiming to be generous of my time, talent, and treasure. I want the energy to flow, so I aim to be vulnerable, accept help, and allow others to love me, too.

    1 month ago
  20. Rabbit

    I believe we have each other so we can help each other. This question also reminded me of the book and movie, “Pay It Forward.” Perhaps we can receive more easily by knowing we can and do or will help others.

    1 month ago
  21. sunnypatti48317

    Keeping my heart and mind open. By practicing saying yes and thank you. My old tendances tell me otherwise, but when I allow myself to receive, it feels good. My soul feels good.

    1 month ago
  22. Antoinette

    I can receive by not dropping out of the therapy for complex PTSD. It’s difficult and confrontational and I didn’t expect it to be . I don’t know what I really expected, but I can see like the quote of the day says this is a chance for me to do my best.

    1 month ago
    1. Val Dombey

      Sending much love and light on your journey!

      1 month ago
    2. Barb C

      Wishing you the best in this difficult process and hoping it moves you forward on your path, Antoinette.

      1 month ago
  23. Javier Visionquest

    To identify and remove any and every obstruction from our paths that does not serve our highest purpose.

    1 month ago
    1. Rabbit

      Thank you. You say so much with so few words. I appreciate your posts Javier.

      1 month ago
  24. Eeevvv

    Receiving help it’s something I have to work on, because it bothers me. I don’t want to disturb anyone with my problems but I also have to remember that I’m not a burden to the ones that love me.

    1 month ago
    1. Mica

      Right On, Eeevvv! 🙂

      1 month ago
  25. Joseph McCann

    Stop striving to be so self sustaining and self sufficient and be acceptable to help. Today’s Daily Word reminds me of a line from an essay I was given on Gratitude: Don’t focus on your circumstances, focus on your capabilities.

    1 month ago
    1. Antoinette

      Thank you so much for reminding me of this. It’s important for us to look at our capabilities and I’m capable of much more than I think I am. Just because we have emotions doesn’t mean we are our emotions or thoughts.

      1 month ago
  26. Laura

    Take a breath, pause and notice what’s coming my way and what has already arrived. All those gifts! Some opened, some just waiting for me to tear off the wrapping paper to see what’s inside.

    1 month ago
  27. EJP

    By letting go and opening my heart and soul I allow myself to receive more easily.

    1 month ago
  28. Michele

    Paying attention.
    Im in a cabin in the woods. Receiving internet service is sketchy lol.

    1 month ago
    1. Rabbit

      Michele, I just talked to my friend Carole who has spotty phone service too. She was so glad to have her phone back. We are glad when yours works too so you can be here with us.

      1 month ago
    2. Antoinette

      Lucky you, have fun Michelle!

      1 month ago
  29. devy

    May I continue to breathe deeply, smile and learn to accept what happens knowing that everything happens for a reason

    1 month ago
  30. Kevin

    To a degree, it depends on what I am receiving. For example:
    Praise? Bring it on!
    Blame? Depends on who’s responsible. If it’s me, I’m listening.
    Help? Thank you!

    1 month ago
    1. Rabbit

      You are so wise Kevin. Thank you.

      1 month ago
  31. Christine

    I don’t understand the question well, but this sentence came to my mind. When I give, I receive.

    1 month ago
    1. O.Christina

      Yes dear Christine, and thank you for the love which shines through your posts! 🙏❤️

      1 month ago

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