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  1. S
    Suzanne S
    3 weeks ago

    To feel, to heal, and sometimes how not to be. Or how I want to be.

  2. J
    Julie Korzekwa
    4 weeks ago

    In this imperfect world, there have got to be weeds among the beautiful flowers so that we will be able to recognize that there are differences. Also, some may see the weeds as weeds while others may have an appreciation for them in a way that could be perceived as odd or peculiar. We are all different, and that’s more than okay. I want to grow in my quest to appreciate the differences in people. It’s so important to honor and respect each other, no matter the differences.

  3. Robin Ann
    Robin Ann
    4 weeks ago

    To never give up hope. To stay close to my faith for comfort.

  4. sparrow51014
    sparrow
    4 weeks ago

    I am in conflict
    whenever the question of weeds vs. cultivated plants and flowers
    arises,
    which is more often than you’d think.
    I’ve spent a lot of time
    nurturing flower beds around my home,
    and it’s been a constant battle with the weeds . . .
    they are pernicious
    and insist on robbing the other flowers of their nutrients.
    They are in essence cruel and selfish,
    but they are beautiful
    and they do belong here.

    As many others have said,
    it’s a matter of perspective
    as to what exactly a weed is
    vs. a carefully tended flower.
    For the sake of argument
    I will call the weeds in the garden of life,
    as things that harm,
    things that destroy what is good
    in terms that we think of as morality. . .
    “good” and ”evil”.
    And the flowers we plant deliberately
    are the beloved children.
    The ‘volunteers’,
    to me,
    are the ‘visitors’.

    The weeds were already living in me
    when I was a child,
    mostly buried and mostly unacknowledged,
    as they do in all of us,
    but after the first tragedy of my life,
    the death of a child,
    I couldn’t bear to look at what was good and beautiful anymore.

    Instead,
    I dwelt with the weeds for many years,
    and actively sought them
    in self destructive behavior
    and questionable living,
    until I finally surfaced back into the Light.
    Those weeds though,
    they taught me more than I ever learned from the Good.
    I didn’t even see the Good
    until I lived with the Bad . . .
    I had taken the Good for granted,
    as if it was my birthright.

    Perhaps both the positive and negative
    serve together . . .
    perhaps they are not so different in their intent . . .
    perhaps each has its place.
    Perhaps we have mis-identified them.
    Perhaps they provide balance . . .
    perhaps we need the Negative
    to give value and full appreciation of the Positive.
    I do not know.
    I wish this question had remained simple for me.

    1. Joseph
      Joseph McCann
      4 weeks ago

      One cannot know light without knowing dark. Thank you, dear Sparrow.

      1. sparrow51014
        sparrow
        4 weeks ago

        Thank you,
        dear Joseph . . .
        I think you know where i am coming from…♥

  5. Antoinette88615
    Antoinette
    4 weeks ago

    This is an interesting question. It can be answered in many different ways, but my first instinct is to say that we need all spices of plants, animals, minerals etc.
    “ it takes every kind of people to make the world go round”
    We need everything and everything depends on everything else. The weeds are needed to grow butterflies and butterflies are needed to…. Natures flow is the boss not me and my opinion of what I like or don’t like. So after all this – I have learned that the weeds and mid grow the lotus 🪷.

  6. Barb C
    Barb C
    4 weeks ago

    I remember as a child reading a line about weeds: A wheat grower would consider a rose in the middle of the wheat field a weed, and a rose grower would consider wheat in the middle of their flowers a weed. I lived outside of Lewiston, Idaho, surrounded by wheat fields, and my mom had rose bushes, which is probably why this stuck with me.

    We had a big garden and one of my chores was helping weed that, along with digging thistles out of the lawn (and other “get rid of that” chores, like picking potato bugs off leaves to drop into a bucket of soapy water). From all of this I understood that a weed was a plant living in a place where humans didn’t want it. I didn’t want thistles in the lawn because I went barefoot a lot. I’d helped hoe and plant the seeds growing in the garden and I wanted them to survive.

    We had this question a while back and I mentioned an interview with Ben Wilson, author of Urban Jungle, that I’d listened to in a podcast (https://usa.streetsblog.org/2023/06/22/talking-headways-podcast-the-urban-jungle). He referred to “spontaneous vegetation”. More recently I picked up the term “vagabond plants” from the blog Awkward Botany: https://awkwardbotany.com/2022/05/18/in-praise-of-vagabond-plants-a-book-review/, which gives me a lot of joy. A vagabond is so much more interesting! The blogger writes, “A weed is a highly successful plant that shares a close relationship with humans.”

    Thinking of the weeds in my life as highly successful and sharing a close relationship with me gives me a fresh perspective on this question. A weed is something that comes along when or where I don’t want it. Something created an environment it can thrive in, as Drea pointed out. If it’s in close relationship with me, why is that? Perhaps it resembles whatever it is I was trying to cultivate and nurture in that space, which is why it feels so welcome there.

    Thinking of actual weeds in my life today, we bought a house 4 years ago with a sadly neglected yard full of false dandelion and burdock. Those weeds have given me great satisfaction as I’ve tackled the project of digging them out with their long, tenacious roots (my Grampa’s Weed Puller is the star here) and filling the holes with compost and clover seed. I’m ahead of the false dandelion–a few burdock remain, as they’re tougher to get out completely. The yard now offers nourishment to bees when the clover blooms, and it’s infusing nitrogen into the soil. My weeds have thus been an opportunity to change something and make it bloom in the space I create by getting rid of them. They teach tenacity, perseverance, and a certain amount of acceptance that they may well come back if I don’t put something positive in their place.

  7. D
    Drea
    4 weeks ago

    If I picture a garden, I picture good health. I think of weeds not as intrinsically bad, but, as others have said, a natural part of things. Inevitably there will be some I don’t want in my garden.

    I act on them first by observing their behavior. The aggressive plants that crowd out healthy plants sometimes have a deep taproot, runners, and other hidden connections. If I follow those connections and zoom out, I can see how (any maybe why) the undesirable ecosystem is thriving.

    I don’t want to provide a favorable environment to plants that crowd out health, so I’m also compelled to trace and observe the ecosystem of a healthy garden, and what it needs in order to thrive. Because really, when aggressive, intrusive, undesirable plants thrive, it’s because they like something about the soil, the sunlight, the setting … what triggered this plant to suddenly pop up? Is there a situation I can change? Even with weeds, I can always learn more, while being strict about removing certain ones, and investigating the ecosystem of others.

    As I write this, I think: is not Stop. Look. Go. a way of removing a weed? Of coming back to cultivate one’s garden? Anyways, provocative question, thank you.

  8. Charlie T
    Charlie T
    4 weeks ago

    I find myself in the weeds, figuratively and literally, quite often. The weeds have taught me not to give up. Persist.
    There is beauty and fulfillment amongst the weeds.
    I have lamented and reveled in the fact that I have spent my life, not amongst the pampered flowers and cultivated gardens, but amongst the weeds and wildness of the world. It can be a rough and tumble existence, but there is beauty to be found.

    1. Joseph
      Joseph McCann
      4 weeks ago

      Charlie, once again it s0unds like your so-called life and my so-called life parallel.

    2. sparrow51014
      sparrow
      4 weeks ago

      I have lived in both lives,
      dear Charlie,
      the cultivated gardens,
      and in the wild and weedy world,
      both physically and spiritually,
      nearly dying several times.
      There are gifts in both
      (even the dying part),
      and you remind me of this
      with love…
      sparrow ♥️

    3. D
      Drea
      4 weeks ago

      Charlie, your comment makes me think of jazz music, of dissonant harmonies, of careful listening … I enjoy your imagery of sitting back and being in the weeds not as something to control or pluck, but as a state of being. Thank you.

  9. Mary
    Mary
    4 weeks ago

    The same weeds are trying to teach me the same lesson,
    but I have been slow to learn it.

    I have retired from teaching, but in my last teaching position
    a few students made false accusations about me,
    the powers that be chose to believe them and I was suspended for a week.
    My name ended up in the local newspaper
    and now if my name is googled,
    this story, which is based on lies, comes up.

    Replaying the situations in my mind can’t change the past
    and I continue to have negative repercussions from this,
    such as being ghosted on line on two occasions
    after giving my full name to two prominent local artists.
    I’ve also turned down having my own art show because I know this will be in the air.
    I haven’t come up with a good solution to this problem other than to just live with it.

    The lesson in these weeds is
    If you can’t solve a problem let it go.
    But I still haven’t been able to fully let go of this one.

    1. D
      Drea
      3 weeks ago

      Mary, I am so sorry this happened to you and that you continue to experience shunning based on a false accusation. I have experienced a milder version of a problematic online result, and will share what I learned just in case it’s useful. Assuming the newspaper won’t retract, an option could be to publish a blog under your full name, and/or publish an article on a website with a lot of viewers, and attempt to drive that questionable Google result to a later page. Self-publishing a book, however short, is another option. Putting your full name on multiple social media accounts is yet another. Again, what a difficult ordeal … I hope that somehow something positive emerges from all this. Sending care.

    2. D
      Drea
      3 weeks ago

      Mary, this is appalling. I’m so sorry you went through this and are still going through it. I don’t have an experience as difficult as yours, but I have milder experiences which I’ll share, just in case something is useful. One time I asked an editor to retract my name from a list that was just plain misrepresenting my views, sending him a stern email, and he did. I have also noticed that social media accounts with one’s full name are indexed highly, as are items that are distributed through multiple websites that also contain your name, such as articles you got published online, and books. So there are ways to at least drown out that google result to a later page. Again, I am so sorry this happened and hope that something new and positive emerges from it somehow.

    3. Avril
      Avril
      3 weeks ago

      Mary, I am sorry for this awful situation.

      1. Mary
        Mary
        3 weeks ago

        Thank you Avril.

    4. Patti
      sunnypatti
      4 weeks ago

      Dear Mary, I pray you can find the healing and strength needed to move forward.

      1. Mary
        Mary
        4 weeks ago

        Thank you, SunnyPatti. ♥️

    5. Joseph
      Joseph McCann
      4 weeks ago

      One of those collective madnesses of humankind Mary. Finding joy in others uncomfortableness. Thoughts of letting this go, to you.

      1. Mary
        Mary
        4 weeks ago

        That seems to be so true, Joseph.
        I’ve seen it happen to other teachers as well as to me.
        People seem to want to believe the worst.
        I have to admit, that part of my sadness and anger over this
        comes from my caring too much about what others think about me.
        I do wish I could get it off google, though
        Thank you Joseph. ♥️

    6. Carol Ann Conner
      Carol
      4 weeks ago

      Mary My heart goes out to you.

      1. Mary
        Mary
        4 weeks ago

        Thank you Carol.

    7. sparrow51014
      sparrow
      4 weeks ago

      What a terrible thing to have happened to you,
      dear Mary…
      and it has stifled your desire to share yourself with the world.
      You will not heal
      until you bravely display your artwork for all to see,
      knowing the truth beyond the lies.
      Rise up,
      Mary…
      you are so much more than this. ♥️

      1. Mary
        Mary
        4 weeks ago

        Thank you, Sparrow.

  10. pkr29022
    pkr
    4 weeks ago

    Resilience, Perseverance.
    To never give up. Keep on keeping on.

  11. Carol Ann Conner
    Carol
    4 weeks ago

    Who’s to say they’re weeds? As Eckhart Tolle says, “Don’t turn a situation into a problem.” When it comes to the natural world, I think of dandelions and how people are constantly digging them up because we have decided that they are a weed. We forget that they feed the bees. A field of dandelions is breathtakingly beautiful in the eyes of a bee! So what the bees have taught me is to always check my perspective before I label something a weed. I try to ask myself what can I learn from this? Oh, how I wish I had realized the difference between a situation and a problem when I was much younger!

    Todays quote from Tara Brach says it all: “If we knew just how powerfully our thoughts, words, and actions affected the hearts of those around us, we’d reach out and join hands again and again.”
    This quote makes me think of quotes from Meister Eckhart and Rumi:

    Breakthrough and Birth by Meister Eckhart
    What good is it to me if this eternal birth of a divine Son takes place unceasingly and does not take place in me? And what good is it to me if Mary is full of grace and I am not also full of grace? What good is it to me for the Creator to give birth to his Son if I do not also give birth to him in my time and in my culture? This then is the fullness of time when the Son of God is begotten in us. Meditation with Meister Eckhart by Matthew Fox p. 81

    “The Body is Like Mary” by Rumi
    The body is like Mary, and each of us has a Jesus inside.
    Who is not in labour, holy labour? Every creature is.
    See the value of true art, when the earth or a soul is in
    the mood to create beauty;
    for the witness might then for a moment know, beyond
    any doubt, God is really there within,
    so innocently drawing life from us with Her umbilical
    universe – infinite existence …
    though also needing to be born. Yes, God also needs
    to be born!
    Birth from a hand’s loving touch. Birth from a song,
    from a dance, breathing life into this world.
    The body is like Mary, and each of us, each of us has
    a Christ within.
    Mevlana Jalaluddin Rumi

    1. D
      Drea
      4 weeks ago

      Carol, I’m with you. Didn’t Europeans bring dandelions to North America as food crops to begin with? Either way, they’re also quite good to eat if you can get the leaves young, blanche them, and offset the bitterness with lemon or vinegar. Some people fry the flowers in panko and I’ve heard that’s good too.

      1. Carol Ann Conner
        Carol
        4 weeks ago

        Drea, I didn’t know about the Europeans bringing dandelions to the U.S. But Barb’s research tells me we may not have always thought of dandelions as a weed!

      2. Barb C
        Barb C
        4 weeks ago

        Drea, this comment reminded me of an older brother’s unsuccessful attempt at making dandelion wine when I was a kid. I went looking for a recipe to send him as a reminder of that memory and found so many things we can make with dandelions! Ice cream, marshmallows, gummy bears–https://practicalselfreliance.com/dandelion-wine-recipe/.

        I loved the author’s note: “It takes quite a few dandelions to make wine, so it’s best to enlist the help of as many small children as possible.” That turns “dealing with weeds” into fun with kids, which is definitely one way of tackling those weeds.

        1. D
          Drea
          3 weeks ago

          Oh wow, I had no idea dandelions were so versatile! Thanks Barb. I’d like to get serious when I see the young dandelions popping up in the yard … about eating them.

  12. L
    Loc Tran
    4 weeks ago

    I once heard from a guess speaker back in high school that people are like elevators. The weeds have helped me determine who my real people are and to put trust in them.

  13. Patti
    sunnypatti
    4 weeks ago

    Weeds are persistent, and my perception of them has varied depending on my mood. I have seen them as annoying, but I have also seen them as a mindful task as I worked to pull them from the ground. So I suppose what they’ve taught me is that my perception is everything. I get what I see… do I want to see an annoyance, or do I want to see something that helps me along my path? I’m grateful when I can choose the latter 🙂

    1. Carol Ann Conner
      Carol
      4 weeks ago

      Such wisdom. Thank you, Patti

      1. Patti
        sunnypatti
        4 weeks ago

        Thank you as well!

  14. Carla
    Carla
    4 weeks ago

    Weeds are good teachers about tenacity and hidden beauty. And some need to be removed down to the roots to not contaminate the whole. Like a dysfunctional family, it takes more love to let go than to hold on. Sometimes the “weedy” people in a family need to be removed or told “to go.”

  15. Avril
    Avril
    4 weeks ago

    I like when the weeds are called volunteers–sometimes they are purposeful and can be a happy accident. I am trying to be in a space of neutrality and equanimity. I can share three examples of that spiritual nonchalance. Alan Watts shares in the story of the Chinese farmer who said, “maybe” when good ‘fortune’ and bad ‘fortune arose. The story of the ring forthe Sufi king from his wise men enscribed, “this too shall pass” for good times and bad times. Or, my friend Suzie who says, “that’s interesting”, when challenging situations arise.

    1. Joseph
      Joseph McCann
      4 weeks ago

      I enjoyed Alan Watts retelling of the Chinese farmer and his consistent reply of “maybe”. Thank you, Avril.

    2. sparrow51014
      sparrow
      4 weeks ago

      Thank you for this,
      dear Avril . . . 😸

    3. Mary
      Mary Mantei
      4 weeks ago

      Avril, your 3 guides have an open, calming effect. “Spiritual nonchalance”, you have me thinking …

      1. Carol Ann Conner
        Carol
        4 weeks ago

        I agree, “Spiritual nonchalance”

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