That I am not smart enough and lack self confidence. I believe this stems back to my childhood when my older brother would tease me and constantly try to quiz me on different topics. I was also not really into academic studies. However, once I found my niche life became better and I realized I that certain subjects came easily to me on not others.
Like many others, I share the feeling of not being good enough. On one hand, I know I’m a good person and try to have a positive attitude but then there’s the woman who is constantly worried and anxious and high strung and has a hard time with stress, so it is the daily Work in progress and all I can say is I’m grateful for everyone on this website and this website to help me be a better person.
I am ready, and have been ready, to release the story that I’m not enough. But it seems that, like surrender, I must do this on the daily. It comes down to trust. Can I trust that the universe has my back. The evidence is overwhelming. Yes, this world has been good to me.
I would like to release the story that I am not good enough.
Another to release is that I am not quick enough at getting things done.
Another is that I’m not a good enough artist.
A few more to drop:
I should always please other people,
It’s not okay to show anger (I’m still not sure about this one😬)
and that it’s not okay to say anything that might anger someone.
Lastly I would like to drop
It’s not okay to make mistakes. 😐
These are the stories that hold me back.
It’s not that easy to break the habit of feeling
inadequate when I think this way.
I think the way to correct this is to catch myself
when into these thoughts and feelings,
and to change the thought.
And I do frequently correct myself when thinking negatively.
The challenge is to *remember* to change the thought.
And the bigger challenge is to then change the feeling.
♥️♥️♥️
From one addict to another,
dear Amber…
once you get to the other side
you will see how worth it the journey was.
You can do this.
I have your back
with love…
sparrow ♥
That is an ongoing project. I have to catch the story first. Some of them are so deeply embedded that they are hardwired into me, appearing as character traits rather than results of old events in my life.
There’s an old story in the back of my mind that tells me I am not good enough. Not good enough for all kinds of things, and not worthy of happiness. I’ve been able to make this story a smaller part of my mind frame, but it’s a tough one since it took me a while to even recognize that it was there. I’m grateful to recognize it and to be able to work on it.
A good friend asked me the same before I left my first marriage. There was a lot of build up before that, but it’s one of the things that helped push me to do better for myself. We all deserve good things… and a good life!
Seeing how well I’ve continued to evolve and adapt to multiple social settings, a story I’m ready to release is that I’m a 2nd generation Vietnamese American with a mild case of autism and bipolar mania who has a hard time with more traditional social settings. I still believe that being a cross between 2 worlds takes extra work, but it ultimately comes down to desire. As the old saying goes, “Excuses are like buttholes. Everybody has one, and they all stink.” Nature>nurture>nothing. The first 2 look similar.
I have not drunk alcohol for 5 days short of 32 months. February 17, 2022. I am 67 and have spent 30+ years of that time under the influence. Had a period of 17 1/2 years of sobriety. January 1992. Right after our daughter graduated from high school, youngest of our two children, June “09”, I gave myself permission to drink. I was not cured; I could not drink moderately. I got in more legal difficulties, marriage difficulties, mental health challenges, on and on with the complications of active addiction. Alcohol. A story. I have released the grips on that old friend who only has horrible intentions for me, for today. That is really all I need to do. Release that grip, each new day I am gifted. Namaste.
Alcohol is too accepted and too expected.
It’s hard to find social events that are alcohol free.
My take on this is that
everyone would like to be less inhibited.
People long to be their authentic selves,
but are afraid to show themselves.
Most are afraid of being rejected.
Being alcohol free requires
one to have the self acceptance
to show up with all our imperfections,
yet do so without the need for something to ease the pain.
This requires the self acceptance
and willingness to be seen.
That’s my take, as someone who is not alcoholic,
but one who has done some heavy drinking in my earlier years,
I now support my spouse by joining him in giving up alcohol.
It feels like a healthy choice.
Congratulaations, Joseph! You are an inspiration. Alcohol is evil for many of us. To get where you are today required much work and resolve. Congratulations on 32 months of sobriety and I pray for your life to continue on this road. God Bless, my friend.
I was constantly trying to ‘be worthy until I finally realized the difference between ‘being of worth’ and ‘being worthy’ This Donna Ashworth poem seems to say it all for me.
As time goes by,
You will loosen your grip on that rock,
The one you always thought was home,
And you will realise that home is not a place,
It’s a state of mind.
Let it go.
As time goes by,
You will learn to see yourself more clearly,
The girl who was always too much of one thing,
And too little of another, was actually
Everything she needed to be.
Let her out.
As time goes by,
You will let the simple things become the big,
And you will allow the big things to become the simple,
And that readjustment will be,
The day you really start to live,
Let it be.
As time goes by,
You will be forced to say goodbye many times,
And your soft little heart will shatter but,
It will still beat and that will bring you,
All the purpose you need.
Let it beat.
As time goes by,
You will stop choosing wealth over peace,
You will stop choosing money over time,
And you will see that the treasures you need,
Are in the smiles and the laughter.
Let them in.
As time goes by,
The moments you remember when your life flashes past,
Are never the awful memories my friend, it’s the joy,
The summer nights, the lazy days with loved ones,
The midnight chats and the morning hugs,
Let them happen.
Let them all happen.
✍️Donna Ashworth
Carol, thank you!!!
Nothing could speak to me in this moment
as this poem has!
And, oh my goodness, the second stanza about that girl!
I relate so strongly with being that girl!
Thanks so much Carol, for posting this poem.
I feel so much better for having read it!
Many blessings to you! ♥️♥️♥️
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That I am not smart enough and lack self confidence. I believe this stems back to my childhood when my older brother would tease me and constantly try to quiz me on different topics. I was also not really into academic studies. However, once I found my niche life became better and I realized I that certain subjects came easily to me on not others.
Like many others, I share the feeling of not being good enough. On one hand, I know I’m a good person and try to have a positive attitude but then there’s the woman who is constantly worried and anxious and high strung and has a hard time with stress, so it is the daily Work in progress and all I can say is I’m grateful for everyone on this website and this website to help me be a better person.
I am ready to release the story that I am unlikeable and I cannot connect with people.
I am ready, and have been ready, to release the story that I’m not enough. But it seems that, like surrender, I must do this on the daily. It comes down to trust. Can I trust that the universe has my back. The evidence is overwhelming. Yes, this world has been good to me.
I would like to release the story that I am not good enough.
Another to release is that I am not quick enough at getting things done.
Another is that I’m not a good enough artist.
A few more to drop:
I should always please other people,
It’s not okay to show anger (I’m still not sure about this one😬)
and that it’s not okay to say anything that might anger someone.
Lastly I would like to drop
It’s not okay to make mistakes. 😐
These are the stories that hold me back.
It’s not that easy to break the habit of feeling
inadequate when I think this way.
Dear Mary, your story sounds like my story.
An Ocean between us is not enough to write different story.
Dear dear Anna.
We are kindred souls. ♥️
Anna, I responded to your post
about seeing good in others a few days back.
You may not have seen it.
Sending my love to you dear Anna. ♥️
I think the way to correct this is to catch myself
when into these thoughts and feelings,
and to change the thought.
And I do frequently correct myself when thinking negatively.
The challenge is to *remember* to change the thought.
And the bigger challenge is to then change the feeling.
♥️♥️♥️
Every single one of them. We have to uproot the karma habits in the body! It’s all false .
I am so ready to release this addiction! Lord help me to be strong today!
From one addict to another,
dear Amber…
once you get to the other side
you will see how worth it the journey was.
You can do this.
I have your back
with love…
sparrow ♥
Healing thoughts to you Amber. May you empower your sober self.
Sending you strength and hope through your addiction journey. 🩵✨
That is an ongoing project. I have to catch the story first. Some of them are so deeply embedded that they are hardwired into me, appearing as character traits rather than results of old events in my life.
There’s an old story in the back of my mind that tells me I am not good enough. Not good enough for all kinds of things, and not worthy of happiness. I’ve been able to make this story a smaller part of my mind frame, but it’s a tough one since it took me a while to even recognize that it was there. I’m grateful to recognize it and to be able to work on it.
About four years ago my wife asked “Joe, why do you not think you deserve good things?”
A good friend asked me the same before I left my first marriage. There was a lot of build up before that, but it’s one of the things that helped push me to do better for myself. We all deserve good things… and a good life!
Amen SunnyPatti.
I think I am just starting to release some old stories from my life and that is going to take work. I pray that I have the strength to do that.
Seeing how well I’ve continued to evolve and adapt to multiple social settings, a story I’m ready to release is that I’m a 2nd generation Vietnamese American with a mild case of autism and bipolar mania who has a hard time with more traditional social settings. I still believe that being a cross between 2 worlds takes extra work, but it ultimately comes down to desire. As the old saying goes, “Excuses are like buttholes. Everybody has one, and they all stink.” Nature>nurture>nothing. The first 2 look similar.
I have not drunk alcohol for 5 days short of 32 months. February 17, 2022. I am 67 and have spent 30+ years of that time under the influence. Had a period of 17 1/2 years of sobriety. January 1992. Right after our daughter graduated from high school, youngest of our two children, June “09”, I gave myself permission to drink. I was not cured; I could not drink moderately. I got in more legal difficulties, marriage difficulties, mental health challenges, on and on with the complications of active addiction. Alcohol. A story. I have released the grips on that old friend who only has horrible intentions for me, for today. That is really all I need to do. Release that grip, each new day I am gifted. Namaste.
Good job Joseph! It’s a very addictive substance and all too acceptable. Keep taking it one day at a time . Even just one hour.
Namaste!
Alcohol is too accepted and too expected.
It’s hard to find social events that are alcohol free.
My take on this is that
everyone would like to be less inhibited.
People long to be their authentic selves,
but are afraid to show themselves.
Most are afraid of being rejected.
Being alcohol free requires
one to have the self acceptance
to show up with all our imperfections,
yet do so without the need for something to ease the pain.
This requires the self acceptance
and willingness to be seen.
That’s my take, as someone who is not alcoholic,
but one who has done some heavy drinking in my earlier years,
I now support my spouse by joining him in giving up alcohol.
It feels like a healthy choice.
Congratulaations, Joseph! You are an inspiration. Alcohol is evil for many of us. To get where you are today required much work and resolve. Congratulations on 32 months of sobriety and I pray for your life to continue on this road. God Bless, my friend.
I was constantly trying to ‘be worthy until I finally realized the difference between ‘being of worth’ and ‘being worthy’ This Donna Ashworth poem seems to say it all for me.
As time goes by,
You will loosen your grip on that rock,
The one you always thought was home,
And you will realise that home is not a place,
It’s a state of mind.
Let it go.
As time goes by,
You will learn to see yourself more clearly,
The girl who was always too much of one thing,
And too little of another, was actually
Everything she needed to be.
Let her out.
As time goes by,
You will let the simple things become the big,
And you will allow the big things to become the simple,
And that readjustment will be,
The day you really start to live,
Let it be.
As time goes by,
You will be forced to say goodbye many times,
And your soft little heart will shatter but,
It will still beat and that will bring you,
All the purpose you need.
Let it beat.
As time goes by,
You will stop choosing wealth over peace,
You will stop choosing money over time,
And you will see that the treasures you need,
Are in the smiles and the laughter.
Let them in.
As time goes by,
The moments you remember when your life flashes past,
Are never the awful memories my friend, it’s the joy,
The summer nights, the lazy days with loved ones,
The midnight chats and the morning hugs,
Let them happen.
Let them all happen.
✍️Donna Ashworth
Thank you, Carol.
Carol, thank you!!!
Nothing could speak to me in this moment
as this poem has!
And, oh my goodness, the second stanza about that girl!
I relate so strongly with being that girl!
Thanks so much Carol, for posting this poem.
I feel so much better for having read it!
Many blessings to you! ♥️♥️♥️
Beautiful 🙏
Love this. Thank you for sharing.
And now, it says it all for me, Carol. Thank you so very much.🩷
Me too Mary!
Thank you, Carol. What a beautiful and truthful poem. Now if I can only live it in some small way. God Bless You.