The opportunities were to try to stay positive, supportive and believe that God had her back. My daughter was to leave her place of employment after one year so that others in sobriety could come on board too. She was having a very difficult time trying to find something else. Well her current employer decided to bring her on board as a Junior Supervisor for a project that has taken off and has become very profitable for the company. She was also given a nice little increase in pay 💕
The opportunity in recently challenging situations i guess was not to follow fear, or if it happened nevertheless, to stay open to realize it, be inspired to let go soon, accept what needed to be accepted, calm down again much earlier by now and to go with the flow again. In the end, it feels that this supported in becoming more aware of possible qualities beyond fear. Some of them could not come to fruition due to fear. Abilities which turned out to be supportive for others, related to singing, to music, to accompanying kindred friends, to support healing in various ways. More of “what is sensed deep inside, in challenging situations showed to be true as a capacity”, like possibly touching and serving others, abilities possibly to be unfolded and eventually be supported, if it is of support for others what it is felt deep inside and if it is meant to be. For the moment being, some tender kind of hope arises that where almost all hope was gone, things might be starting to turn out well. This goes along with a sense of unfolding integrity.
I am currently helping out a friend in a complicated and very difficult situation. It’s been very challenging for me.
The opportunity is, for me to see the many gifts in my life and to count my blessings. And to shine a light on my own journey and to reinforce my practices and routines that have helped me and continue to guide me.
I’m helping out a friend and it is challenging in many ways.
The opportunity, is for me to reflect on my life and count my many blessings. The gift of helping someone who is suffering, is the perspective it shines on your life.
My personal challenges are fairly simple now and mostly age related and require a lot of acceptance and letting go. They are definitely opportunities for growth. But then, every situation or person that crosses our path offers the opportunity to grow.
Carol, as you and I seem to know, the acceptance and letting go (surrendering) is such an important piece of this puzzle.
I must sound like a broken record to my friends and family. 😁🙏
My hours have recently been trimmed at work. I got in a snit because my boss seemed to be annoyed when I spoke to him about my tasks. My therapist reminded me that I am there at the behest of the CEO, whom I know. It’s true. Takes the pressure off.
Integrity is my biggest challenge for me at this point, because I’ve developed a habit of pulling strings to get my ways. At least I know I’m doing it in the name of protection. This is a life long process. The more I’m able to let go and clean up myself, the closer I am to my roots which is liberating.
For example, one major step I took was a couple nights ago. During the evening, I heard my mom tell me that Tracy was getting her wisdom teeth removed. I texted Tracy on Thursday Night to ask her how she was doing. Yesterday morning, she told me that she was doing better, went downstairs to eat a bit, but still had a headache. Knowing that she was doing better made me happy.
I felt a buzz. Luckily, it wasn’t a major one. It’s a combination of leverage and family values. The leverage part comes from her style of care making me feel uncomfortable before and I know many forms of leverage for my autonomy. No one knew that part: not even my mom.
The case for family values is that I’m maturing. Walls are slowly and steadily coming down. After all, Tracy is family. I don’t want anything bad happening to her even if we’re incompatible. Fortunately, the feeling of family connection outweighs leverage for my autonomy.
With that being said, I use the backstage to work on my integrity. Being outspoken works in my favors. Honesty over my agendas makes people around me feel safer and gives them a better idea on how to help me let go of cheat codes. Winners don’t cheat, and cheaters don’t win.
LOC TRAN, For me, the word integrity is about integrating oneself. It is about our insides and our outsides being harmonious. I like your term “…honesty over my agendas…” I shall carry it with me. I’m guessing it helps you grow every bit as much as it helps others in your life. Honesty with self is a sign of maturity in my book!
Thanks, Sparrow. This reminds me of how if we can’t love ourselves, we can’t love others. Same holds true for honesty. Speaking the truth is easy. Being able to hear it is what really counts. I’ve heard the old saying before of “If you can dish it, you’ve got to take it.”
Carol Ann, our definitions match. This brings me back to a time when I was without Ngoc there for 8 weeks. I thought I was doing well. In hindsight, it turns out that it was more emotional inflation. Now, I have a better idea of that as I pay more attention to my body. Doing well feels peaceful. Emotional inflation carries extra boosts of pleasure like winning the superbowl.
My dear friend lost her cognitive abilities and passed away before we had a chance to have final conversations, or be real with each other, or whatever it is that the culture tells us will happen before people die. And honestly, I don’t think she even fully acknowledged to herself that she was dying until the end. Two months into grieving, I find myself thinking about the things we never talked about. Now they’re my problem, I suppose. I’ll never have the chance to attempt to work things out with her, not that it mattered in the end. But I do have the opportunity to reflect on my own entanglements, and why there is still such a charge on some of our conflicts.
I am so sorry for your loss. I recall a grief counselor (from losing a co-worker) saying that sometimes the grieving process will surface some “what if” situations. I think it is normal to feel these things and process them.
I think we all do this to one degree or another,
dear Drea . . .
ruminate over what we did or didn’t do,
and wonder how things could have been different,
especially when the other person involved
has died.
What happened or didn’t happen is not a burden you need to carry.
It was what it was,
and it is what it is.
You can rest easy,
learn what you need to learn
and move forward with peace in your heart. ♥
I think life offers us little opportunities all the time – and big opportunities as needed. My most recent opportunity was when I taught my gentle yoga this past Tuesday. I usually have 12-16 students, give or take, but I only had 4 that morning. I was fine during the class, but it really took a toll on me once I left the fitness center. Questioning myself, wondering if students really didn’t like my class as much as they’ve been telling me, comparing myself to other teachers… I really had to sit on that for a bit. I reminded myself that I have a lot to share, that I am worthy of doing what I’m doing, and also a few students told me they would be out of town, another had a friend visiting… things happen. People go on vacation. People try other classes. And it’s all okay. I have to just keep moving forward, trusting the path that I’m on. I also appreciate the reminder that I need to continue working on my healing and letting go of the old patterns that do not serve me.
Something Chelsea Handler said in an interview that has stuck with me. Paraphrased- talking about the size of her audience when she went on stage and there were a lot of empty seats- it doesn’t matter the number what matters is that I show up and give those people my best.
Patti, I have to remind myself often that there is a profound difference between the word “worthy” and the word “worth.” I was raised on that “Lord, I am not worthy” phrase and it almost destroyed me. Thankfully, I finally realized that I don’t have to be “worthy.” I just remind myself that I am of “worth,” that I have something to offer and my job is the willingness to give it freely. The need for validation is a pattern that is in us all. It’s part of that old “winner or loser” “success or failure” syndrome that the world preaches.
I facilitate a group, and some days it seems like the masses just don’t want to do anything, all of them at once. I’ve had groups where it’s just me and the other facilitator, and others that overfill the room. When it was just two of us, we did the work together and it ended up being intimate and fulfilling. I can tell you’re committed from all the way over here, Sunnypatti, and feel confident that those people patterns have nothing to do with how much students like your class. Plus, I bet those four students loved having a small class. Have a great weekend.
Thanks, Drea. I had all of them move closer so that we could more easily share our energy during the practice. I’m used to smaller classes at the studio I work at (one time I only had one student!), but the fitness center is usually pretty busy. I peek at other classes and see some with no attendance, so I have to remember to be grateful that I get to share yoga with others… no matter how many people show up! Hope you have a great weekend, too.
Active listening is one of my biggest challenges. I mean, I can listen, of course, but it takes effort to truly pay attention to people, even to my loved ones when they talk about something that doesn’t interest me. Still, these moments are great opportunities for me to practice my active listening skills, as it’s a crucial part of my future career as a human services professional. Wishing everyone a wonderful weekend! 🍁
Carol Ann, I see where you’re going with this. It’s tempting to overuse the line “I love you”, especially nowadays whereas “I hear you” is said less often. It’s more powerful and comes from the heart.
The last few years have led to reflection, forgiveness, acceptance and grace for myself and others. It’s an ongoing process that makes my faith and relationship with both God and the universe stronger. It’s led me towards my still undefined purpose but is teaching me to lean into my intentions to figure myself ( and maybe life) out.
Drea, speaking of acceptance, coming to the realization that I’m too far gone has helped me improve my integrity as mentioned in my answer just a few minutes ago. Acceptance does go a long ways.
Perhaps it’s just me who finds this sentence missing a word or two. “What are the opportunities “for…… “ healing? change? fill in a blank,…. I had a mild situation at work this week. The challenges included negating needing some medical care. Which was needed. Followed by auguring vs dialoguing with medical facts some outcomes that impacted how I perform my job duties. I’m grateful I chose the necessary medical care, then a dialogue with facts. and not resigning to mental victimization. All is fine with me medically after an unavoidable tumble. Blessings to all this fall weekend. 🍁Today 10/4 is Remembrance Day of Francis of Assisi. Someone who embodied Care for all Creation and Peacemaking.
The opportunity to accept the mores of society and of the algorithms of grateful.org. The issue with this began when an ISP i was using at a hotel in Tucson was tagged as spam by the algorithms. That was rectified and a 4 days ago I referenced over the top cooking shows as and commercials for over the top food combinations as food p_rn. I have not been able to post since then. buy i have been reflecting each day and clicking ‘Post Comment’. I am grateful and also censored by modern technology. Peace and Love.
I think that letting go of the victim mind frame using the meditation method has been a huge opportunity to break free! Breaking free from all mind frame 🖼️ s is the opportunity to become the universe mind! Using this very powerful present moment to really look at what it is I’m holding is liberating! Yes, looking at my pictures can be very uncomfortable and even downright painful! Doing dirty work of see ing what pictures I’m hiding under the rug is a dirty job! Over the four years that I have been taking a deep dive using the meditation method to really let go has absolutely changed my life!
So now when my mind world challenges come up I know exactly what to do! Rather than get lost in the picture world of my mind and marinate in the illusions I know what to do!
Thank you so much for showing me that my challenges are my options to break free ! ⛓️💥 love you ! 🥰
Letting go of the victim mind frame is not only hard it is truly digging deep into reflection and acceptance. I’ve been working on this and it is very freeing
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The opportunities were to try to stay positive, supportive and believe that God had her back. My daughter was to leave her place of employment after one year so that others in sobriety could come on board too. She was having a very difficult time trying to find something else. Well her current employer decided to bring her on board as a Junior Supervisor for a project that has taken off and has become very profitable for the company. She was also given a nice little increase in pay 💕
I am grateful for this,
dear Robin . . .
the winds are at your daughter’s back. ♥
Thank you all it was such a relief 🌞
Congratulations to your daughter, Robin Ann!
That’s great news!
That’s wonderful, Robin Ann! I love how that worked out for her.
Ose
The opportunity in recently challenging situations i guess was not to follow fear, or if it happened nevertheless, to stay open to realize it, be inspired to let go soon, accept what needed to be accepted, calm down again much earlier by now and to go with the flow again. In the end, it feels that this supported in becoming more aware of possible qualities beyond fear. Some of them could not come to fruition due to fear. Abilities which turned out to be supportive for others, related to singing, to music, to accompanying kindred friends, to support healing in various ways. More of “what is sensed deep inside, in challenging situations showed to be true as a capacity”, like possibly touching and serving others, abilities possibly to be unfolded and eventually be supported, if it is of support for others what it is felt deep inside and if it is meant to be. For the moment being, some tender kind of hope arises that where almost all hope was gone, things might be starting to turn out well. This goes along with a sense of unfolding integrity.
I am currently helping out a friend in a complicated and very difficult situation. It’s been very challenging for me.
The opportunity is, for me to see the many gifts in my life and to count my blessings. And to shine a light on my own journey and to reinforce my practices and routines that have helped me and continue to guide me.
Dear Charlie, Just remember that you can support him but you can’t fix him. Sending loving energy your way.
You are doing your friend
a great service,
dear Charlie . . .
as you do this,
you enrich both of you.
Bless you . . . ♥
I’m helping out a friend and it is challenging in many ways.
The opportunity, is for me to reflect on my life and count my many blessings. The gift of helping someone who is suffering, is the perspective it shines on your life.
My personal challenges are fairly simple now and mostly age related and require a lot of acceptance and letting go. They are definitely opportunities for growth. But then, every situation or person that crosses our path offers the opportunity to grow.
Carol, as you and I seem to know, the acceptance and letting go (surrendering) is such an important piece of this puzzle.
I must sound like a broken record to my friends and family. 😁🙏
Self-reflection.
Wishing everyone a peaceful weekend 🙂
My hours have recently been trimmed at work. I got in a snit because my boss seemed to be annoyed when I spoke to him about my tasks. My therapist reminded me that I am there at the behest of the CEO, whom I know. It’s true. Takes the pressure off.
Integrity is my biggest challenge for me at this point, because I’ve developed a habit of pulling strings to get my ways. At least I know I’m doing it in the name of protection. This is a life long process. The more I’m able to let go and clean up myself, the closer I am to my roots which is liberating.
For example, one major step I took was a couple nights ago. During the evening, I heard my mom tell me that Tracy was getting her wisdom teeth removed. I texted Tracy on Thursday Night to ask her how she was doing. Yesterday morning, she told me that she was doing better, went downstairs to eat a bit, but still had a headache. Knowing that she was doing better made me happy.
I felt a buzz. Luckily, it wasn’t a major one. It’s a combination of leverage and family values. The leverage part comes from her style of care making me feel uncomfortable before and I know many forms of leverage for my autonomy. No one knew that part: not even my mom.
The case for family values is that I’m maturing. Walls are slowly and steadily coming down. After all, Tracy is family. I don’t want anything bad happening to her even if we’re incompatible. Fortunately, the feeling of family connection outweighs leverage for my autonomy.
With that being said, I use the backstage to work on my integrity. Being outspoken works in my favors. Honesty over my agendas makes people around me feel safer and gives them a better idea on how to help me let go of cheat codes. Winners don’t cheat, and cheaters don’t win.
LOC TRAN, For me, the word integrity is about integrating oneself. It is about our insides and our outsides being harmonious. I like your term “…honesty over my agendas…” I shall carry it with me. I’m guessing it helps you grow every bit as much as it helps others in your life. Honesty with self is a sign of maturity in my book!
”Honesty with self is a sign of maturity in my book!”
I agree . . .
you are growing in self awareness
daily,
dear Loc. ♥
Thanks, Sparrow. This reminds me of how if we can’t love ourselves, we can’t love others. Same holds true for honesty. Speaking the truth is easy. Being able to hear it is what really counts. I’ve heard the old saying before of “If you can dish it, you’ve got to take it.”
🙂
Carol Ann, our definitions match. This brings me back to a time when I was without Ngoc there for 8 weeks. I thought I was doing well. In hindsight, it turns out that it was more emotional inflation. Now, I have a better idea of that as I pay more attention to my body. Doing well feels peaceful. Emotional inflation carries extra boosts of pleasure like winning the superbowl.
My dear friend lost her cognitive abilities and passed away before we had a chance to have final conversations, or be real with each other, or whatever it is that the culture tells us will happen before people die. And honestly, I don’t think she even fully acknowledged to herself that she was dying until the end. Two months into grieving, I find myself thinking about the things we never talked about. Now they’re my problem, I suppose. I’ll never have the chance to attempt to work things out with her, not that it mattered in the end. But I do have the opportunity to reflect on my own entanglements, and why there is still such a charge on some of our conflicts.
❤️
Thanks Joseph.
I am so sorry for your loss. I recall a grief counselor (from losing a co-worker) saying that sometimes the grieving process will surface some “what if” situations. I think it is normal to feel these things and process them.
Thank you for the validation Robin Ann.
I think we all do this to one degree or another,
dear Drea . . .
ruminate over what we did or didn’t do,
and wonder how things could have been different,
especially when the other person involved
has died.
What happened or didn’t happen is not a burden you need to carry.
It was what it was,
and it is what it is.
You can rest easy,
learn what you need to learn
and move forward with peace in your heart. ♥
Thank you Sparrow, your words are deeply comforting.
I think life offers us little opportunities all the time – and big opportunities as needed. My most recent opportunity was when I taught my gentle yoga this past Tuesday. I usually have 12-16 students, give or take, but I only had 4 that morning. I was fine during the class, but it really took a toll on me once I left the fitness center. Questioning myself, wondering if students really didn’t like my class as much as they’ve been telling me, comparing myself to other teachers… I really had to sit on that for a bit. I reminded myself that I have a lot to share, that I am worthy of doing what I’m doing, and also a few students told me they would be out of town, another had a friend visiting… things happen. People go on vacation. People try other classes. And it’s all okay. I have to just keep moving forward, trusting the path that I’m on. I also appreciate the reminder that I need to continue working on my healing and letting go of the old patterns that do not serve me.
Something Chelsea Handler said in an interview that has stuck with me. Paraphrased- talking about the size of her audience when she went on stage and there were a lot of empty seats- it doesn’t matter the number what matters is that I show up and give those people my best.
Patti, I have to remind myself often that there is a profound difference between the word “worthy” and the word “worth.” I was raised on that “Lord, I am not worthy” phrase and it almost destroyed me. Thankfully, I finally realized that I don’t have to be “worthy.” I just remind myself that I am of “worth,” that I have something to offer and my job is the willingness to give it freely. The need for validation is a pattern that is in us all. It’s part of that old “winner or loser” “success or failure” syndrome that the world preaches.
I feel you, Carol, and I was raised with the same religious dogma. It’s definitely one of the old patterns I’m working on freeing myself from.
I facilitate a group, and some days it seems like the masses just don’t want to do anything, all of them at once. I’ve had groups where it’s just me and the other facilitator, and others that overfill the room. When it was just two of us, we did the work together and it ended up being intimate and fulfilling. I can tell you’re committed from all the way over here, Sunnypatti, and feel confident that those people patterns have nothing to do with how much students like your class. Plus, I bet those four students loved having a small class. Have a great weekend.
Thanks, Drea. I had all of them move closer so that we could more easily share our energy during the practice. I’m used to smaller classes at the studio I work at (one time I only had one student!), but the fitness center is usually pretty busy. I peek at other classes and see some with no attendance, so I have to remember to be grateful that I get to share yoga with others… no matter how many people show up! Hope you have a great weekend, too.
Active listening is one of my biggest challenges. I mean, I can listen, of course, but it takes effort to truly pay attention to people, even to my loved ones when they talk about something that doesn’t interest me. Still, these moments are great opportunities for me to practice my active listening skills, as it’s a crucial part of my future career as a human services professional. Wishing everyone a wonderful weekend! 🍁
I truly believe that the words, “I hear you” can be more important than “I love you!”
Carol Ann, I see where you’re going with this. It’s tempting to overuse the line “I love you”, especially nowadays whereas “I hear you” is said less often. It’s more powerful and comes from the heart.
Well stated, LOC
Your reflection resonates with me. My family has a tendency to over talk one another so I have been practicing active listening as well.
My Ngoc, I can tell how much effort you’ve put into improving that. Active listening for you is like integrity for me as answered just now.
The last few years have led to reflection, forgiveness, acceptance and grace for myself and others. It’s an ongoing process that makes my faith and relationship with both God and the universe stronger. It’s led me towards my still undefined purpose but is teaching me to lean into my intentions to figure myself ( and maybe life) out.
Reflection, forgiveness, acceptance, and grace are a pretty big deal. I can only imagine it took a lot of focus and practice to get there. Nice work.
Lots of podcasts, reading ( mostly works suggested here) and journaling. Thanks
Drea, speaking of acceptance, coming to the realization that I’m too far gone has helped me improve my integrity as mentioned in my answer just a few minutes ago. Acceptance does go a long ways.
Perhaps it’s just me who finds this sentence missing a word or two. “What are the opportunities “for…… “ healing? change? fill in a blank,…. I had a mild situation at work this week. The challenges included negating needing some medical care. Which was needed. Followed by auguring vs dialoguing with medical facts some outcomes that impacted how I perform my job duties. I’m grateful I chose the necessary medical care, then a dialogue with facts. and not resigning to mental victimization. All is fine with me medically after an unavoidable tumble. Blessings to all this fall weekend. 🍁Today 10/4 is Remembrance Day of Francis of Assisi. Someone who embodied Care for all Creation and Peacemaking.
A good man for peace and all life.
Richard Rohr’s meditations this week have totally focused on St. Francis of Assisi. I found them very inspiring and helpful.
me too . . . ♥
and 10/4 is also my dad’s 83 bd and he has ‘Francis’ as his middle name too 🙂
Glad you’re feeling good again, Carla, and got the care you needed, when you needed it.
The opportunity to accept the mores of society and of the algorithms of grateful.org. The issue with this began when an ISP i was using at a hotel in Tucson was tagged as spam by the algorithms. That was rectified and a 4 days ago I referenced over the top cooking shows as and commercials for over the top food combinations as food p_rn. I have not been able to post since then. buy i have been reflecting each day and clicking ‘Post Comment’. I am grateful and also censored by modern technology. Peace and Love.
I think that letting go of the victim mind frame using the meditation method has been a huge opportunity to break free! Breaking free from all mind frame 🖼️ s is the opportunity to become the universe mind! Using this very powerful present moment to really look at what it is I’m holding is liberating! Yes, looking at my pictures can be very uncomfortable and even downright painful! Doing dirty work of see ing what pictures I’m hiding under the rug is a dirty job! Over the four years that I have been taking a deep dive using the meditation method to really let go has absolutely changed my life!
So now when my mind world challenges come up I know exactly what to do! Rather than get lost in the picture world of my mind and marinate in the illusions I know what to do!
Thank you so much for showing me that my challenges are my options to break free ! ⛓️💥 love you ! 🥰
Letting go of the victim mind frame is not only hard it is truly digging deep into reflection and acceptance. I’ve been working on this and it is very freeing
Great work Deann! You are brave and it’s totally worthy of letting go ! Thanks for sharing . 💓