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  1. k'Care-Reena

    WHO IS WAITING FOR ME TO BE KIND?

    I am waiting for me to be kind to myself. My profession is being kind and supportive to others I lost supporting and caring for myself properly. With that being said I am waiting to be kind and compassionate to myself as I get back to work :). The world is also waiting however I will not give from an empty/half full cup; I will refill mine and then some to be able to support and provide myself first and others as well.

    1 year ago
  2. Marnie Jackson

    Students who are scared to come back to school
    My family who is returning to “life” and need to feel safe and cared for in doing so
    My husband who is starting a new job
    My colleagues who are also struggling with a new curriculum and we each deal with uncertainty in different ways

    1 year ago
  3. Malag

    Doesn’t everyone at some level, however deep, want kindness in every interaction?

    1 year ago
  4. Heather

    Everyone, but especially my students.

    1 year ago
  5. Cathie

    Everyone I meet.

    1 year ago
  6. Saq-Kiwi1411

    everyone you meet, whether you already know them or if later on in your life you will meet them. everyone you pass daily, everyone around you, the whole world is waiting for you to be kind to them

    1 year ago
  7. Otis Rucker Jr.

    I woke up today to my girlfriend telling me that she had a bad dream. I gave her a huge hug and held her for a moment to let my kindness sink in. Little did I know that I would wake up today to her waiting for my kindness.

    1 year ago
  8. Hot Sauce

    Just today, someone told me that we should catch up and go to lunch or something to talk. I agree, and I think my next act of kindness will be to find a day/time to do that.

    1 year ago
  9. Don Jones

    A whingy-whiney dog who wants her own way.

    1 year ago
  10. TofuLove

    The thing is kindness varies a lot by circumstance and person. Kindness to some people might be realizing they have Schizoid and prefer you not talk to them, others kindness might mean sending a text every so often checking in. Kindness as a doctor might be outright saying bluntly, you have near zero chance and your remaining couple months might be better spent with your family instead of getting painful treatments. Kindness could mean people starting to drive down the shoulder lane when the traffic is super congested if they are gonna use an upcoming offramp, that’s not the most honest but helps slightly relieve congestion. Kindness could be the things you don’t say or bring up, like your partners failures or the times they let you down. Kindness could be withholding judgment and angry stares on the dude blasting music out of his car because you don’t understand who they are, what they’ve lived through or they might even be hard of hearing … so maybe you just sit there staring ahead a bit expressionless.

    Kindness takes lots of forms and they aren’t always obvious to others. Kindness is a willingness too, I think, to try to understand other’s perspectives, the things that annoy you in someone and why that person is how they are which may even mean appreciating someone is a narcissist and the best thing you can do out of kindness for them and you is to stop being so “kind” and just walk. So who is waiting for me to be kind? Probably everyone. But everyone needs different kinds of kindness, it isn’t always gonna be in the form of being super sweet and nice … sometimes kindness has teeth and is vigorous and assertive. I don’t think kindness is a one size fit all kind of thing so it requires thought, considering the person and understanding others perspective without pulling my own issues and assumptions into it and understanding their values, it’s way beyond just being nice. What is kind for me could be totally not appropriate for someone else.

    My point is being kind doesn’t necessarily mean being a punching bag or doormat that’s just excessively “understanding” and milquetoast, you can actually be very kind while being very assertive and what is kind requires some level of really problem solving, really being honest about what is happening, to understand who the person is and the circumstances … and you may find the kindest course of action is not responding to someone. Kindness can have strength, can fight against someone’s stupid ideas without disconnecting from the reality they have worth and value even if you find their ideas destructive and stupid. Kindness is not the absence of conflict, of disagreement, it isn’t always a happy puppy agreeing with everyone to keep the peace. Kindness is OK calling things what it is … you are a racist, you are a chauvinist, you believe in something irrational and kind of shitty, drinking too much brah wtf. And if you are doing that with kindness, you can say your peace, make understood what is happening is sort of messed up, without it being a forever condemnation on them and without any hate in your heart, if anything it’s you connecting genuinely with this other person and from a place of respect … you are saying outright, what you disagree with, what you see as harmful. I think that’s a type of kindness not always seen as kindness.

    Kindness is outright telling people what is possible in context to them and what you can’t give them or don’t want to. Kindness has boundaries. It’s telling that one friend always trying to bum shit that you are fine being friends, sometimes helping them out but most of the time you don’t feel comfortable with that, ex: I’m not always gonna pay for dinner, if they wanna just hang these are the terms … those are the boundaries you have and they can take it or leave it. That’s kindness too. This is what I can give and this is what I can’t/don’t want to. Having your boundaries without guilt is a great thing to give others actually, very kind because you often then help them understand how to build their own boundaries and express their needs, to let others know when they are pushing over a boundary. It’s deeply intimate, way more intimate than being nice and pliable, to tell someone your boundaries outright.

    Kindness has a backbone, has courage. It isn’t just being doormat.

    1 year ago
    1. d
      db82258

      What is called for in a time like this? Deep deep honesty and awareness. Appreciated!

      1 year ago
  11. O.Christina

    Everyone. So have a lovely evening and a good nights sleep, you dear ones all out there. May your life be blessed.

    1 year ago
    1. Michele

      Thank you Ose and bright blessings to you as well:)

      1 year ago
      1. O.Christina

        🙏💕✨

        1 year ago
    2. Anna

      Thank you dear Ose!

      1 year ago
      1. O.Christina

        A warm embrace, dear Anna!

        1 year ago
  12. d
    dcdeb

    I think that just about everybody appreciates kindness in some form or other.

    1 year ago
  13. Mica

    Interesting question. I made a comment to one of my granddaughters, and her older sister said, “Granny’s just Joking”. That was a few weeks ago, and I’m still sad that I didn’t realize the impact of my comment.

    1 year ago
  14. C
    Christine

    My most precious husband who has Alzheimers and still remains the same gentle, sweet person he always was. I want to learn to spend the energy I waste on bewailing his fate, in ways that will make his life as lovely as possible and in expressing the gratitude I owe him for so many things.

    1 year ago
    1. sparrow

      You are his angel now,
      dear Christine,
      and carry a heavy burden…
      I hold you in my heart
      and hope this lightens your load . . .
      even just a bit
      with love and compassion…
      sparrow ♥

      1 year ago
      1. C
        Christine

        Thankyou. I don’t tell people very often about my feelings around this subject and it is uplifting to get a message.

        1 year ago
    2. Mica

      Good plan, dear Christine, and probably easier said than done. Warm wishes! 💕🤗

      1 year ago
      1. C
        Christine

        Thankyou!

        1 year ago
  15. d
    db82258

    yours truly, like honey from a bee, all the rest will follow ~ 🐝🥀🧚🏻‍♂️

    1 year ago
  16. Holly in Ohio

    I appreciate this question. It prompted me to run through a mental check list. Am I being kind to my husband? yes. My kids? yes. Strangers? yes. Friends? yes. Self?….erh… woops! Yes, I could be a bit less hard on myself, less grading of my day, and give myself a bit more breathing space and kinder thoughts.

    1 year ago
  17. Carla

    All whom I encounter this day, including animals who cross my path.

    1 year ago
  18. Michele

    My body because Aunt Flo is visiting and is unwanted and I’m ready for her to leave.

    1 year ago
    1. Mica

      Oh, Dear, Michele 🙃- warm wishes to you! 🥰😘

      1 year ago
      1. Michele

        Thank you Mica:)

        1 year ago
  19. Anna

    Everyone I will meet today.
    Especially a friend I’ll call tonight. She has detached herself from the group of friends to which we belong, and she is a very rigid woman, I am afraid to judge her, but I will say that she is a bit bigoted. I feel so different from her, I have fewer and fewer circumstances and opinions to share with her, but lately she is looking for me. I don’t want to betray her, so I will commit myself to this calling as best I can.

    1 year ago
    1. Saq-Kiwi1411

      I have been “calling” my friend too. she broke herself away as well and now only has two friends. me and one other. I hope to open her up to more of my friends. you are like me, Anna. we are never alone

      1 year ago
    2. Mica

      That’s a good deed, dear Anna, to call the friend. I’ve thought about emailing a similar friend but haven’t done so. 🤗💕

      1 year ago
  20. Elaine

    Well in this middle of the night moment of clarity, it appears to be me. Time to be kind to be myself in relation to a sibling where there is hardly any reciprocity. Sad to say the healthy choice for me is to minimize my emotional investment in the relationship. First step: stop following on social media. I feel better already!

    1 year ago
    1. Holly in Ohio

      Hugs, Elaine. I know that must be a very hard situation. Yes, do be kind to yourself! 🧡

      1 year ago
      1. Elaine

        Thanks Holly. I appreciate the affirmation!

        1 year ago
  21. L
    Lee Anne

    The next person I see or talk to. Anyone who is oppressed, living in fear, anxiety, depression. All children who need to be fed. All women who are in bondage.

    1 year ago
    1. Mica

      I like your first response, Lee Anne – ‘the next person I see or talk to’. 🤗🥰

      1 year ago
      1. L
        Lee Anne

        Thank you! The bandwidth of needs and injustice is not wide enough to handle everything. Yes, you’re right. The first sentence is all I can do!

        1 year ago
        1. Mica

          Good plan, dear Lee Anne

          1 year ago
  22. Patricia

    Whoever it is, I pray that in the moment, I WILL be kind….

    Two weeks ago, I bought a hat from the Farmers Almanac store that has a bumble bee on it and the word KIND writ large under it. Bee Kind. And as a fairly literal friend said when he finally figured out that the “bee” pic and “kind” went together, looked at me puzzled and said, “Be kind to bees???” Yes, I said. Definitely.

    1 year ago
    1. Mica

      I’ll echo your opening statement: “Whoever it is, I pray that in the moment, I WILL be kind….” In the moment, I’m often thoughtless.
      Your ‘bee’ hat reminds me of a car decal I bought recently, with cartoons of the different people:
      Hate Has No Home Here Car Stickers
      I didn’t what ‘hate’ in any form on my car, so I cut off the top, so it now says: “Home Here” and all the cartoon people.

      1 year ago
    2. Anna

      😊

      1 year ago
  23. sunnypatti48317

    Everyone 😍

    1 year ago
  24. EJP

    All.

    1 year ago
  25. R
    Rob

    Some people I follow on Twitter

    1 year ago
  26. Katrina

    All the people I have yet to meet today, and tomorrow, and the next day…

    1 year ago
  27. Howie Geib

    Every panhandler I cross paths with. Every person who is providing a service for me (cashiers, food servers, people trying to merge into my lane on the highway in traffic). My customers.

    1 year ago
  28. Mary Pat

    Everyone I meet today. When I walk Joy, our dog, on the trail, we see many people walking along…some happy, others very distracted with tension showing in their faces. I try and offer a “enjoy your day”, or just a “hello” to bring them back to reality, to this moment in time. When I see the homeless man or women, I always say hello to them. After I pass them I say a little prayer for them.
    And yes, i will do my best to be kind to myself today as well.

    1 year ago
  29. Kevin

    Hopefully everyone is waiting for me to be kind. Why not?

    1 year ago
    1. Carol

      Agreed.

      1 year ago
  30. Antoinette

    Everyone ! This includes myself.
    How can I be kind ? Truly?
    By letting go. Recognize whatever comes up and let go with kindness is a beautiful practice.

    1 year ago
    1. Dusty Su

      Yes, self kindness is a biggy. If we cannot be gracious to ourselves, how can we fully do that for others. Though it seems easier for me to be kind to others. I am learning.

      1 year ago
  31. Christine

    Every child of God 💛

    1 year ago
    1. Dusty Su

      Yes, indeed….

      1 year ago
  32. Dusty Su

    Everyone, is the simplest answer.

    But, right in this moment. I’ve got to be kindest to myself as I prepare to get out this rental situation I’ve previously written about.

    Next Saturday is departure date. The bully doesn’t know I’m going. There will be fall out, if or when he finds out. Barring a miracle.

    I’m quietly sneaking belongings out and packing without alerting him or other tenant.

    1 year ago
    1. sparrow

      I’ve been through this same scenario,
      dear Dusty Su . . .
      if I could do this,
      you can too.
      You are stronger than you know.
      I hold you in my heart these days
      with love . . .
      sparrow ♥

      1 year ago
      1. Dusty Su

        Thank you, Sparrow. Glad you made the move. I have been through much worse. I know I am strong, and oddly, a part of that strength is being vulnerable, afraid, and a host of other states. Facing those emotions and working them to courage is tough, but amazing. Thank you for your kindness. I so appreciate it.

        1 year ago
    2. pkr

      Prayers for your safety Dusty Su. May you find peace & serenity in your new home. Be safe. 🙏❤️🙏

      1 year ago
      1. Dusty Su

        Thank you, PKR…much appreciated.

        1 year ago
    3. Holly in Ohio

      The very fact that you feel the need to sneak out belongings shows how unhealthy this living situation has become. You are a free person, and entitled to a healthy, non-harassing place to live, and to come and go as you please. Contracts are only about money and property, and not about bondage, so please don’t feel bad about this. It is your landlord that has the wrong expectations. I hope you will be kind to yourself, Dusty Su. Sending you prayers. 🌻🌻🌻

      1 year ago
      1. Dusty Su

        Thanks, and yes, doesn’t it say a LOT! Your insight is very helpful. Thank you xxx

        1 year ago
    4. Michele

      Good for you!! I will have my fingers crossed and say a prayer for a smooth transition. You are doing the right thing Dusty Su:)

      1 year ago
      1. Dusty Su

        Thanks, Michele, prayers are appreciated greatly….cheers.

        1 year ago
    5. Christine

      I hope you feel guided, Dusty Su. It must feel very difficult that you can not be honest to this man. I pray for you that alle will go fine. Xx

      1 year ago
      1. Dusty Su

        Thank you, yes, it is so unusual for me to have to behave in such a secretive manner. But it is the only way at this moment so I can feel safe.

        On the other side of this, though, the lady I will share the room with (plus her daughter who is helping arrange things, but lives elsewhere) is so lovely. They will give me the key on Wednesday afternoon. I can come and bring things over before I move in. They are exact opposites of how the present situation is behaving. Though I think he senses something is up and is being unusually nice, which makes it worse and harder… but I am determined, and the very fact I feel compelled to sneak around says so much. I am a communicator and this is not me. Thank you for your prayers

        1 year ago
        1. Mica

          Dear Dusty Su, I’m metaphorically holding my breath for you in this challenging situation and glad you’re starting to move stuff out!

          1 year ago
          1. Dusty Su

            Thank you Mica, it’s also exciting…when I choose to look at it that way, ha! I am aiming at that viewpoint.

            1 year ago
        2. Maurice Frank

          May your path forward be peaceful

          1 year ago
          1. Dusty Su

            Thank you, Maurice…that is my hope too.

            1 year ago

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