My lifelong recovery as a 27 year old who suffered a carodid dissection; having a stroke- needing surgery to have a stent put in- all due to a car accident where I was a passenger on December 17th. I have to get over the idea that my life has changed dramatically and will likely never be the same; I need to get over my past self- and all I can think of is how lucky I am to be alive and to have all major functions. I will have to get passed the trauma of trusting other people as a driver. I will also face issues with having to take blood thinners- and any future surgeries I will need. I have to face the fear of having a second stroke everyday.
That I may get Omicron. It is a possibility that no matter how careful I have been, it might happen. And then, what do I do after that? So facing that fear is real, but working through that fear with a plan is just as important.
Today it is to face my limitations with grace. I became weak during my daily walk and fell, if it were not for my core and upper body strength, I would have had serious injury. As it is, I will be gentle with myself and others and take time to rest. Although strained and bruised, my heart is still smiling.
I think I need to face my true self. We all are hidden in our masks that makes people desirable and likable. But are we really what we show?? We need to face what our own strength is, what our weakness is!!
We should not hide ourselves from our own self. Face what you are! But don’t stop being a better person with each day.
Good points JK. Thank you !
You might also find this quote interesting, from Carl Jung:
“Persona, the mask or image we present to the world. Designed to make a particular impression on others, while concealing our true nature.”
– Carl Jung
Right now, I need to face my fear of uncertainty, recognizing that it is a part of life and that it is okay to hold convictions and still be uncertain about them.
I have a day with nothing on my calendar, which means I can deal with an annoying somewhat urgent problem involving computers and softwares. Wish me luck! [No emojis here – bleeding edge macbook’s emojis on touch bar are dead – Again]
To me facing something often brings to mind confrontation, either to others or myself. I look at what’s going in the world and see too much negative means of facing issues. What I try to do is look at problems either within myself or around us, try to look at others perpective on issues and because I can only control my actions, release let go of anger or anxiety and focus on me. No one or nothing can make someone feel a certain way. We have control on how we react. By focusing on the positive things and looking after me, it helps me face the negativity
Inner resistance. I have a couple of personal business items that need my attention. Yet, I make the process more difficult by putting them off. I don’t understand why I do this because I know I’ll feel better when I get things wrapped up. Why do I fight instead of cheering myself on to do things that I know are in my self-interest?
Oh, this is me. So many things need attention it’s easy to push certain ones down the list again and again.
Sharing in case this might work for you–heading into the weekend i make a list that isn’t a to-do list. It’s labeled “Possibilities” and includes both chores and leisure items. Seeing all the things I might do somehow inspires me to check things off–and not just the fun ones. I started doing this a few months back and weekends I do this are far more productive and enjoyable without leaving me feeling tired at the end. It charges my batteries more than a weekend that I “wander into” with no list, even though I like being unscheduled and could happily spend the whole day reading on the sofa.
Ah, sunnypatti, a former minister said, about her aging husband, that one reaches the age of having ‘zits and wrinkles’ – maybe you’re moving toward that?! Warm wishes to you –
I had the image just now of not “facing” something, but walking side by side with it. Perhaps that image is most helpful to me – not being n an oppositional “facing it” stance but learning from and walking with some anger, sadness and weariness.
Thanks Patricia. I really appreciate your reframe. So wise and helpful! And yes – so true – walking with something includes al those so human emotions and full-bodied experiences – of both ourselves and those we are walking with.
I think of the beautiful images of Thich Nhat Hanh walking with and leading groups of people in walking meditation. Even the image takes we me to a place of being and walking with or side by side, rather than ‘facing’. So much to unlearn, let go of and relearn as we re-imagine and practice living our moments and days wisely and well!
‘Love it, Patricia! May I walk side by side with my computers and softwares project today! Well, but I need to come out ahead of them in the end.. Thank you for this image that I can carry with me 🙂
Thank you, Kevin – hopefully I have gotten a sense of how best to approach today’s project, which involved waiting for a fully empty day to embrace it! [‘tackle’ and ‘attack’ came to mind; ’embrace’ was slow to come..]
My biggest fear has already come true. Losing the love of my life. After that, all the other problems, burdens, worries and fears seem small. I don’t have to look them in the face. I can deal with them. Perhaps that is a gift that comes from mourning: being free from fears and worries.
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That my family (extended family also) & I have different definitions of what it means to be family.
My lifelong recovery as a 27 year old who suffered a carodid dissection; having a stroke- needing surgery to have a stent put in- all due to a car accident where I was a passenger on December 17th. I have to get over the idea that my life has changed dramatically and will likely never be the same; I need to get over my past self- and all I can think of is how lucky I am to be alive and to have all major functions. I will have to get passed the trauma of trusting other people as a driver. I will also face issues with having to take blood thinners- and any future surgeries I will need. I have to face the fear of having a second stroke everyday.
That I may get Omicron. It is a possibility that no matter how careful I have been, it might happen. And then, what do I do after that? So facing that fear is real, but working through that fear with a plan is just as important.
I don´t know.
My rapid decline in productivity and consumption of knowledge.
Avoidance. It can be a very sensible strategy or a slowly boiling pot of explosive dung with a fully operating fan nearby.
oh that is so funny
Malay, you made me laugh with the truthful metaphor.
this made me LOL! hilarious visual
My lack of discipline.
Today it is to face my limitations with grace. I became weak during my daily walk and fell, if it were not for my core and upper body strength, I would have had serious injury. As it is, I will be gentle with myself and others and take time to rest. Although strained and bruised, my heart is still smiling.
To face the uncertainty with hope and trust in the process of life. To have faith in the unknown.
I think I need to face my true self. We all are hidden in our masks that makes people desirable and likable. But are we really what we show?? We need to face what our own strength is, what our weakness is!!
We should not hide ourselves from our own self. Face what you are! But don’t stop being a better person with each day.
loved your reflection:)
Good points JK. Thank you !
You might also find this quote interesting, from Carl Jung:
“Persona, the mask or image we present to the world. Designed to make a particular impression on others, while concealing our true nature.”
– Carl Jung
Thank You MEG!!
The quote is quite related to what I feel. Thanks for sharing.
Right now, I need to face my fear of uncertainty, recognizing that it is a part of life and that it is okay to hold convictions and still be uncertain about them.
Hmmmm, face-to-no-face, which is an openness and presence with no-thing in between. So, the “I” gets dropped in favor of you. I can take a break.
The day … starting with this moment 🙂
Taking all steps necessary to get Shay and Sky correctly evaluated and in a nurturing atmosphere
Attending to end of life matters. It’s just the responsible thing to do.
On a lighter note – try to figure out today’s Wordle which has me stumped!
Elaine I have been enjoying wordle also. Fun little distraction and everyday needs a bit of that. Some are a bit tricky💕
I have a day with nothing on my calendar, which means I can deal with an annoying somewhat urgent problem involving computers and softwares. Wish me luck! [No emojis here – bleeding edge macbook’s emojis on touch bar are dead – Again]
Skill and persistence!
Thank you, Javier – I think I had barely enough of each. The work is done – at least for now. Hooray!
To me facing something often brings to mind confrontation, either to others or myself. I look at what’s going in the world and see too much negative means of facing issues. What I try to do is look at problems either within myself or around us, try to look at others perpective on issues and because I can only control my actions, release let go of anger or anxiety and focus on me. No one or nothing can make someone feel a certain way. We have control on how we react. By focusing on the positive things and looking after me, it helps me face the negativity
My health is becoming expensive to maintain. Maybe I’m not at the intersection quite yet but eventually I imagine that cost will exceed its value.
Oh, my soul, Javier!!! Wishing you well.
Hang in there Javier. Sending positive energy your way:)
Sending Love your way Javier…
…sending you all good energy,
dear Javier…
solutions may come from where you least expect them.
Don’t let go of hope
with love . . . ♥
Javier, sending you love & hugs. ❤️
Oh, ((((Javier)))), that’s so sad
Inner resistance. I have a couple of personal business items that need my attention. Yet, I make the process more difficult by putting them off. I don’t understand why I do this because I know I’ll feel better when I get things wrapped up. Why do I fight instead of cheering myself on to do things that I know are in my self-interest?
May I suggest a book, I had to read it for work and it made a lot of sense. Eat That Frog by Brian Tracy.
Oh, this is me. So many things need attention it’s easy to push certain ones down the list again and again.
Sharing in case this might work for you–heading into the weekend i make a list that isn’t a to-do list. It’s labeled “Possibilities” and includes both chores and leisure items. Seeing all the things I might do somehow inspires me to check things off–and not just the fun ones. I started doing this a few months back and weekends I do this are far more productive and enjoyable without leaving me feeling tired at the end. It charges my batteries more than a weekend that I “wander into” with no list, even though I like being unscheduled and could happily spend the whole day reading on the sofa.
♥
There’s a struggle I’m having at work that I need to take a better look at.
I also need to face the fact that, at age 49, I have a zit on my nose! It wasn’t there yesterday!! [insert laughing face]
Ah, sunnypatti, a former minister said, about her aging husband, that one reaches the age of having ‘zits and wrinkles’ – maybe you’re moving toward that?! Warm wishes to you –
The wrinkles I can handle, but not so sure about the zits. hahaha! I am a bit hormonal, though!
I thought I’d get a break between skin breaking out and wrinkles. No such luck–they overlap. This is Not Fair.
Never had a problem when I was younger, but it seems to be catching up to me!
I need to face today with an open mind, heart and soul….it will be a good day
I had the image just now of not “facing” something, but walking side by side with it. Perhaps that image is most helpful to me – not being n an oppositional “facing it” stance but learning from and walking with some anger, sadness and weariness.
Thanks Patricia. I really appreciate your reframe. So wise and helpful! And yes – so true – walking with something includes al those so human emotions and full-bodied experiences – of both ourselves and those we are walking with.
I think of the beautiful images of Thich Nhat Hanh walking with and leading groups of people in walking meditation. Even the image takes we me to a place of being and walking with or side by side, rather than ‘facing’. So much to unlearn, let go of and relearn as we re-imagine and practice living our moments and days wisely and well!
Warmest wishes for your day …
‘Love it, Patricia! May I walk side by side with my computers and softwares project today! Well, but I need to come out ahead of them in the end.. Thank you for this image that I can carry with me 🙂
Such a helpful reframing. Reminds me of asking not “why is this happening TO me?” but instead “why is this happening FOR me?”
Thank you, Barb C – something else that I can carry with me on today’s problem-project that I will walk ‘side by side’ with – it is happening FOR me 🙂
I have to face that if I face something it always is an inner experience. It is never outside.
This moment
I do not choose to “face things,” but rather, to get a sense of how best to approach things first, then work on the best outcome possible.
I like this, Kevin, because it gets a foot in the water before you’ve realised you’re getting wet.
Thank you, Kevin – hopefully I have gotten a sense of how best to approach today’s project, which involved waiting for a fully empty day to embrace it! [‘tackle’ and ‘attack’ came to mind; ’embrace’ was slow to come..]
a new day:) TGIF
Forgive and let go of bitterness and embrace peace & joy.
My biggest fear has already come true. Losing the love of my life. After that, all the other problems, burdens, worries and fears seem small. I don’t have to look them in the face. I can deal with them. Perhaps that is a gift that comes from mourning: being free from fears and worries.
You are wise, Christine. I will remember your words.