It’s 6:00 am on Tuesday in Scotland— I am visiting my sister. Everything here is novel and engaging. I sun sets at 11:30 pm and rises at 3:00 am. I appreciate blackout curtains!
Now this was difficult for me today…. The experience of having faced neonatal time deep imprinted feelings of isolation and being helped so much by dear friends, loved ones and you who share here to have had the chance to let go of this almost unbearable state. To recognize that the feeling was fixed through my clinging to it, and as a child, not having been encouraged to mention any of my inner turmoil of to feel myself excluded, not belonging, that we are free to change perspective any moment was first unbelievable. It took a long tearful way to trust again, but with the unconditional trust of all the kindred hearts, heart and perspective finally opened, and changed. In this sense, all pains associated with this process I can only deeply gratefully agree to the word for the day: “To recognize something as beautiful, sometimes all it takes is a change of perspective” – Christian Cooper. I can only express my deepest thanks for all the support offered and for the Love given unconditionally. My deepest thanks to all you dear ones.
Retirement and aging. I don’t have to move at the speed I once did. It’s okay to relax things a bit and enjoy a slower pace. That’s a new perspective for me.
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our freedom to choose our response.”
This quote by Viktor Frankl reminds me that I always have a choice. It helps me not to muddle my response with fear and doubt. I find that when I can stop trying to control those in the situation and trust that Life will show me the way, I free life to do so!
Certainly the fact that I’m aging, is giving me a new or different perspective. Meditation, which is new to me, is certainly giving me a new perspective. Listening to peoples stories gives me a new perspective. Because, I am seeking new perspectives, I am gifted them all the time.
Listening to an interview on the radio, reading a book, reading someone’s blog on the internet.
Just trying to imagine how something else lives, gives me a glimpse into their life.
The learning program I’m in, Essential Capacities with the Context Institute https://www.context.org/our-essential-capacities-programs-are-now-open-for-registration/. From human to social to planetary systems. Lots of homework, interesting and valuable information and new ways of understanding the human operating system as the first section of the program. The information on the autonomic nervous system fits with my mindfulness practices.
We had guests earlier this week, and I had frenetically cleaned the house beforehand to make sure I felt good about things. (This is more perfectionistic than if I’d simply gone for a presentable home.) After the guests left, the house looked nice, but what stood out was not the spotless floors, but the stress and freneticism it had taken to get there. More guests come tomorrow. My change in perspective is: Can I clean up in a state of acceptance and patience rather than with frenetic energy? I’d make the process more pleasant on myself, and remember it fondly.
The book Meditations for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman introduced me to the idea of “scruffy housekeeping “. It has helped me realize that friends are there to spend time with us, not to judge our housekeeping. If they’re super judgmental do I really want them as friends anyway? (There’s also a lot of gendered assumptions about who’s supposed to keep the house clean.) It has been very freeing.
I love the idea of scruffy housekeeping, thank you Barb. And yes, gendered assumptions and gendered blame if the house isn’t clean. I don’t think my friends care nearly as much as I worry they do.
I may have mentioned this before but it stands out in my mind. My husband left behind MANY photographs with the intention of making greeting cards. I felt burdened to fulfill this intention. One day I realized the beautiful gift of his photography and the pleasure folks get at receiving the cards. It is a bit easier to make the cards now.
There is nothing like making a geographical move,
even within this country
for changing our perspectives,
dear John,
as I have experienced myself,
and as others have already attested. 🙂
The half waning moon shining through wispy clouds, the sound of water seeking its level. All is well, all will be well, this fine early morn.
Peace, Love & Light.
Joseph, I was up late on Saturday night/Sunday morning, and I saw the moon rise. It was astonishing. The way it came up slowly over the horizon. Big and lopsided and yellow/orange. Like a giant peering over the edge of the world.
My absence from Ngoc along with being closer to the lord is offering me new perspectives. Notable examples are integrity and embracing the collective mindset. He just knows who to put into our lives who are best for us at various stages. As far as integrity goes, a montra I live by is purity>politics.
Seeing beauty in discomfort helps me become more ethical, because I’m not pulling strings for my basic desires like autonomy. I’ll have plenty of that. As far as discomfort goes, there have certainly been times where it just feels a bit heavy without Ngoc simply because I miss her, but she’ll be returning home to Minnesota just a little more than a week later already.
A new perspective was offered to me in an article I read on happiness. It said that the data shows that self-compassion, realizing your own limits and recognizing your common humanity lead you to happiness. I’m saying it as a mantra. Wanted to share it with you.
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It’s 6:00 am on Tuesday in Scotland— I am visiting my sister. Everything here is novel and engaging. I sun sets at 11:30 pm and rises at 3:00 am. I appreciate blackout curtains!
I am jealous I want to get back to Scotland! Anyone watch Outlander?? I watched it after going to the Highlands. Loved it!
I am sure,
dear Avril,
that you will gain many new perspectives
on your visit to Scotland. ♥
Have a wonderful time Avril!
Oh my ☀️!
Enjoy your visit, Avril!
Now this was difficult for me today…. The experience of having faced neonatal time deep imprinted feelings of isolation and being helped so much by dear friends, loved ones and you who share here to have had the chance to let go of this almost unbearable state. To recognize that the feeling was fixed through my clinging to it, and as a child, not having been encouraged to mention any of my inner turmoil of to feel myself excluded, not belonging, that we are free to change perspective any moment was first unbelievable. It took a long tearful way to trust again, but with the unconditional trust of all the kindred hearts, heart and perspective finally opened, and changed. In this sense, all pains associated with this process I can only deeply gratefully agree to the word for the day: “To recognize something as beautiful, sometimes all it takes is a change of perspective” – Christian Cooper. I can only express my deepest thanks for all the support offered and for the Love given unconditionally. My deepest thanks to all you dear ones.
You are deeply welcome, dear Ose.
Reading so many pleasant memories of my Ex’s friends growing up gives me a peaceful prospective.
Retirement and aging. I don’t have to move at the speed I once did. It’s okay to relax things a bit and enjoy a slower pace. That’s a new perspective for me.
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our freedom to choose our response.”
This quote by Viktor Frankl reminds me that I always have a choice. It helps me not to muddle my response with fear and doubt. I find that when I can stop trying to control those in the situation and trust that Life will show me the way, I free life to do so!
Yes, Carol Ann, as Angela said to me a week ago on our phone call, “Cast it on to the lord.” It’s helped me a lot every time I’ve felt heavy.
Certainly the fact that I’m aging, is giving me a new or different perspective. Meditation, which is new to me, is certainly giving me a new perspective. Listening to peoples stories gives me a new perspective. Because, I am seeking new perspectives, I am gifted them all the time.
Listening to an interview on the radio, reading a book, reading someone’s blog on the internet.
Just trying to imagine how something else lives, gives me a glimpse into their life.
The learning program I’m in, Essential Capacities with the Context Institute https://www.context.org/our-essential-capacities-programs-are-now-open-for-registration/. From human to social to planetary systems. Lots of homework, interesting and valuable information and new ways of understanding the human operating system as the first section of the program. The information on the autonomic nervous system fits with my mindfulness practices.
The Context Institute has lots of information on their site and in Substack without going through the program. https://co-evolving.context.org/p/foundational-keys
Barb, thanks for the links.
We had guests earlier this week, and I had frenetically cleaned the house beforehand to make sure I felt good about things. (This is more perfectionistic than if I’d simply gone for a presentable home.) After the guests left, the house looked nice, but what stood out was not the spotless floors, but the stress and freneticism it had taken to get there. More guests come tomorrow. My change in perspective is: Can I clean up in a state of acceptance and patience rather than with frenetic energy? I’d make the process more pleasant on myself, and remember it fondly.
It’s great when we have a realization!
Yes, it is!
The book Meditations for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman introduced me to the idea of “scruffy housekeeping “. It has helped me realize that friends are there to spend time with us, not to judge our housekeeping. If they’re super judgmental do I really want them as friends anyway? (There’s also a lot of gendered assumptions about who’s supposed to keep the house clean.) It has been very freeing.
I love the idea of scruffy housekeeping, thank you Barb. And yes, gendered assumptions and gendered blame if the house isn’t clean. I don’t think my friends care nearly as much as I worry they do.
I too did some cleaning in preparation for a guest. It is hard to not get too carried away.
But it sure is nice having a clean house. 😁
Yes, it easy to get carried away, and it is nice to have that clean house afterwards!
I may have mentioned this before but it stands out in my mind. My husband left behind MANY photographs with the intention of making greeting cards. I felt burdened to fulfill this intention. One day I realized the beautiful gift of his photography and the pleasure folks get at receiving the cards. It is a bit easier to make the cards now.
It sounds
like it could be a great project,
dear Yram,
especially thinking of the recipients’ enjoyment of them. ♥
Moving from the desert in Phoenix to the midwest, Dayton, Ohio!
Sounds as a climate shock to the system to me, John! Most definitely a new perspective on weather!
There is nothing like making a geographical move,
even within this country
for changing our perspectives,
dear John,
as I have experienced myself,
and as others have already attested. 🙂
Sparrow, Amir, a meutual friend of Angela and mine, once said in 2018 “Location, location, location.”
I get it John. 😊
I moved from the West Coast to the Midwest recently. It’s a whole different world!!!
Yes, nothing like a change of location to give you a new perspective. 😁
Nothing comes to mind… I will keep an open mind.
Have a good Monday everyone.
https://nationaltoday.com/national-best-friends-day/ – best friends are family 💗
The half waning moon shining through wispy clouds, the sound of water seeking its level. All is well, all will be well, this fine early morn.
Peace, Love & Light.
Joseph, I was up late on Saturday night/Sunday morning, and I saw the moon rise. It was astonishing. The way it came up slowly over the horizon. Big and lopsided and yellow/orange. Like a giant peering over the edge of the world.
My absence from Ngoc along with being closer to the lord is offering me new perspectives. Notable examples are integrity and embracing the collective mindset. He just knows who to put into our lives who are best for us at various stages. As far as integrity goes, a montra I live by is purity>politics.
Seeing beauty in discomfort helps me become more ethical, because I’m not pulling strings for my basic desires like autonomy. I’ll have plenty of that. As far as discomfort goes, there have certainly been times where it just feels a bit heavy without Ngoc simply because I miss her, but she’ll be returning home to Minnesota just a little more than a week later already.
That feeling a lot of love can be an amazing beautiful experience when myself doesn’t want something in return or expect anything.
A new perspective was offered to me in an article I read on happiness. It said that the data shows that self-compassion, realizing your own limits and recognizing your common humanity lead you to happiness. I’m saying it as a mantra. Wanted to share it with you.
Thank you Christina – self-compassion and kindness to myself is so important and I easily forget this .
You’re welcome Antoinette.