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Ive learned in the past year to work on my journey the way I need to. listening to other people and how they do is it is not the way I need to.
That I am growing less patient in my older age! Not a trait I embrace, for sure, but it is there, waiting to jump out any time I feel anxious or afraid. Time to stop and take a breath before reacting. Now if I can just remember this next time…
That my sadness and grief are not without limits, and that someday I will be past this. Healing takes time and I must be patient with myself.
I have learned that I have the capacity for growth and change, though that is difficult. I also learned that I find a lot of resilience in others.
I have learned that I can not control a loved one’s addiction, that I need to meet them where they are at, show kindness, respect and learn to communicate differently. I have learned that I have to take care of me. So here I am learning about gratefulness to help bring more peace to myself.
The cleaner that lens is, the clearer I see.
Wow. There are a lot of things that came to my mind in this moment:
1) The universe is always at my favor because I am one with it.
2) I can literal creat whatever I want not only for others, but also for my live.
3) I am already very successful according to my own definition.
This year has been pretty challenging, because the circumstances force my to transform my entire concept of myself again and again. This journey is far from ending but I really have learned to enjoy all the process, including the difficult parts.
That I have lots of saboteurs that sabotage my sage! From a zoom on Shirzad’s Positive Intelligence | Building mental fitness for allhttps://www.positiveintelligence.com 🙂 🙂 🙂
When I saw today’s question, I thought that in some ways asking “What have I unlearned “might be more appropriate. My religious upbringing was filled with so many rules and regulations. I was taught that grace had to be earned, that God would not love me if I was not perfect, and on and on. Anxiety was my constant companion. I was so afraid of failure that I missed out on so many opportunities to be fully alive. So now, in the winter of my life, when many of my talents are limited by physical challenges, I am blessed with the realization that being kind to both my self and others is always a choice that can never be taken away or lost. We are all called to be the peace we seek, the love we crave, the light in the darkness that can shine even when the reaper rides. I have finally learned and accepted that: Life is process not product. I share a quote from spiritual teacher Jeff Foster that sums it up for me: “Spiritually-speaking, you do not heal “from” trauma, and nobody heals you either. You simply reconnect with that sacred place in yourself that was never traumatised, never broken, never damaged in the first place; your true Self, absolute and ever-present, innocent and free. It is not a destination, a “from”; it is You, alive and awake in the moment, right here” –
Carol. This is great. I too had exposure from my father’s side of that very strict religion. I love your words that start with “I am blessed.” I am leaving here and starting a quote page from my friend’s at gratefulness.org. to read often. I liked Avril’s words today too. Wouldn’t you just love to sit and have a cup of tea with so many people here? Thanks for being here and sharing your wisdom. The world needs it and you.
Rabbit, I agree…tea with you and all the folks who gather here would be such a treat. The sharing is so helpful and life-giving. As a dear friend of mine often says, ” No matter when and where we meet, maybe in another realm, we will have much to discuss and share.” Thank you for being here and now!
Great quote. Would love to share with friends.
Rabbit, Please do…he would not mind at all.
I think the biggest revelation was that I like to be very independent. It is important to me to gather information and make the best decision possible based on that information. That will irritate some people, especially the ones who are allowed to have authority. I need to be kind but firm and remember my integrity and values in those interactions. It was also important to me to realized that, yes indeed, I have control over a few things and can practice this control (both meanings of the word “practice” apply). But it is also important to make the clear distinction between what is in my control (I have to act) and what is not. And whatever I do the outcome is not in my control, so I cannot get attached to a certain outcome. This was my main lesson this year. Still learning.
I love this question. Thank you. It’s so nice to take a moment to reflect on this last trip around this sun. I don’t think I’ve learned any singular big lessons, more of a refining and honing of my belief system. I am continuing to learn about myself and how to live in this world. And I guess that I’m learning that this new way of living requires persistence, stamina, practice, attention, and intention.
qualities of kindness, generosity, listening, patience, connection, diligence, concentration, meditation, ethics etc are inborn and can be recognized and strengthened
I have learned that my self-talk interferes with my being truly free and happy, but I also learned that I can do something about it. It will take time to peel back years of habit, but I have already begun.
Kindness always matters. And kindness to our own self helps us to be kind and give to others in a better way. It didn’t seem that way to me when I first looked at it, but I know it to be true now. Let yourself be you. That is a great kindness. Don’t judge or measure… that is also a great kindness. Interrupt the fear and anger and sadness with better things to do… that is also kindness. And when that is done a blossoming occurs!
Your reflections always resonate, thank you:)
Well said and written Holly. Thank you for the insight,
Dear Holly, Yes! ” self-talk interferes with my being truly free and happy” – your Saboteurs sabotage your Sages – I just posted the link for that on in the Lounge this morning 🙂
Thank you Holly. Your words also capture my need to take better care of myself and will be added to my new quote sheet.
I once had a Welsh Terrier dog named Blossom. 🐕🌹
Thank you, Holly. You have given me much food for thought.
That I have several serious health problems but I also have this site, all the the people here, and the blessing of the philosophy that there is much to be grateful for even in the midst of trouble. Thank you to all of you and those who make this site possible.
…I’ve got more work to do. But, I’m learning I can be kind regardless of the way the world is showing up. I can also stay disciplined when things are chaotic. With consistency the progress is apparent. I’ve frequently commented on my relationship with my stepdaughter. She’s often my barometer for how meditated and prayed up I am. Today we watched the sunrise alone together on the beach. A year ago this was unimaginable.
That is wonderful news about your stepdaughter, Avril! 🙂
Avril, It’s obvious that your step-daughter is blessed to have you and you her. Awesome!
Wonderful improvement. I love your words “meditated and prayed up.” I am going to hold those words close and use them to grow.
Please use them!
That I have gifts to offer this world. That I am important and that I deserve love.
This past year I have learned that I possess great strength and courage, along with the ability to trust the kindness of strangers.
I have learned that when I shed expectations and shoulds it leaves room for patience and resilience to grow.
Still waiting to move back into my house after a tree fell on it in April. This year has been a real odyssey for me. I continue to hold fast to the line from Basho, “Every day is a journey, and the journey itself is home.”
Do you have an ETA on when you get to move back home?
I have those first two in abundance – “expectations and shoulds”. Thank you for the insightful and encouraging the last two words – “patience and resilience.”
Hope you get back in your house soon and that you have had a nice place to stay. We had a neighbor who lost their house to fire and it was almost three years before they got back in the “new” house. But it is quite the place now.
Thank you, Rabbit, and thank you for the wise words you post each day.
You are welcome. I am surprised you understood my reply. Just tried to word it better.
A year ago I relapsed once again after an eight month period of sobriety. One of many over the previous 13 years. I had been sober for 17 years prior. After a period of 5 months of active addiction I checked myself into an inpatient care facility for a 14 day stay.. It was CBT based treatment. I was introduced to mindfulness and meditation. During a 12 week intensive out patient therapy course I was introduced to gratitude. I have been practicing these three on a daily basis for seven months now along with bi-weekly addiction therapy.. No return to alcohol. I truly feel much more at ease with sobriety and my outlook on life. For this I am grateful.
Joseph, Your willingness to share moves me deeply. One day at a time is much more that a chicle. It’s a reminder that the strength we need is always in the present moment. I used to tell those I sponsored in 12-step that when you are in the past or the future, you go there alone because God IS.
You are brave and strong. Never give up. We are blessed to have you here.
That I have been given the privilege to say, “I’ve gotten a year older.”
Ah, Kevin…well said!
I continue to have inner strength. I remain grateful and always try to stay positive. I offer kindness and show others that I care.
That I don’t have to wear a fancy title at work to be happy. I’m so grateful I stepped out of management.
And also that despite how healed I feel from past situations, I still have work to do.
That all my worries, anxiety and fears take up a lot of energy and they are not Truth.
That is should trust Truth and not my mind world made of of pictures and made up stories that this “I” keeps regurgitating unnecessarily and to no avail! Letting go is repentance. Let go of all of the human mind falseness is finding Truth within.
Truth is within and kindness is within – this is what I have learned this year .
Antoinette, BIessings always and all ways. I share the quote I put in my own reply to this question because your words say the same thing to me: “Spiritually-speaking, you do not heal “from” trauma, and nobody heals you either. You simply reconnect with that sacred place in yourself that was never traumatised, never broken, never damaged in the first place; your true Self, absolute and ever-present, innocent and free. It is not a destination, a “from”; it is You, alive and awake in the moment, right here” – Jeff Foster
This one is easy. To SLOW DOWN! That is what I have learned, and is important. I put this on my FB page early yesterday…..
“Remember even though you recognize where you are going in life, at this point in time, it is very important that you honor where you have been, and bow to it. Grieve the parts of it where you feel loss, and allow it’s completion at this point in your life so you can truly move on. Most of us do not, we just want to move on.
We need to SLOW DOWN and grieve it, then set it beside the path of our lives and move on down our path. Hard work!”
I had been listening to a talk by Ram Dass, and he struck a cord in me with something he said, and that is what I began to write. It is exactly what I need to do at this time in my life. I’m going to find a turtle picture or even a piece of jewelry to wear because I need a constant reminder to slow down. Too much “doing ” in my life is not a good thing.
Mary Pat, Thanks. You’ve made my day! I’ve struggled all my life with the message, “You can’t have fun ’til the work is done.” We tend to forget that we are human BEings not human DOings!
Thank you for these wise words, Mary Pat.
Lovely Mary Pat ! Slow down and do the hard work of healing and letting go.
Im resilient and adaptable. I can let go. I can release life as I planned or wanted it for the greater good. I’m willing to up end everything to help another. At least in the case of my mother’s end of life needs.
Thank you Dusty Su. Wonderful you can be there for your mom. I was for my mom too. Cosmic timing sometimes knows more than we do. My mom died about 6 years ago. I keep thinking if she was in her last years now, I would not now be able to do what I did for her then, physically or mentally. Don’t forget to take care of yourself. 💗
Absolutely. So glad you could be there too. I will take care of myself. I am in fact. It’s a slowing down with simple, singular vision. Grace and no rush. Xxx
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