I was having some issues with a co-worker, whom I felt was putting a lot of extra work and unreasonable expectations on me, then I met her supervisor, and realized that she was being put under a lot of pressure and that her supervisor could be pretty harsh; it made me realize why she was doing what she was doing, and it was not anything personal with me, she was just going through it. That really helped. Sometimes I make everything about me or personal, but in reality, when people seem snappy or upset, it often has to do with their own issues, and it is better to help them overcome than take it personal.
So true that things are about us a lot less often than our ego is able to recognize. I’m reminded of the advice for living from The Four Agreements: don’t take things personally.
Without the need to add much more to all the lovely reflections already mentioned by others … not sure if this makes sense but I will give it a go … 🙂 … I wonder if sometimes there is also the need to for us to be understood , to be able to at certain times and situations for us also to better be able to see through the eyes of others. (?) 💕💞
When I endeavor to see through the eyes of others, it becomes clearer to me that all of us want to be good but fail at times because of our own pain, fears, and insecurities. It helps me be more forgiving when I see that others are acting poorly because they themselves might be wounded in some way.
When I endeavor to see through the eyes of others I understand that all of us have unique challenges and difficulties. I am not alone in my struggles and most certainly will not be to first or last to feel this way. I have learned (and consciously try to practice) kindness and compassion for others. We truly never know what someone else is facing.
What this brings up for me is that I frequently have a critical thought about someone and then realize I could apply the same critical thought to myself.. But sometimes I forget and remember this useful practice only later.
I am helping a new Afghan refugee settle in the US. It is challenging because of Covid, and also because of the numerous roadblocks new immigrants face in trying to get the documentation they need to work, find a place to live, and a myriad of other challenges. At times I feel somewhat discouraged with the process, but she is strong and it is so worth my time to figure all these things out for her. She is facing so many more challenges than I am, and yet she is happy and highly motivated to find her place in the US. It is very inspiring.
Empathy, love and compassion which lead to a better understanding of others and the reasons why they think or act a certain way. By doing so better acceptance of others and less self stress.
When I pause and remind myself to endeavor to see through the eyes of others I am reminded that my own perspective and lack of understanding clouds my vision. I can never fully comprehend how others view the world/circumstance…and that reminds me to weave in compassion and curiousity.
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That their actions are really about them and not you. Hurting people hurt people. Healed people help heal people.
Thanks Lydia. So helpful and true … ‘hurting people hurt people. Healed people help heal people.’
‘Healed people help heal people’ – love this:)
That is surely the bridge to empathy and from that comes better communication, compassion, kindness, love, help. Basically what the world needs.
A completely different world view.
a gentle heart
I was having some issues with a co-worker, whom I felt was putting a lot of extra work and unreasonable expectations on me, then I met her supervisor, and realized that she was being put under a lot of pressure and that her supervisor could be pretty harsh; it made me realize why she was doing what she was doing, and it was not anything personal with me, she was just going through it. That really helped. Sometimes I make everything about me or personal, but in reality, when people seem snappy or upset, it often has to do with their own issues, and it is better to help them overcome than take it personal.
So true that things are about us a lot less often than our ego is able to recognize. I’m reminded of the advice for living from The Four Agreements: don’t take things personally.
People are crying out for hope from all walks of life, all over the world.
Without the need to add much more to all the lovely reflections already mentioned by others … not sure if this makes sense but I will give it a go … 🙂 … I wonder if sometimes there is also the need to for us to be understood , to be able to at certain times and situations for us also to better be able to see through the eyes of others. (?) 💕💞
When I endeavor to see through the eyes of others, it becomes clearer to me that all of us want to be good but fail at times because of our own pain, fears, and insecurities. It helps me be more forgiving when I see that others are acting poorly because they themselves might be wounded in some way.
When I endeavor to see through the eyes of others I understand that all of us have unique challenges and difficulties. I am not alone in my struggles and most certainly will not be to first or last to feel this way. I have learned (and consciously try to practice) kindness and compassion for others. We truly never know what someone else is facing.
What this brings up for me is that I frequently have a critical thought about someone and then realize I could apply the same critical thought to myself.. But sometimes I forget and remember this useful practice only later.
I am helping a new Afghan refugee settle in the US. It is challenging because of Covid, and also because of the numerous roadblocks new immigrants face in trying to get the documentation they need to work, find a place to live, and a myriad of other challenges. At times I feel somewhat discouraged with the process, but she is strong and it is so worth my time to figure all these things out for her. She is facing so many more challenges than I am, and yet she is happy and highly motivated to find her place in the US. It is very inspiring.
Empathy, love and compassion which lead to a better understanding of others and the reasons why they think or act a certain way. By doing so better acceptance of others and less self stress.
When I pause and remind myself to endeavor to see through the eyes of others I am reminded that my own perspective and lack of understanding clouds my vision. I can never fully comprehend how others view the world/circumstance…and that reminds me to weave in compassion and curiousity.
That it feels good to be heard. So I need to listen, and with true curiosity.
A different perspective. An understanding.