Just today my heart broke,I don’t know whom to tell or what to do. I just can’t believe what’s happening. I don’t if anybody of you is going to read this but if you are then I am really grateful and please help me.
I had a friend of mine who was damn close to me, he got into a relationship and then they broke up but during that time we kinda lost contact, then they broke up .He realises he has a friend and we start speaking again. He proposed me . I never thought of him in that way , never had feelings or anything like that never crossed my mind. I had to reject him, even after that hideous thing I was ready to be friends because I didn’t want to lose him. Things were going on good , he made promises ,there were efforts . I never wanted to lose him from my life. Then he made new friends , I slowly started vanishing from his life. Yes i accepted this too but yeah suddenly he would come back as if nothing happened , he would make me feel so special and the next day as if I don’t even exist , I accepted even that too and now am left nowhere , he says i have changed …My birthday he couldn’t even meet me in person and he has gone miles to celebrate a new made friend’s birthday. This is the second birthday he is celebrating after mine. He is making new friends , new life .I seriously do not know what to do. I have decided to let it go:)
thank you for reading this out!
If I rephrase my thoughts to something happening “for me” instead of something happening “to me”, it changes the way I look at the world and gives opportunity instead of irritation.
I have learned that people who are abused as children do not lose faith in their caregivers, but in themselves. For years, I have struggled with insecurity and the belief that I am unlovable, when in reality the real problem was that part of me will always look for love in the wrong place.
Interesting. I too, have just learned more about masks, after a new independent study, and I purchased new masks for all of us. I wish they were pretty, though, Lol. 😄
Stay well, friend.
That when there is an internalized “No”, a self-set “Yes” may be required (instead of waiting for this Yes to come from the outside) to leave restrictive imprints and design an inner and so as well an outer world where Space be and Love and a sense of freedom may find fresh air to unfold its wings. It took a while… Thanks for your patience!
On the home front my husband was recently diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes and I’ve been learning to bake with sugar substitutes and generally cut carbohydrates. I love to cook and want to be able to make foods for him so I’ve been glad to find some recipes he says are delicious. That gives me joy so it fits right into my practices.
Thank you for the links, Barb! I will check those out later today.
Sorry to hear about your husband’s diabetes. I cook for a friend who has type II., and we found white flour was a big issue with blood sugar, and that increasing fiber at meals also helped. Enjoy your cooking! 🍰
I learned all about caring for mystery snails in a freshwater aquarium-they are so neat! Only the pandemic was able to get me to be still long enough to learn some new things!
I am learning how to hold disappointment in a larger, more spacious and accepting container. Our live church was switched back to Zoom/ online two days before Christmas. I swear it was easier this year than last to accept and live with 🙂
Thanks Michele. I am so grateful for this daily, spacious container as well. It is such a gift to walk together and share the path with you and so many other beautiful humans …
When a situation requires patience and it seems that I am lacking in patience, a deep breathe in and out helps calm the nerves. A second deep breathe in and out allows me to calm my heart. A third one in and out calms my mind. A fourth allows me to clear the chaos. Finally on the fifth slow breathe in and out, my mind and body are ready to respond patiently and to make better decisions.
In the past year I have realized that no matter what my situation is, I need to pray for wisdom. I need to ask for the willingness to learn from it. I was reading Richard Rohr’s Daily Meditation for today and found this quote from him affirming:
“On the last day of the year, I generally withdraw to pray. A few years ago, I asked myself: What should I pray for this year? What do we need in these turbulent times? Naturally I was strongly tempted to pray for more love. But it occurred to me that I’ve met so many people in the world who are already full of love and who really care for others. Maybe what we lack isn’t love but wisdom. It became clear to me that I should pray above all else for wisdom. We all want to love, but as a rule we don’t know how to love rightly. How should we love so that life will really come from it? I believe that what we all need is wisdom.” Richard Rohr
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very roughly paraphrased from Fanny Howe
“paradox is the resting place”, more and more- the experience, little drops leaping around me, little spirits-everywhere.
And me, trusting the answers will become clear.
Just today my heart broke,I don’t know whom to tell or what to do. I just can’t believe what’s happening. I don’t if anybody of you is going to read this but if you are then I am really grateful and please help me.
I had a friend of mine who was damn close to me, he got into a relationship and then they broke up but during that time we kinda lost contact, then they broke up .He realises he has a friend and we start speaking again. He proposed me . I never thought of him in that way , never had feelings or anything like that never crossed my mind. I had to reject him, even after that hideous thing I was ready to be friends because I didn’t want to lose him. Things were going on good , he made promises ,there were efforts . I never wanted to lose him from my life. Then he made new friends , I slowly started vanishing from his life. Yes i accepted this too but yeah suddenly he would come back as if nothing happened , he would make me feel so special and the next day as if I don’t even exist , I accepted even that too and now am left nowhere , he says i have changed …My birthday he couldn’t even meet me in person and he has gone miles to celebrate a new made friend’s birthday. This is the second birthday he is celebrating after mine. He is making new friends , new life .I seriously do not know what to do. I have decided to let it go:)
thank you for reading this out!
Sending a prayer that the new year will be healing for you 🙏🏽 🌼
Thank you so much❤
To be more grateful and be happy for what I have.
If I rephrase my thoughts to something happening “for me” instead of something happening “to me”, it changes the way I look at the world and gives opportunity instead of irritation.
I have learned that people who are abused as children do not lose faith in their caregivers, but in themselves. For years, I have struggled with insecurity and the belief that I am unlovable, when in reality the real problem was that part of me will always look for love in the wrong place.
“And if you stare long enough into an abyss, the abyss will gaze back into you”. quote from Frederick Nietzsche
Not to be confused with Packers linebacker Ray Nitschke.
Although, if that quote and linebacker are met in the same way, they might be equally painful.
The different kinds of protective masks that are available.
Interesting. I too, have just learned more about masks, after a new independent study, and I purchased new masks for all of us. I wish they were pretty, though, Lol. 😄
Stay well, friend.
Something old can be new again,
That when there is an internalized “No”, a self-set “Yes” may be required (instead of waiting for this Yes to come from the outside) to leave restrictive imprints and design an inner and so as well an outer world where Space be and Love and a sense of freedom may find fresh air to unfold its wings. It took a while… Thanks for your patience!
I learned from a friend that a documentary is coming out about the friendship between Desmond Tutu and the Dalai Lama https://www.lionsroar.com/joy-is-a-clean-energy-all-about-mission-joy-and-the-big-joy-project, which sounds wonderful. This led me to the Big Joy project https://ggia.berkeley.edu/bigjoy and I’ve signed up for a week’s worth of joy practices that are also contributing to research.
On the home front my husband was recently diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes and I’ve been learning to bake with sugar substitutes and generally cut carbohydrates. I love to cook and want to be able to make foods for him so I’ve been glad to find some recipes he says are delicious. That gives me joy so it fits right into my practices.
Thank you for the links, Barb! I will check those out later today.
Sorry to hear about your husband’s diabetes. I cook for a friend who has type II., and we found white flour was a big issue with blood sugar, and that increasing fiber at meals also helped. Enjoy your cooking! 🍰
I learned all about caring for mystery snails in a freshwater aquarium-they are so neat! Only the pandemic was able to get me to be still long enough to learn some new things!
I love this too. Now I will keep a special look out for snails on the path – literal or otherwise. Thank you!
I love this!
And I think snails are neat, too, especially when you get baby snails!
believe it or not snail facials are a thing-you tube it.
I am learning how to hold disappointment in a larger, more spacious and accepting container. Our live church was switched back to Zoom/ online two days before Christmas. I swear it was easier this year than last to accept and live with 🙂
I, too, really liked ‘I am learning how to hold disappointment in a larger, more spacious and accepting container. ‘
Thanks Michele. I am so grateful for this daily, spacious container as well. It is such a gift to walk together and share the path with you and so many other beautiful humans …
I really like that description of a larger accepting container for disappointment. Thanks for sharing this.
Thanks CLP.
I decided to start collecting air-guitars. They are so much fun to play and you can never have too many.
And it’s really nice you don’t have to worry about breaking strings! 😄
When a situation requires patience and it seems that I am lacking in patience, a deep breathe in and out helps calm the nerves. A second deep breathe in and out allows me to calm my heart. A third one in and out calms my mind. A fourth allows me to clear the chaos. Finally on the fifth slow breathe in and out, my mind and body are ready to respond patiently and to make better decisions.
In the past year I have realized that no matter what my situation is, I need to pray for wisdom. I need to ask for the willingness to learn from it. I was reading Richard Rohr’s Daily Meditation for today and found this quote from him affirming:
“On the last day of the year, I generally withdraw to pray. A few years ago, I asked myself: What should I pray for this year? What do we need in these turbulent times? Naturally I was strongly tempted to pray for more love. But it occurred to me that I’ve met so many people in the world who are already full of love and who really care for others. Maybe what we lack isn’t love but wisdom. It became clear to me that I should pray above all else for wisdom. We all want to love, but as a rule we don’t know how to love rightly. How should we love so that life will really come from it? I believe that what we all need is wisdom.” Richard Rohr
Thanks, Carol for reminding me of this great resource. His meditations help me so much too.