Doing things in a different order this morning because my first right action was to water the plants and pick berries and salad greens before it got too hot. I’ll share links in my comments because sharing discoveries feels like a right action.
So far today I’ve done a lot of things I think of as right action:
– Did gentle yoga that included a beautiful peace and love meditative element https://youtu.be/HIqBXFm8chw?si=EbjXSNID05L7oI83
– Ate a delicious breakfast (https://biketoworkbarb.blogspot.com/2024/07/classic-all-branbran-buds-muffin-recipe.html and also https://www.milkglasshome.com/spiced-pickled-cherries-recipe/ on top of some of my homegrown strawberries, raspberries, and tayberries–amazing)
– Posted something to give away on Buy Nothing and got a lead on a piece of outdoor furniture I’ve been wanting there
– Now it’s time to shower and then experiment with some vegan jerky recipes involving cauliflower and green jackfruit
– Maybe ride my bike over to a friend’s house to give her some muffins and cherries, and some of the strawberry-rhubarb jam I made the other day
– Later I’ll read and relax, then go on a date with my honey to a delicious Italian restaurant as one of our anniversary dates
I won’t know if it is the right action until I do it. If I rely on my intuition, I am usually correct and am pleased with my decision.
Currently my “right” action will be to continue with my morning routine and exercise before the day’s activities.
It’s been a few hectic days with family over for a fourth cookout. It was lovely! The right action, in this now moment, is this time of reflection. Over this weekend, two more sets of old family friends are coming through. I am so grateful to connect with everyone. However, it’s imperative not to lose my practice. I am grateful to have this space as the hub to keep me centered.
I think the next right actions are all around us:
Telling our loved ones that we DO love them,
Helping a friend through a crisis
Going to the grocery with your significant other
Picking up the last piece of debris
Opening the door for another
Saving the last morsel (candy, peanuts, snack of your choice) for someone else
my dad is coming over today for our rescheduled 4th of July cookout, I’m gonna have all of us do this for fun – which coordinates with incorporating more fun and playfulness into my life, LOL
Stay awake, to my inner and outer worlds. Pay attention to what is happening internally and externally, and take the right action based on that information. Whether it be I need to be still, or whether it be I need to make some purposeful noise, if I am awake, I will know.
Mary M., you and me are cut from the same cloth. Since you’ve talked about Susie before, she sounds like Paw Mu to me which is another area we’re similar.
This question reminds me of Paw Mu. Just in case, for those who forgot who she is, she’s the big sister Burmese friend a couple years older than me I met at the Minnesota State Academy for the Blind School known to be a strong caring traditional woman with shorter hair and a stronger voice who speaks the truth as it is on the spot. Continue to embrace the life lessons she taught me is the next right action as usual. Notible examples include: looking beyond the surface, just doing the right thing without purpose or the idea of gaining something aka agenda, seeing beauty in discomfort, and moving closer to the people from my: family, culture, and elders.
Between discomfort and confusion, I choose the former. I have family to pick me up for the former, especially having the presence of Ngoc and my mom. Outside of Ngoc, I feel most comfortable with my mom. Outside of being a motivator, she’s very open-minded and has been there for me through thick and thin. The saying for confusion is “DIY.”
People with disabilities will need more help when all said and done. Effort and technology can certainly improve with independence. Progress and perfection are far from each other. Equinimity is the best answer. This can certainly be done while still striving for improvement. It’s an interesting paradox. I’ve had to learn to do less to get more. It’s that “Work smarter; not harder” saying Charlie and I were talking about weeks and months ago when I said “Work harder to work smarter.” He said that one also works too. Good times.
Letting go of improvement is my secret. That idea was piggybacked off of Phil Jackson’s “Forget the ring.” principle. I was taught to do more to get more like with anyone else. It worked getting from A-B. The harder I worked to improve myself, the more I became attached to results. This increased: disappointment, anger, and impatience. By letting go of improvement, I can: be process-oriented, enjoy life itself, look beyond the surface, see beauty in discomfort, and just do what’s right without expecting anything in return or purpose.
Yram, that one’s new for me, but it’s a good one. Unfortunately, the standard person uses “disabled.” For me, personally, I’m not offended, because I come from a culture where convenient speech is valued over clarrity, everyone has the same skin color, sits at the same table, and eats rice as a family. Combining the 2 ideas together, special cases must always be taken into consideration. This can certainly be done with pleasing the majority; not everyone. In fact, it’s the purpose of pleasing the majority. Another term Ngoc and I use is “Special cases.”
I work in transportation, specifically active transportation so my work includes concern for ADA accessibility. This has brought me into contact with disability justice voices. There’s a range of preferences on usage, with some people actively disliking “differently abled” and claiming “disabled” as their identity, not something to try to pretend away. There’s also been a shift from person-first (person with a disability) to identity-first (disabled person) that reflects some generational differences.
On the “special” front, I think of the concept of universal design and the curb-cut effect–designing for full inclusion of disabled people provides benefits for all. A place that’s accessible for someone with a disability doesn’t become less usable for someone without a disability. In fact, it becomes better. https://ssir.org/articles/entry/the_curb_cut_effect
Loc Tran, your last paragraph speaks to me. I am a Phil Jackson admirer as well. His words, « forget the ring » are new for me. It summarizes beautifully a notion I embrace, which is detachment. Thank you for those concise words! Be well.
My pleasure, Mary M., and same to you. I remember you commenting on my past answers about the Lakers. We definitely come from Phil’s tree. He definitely embraces the bright lights. The Phil, Kobe, and even Shaq combo was unstoppable.
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Thank you!
Arrive in my day – and off we go
My next right action is just to be supportive. Sometimes I tend to be a helicopter Mom! I know they will reach out to me if they need me : )
I look forward to reading others comments…the term “right action” has me stumped. I will say that I’m trying to slow down and go with the flow!
Doing things in a different order this morning because my first right action was to water the plants and pick berries and salad greens before it got too hot. I’ll share links in my comments because sharing discoveries feels like a right action.
So far today I’ve done a lot of things I think of as right action:
– Did gentle yoga that included a beautiful peace and love meditative element https://youtu.be/HIqBXFm8chw?si=EbjXSNID05L7oI83
– Ate a delicious breakfast (https://biketoworkbarb.blogspot.com/2024/07/classic-all-branbran-buds-muffin-recipe.html and also https://www.milkglasshome.com/spiced-pickled-cherries-recipe/ on top of some of my homegrown strawberries, raspberries, and tayberries–amazing)
– Posted something to give away on Buy Nothing and got a lead on a piece of outdoor furniture I’ve been wanting there
– Now it’s time to shower and then experiment with some vegan jerky recipes involving cauliflower and green jackfruit
– Maybe ride my bike over to a friend’s house to give her some muffins and cherries, and some of the strawberry-rhubarb jam I made the other day
– Later I’ll read and relax, then go on a date with my honey to a delicious Italian restaurant as one of our anniversary dates
After having family in town for a few days, I could use a little self-care and grounding before our busy work week starts up in a few days.
I am reading this before I read the posts.
I won’t know if it is the right action until I do it. If I rely on my intuition, I am usually correct and am pleased with my decision.
Currently my “right” action will be to continue with my morning routine and exercise before the day’s activities.
It’s been a few hectic days with family over for a fourth cookout. It was lovely! The right action, in this now moment, is this time of reflection. Over this weekend, two more sets of old family friends are coming through. I am so grateful to connect with everyone. However, it’s imperative not to lose my practice. I am grateful to have this space as the hub to keep me centered.
I’m with you,
dear Avril . . .
Me, too.
Well said.
I think the next right actions are all around us:
Telling our loved ones that we DO love them,
Helping a friend through a crisis
Going to the grocery with your significant other
Picking up the last piece of debris
Opening the door for another
Saving the last morsel (candy, peanuts, snack of your choice) for someone else
Such a good list, John.
Ya’ll – it’s International Cherry Pit Spitting Day – https://nationaltoday.com/international-cherry-pit-spitting-day/
my dad is coming over today for our rescheduled 4th of July cookout, I’m gonna have all of us do this for fun – which coordinates with incorporating more fun and playfulness into my life, LOL
Love it!!
Wish I was there to spit with you!
I have to share this recipe because it’s so, so yummy. I was hesitant about the salty part at first but these are fabulous. https://www.milkglasshome.com/spiced-pickled-cherries-recipe
Well Michele, you lured me to the cherry fay link. Fascinating! Thank you😎
Have fun eating cherries with your dad, Michele.
Stay awake, to my inner and outer worlds. Pay attention to what is happening internally and externally, and take the right action based on that information. Whether it be I need to be still, or whether it be I need to make some purposeful noise, if I am awake, I will know.
Mary M., you and me are cut from the same cloth. Since you’ve talked about Susie before, she sounds like Paw Mu to me which is another area we’re similar.
The next right action will be to care for my body and feed it.
This question reminds me of Paw Mu. Just in case, for those who forgot who she is, she’s the big sister Burmese friend a couple years older than me I met at the Minnesota State Academy for the Blind School known to be a strong caring traditional woman with shorter hair and a stronger voice who speaks the truth as it is on the spot. Continue to embrace the life lessons she taught me is the next right action as usual. Notible examples include: looking beyond the surface, just doing the right thing without purpose or the idea of gaining something aka agenda, seeing beauty in discomfort, and moving closer to the people from my: family, culture, and elders.
Between discomfort and confusion, I choose the former. I have family to pick me up for the former, especially having the presence of Ngoc and my mom. Outside of Ngoc, I feel most comfortable with my mom. Outside of being a motivator, she’s very open-minded and has been there for me through thick and thin. The saying for confusion is “DIY.”
People with disabilities will need more help when all said and done. Effort and technology can certainly improve with independence. Progress and perfection are far from each other. Equinimity is the best answer. This can certainly be done while still striving for improvement. It’s an interesting paradox. I’ve had to learn to do less to get more. It’s that “Work smarter; not harder” saying Charlie and I were talking about weeks and months ago when I said “Work harder to work smarter.” He said that one also works too. Good times.
Letting go of improvement is my secret. That idea was piggybacked off of Phil Jackson’s “Forget the ring.” principle. I was taught to do more to get more like with anyone else. It worked getting from A-B. The harder I worked to improve myself, the more I became attached to results. This increased: disappointment, anger, and impatience. By letting go of improvement, I can: be process-oriented, enjoy life itself, look beyond the surface, see beauty in discomfort, and just do what’s right without expecting anything in return or purpose.
You are doing the next right thing,
dear Loc,
and you inspire me with your shared thoughts…
I recently heard a term for “disabled ” that I like better. The author of the article said, “differently abled.”
Yram, that one’s new for me, but it’s a good one. Unfortunately, the standard person uses “disabled.” For me, personally, I’m not offended, because I come from a culture where convenient speech is valued over clarrity, everyone has the same skin color, sits at the same table, and eats rice as a family. Combining the 2 ideas together, special cases must always be taken into consideration. This can certainly be done with pleasing the majority; not everyone. In fact, it’s the purpose of pleasing the majority. Another term Ngoc and I use is “Special cases.”
I work in transportation, specifically active transportation so my work includes concern for ADA accessibility. This has brought me into contact with disability justice voices. There’s a range of preferences on usage, with some people actively disliking “differently abled” and claiming “disabled” as their identity, not something to try to pretend away. There’s also been a shift from person-first (person with a disability) to identity-first (disabled person) that reflects some generational differences.
Some of the resources I turn to:
https://www.autistichoya.com/p/ableist-words-and-terms-to-avoid.html
https://consciousstyleguide.com/
https://www.selfdefined.app/
On the “special” front, I think of the concept of universal design and the curb-cut effect–designing for full inclusion of disabled people provides benefits for all. A place that’s accessible for someone with a disability doesn’t become less usable for someone without a disability. In fact, it becomes better. https://ssir.org/articles/entry/the_curb_cut_effect
Loc Tran, your last paragraph speaks to me. I am a Phil Jackson admirer as well. His words, « forget the ring » are new for me. It summarizes beautifully a notion I embrace, which is detachment. Thank you for those concise words! Be well.
My pleasure, Mary M., and same to you. I remember you commenting on my past answers about the Lakers. We definitely come from Phil’s tree. He definitely embraces the bright lights. The Phil, Kobe, and even Shaq combo was unstoppable.
To embrace this moment with sincere gratefulness.
The opposite of the next wrong action.
Hahaha, good one, Joseph. Way to go to inject an answer from yesterday’s question.