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Almost always it prevents me from saying something I may regret later.
When you pause first before reacting, the outcome is most likely going to be different. When you take a breath and let God lead you, your more adapt to handle the situation more positively.
If my reaction is going to make the situation worse then a pause limits the risk of adding fuel to a fire. And that fire could be inside me or inside someone else or both. But not everything needs a pause. If my dog is looking adorably at me there will be no pause.
Oh, of course it offers space to understand better and based on this, being able and respond accordingly.
In my wood shop, I call it, measure twice – cut once. Helps reduce swearing dramatically.
When I pause & go to that calm, serene place, the situation that triggers me is quieted. My reaction comes from a place of peace & not frenzy or upset. This is so much healthier for me & those around me.
If I pause before reacting, I am able to gain a deeper, more true perspective, lense and response from the inside.
Just as Alara offers, it feels like a full-bodied Tango, for now. I do hope it will become easier, and more natural, with practice!
This is the 64 thousand dollar question for me. Most of my life I have not been unable to pause without reacting. In the rare moments I withheld, I stayed seething, and mulling. I have remained totally baffled as to why I could not.refrain (tried many tricks).
In the past month, I have been practicing Stop Look Go. Br. David says it’s like learning to Tango you have to practice, practice, practice.
Recently, a surprise, I was able to hesitate and not give my two-cents. I noticed I was doing this (my beginner’s Tango steps). I was at choice for the first time, and there was no just holding back or holding it in.
My life focus has shifted to gratitude and I am learning to dance with it. I trust now.
And I absolutely treasure the Word of the Day, today.
I would react less negatively. I’m grateful for 2 recent instances when ‘life’ gave me that benefit – erasing my negativity for me.
Pausing slows down the reactivity of the mind and creates space . This space changes everything! It’s is a wake up call – so pausing allows truth to shine. It’s the space that allows creativity and life to grow. Pausing is the light of mindfulness which allows me to listen to truth. Then I can respond with wisdom rather than reaction.
My heart rate and blood pressure as I take a deep, full breath.
Which part of me I bring to bear: the kind or thoughtful or compassionate me, or the me who’s reacting without considering the other person’s point of view and without trying to find common ground for a way forward.
I might be better able to understand the other person’s perspective as well as coming up with more creative solutions to our challenges
A different perspective.
Obviously today is your birthday . Sending you a bouquet made of special flowers like long life, health, happiness , financial security, love, inner and outer peace, god‘s blessings and gratefulness💐 there are some more flowers in it, you have to name them… happy birthday 🎻
aww, thank you so much Hermann-Josef:) I love flowers and I especially love your special flowers.
Happy Birthday! Wishing you many happy pauses, and 53 delightful new views from your perch today…
🙂 Warmly, KC
Thank you KC. My 53rd birthday has been a good one!
So good Michele… that you are well launched for another turn around the sun!
Thank you KC:)
Pausing enables my inner wisdom and knowledge to kick in which would create a far different reaction to any given situation.
Pausing allows time for processing. When I pause, I think about the situation and (hopefully) go forward appropriately.
Happy Birthday, Michelle!
Thank you sunnypatti!
Thank you Antoinette:)
If I pause, I will not react. I will act instead.
Happy Birthday, Michele! 🥳
May you enjoy 53 flavors today!
Thank you Laura!
Today I’ll remember that my “reaction” is more likely to be a “response” if I ponder first.
The outcomes of my reactions. Learning to bite ones tongue is a skill that may prevent heartaches. Once words come out you cannot call them back.. take time to ponder and think before reacting..
I used to just take pictures. See something interesting I wanted to capture in an image, point, and shoot. Now I take my time. Before I pick up the camera I check out the lighting. Where is the sun coming from? Which direction will offer the most color? Shadow? Then, looking through the view finder, I begin to frame. Paying attention to the outline of the view, the proportion of sky to land/water for example, where is the horizon? Then focus in and out on the object. None of this takes a lot of time, but it does take time. I am recollecting myself. It is in that span of time that the artist may show up.
It is the same way with life. I have to get some distance from it, especially when it is challenging. That’s the only way I can show up. The only way that whatever nuggets of experience I have gleaned can produce an authentic response to life, one that allows me to live artfully
I would respond instead of reacting, and that would be so gooood! This is something I really need to work on…thanks for the insight.
Unless it’s an emergency or someone is in danger, the longer my pause is before responding to a particular situation the better the resolution to the matter at hand. And for many of us who are men, this takes practice!
To react in a calm and considered way, I would be in control of myself and make better decisions.
I give the chance to me to go beyond emotion. Not to react like a machine that always reacts according to old experiences, tendencies, concepts and so on. I have time to listen to my heart and intellect. Only then I am the one who is reacting, because I have got the time to decide how I really want to react to a given situation.
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