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Self esteem. Not telling myself I look hideous today and that I am weird and no one will ever love me. I am good enough and I can do everything I have ever dreamed of doing. I need to practice telling myself this even if I do not fully believe it
I can practice subjecting my volatile temperament to firm, objective realities in order to respond more helpfully to the real needs of the moment.
As soon as I wake up and and use the toilet, I can do “indoor walking exercises”, so that my day starts with a minimum of 3000 steps.
Accepting all parts of myself. I need to exercise as well to keep my breathing capacity.
Exercise everyday. If I have to turn in a late assignment or two, so be it! I really need to get back in the habit of running so I can stay in shape and do well when I compete in races.
Acknowledging that I am part of the problem, but through mindfulness, can be part of the solution.
Staying in the moment and feeling my grief. My dad got Covid and has been in the hospital for about a week now on a ventilator We’ve had a rocky relationship and now all I want is to talk to him. One more time. To remind him that even though we have had difficult times I still love him. But, actually I know he knows that. I got to Facetime him before they put him in an induced coma. Even though it was painful to see him suffering, he knew it was me and I told him I loved him very much and everything would be ok. The heartache I feel right now is sometimes overwhelming. I am practicing staying in the moment and walk through ALL of my feelings and sensations.
I’m so sorry to hear this, Cammy, and so glad that you were able to facetime and tell your father how much you love him. Take care of yourself as you feel your way through these difficult emotions ❤️️
I am so sorry about your dad. Take good care of yourself, Cammy.
chair zumba on youtube, which has replaced my pedometer and commitment to enough daily Steps. My old body thanks me for stretching it. My old feet thank me for ‘letting them off the hook’ for bearing the burden of my daily exercise. My car battery thanks me for giving it more much-needed exercise.
I am watching the sunlight sneak across a hardwood floor, the wood grain unveiling interesting patterns from the light. As the room brightens I feel the warmth lighten my face and body. The light has found a gentle warm heart, Being in this moment, that is what I will practice.
Finish reading my book. I love to read but reading a book has been so challenging, I guess because of easy access to all sorts of info & distractions on the internet. I thought I committed to reading my book but here I am, barely 1/2 way thru! So I committ to reading “my book” & finishing it. I must take this practice seriously because I love to hold a book in my hand & get carried away……📖
It’s not new, but I resist walking in bad weather, i.e., rain. Which is a problem when you live in the Pacific Northwest. I love to walk otherwise, so I plan to walk in the rain a couple of times to see if I can change my attitude.
I share that resistance, Linda, which is a problem here too, in an area of the UK with plenty of rainfall. (Most of the UK has plenty of rainfall!) There was a time when I used to walk in the rain and I was always delighted by it. Rain adds something special to my usual walk beyond simply getting wet. The colours are different, the sounds, smells… But recenty I’ve avoided wet weather walks and you’ve reminded me that I used to enjoy them. I shall think if you when I next take a walk in the rain. Thank you 🌧 😊
I have the opportunity to have faith in those around me. My children are growing up and moving out into the world – this comes with so many fears and I just have to have faith that they will manage.
Well, I did some thinking about that this year, and there are a few I have started, but one I really want to adopt is getting back to journaling….I am always a better person for myself and others when I do it, so I appreciate the nudge here…..I think it would be good if I set aside a particular time of day and stick to it. Prayers and good thoughts are needed as this is a tough one…
Funny you ask that because at my company, I’m now in charge of recruitment for Spanish speaking candidates. I’m semi-fluent in Spanish (and really, no one else in the company can speak). I’ve been working with a tutor for years. But I’ve always imagined using this more especially in my career … and here we are now. The Universe heard me and voila. The opportunity to practice more landed in my lap.
A new behavior that was shared with me as a suggestion to strengthen a fledging relationship was “reflective listening.”
And I am trying it!
Growing up in a home that fostered and nurtured the sharing of ideas through critical thinking, and peaceful debate, in order to get to know each other and each others ideas, this reflective listening was a new idea to me.
To be able to listen and process not only the words and ideas of another but also the emotion with which they are speaking, and not think critical, but respond by rephrasing the persons idea to: 1. let them know they were heard and I can empathize and 2. ensure I understood correctly what they were saying, this is totally new for me.
For me, it involves shutting off a part of my brain to allow focus on the person and structure of this “dialogue” vs. the dialogue itself.
I will say that this is working! That the person for which this was suggested has warmed up toward me tremendously! And that was the goal of why I tried this…my only “after thoughts” are…through this type of dialogue she may feel I am getting to know her better – which I am – but she is not really learning to know me. Or at least that is how it feels so far, as it has only been a month or so.
Thank you, Cathie – a month sounds like quite a while, to me. I suppose you can introduce thoughts of your own and know that, even if they aren’t followed up, you have ‘added yourself’ to the conversation – that’s the phrase that comes to mind. My 2 coffees with friends last week felt like balanced dialog, but I’m guessing I inserted myself over-much, at least with one of the friends..
your friend might become aware enough to reciprocate,
or it could be something you live with
without judgment . . .
wants us to be seen & known . .
but underneath it all,
we are not our ego.
Yes, that old ego – the “I” “I” “I” can want to pop up for sure!
And thank you for the thought that as my friend begins to trust enough she will also want to listen, as the most intimate relationships are always reciprocal.
I need to re-vitalize an old behavior that will make it new again—improve my going-to-bed/sleep-earlier..
Ah, yes – good luck, Carla! The book, “Why we sleep,” suggests being not too hot when going to sleep – maybe washing one’s face with cold water, for example.
At a certain point in one’s life, if we’ve been working on our lives and souls, we know the behavior(s) that we benefit from practicing. I don’t need to look for anything “new.” I need to continue on a path of focusing on what will manifest the fruit of the Spirit in my life: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.
Keeping at peace with myself, Going hiking more often in the forest, enjoying spending time alone to enjoy what I like to do and be grateful for having the opportunity to do it.
Letting go of slights, wrongs, misunderstandings, mistakes, toward me or by me—if I have made amends in the second case. Forgive, forget, move on… not always easy, but worth it.
Hopefully I can practise more patience when I am in pain. It is not the fault of those around me.
This new season of my life has created the opportunity for me to put myself first and take care of “me” for a change…a new behavior with much-needed practice.
Not exactly right now, but after the move in a couple weeks, I’m going for relaxing and spending some time outdoors. In the meantime, just trying to be patient with myself and the process. Not always successfully.
I can’t think of anything new, as I put a lot of effort over the years into working out the old behaviors that were not serving my best interests. I got the bad behaviors out of the way so I could be my authentic self (although they do still creep in here and there).
My authentic self is confident, but my ego doesn’t like to think I am, so I’m always working on my self-confidence. It’s not new, as it’s always been ingrained in me, but it does take practice for me to let that light shine. And in my new position at the store, I am working on this daily!
New behavior? Heck, I’m busy enough living up to the practices and behaviors that help me make sense, and so far thrive, in the world around me right now. The “new” and the “next” shinny bright object sometimes takes us away from work aplenty right at our feet.
Spot on, Kevin!
I can always continue practicing patience – that’s a hard one. I’m off on my mini vacation for a Halloween wedding…. excited:) Have a magical weekend everyone!
And have a great time, Michele!
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