The qualities I am most grateful for in a friend
are qualities that I would like to also bring to a friendship.
They are
acceptance of who I am without judgement,
shared honesty and straightforwardness,
and spiritual values,
compassion for ourselves and the world.
Trust,
forbearance,
and genuine connection.
I have had this kind of friendship in the past,
but not today . . .
I have secrets that I am afraid to divulge
because they might be too heavy and deep
for other people to handle,
and I do not want to be ostracized
by those who have led more sheltered lives than I . . .
I don’t fully trust that others would understand my mistakes.
None of us are perfect creatures,
so we must also
learn how to forgive ourselves
and each other. ♥
Honesty tempered with kindness and a good sense of timing.
Ability to make me laugh hard.
Generosity: Time, things, care, ideas, support.
Being willing to listen to me when I’m excited about something, and also stopping me when I start explaining something they already know.
Interest in doing things together, from fun activities to knitting and drinking tea to “hey, wanna go run errands with me?” time.
Understanding when I’m really slammed and can’t invest time for a bit, and the ability to pick up and continue the friendship as if there’s no gap.
Perspectives different from mine, not an echo chamber.
Charlie, as someone who has integrity as the core value, I greatly appreciate that. Sharing is caring. It all starts and ends with the heart. String-pulling is the last thing needed.
I’m grateful for having a friend who not only compliments me but also gives me the feedback I need to hear. Of course, like many people, I prefer hearing compliments, but I know honest feedback is the key to my true success. Thank you for today’s question.
My Ngoc, I’m happy to give you both. Everything else aside, I’ve adopted a higher context style of correcting others having grown up in the west. It balances comfort and correction.
Emotional safety: a friend who is open and receptive to me as I am. Generosity: willingness to listen and support, even if I sound like a broken record sometimes. Got my back: if I’m in a situation where I need help, this friend will do their best to show up and help me in whatever way I need. I hope I offer the same qualities to my friends!
Support, respect, honesty, and the ability to laugh and cry together, really share all of life’s happenings. I’m so grateful I found someone like this in our not-so-new city.
There’s too many to list. Sean Coughlin is someone I’ve talked about before I know since 6th grade. He and I share a common interest in sports and keep each other grounded beyond that.
I’m most grateful for friends who are supportive and open minded. This week’s topic in meditation is to let go of this self who : judges and discerns.
This is challenging because the human mind is constantly doing this!
I appreciate friendship that is open and accepting like the universe mind. I guess I have to keep letting go!
Antoinette, we judge and discern out of protection only to end up holding ourselves back. Protection and sheltering fall under the same roof. Protection on one hand; sheltering on the other.
I am grateful for those that lightens my load – whether with humor, support, or a kick in the pants. I am grateful for their ability to see me, thorns and all and still show up, forgive and push me to be a better version of myself with kindness. And hope that they allow me to reciprocate.
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The qualities I am most grateful for in a friend
are qualities that I would like to also bring to a friendship.
They are
acceptance of who I am without judgement,
shared honesty and straightforwardness,
and spiritual values,
compassion for ourselves and the world.
Trust,
forbearance,
and genuine connection.
I have had this kind of friendship in the past,
but not today . . .
I have secrets that I am afraid to divulge
because they might be too heavy and deep
for other people to handle,
and I do not want to be ostracized
by those who have led more sheltered lives than I . . .
I don’t fully trust that others would understand my mistakes.
None of us are perfect creatures,
so we must also
learn how to forgive ourselves
and each other. ♥
Honesty tempered with kindness and a good sense of timing.
Ability to make me laugh hard.
Generosity: Time, things, care, ideas, support.
Being willing to listen to me when I’m excited about something, and also stopping me when I start explaining something they already know.
Interest in doing things together, from fun activities to knitting and drinking tea to “hey, wanna go run errands with me?” time.
Understanding when I’m really slammed and can’t invest time for a bit, and the ability to pick up and continue the friendship as if there’s no gap.
Perspectives different from mine, not an echo chamber.
All things I offer them, too.
Acceptance. Forgiveness. Hanging in there with you when things aren’t going so well. Loyalty. Knowing you can always count on this person.
Kindness
The qualities I’m most grateful for in a friend are kindness, caring, and a willingness to share.
Charlie, as someone who has integrity as the core value, I greatly appreciate that. Sharing is caring. It all starts and ends with the heart. String-pulling is the last thing needed.
I’m grateful for having a friend who not only compliments me but also gives me the feedback I need to hear. Of course, like many people, I prefer hearing compliments, but I know honest feedback is the key to my true success. Thank you for today’s question.
I agree,
dear Ngoc . . . ♥
My Ngoc, I’m happy to give you both. Everything else aside, I’ve adopted a higher context style of correcting others having grown up in the west. It balances comfort and correction.
Emotional safety: a friend who is open and receptive to me as I am. Generosity: willingness to listen and support, even if I sound like a broken record sometimes. Got my back: if I’m in a situation where I need help, this friend will do their best to show up and help me in whatever way I need. I hope I offer the same qualities to my friends!
Loyalty.
Honesty.
Love.
Compassion.
Kindness.
Sense of Humor.
Common Sense.
🕊️🩷 to All……
Common Sense . . . . yes that is a good quality, PKR.
Support, respect, honesty, and the ability to laugh and cry together, really share all of life’s happenings. I’m so grateful I found someone like this in our not-so-new city.
There’s too many to list. Sean Coughlin is someone I’ve talked about before I know since 6th grade. He and I share a common interest in sports and keep each other grounded beyond that.
I’m most grateful for friends who are supportive and open minded. This week’s topic in meditation is to let go of this self who : judges and discerns.
This is challenging because the human mind is constantly doing this!
I appreciate friendship that is open and accepting like the universe mind. I guess I have to keep letting go!
Antoinette, we judge and discern out of protection only to end up holding ourselves back. Protection and sheltering fall under the same roof. Protection on one hand; sheltering on the other.
Loc – yea all the reasons we judge and discern are the false self- all of it must be discarded- let go. 🙌💯
I am grateful for those that lightens my load – whether with humor, support, or a kick in the pants. I am grateful for their ability to see me, thorns and all and still show up, forgive and push me to be a better version of myself with kindness. And hope that they allow me to reciprocate.
Loyalty, Humor, Empathy
Honesty
Accountability
Humor
An open heart.