My family needs my patience today and every day! I have always wondered why it is easier, for me, to be patient with a stranger than with those closest to me???
As to how can I show my patience…listen more, talk less:)
I need my own patience with myself. I am doing better with that, though.
I’m noticing that as I am more patient and accepting with my Mom,
I’m also more patient and accepting of myself.
Wasn’t today in particular but I needed patience with my daughter last week. She is challenged with her energy, a bit overweight but we had a great week and she did awesome. Yesterday on my birthday I had to wake her for breakfast for 9 a.m and she wanted to go back to sleep. That was fine, I relaxed by the pool with my coffee and listened to the birds and owls. I heard owls every morning. I loved it.
In Cocoa Beach we went kayaking and saw manatee and dolphin. It was so cool!!
No question, my husband. Still fighting the good fight for his life. While it is an honor to care for him and pick up the slack of our home and daily life, sometimes the overwhelm is too much. And my patience is first to go. i was doing the dishes last night and he made a remark about the disorganization of the fridge. He tried to reach something in the back and food toppled out and fell to the floor. Something about the ask to clean it our and organize it better – nearly broke me. i. made a super sassy remark back. Sigh. But a good nights sleep helped. I’m listening to relaxing classical guitar. A few candles lit. Prayers for patience. Ready to go.
I am right with you in the care supporting role. Little acts of self care can be redeeming. A book I found helpful is: Self-Care for Caregivers by Susanne White. Also: The Caregivers Wife’s Handbook by Dianna Denholm.
I am holding you in thought.
When you are both tired in the evening everything must be so much harder.
Anybody would have reacted as you did.
I love the candles and the classical guitar.
And the good night sleep.
It sounds like you are taking good care of yourself.
Please keep doing that. ☀️
My son needs my patience today. He has been home sick for two weeks so we’ve been together A LOT. He is 8 years old and has autism and he often seeks attention by doing things he thinks are taboo. Sometimes I am a well of patience, other times I am snappy and overwhelmed. Today, I will do my best to empathize with his struggles and be patient with his behavior.
I echo Sparrow’s words Emmaleah.
This sounds really hard.
Be gentle and good to yourself first.
You need to be nurtured by yourself
before you can nurture your son.
Find ways to treat yourself. 🌷
“There is a lot I’m not accepting and keep fighting . I think I need patience to accept the way things are right now .”
Thank you for this Antoinette.
My husband has become quite needy in his older age as he doesn’t feel good most of the time. It is wearing me out, but I do empathize with his distress. I can show it by being kinder and gentle when we talk.
I hope,
dear Linda,
that you have help with this . . .
you cannot do it alone,
and there are people out there
who would love to ease your burden
and carry your pain
with love . . . ♥
Like many of you I need patience today . There is a lot I’m not accepting and keep fighting . I think I need patience to accept the way things are right now .
Like Charlie, I need my patience today and hopefully I will be aware enough to be patient if and when needed with others who may cross my path today. May I have such awareness every day!
My first thought was patience with my husband when I am in a caregiving role with him. However, I really appreciated reading y’all’s responses and the reminder to be patient with myself as well. I can show patience to myself by taking a pause and smiling tenderly and encouragingly from my Self to my little self when I make a mistake or get wound up about something. I probably can also show patience to my husband in the same way.
I am with you. Three books I found helpful:
Self-Care for the caregiver by Susanne White
The Caregiving Wife’s Handbook by Diana Denholm
You can heal your heart by Louise Hay and David Kessel
When my brother was helping my mother out
at a time she was just needing a little bit of help,
she would lash out
and belittle his assistance.
I lived across the country and couldn’t be there,
so he would call after his weekly visits
and vent to me his aggravation.
At one point,
I suggested that he not look at her as his mother,
but as a stranger who was in pain and confusion.
He later told me
that the suggestion
changed the story for him . . .
he no longer took her abuse as personal.
Maybe this could help you as well,
dear Elizabeth . . . ♥
Today, it’s me. I’m taking a First Aid Certification course in a few hours, and even though I’ve read through all of the information, I’m still nervous. I know it’s okay to be nervous, and I know that I can do what I need to do to pass the course, but I have to remember to keep a calm mind so the nervousness doesn’t take charge.
Thank you for taking that course – I wish more people would. As part of my job I read through EMS reports (as well as autopsies, ER/PCP/hosp rec). It saddens me when I read “no CPR was given until EMS arrived…” minutes matter … all families should know how to do this.
I’m so grateful that I took the course and got my certification. I can now apply for jobs teaching yoga, but I can also now save someone’s life if needed. Performing CPR is really not difficult once you know the protocol, and while I hope I never have to use it, you just never know.
This applies not only today but also to all people who trust and share their experiences with me. I must listen to them with patience and empathy. May you all have a wonderful weekend with your loved ones.
My Ngoc, active listening goes a long ways. The way I do that is to view active listening as just “listening.” The clinic says “Active listening.” We say “Listening.” Expecting nothing in return is the key.
Myself.
I have put so much emphasis on getting this care supporting role ” right” I have forgotten about being gentle with myself. I think it is Joseph who says, concentrate on capabilities.
I am working on ” the how to show it “
Perfect timing oh dear Universe! Am heading into a political convention. I’ll take cleansing breathes and keep my smiles up. Also please & thank-you’s! !
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My family needs my patience today and every day! I have always wondered why it is easier, for me, to be patient with a stranger than with those closest to me???
As to how can I show my patience…listen more, talk less:)
I need my own patience with myself. I am doing better with that, though.
I’m noticing that as I am more patient and accepting with my Mom,
I’m also more patient and accepting of myself.
So wonderful to hear that you are noticing progress in being more patient and accepting with your Mom and with yourself, Mary!
Thanks Elizabeth.
It surprised me.
I found myself saying gentle and accepting things to myself,
the very things that I was saying to my Mother.
Wasn’t today in particular but I needed patience with my daughter last week. She is challenged with her energy, a bit overweight but we had a great week and she did awesome. Yesterday on my birthday I had to wake her for breakfast for 9 a.m and she wanted to go back to sleep. That was fine, I relaxed by the pool with my coffee and listened to the birds and owls. I heard owls every morning. I loved it.
In Cocoa Beach we went kayaking and saw manatee and dolphin. It was so cool!!
Happy belated Birthday Robin Ann. Glad you are enjoying your Florida trip.
Thank you Michele!
No question, my husband. Still fighting the good fight for his life. While it is an honor to care for him and pick up the slack of our home and daily life, sometimes the overwhelm is too much. And my patience is first to go. i was doing the dishes last night and he made a remark about the disorganization of the fridge. He tried to reach something in the back and food toppled out and fell to the floor. Something about the ask to clean it our and organize it better – nearly broke me. i. made a super sassy remark back. Sigh. But a good nights sleep helped. I’m listening to relaxing classical guitar. A few candles lit. Prayers for patience. Ready to go.
I am right with you in the care supporting role. Little acts of self care can be redeeming. A book I found helpful is: Self-Care for Caregivers by Susanne White. Also: The Caregivers Wife’s Handbook by Dianna Denholm.
I am holding you in thought.
When you are both tired in the evening everything must be so much harder.
Anybody would have reacted as you did.
I love the candles and the classical guitar.
And the good night sleep.
It sounds like you are taking good care of yourself.
Please keep doing that. ☀️
I know this trouble well,
dear Carly,
and send you both
my heartfelt prayers . . . ♥
My son needs my patience today. He has been home sick for two weeks so we’ve been together A LOT. He is 8 years old and has autism and he often seeks attention by doing things he thinks are taboo. Sometimes I am a well of patience, other times I am snappy and overwhelmed. Today, I will do my best to empathize with his struggles and be patient with his behavior.
I echo Sparrow’s words Emmaleah.
This sounds really hard.
Be gentle and good to yourself first.
You need to be nurtured by yourself
before you can nurture your son.
Find ways to treat yourself. 🌷
Be patient with yourself as well,
dear Emmaleah . . . ♥
Thank you Sparrow I will ☺️
“There is a lot I’m not accepting and keep fighting . I think I need patience to accept the way things are right now .”
Thank you for this Antoinette.
My husband has become quite needy in his older age as he doesn’t feel good most of the time. It is wearing me out, but I do empathize with his distress. I can show it by being kinder and gentle when we talk.
That must be really hard to deal with, Linda.
I know you must be dealing with so much loss.
Sending my love.
I hope,
dear Linda,
that you have help with this . . .
you cannot do it alone,
and there are people out there
who would love to ease your burden
and carry your pain
with love . . . ♥
Thank you, Sparrow.
Like many of you I need patience today . There is a lot I’m not accepting and keep fighting . I think I need patience to accept the way things are right now .
Like Charlie, I need my patience today and hopefully I will be aware enough to be patient if and when needed with others who may cross my path today. May I have such awareness every day!
I think, I need my patience today and try to not get too far ahead of myself. Focusing on what’s in front of me.
My first thought was patience with my husband when I am in a caregiving role with him. However, I really appreciated reading y’all’s responses and the reminder to be patient with myself as well. I can show patience to myself by taking a pause and smiling tenderly and encouragingly from my Self to my little self when I make a mistake or get wound up about something. I probably can also show patience to my husband in the same way.
I am with you. Three books I found helpful:
Self-Care for the caregiver by Susanne White
The Caregiving Wife’s Handbook by Diana Denholm
You can heal your heart by Louise Hay and David Kessel
When my brother was helping my mother out
at a time she was just needing a little bit of help,
she would lash out
and belittle his assistance.
I lived across the country and couldn’t be there,
so he would call after his weekly visits
and vent to me his aggravation.
At one point,
I suggested that he not look at her as his mother,
but as a stranger who was in pain and confusion.
He later told me
that the suggestion
changed the story for him . . .
he no longer took her abuse as personal.
Maybe this could help you as well,
dear Elizabeth . . . ♥
Today, it’s me. I’m taking a First Aid Certification course in a few hours, and even though I’ve read through all of the information, I’m still nervous. I know it’s okay to be nervous, and I know that I can do what I need to do to pass the course, but I have to remember to keep a calm mind so the nervousness doesn’t take charge.
Thank you for taking that course – I wish more people would. As part of my job I read through EMS reports (as well as autopsies, ER/PCP/hosp rec). It saddens me when I read “no CPR was given until EMS arrived…” minutes matter … all families should know how to do this.
I’m so grateful that I took the course and got my certification. I can now apply for jobs teaching yoga, but I can also now save someone’s life if needed. Performing CPR is really not difficult once you know the protocol, and while I hope I never have to use it, you just never know.
This applies not only today but also to all people who trust and share their experiences with me. I must listen to them with patience and empathy. May you all have a wonderful weekend with your loved ones.
My Ngoc, active listening goes a long ways. The way I do that is to view active listening as just “listening.” The clinic says “Active listening.” We say “Listening.” Expecting nothing in return is the key.
Myself.
I have put so much emphasis on getting this care supporting role ” right” I have forgotten about being gentle with myself. I think it is Joseph who says, concentrate on capabilities.
I am working on ” the how to show it “
Oh gosh, Yram, as a fellow caregiver, I can definitely identify with what you are saying! Sending love.
No one jumps out. Everyone in my life, including myself, have our ducks in a row.
Perfect timing oh dear Universe! Am heading into a political convention. I’ll take cleansing breathes and keep my smiles up. Also please & thank-you’s! !