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I don know how they shaped. They did. It is more the way to let go again of resilience when not in service of the higher good. To be able to see the difference then, when it serves fear instead.
They seem to prod me to go in a certain direction and perhaps give me an awareness of flow. It helps show the signs of when I am not in flow.
Each difficulty has taught me these lessons over and over:
– all things do eventually pass
– I do my best in the moment and that’s all I can expect of myself (and my “best” varies and that’s human)
– things that seem very large in the moment will get a lot smialler with time
– If I don’t chew on them over and over and feed them my energy, that shrinking happens a lot faster
Working thru difficulties over time provides me with the resilience to do it again and also the perspective, as I look back on the arc of my life, of gratefulness for it is mostly the difficulties that helped shape who I am now. If given the choice of changing the past, with the exception of changes for other peoples suffering, I would say with confidence that I would not change anything.
They are what has fueled my resiliency. Had the difficulties never came I would have never had the opportunity to become resilient.
Every time I survive a difficulty, I get stronger. Even with PTSD, I get stronger. It gives me courage to face whatever comes next.
This question brought to mind a favourite quote of mine:
“On particularly rough days when I’m sure I can’t possibly endure anymore, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through rough days so far is 100% – and that’s pretty good.”
Thank you for sharing Butterfly. 💜
That’s a fantastic statement and so true! I’m going to share that with my daughters. Do you know the origin?
Hi Barb, I tried to to find out who first said that quote but I haven’t been able to find the answer yet.
The difficulties in my life have been quite a few- but I have survived. I am strong in many ways…I have come through the difficulties and become stronger and more resilient through the grace of God. When in a difficult situation…i start to pray. I try to figure things out – but prayer comes first.
Thanks for posing this question and for the reflections. I am further informed of the causes and conditions. Hmm– now I can answer– all of them. And even more important– this one right now– there is an opportunity to develop the appropriate resilience. 🙂
The difficulties in life shaped my experience of resilience by showing me that I am stronger than I think.
I cannot reply to this now, hopefully being able later. May be reading will be possible inbetween. Thanks for your posts so far.
Most certainly my Mother taught me resilience. When you are pushed down in life, get up, brush yourself off and keep going. My sister reminded me of a time recently when she was in a crisis and I said to her “You will figure it out”, of course I gave her suggestions but she got the point and will never forget it. I hope that I pass this on to many that cross my path in life because it is so important never to give up.
I have been fortunate this far in life. ” I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, most of which never happened.” (Attributed to Mark Twain) A great number of my difficulties have been to a degree manufactured. My resilience has evolved over the years. Radical Acceptance and examining my “monkey brain mode” has helped to nurture resilience.
It’s a tool I’m grateful to have, not only because it’s necessary and useful, but because it cost me a great deal to attain.
The bad situations have allowed for personal growth and to become more compassionate,thankful and learning to accept things . I am happier and more content as I get older
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