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  1. Charlie T

    Perfection, or the concept has slowly
    faded, for me. When I find myself in
    that mode, I ask myself, what is my
    motivation here? And often it’s about
    how other will perceive me.

    4 hours ago
  2. barba

    Thank you for the question today – it saved me. Because it made me realize that I fell into this perfectionism trap just today. It ended up in self-abuse and inner anger. Now I feel free and happy just to be, I’ve remembered who I am

    4 hours ago
  3. Robin Ann

    I am not dealing with any current situation.
    However, I do the best I can and do not seek to be perfect in all situations. I am human and human’s make mistakes and we are constantly learning from them.

    7 hours ago
  4. L
    Lauryn

    My job as an immigration paralegal demands some level of perfection, as we are filing visa petitions that directly affect others lives. My perfectionism is sometimes detrimental however, as it slows me down and doesn’t allow me to complete as much work in a day as I would like — I’ll question myself and double check forms I already know have been completed correctly or focus in on something that really isn’t important. Like others have said, I think it’s about learning to trust yourself more….and getting out of your own way.

    9 hours ago
    1. Anna

      I bow to your will for perfectionism, dear Lauryn. For me it is a sacred will, in this special situation.

      3 hours ago
    2. Joseph McCann

      Lauryn, I commend you for working to help immigrants. Seems that many in society look down/treat like lower class people. We are all people, none better, none lesser.

      5 hours ago
  5. Mary

    Great question for my perfectionistic self!
    I take a weekly class in drawing portraits
    and a twice a month class in figure drawing,
    both with a live model.
    My perfectionism is always my worst enemy.
    I always think that my problem is
    that I need to work on some specific area
    like the structure of the nose, or body proportions.
    Those things are always helpful,
    but the biggest thing I need to do
    is let go and get out of my own way.
    I’m sure this is true in my life also.
    So thanks for the reminder.
    Letting go, instead of holding on to a need to be perfect,
    Is the way to go!♥️♥️♥️

    10 hours ago
    1. Anna

      Dear Mary, perfect synchronization with my post😊

      10 hours ago
      1. Mary

        Yes, dear Anna!♥️

        9 hours ago
  6. Anna

    I don’t know, like dear O. Christina.
    Right now, it is not easy.

    10 hours ago
    1. Mary

      ♥️♥️♥️

      10 hours ago
  7. O.Christina

    I don´t know.

    11 hours ago
    1. Mary

      If you can’t think of an example of this,
      I would say that is a good thing.
      Perfectionism is exhausting and self deafeating.
      ♥️

      10 hours ago
  8. Yram

    My husband is a perfectionist! It has taught me to be open to other ways of doing.
    My “that’s just fine attitude ” or “it is good enough ” satisfies my abilities. In it all I try to find a balance.

    18 hours ago
    1. Mary

      Love this Yram!
      Good enough is good enough
      Exhale, breathe, be present, and be reasonable.
      ♥️

      10 hours ago
  9. sunnypatti

    While I have been known as a perfectionist, I don’t expect perfection. I know that nothing is perfect… and what is “perfect” anyway? It’s quite subjective! Of all of the things happening in my life right now – having gone from a restaurant back to catering only, putting our home on the market to move to the mountains, selling our business equipment and lease rights to get out of the building we’re in now, and booking and executing jobs to continue making money in the process…. well, I definitely would like them all to go a particular way, but instead of trying to control the outcomes, I just focus on doing my job, which I’m really good at, and trusting the process of life. When we decided we REALLY wanted to get out of the restaurant building we’re in now, our landlord introduced us to a guy who wants to move here and take over our space. Everything really does happen for a reason, and I know that God has our backs.

    18 hours ago
    1. L
      Loc Tran

      Sunnypatti, I define you as a high achiever. I see a perfectionist as someone who expects perfection out of themselves and others. Both can look similar.

      17 hours ago
      1. sunnypatti

        I am definitely a high achiever! I used to expect perfection out of everyone, including myself, but not so much anymore. I do still want things to be perfect. The kind of work I do is 5-star food and service, so there are expectations from those who hire us to cook for them or cater their big events. I used to run surf contests and the friends I worked with always called me a perfectionist, and they loved it because they knew nothing would get left out. But it can be hard on my mentality, the whole “perfection” thing, so I’ve learned to trust myself and the skills I have. Feels a lot less stressful that way!

        17 hours ago
        1. Mary

          So interesting. You mentioned trust in both of your posts.
          Trust is hard for me. I just took the class on Grateful Hope class
          and trust is the part I had difficulty with.
          The big step that I think I need to take now is to learn to trust myself.
          Thank you Sunnypatti for bringing up the need to trust.
          I can see perfectionism and difficulty with trust being related. ♥️

          10 hours ago
        2. L
          Loc Tran

          Sunnypatti, at one point for 5 years, I worked at Walgreens checking expiration dates on items and did some customer service like everyone else to some extent assisting customers to look for whatever they needed. Some perfection was certainly required. The last thing we need is someone taking home an expired item. Health is scary. I can see how your job requires you to be perfect. Like I’ve said before, impacts from food allergies are more visible and direct. This becomes enhanced when different cultures and backgrounds get involved.

          17 hours ago
  10. Michele

    I’ve come to learn (from this site) that letting go of expectations should be the norm – no expectations = no disappointments. This is not easy and definitely is a work in progress.
    Happy Father’s Day to all our Dads out there 🙂 Enjoy your day with your family and loved ones.

    18 hours ago
    1. Mary

      Absolutely! Let go of expectations!
      I am getting so much out of answering this question myself
      and then especially reading and learning from all the comments.
      Thank you Michele and thank you to all who responded!
      Much love to all!

      10 hours ago
    2. L
      Loc Tran

      Michele, being able to be more realistic with our expectations is already an accomplishment.

      17 hours ago
  11. Laura

    No specific situation comes to mind. I continue to try to do the best I can each day with work, with people and with whatever life brings my way.

    19 hours ago
  12. Ngoc Nguyen

    Letting go of expecting perfection is a way of reminding myself that I’m not perfect. Why should I expect perfection in the things or situations I encounter? Eventually, satisfaction arises when I accept that imperfection is a natural part of life. Embracing this perspective allows me to find contentment and appreciate the beauty in the imperfections of myself, others, and the world around me.

    19 hours ago
    1. Mary

      Such a beautiful answer Ngoc!

      10 hours ago
    2. L
      Loc Tran

      My Ngoc, this reminds me of our conversation a couple days ago. Between the lesser of the 2 evils, I’d choose being judged over hated. The 2nd one sounds harsher to me. Simply put, this reminds me of the running joke of dumb vs dumber. It’s easier to let go of judgement than haitrid. Therefore, life is clearly easier at the bottom than the top.

      18 hours ago
  13. Mary Mantei

    In just about any situation, letting go of my idea of perfection simply makes the pursuit more fun. It also gives me license to be more playful and creative. To ask, « what if » more often.

    20 hours ago
    1. Mary

      Right!
      Perfectionism ruins fun, playfulness, and creativity.
      It’s sad to lose these especially for an artist.
      Quite a high price for something that’s unattainable.😐

      9 hours ago
  14. Pilgrim

    I do not recall every having an expectation of perfection. I am more of a “what will this day bring” type.

    20 hours ago
    1. Mary

      Beautiful, Pilgrim!♥️

      9 hours ago
  15. L
    Loc Tran

    Food allergies are more visible and have a direct impact. Advocating to smell before tasting foods with stronger flavors gives me a better chance to survive in Traditional Vietnamese social settings and brings me a step closer to helping younger generations feel more comfortable there. I’ll be fine without being able to engage in group conversations. Some things are better left unchanged.
    Getting through to the Vietnamese community regarding inside issues requires more Vietnamese people working in the psychology field, action, committee, and advocating out of obedience. All these items are required. I’m not interested in socializing with people unless it’s here or anywhere I feel comfortable. Therefore, the social activism adjustments have paid off making me feel satisfied.
    Fortunately, I don’t have a strong desire for improvement. My goal has always been to do enough to get by. This runs counter to modern society. But however, being able to let go of imperfections is the advantage. I have more time to appreciate all my accomplishments. This increases my self-esteem.

    20 hours ago
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