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the people who have the greatest impact on my life would be my family who has helped me through a lot as well as my mentors
Jesus, because his message is so simple ,and so profound. If people in the world would only live by His message Peace and Justice would be available to all mankind.
My mother, she had such strong faith,and she showed it to all her children.
My father was a kind and peaceful man who loved all his children equally.
My Mom and Dad who passed 10 and 20 years ago continue to influence me virtually daily. The feelings and memories surrounding these two elemental and complex relationships are a potent blend of hurt and admiration, regret and gratitude, confusion and clarity, sweet and bitter.
There are many, for we learn from everyone we encounter. But my mom is #1 on this list for me. I’m her 1st of 4, so we have been thru it all together. She pushed forward in life no matter what obstacle she encountered. A single mom for a while, she made sure my sister & I were properly taken care of no matter what. And then my (step) dad came along when I was about 7, and we all learned what love was really supposed to be. As an adult, she has been by my side thru it all, supporting me, listening to me, and guiding me when I needed her to. Despite all the arguing when I was a teen, we have a beautiful, close relationship that I don’t take for granted. I think I need to call her today 🙂
Those who got me born. I will always appreciate the nurture, support and opportunity that came from it.
All the people who abused me. They taught me how to stand up for myself and the importance of self-love.
Wow. I bow to that, Lee
Probably those I liked the least – the swine and mongrels. I learned a lot from them about love, forgiveness and compassion.
My ex is having a great impact on me right now because he’s letting me stay with him in suburban maryland. I’m afraid to stay at my place in dc.
WHO ARE THE PEOPLE WHO HAVE HAD THE GREATEST IMPACT ON MY LIFE? WHY?
I would like to begin this entry with thanking everyone in this response as well as the individuals I did not, I strongly believe each energy that crosses our paths are somewhat of an impact on our life; especially if we reflect and are open to possibilities .
The following individuals are influenced the following characteristics;
My father: showed me tenacious love
My mother: independency
My sister: Bossing up/ Business Woman
My brother: Toughness
My great grandmother: Connecting to the Greater/Creator
My aunt: motherly love
My cousins: protector
Becoming a mother, so – my son, who continues to have a great positive impact on my life
My grandmother had a negative impact on me, very negative.
Yet, now I am a not so bad woman, (wife, mother, daughter, relative, friend).
So maybe something has passed through her too.
It is not that easy to admit it.
But maybe that’s the only way to reconcile with my past.
I’ll begin with my wife. She speaks truth to me – even when I’d rather not hear it. My daughters who love me and continue to teach me. My best friend for 3o years whom I can rely on to share everything.
My mother and my grandmother. My sisters who are gone now. My children, grandchildren and great grandchildren who impact my life now, all the time.
Yesterday my daughter brought my two great grandchildren over for a visit….I am still in awe at the way a 4 year old and a 6 year old can look at the same world we adults see, and find wonder and excitement in it we don’t see anymore! Yes, it impacts my life…..all of these people have had a tremendous impact on my life….I love humans!!!
And about 19 years ago, there was a psychologist who had a huge impact on my life. Bless that women!
My mother, in the fullness and wholeness of how one might expect that impact to be. She was the youngest of 5; her mother died when she was 8. Her father was an alcoholic; they were very poor. She brought both negative and positive baggage with her into her parenting that I absorbed like a sponge. She was quite resilient, creative and full of stamina in making a home and life for us, especially after my dad died when I was 12. She was also paranoid, often depressed and carried a fear of abandonment that it took me a long time to understand and absolve. At the ripe old age of 67 I have wondered how my own children have both benefited and dealt with my mother’s impact on me.
My family, my close friends, some teachers, some co-workers, and my ex’s. The fact that the question asks greatest impact is the answer for why.
My two daughters, who through every stage of their lives have taught, and continue to teach me new ways to be in the world. My parents and grandparents, who lived through wars and difficult times, yet made the most of living forward, and who never forgot how to laugh. Two unbelievable women of deep wisdom whom I came to know through my ministry, filled with grace and trust in what is good, and whose deep friendship has meant the world to me. My granddaughter, my only grandchild, who is creative and hard working and will soon enter her senior year of college. She finds ways to shift gears when needed, stands up to power, and is a joy in my life with her uniqueness. I am and have been utterly blessed.
I love your phrase “ways to be in the world”.
I have a foster mother who is remarkable. When I met her I was a miserable 15 yr old who had literally been battered by life and it’s circumstances for years. I was nervous, anxious and eager to please ANYONE just to be left alone. Emi was also subjected to a terrible childhood. Personally, she was rejected by her divorced parents, hated by her step-mother and step-siblings and sent to live with her elderly grandfather in Los Angeles. Then the Japanese bombed Pearl Harbor. The white people in her neighborhood viewed Emi and her family members with hatred and contempt, even though they were loyal Americans. The government came in one day and gave all of them 24 hrs to pack up one suitcase each and at 5 yrs old, Emi and her Japanese family and neighbors were shipped to concentration camps in the desert. For 4 yrs she lived in a bare wooden shack with her grandpa. When they were released at the end of the war, nothing remained. They had all lost their homes, their businesses, their bank accounts and all possessions. Emi was returned to her bitter step-mom and haughty father. Emi married young, to a Japanese Marine, and she followed him all over the United States as he served his country in wars in Korea and Vietnam. Finally he retired in his forties and bought Emi a house of her own in Los Angeles. Months later he died in a car accident. Life had been hard for Emi, but you’d never know it. She was sweet and gracious, kind and loving, full of life and joy. She is my inspiration and my role model. If she can survive and thrive, so can I.
Thank you very much for sharing, dear deVonna. I feel so sorry for the awful circumstances she and her family had to suffer. To hear that she could keep her sweetness and loving kind nature despite these cruelties is inspiring for me also. I am very happy for you that she has been with you and your family and that you shared it. Thank you. 🙏
Thank you fo this…..what a women!
Thanks for sharing…Your foster mother gives me hope for the evolution of our species. Her life tells me what we as human beings are capable of. So glad she was placed in your life.
powerful reflection – thank you DeVonna.
WOW! Thank you for sharing.
Today, i read this and unfortunately looked at this in a negative way. Probably because of my anxiety and depression that I’ve been experiencing .. I’m trying to accept, breathe and move on.
I consider my parents who were negligent, non parental had the greatest impact on my life. Their actions or non actions molded me into who I am. I’ve been working on this, accepted that they did the best that they could have done, forgiven them but I’ve been dealing with their aftermath and the affect on me. I’ve been struggling for years, and lately it’s risen above. I am working on meditation, gratefulness , and being compassionate to me but it’s been a difficult go for the past few months… and it stems from my spouses deciding whether or not she wants to stay with me. This is triggering my abandonment feelings big time. I’m a work in progress, working on this and the thoughts and feelings that are coming up. ..i just read Howies post…. thanks Howie.. more food for thought..
I have been doing a meditation method recommended to me by my sister who said it helped her with her anxiety and depression. I have also been struggling with anxiety and depression and I have been working with this meditation method now for four months and it is extremely useful. I don’t know if you’re interested but I can send the link to you if you are they have 350 centers all around the world. It is non-religious.
Let me know and I’ll pass it on – they are called : Meditaion Center . Are you in the USA or?
Thank you.. I’m in canada
My thoughts and prayers are with you Devy. You’re doing the best you can.
Hey! Hope you’re doing good. I just wanted to tell you that it’s going to be okay and you’re so strong. Keep your head high and you’ll get through this. Best wishes
These women, among others, who saw me and valued me as a unique person :
Maria Woodcock—my first teacher in a new continent, at the age of 10. I felt seen and special at a time of big changes in my life.
Sr. Margot— in my 20’s. Sometimes it’s okay to be grumpy!
Helen Hawes— my friend and Focusing / expressive art teacher. I can laugh about myself with her, and be serious as well as silly.
The broken, the wounded, the damaged goods. The failures. But not all of them. The ones who have had the greatest impact on me are the ones who I can identify with. With whom I share an affliction, and that have survived despite these challenges. We get knocked about in life (or at least I do) and it is easy to think that is the exception when, in reality, it is most certainly not. And the ones who get through it and thrive have been my lights in a storm. They show me the path, and inspire hope when there isn’t much cause for it.
Marcelle Rondeau – A farmer and mentor, who with a wheelbarrow and pitch fork, taught me how to work, really work, when I was 15 years old.
Jim Toothaker – A Quaker minister and personal mentor, taught me by example what being a minister requires.
Ruth Martocci – By her presence and manor of being in the world, Ruth was the embodiment of Grace in motion.
Ruth Howland – Ruth was an elder within our Quaker Meeting who met mounting physical limitations head-on with dignity, calm, and a smile, teaches me daily still, as I age and ask myself; “How would Ruth handle this or that setback?”
Betty Ann – My wife of 49 years. Forty-nine years…adds and changes everything! And without doubt, lucky me!
Children……they have shown me how to appreciate the simple things in life, to expect less and to enjoy every moment.
There are few people in my life who made my life much easier as it wasn’t before. But to answer this question, the only person that comes to my mind is myself. It may seem narcissistic but I believe without the self-awareness and the hardships that I’ve been through I wouldn’t have come this far. Though I am grateful for two-three people in my life who I met in my college as they changed my life for the better. They’ve taught me to be strong and confident for whatever may come in the future. When I look back, I see how far I’ve come and I’m doing great so far. I love my life, my friends, and the career I’ve chosen for myself. I hope to grow and become happier as each day passes. Life’s never been better.
Good for you, Shefali, for putting yourself at the top of your list. And I say, why not?!
With this question I would like to honor my dear friend. She is 87 years old and her name is Henriëtte. You’d almost think she invented friendship. She helped me trough the most difficult time in my life, and she still does.
When we unexpectedly received the diagnosis of Karel’s brain tumor, she responded so very lovingly. She gave that love to us by actually being there for us unconditionally. Came to the hospital often, was there when we had to speak to the docters, cooked meals for us, and more….She phoned us every evening to ask how we were doing .And because she is a psychotherapist, she was also able to explain our feelings. Her phonecalls were one of the highlights of the day for Karel. There was the oppertunity for him/us to express our feelings.
Her speech at the funeral was so loving and impressive that people later said, (and they where a little embarrassed to say) that they also enjoyed the funeral.
She is still there for me unconditionally. Like a mother.
Beautiful. Thank you for sharing.
I’m giving thanks with you for Henriette (and all those who are like her) today! Thank you, Christine.
Beautiful, brought tears to my eyes. How wonderful you have her:)
Henriëtte, a saint among mortals, comes to mind for me, Christine. Thank you..
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